I had a child living at home when....sm
Posted By: That would be me.... on 2006-03-21
In Reply to: I read a post on here recently that one MT - has computers in seperate
When I first opened up the small MTSO in '97, I still had a child at home. Once she left, I turned her room into the room for the national I work for and is a formal office but also serves as a guest bedroom. The private MDs I do in my master bedroom (it's huge!!!!! not bragging but it's really a huge room) and is just the way I had it set up when my daughter was still living at home right thru 2000, her bedroom was the 2nd bedroom and was NOT an office until she left, nor did I work for this national until she left home (she lives around the corner from me, like 2 miles *L*). It would be a huge undertaking for me to put them both into one room now. And if I do not stay with the national, down the road, well there will be absolutely no problem there. Anyone else I take on, I would put in the master bedroom to do their work today.
hope that all made sense......*lol*
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I struggle to get one up. No kids living at home so
I no longer decorate. There's no fun in it anymore. Anyway, DH always wants a tree that hits the ceiling...we have 12 foot ceilings... and the last tree we put up took up 3/4 of my 16 x 24 living room because it was almost as wide as it was tall. After the holidays, it took him another 1/12 months to get it out of here. It looked quite pathetic by then.
It used to take me 4 weeks to decorate the house, yard, etc., but no more. I kind of like it this way. No pine needles to clean up into July. No arguing on taking the tree down and out. No fighting with others over that one perfect tree at the tree farm.
Our outside lights are up all year and I turn them on Christmas Eve and Christmas day. That's it. DH misses the decorating, but I told him he knows where I keep all the stuff and he can do it if he wants, just don't ask me to put the stuff away. If he wants to decorate he puts it up, he takes it down. Works every year.
Two children ; 24 and living at home, 23 and married.
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If it were my child, I wouldn't come home either
but just because they arrested those three guys, doesn't mean they're guilty. They have no clues, no facts, no body.
Someday someone may stumble on her bones, but mom is going to go through hell till then. Dead is easier than missing.
It is sad but true that if she had not been a pretty, young blonde from America, she would have been forgotten right about day three.
Your time at home with your child is so
Your child is better with you..being near the sounds, the smells, the love of mom. I recognize that some moms have to put their children in daycare, but to rationalize it that they are "better off" there because if you stay at home with them and work, they aren't getting enough attention just isn't right. You find a way to give them the love and attention they need. Is daycare going to sit there and give your child one-on-one attention all day? Are you prepared to have your child be sick all the time? My daughter has barely had a cold in her first five years of life. It's just a cop out to think that daycare is actually better.
If I lost a child, I wouldn't go home either.
I'd search and search until I found out what happened. Aruba's law enforcement obviously isn't getting the job done. And the chaperones are in NO WAY responsible for an 18-year-old ADULT high school graduate. The girl was responsible for her own actions, no matter how irresponsible she was. Just because she got drunk doesn't give anyone the right to harm her either.
If he were my child I'd home school in a nannosecond and here's why...sm
I don't believe in putting kids on antidepressants if there's a problem that can be addressed without medication. With his medical problems that you mentioned he's probably having some kids at school harrass him.... and when he gets older he'll be able to select situations to get into that will limit this type of social trauma.
With home schooling growing in popularity you can easily plug him in with others who are around his age and home schooling. Here in Georgia they've even gotten some home schooling football teams and bands up because so many kids are home schooled now to help them feel more like the "regular" kids.
I have a child now that unless the public middle school is significantly cleaned up by the time she gets that age that I'll be home schooling her as there's no way in heck I'm sending her to that pit. A lot of parents in my area home school their middle school kids because the middle school here is horrendous between the crappy teachers who don't give a toot, the bullying and overall poor attitude by a lot of people at that school. Fortunately the demographics in our area are changing so hopefully as more expensive homes are built our county will put more emphasis on cleaning up this particularly bad school. We'll see.
We're at about $2,200 with only 1 child left at home.
My DIL gets about only $2,000 in SS benefits for herself and 3 children. We helped her set her basic living expenses (car, heating, electric and water) at just about $1,000 a month but by the time you add in groceries, gas, car insurance, cable and telephone she really feels the pinch.
Like Tinks said, she needed to be home with her child
who was sick. People have different reasons for doing everything in life. It seems to me that she does pretty well for herself. To say that we are just trying to be housewives though and are not professionals is just ridiculous.
I also sure do not like being told that I cannot make it in a job outside of the home when in fact I have and will again. We are not trying to be super moms, but just trying to work and be happy like the rest of the world.
And I find this all very amusing coming from a person who keeps stating that she has a housekeeper and a gourmet chef for a husband.
Some of the ladies here are single moms trying to make it and have a career. Somebody needs to get off their high horse.
Go to NBC10.com - Our local news has "Wednesday's Child" which is a child for adoption.
Every Wednesday they introduce a child who needs a home and a family. There should be some information there as these kids are up for adoption.
www.NBC10.com -
Hope that helps!
WRONG! A child that has a fear of discipline = a well behaved child.
I have a beautiful, intelligent 11 year old daughter that hasn't had a spanking in 6 or 7 years and probably only 3 her entire life. She is very well behaved and I get compliments on her behavior constantly. When she does get out of line all I have to say is, "Shall I call your father?" Call it what you want, it works. She respects and obeys me and her father. Why??? For fear of the facing the consequences of misbehaving. Having a total lack of fear or respect for authority is exactly what's wrong with Generation X/kids today. I turned out just fine as did my siblings. Why?? Because my parents took "time out" to bust our a$$es whenever we got out of line.
Is that clear enough for you???
My kids have suffered greatly from me working at home with them home. SM
I have been working at home as an MT since my two kids were born. They are now 4 and 5. In the first few years, I had no help whatsoever. Their father was a bum who didnt work or take care of them while I worked. Your children get neglected while you work basically. And babies and young children desperately need your attention while they are home with you.
My kids have so many behavioral problems right now because of their neglect. I would try to set them up with things to occupy themselves, like coloring or a movie, etc.
I finally put them in day care and things have improved, but there are still a lot of issues because of the damage that was done. They still try to seek attention by doing bad things and they dont listen to me because they are so used to me letting them get away with a lot of stuff because I was too busy typing to discipline them in their early years.
If I could do it all over again, I would definitely have put them into day care from the very beginning.
My advice would be to seek PT care for your baby. Maybe you can do some work around her schedule a little when she is home, like when she takes a nap, and then bang out a bunch of work while she is in day care.
I enjoy being alone at home, but I've got one home sick from school already.
One on one with a kid is nice, too.
This summer has been absolutely crazy. I haven't had a moment to myself for three months because all of my kids were home traipsing their friends through the house and yard. My husband switched his work schedule, too, so he's around more than usual. However, I like not having to do two loads of dishes and four loads of laundry a day. There are no toys or clutter dragged out everywhere. I can clean the house first thing in the morning, and it stays clean until everyone gets home at night.
I even got to relax with a cup of coffee and watch TV for half an hour this morning, something I liked for a change instead of cartoons or kids' movies. I signed up for an online class that I've been wanting to take. I can exercise without being interrupted. Yesterday, I went to the mall and spent all my saved up gift cards. I got some clothes, books, bath stuff, and a new coffee mug. My work gets done a lot faster, too. Call me nuts, but I've never had the luxury of being alone in the house for 14 years. It's kinda nice. I love my family with all my heart, but I love having a few hours to myself each week, too.
Except now the cat and dogs have been acting weird since the kids went back to school. They must think that I need someone or something to clean up after and correct behavior on. They're getting into everything and racing around the house behind me.
my take is that she worked inhouse, not at home, and now wants to find out how to work at home. nm
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Forget "per line." Your take-home pay should be taking home SM
roughly what it was before. If it is not, is it because your current pay rate for editing (which in many companies keeps changing as the VR system is developed) is too low or is it because your talents and skills are more for speed typing than speed editing?
If the first, discuss it with higherups, and go get a new job if you don't get the response you need. My last MTSO was secretly refiguring how production was counted to pay us less. I can accept hard reality, it was the secrecy that burned. Sometimes, though, it's just that the learning curves of individual editors and that of the system aren't in sync, and you end up temporarily making less.
If the second, though, recognize it as soon as possible and change to straight transcription work, in your company or a new one, for as long as you can find it.
As for why we aren't paid more for a higher skill, that's just the way the labor supply ball bounces. Best wishes.
Anybody know what living in Ky is like?
You want to make a living don't you?
Then you listen to idiot dictators. You want to be in the spotlight and be on TV, stay in Aruba. You want to grieve the loss of your daughter privately, stay at home and appoint a spokesperson. You ultimately make choices about what you do based on facts and necessities. It is NOT NECESSARY for Mrs. Twitty to be in Aruba or if she decides she rests more easily in Aruba it is NOT NECESSARY for her to give press conferences acusing people of being criminals or incompetency.
the living conditions
The only life they know is confinement and pain. From the little I let myself watch, they have absolutely no room to move, they are crammed and shoved in together. They don't get to roam and do whats natural to them outdoors. They are being born and raised primarily to be brutalized for crop. Like a canned food factory. They get their body parts cut off, injuries from other animals, and have to live in physical pain until they are ready to be put out of their misery for whatever purpose they serve.
In all honesty, I absolutely love meat and enjoy it on rare occasions, and it is meant for us to consume. There is another way to do it! They cannot be treated as if they do not have feelings, they 'feel' pain, the mother's are distressed when their calves are taken away, the calves are scared, you see it in their eyes, as another living thing, you have got to connect with this. Its an awful way for any living thing to go through, even in a short time.
I can see being raised on a farm, room to roam, be outside, run, eat normally, socialize with their breed, have a life. They do not know the better that they are being raised for our consumption, there are living in peace without pain and living freely. Being crammed, thrown around, beaks cut off, having throats slit, hung upside down while still alive thriving in pain is not a peaceful life.
Sounds like you are living beyond
your means or you've got absolutely the lowest paying 3 positions in the world, which still means you are living beyond your means if you can't afford to simply live.
The house pymt, car pymt and utilities and food -- those things are supposed to be put on "the paper" when you budget.
I feel for you but something truly isn't adding up here. I don't believe you're in as hot water as you say. SOunds like either super poor money mgmt or a strange sense of priorities.
Either way, good luck.
wouldn't that be the living end?
Talk about production!!!
However, that only works if the person who has dictated the voice file is also the one who trained Dragon on the system. IOW, Dr Smith has DNS 8 Med Suite in his office, and he's trained it enough to provide a good level of accuracy. He can dictate into the mobile unit, say, after seeing a patient, but things still have to be in the same manner that he dictates into DNS on his home system. He can give the voice file to his office manager to upload and do the editing.
But you can't do that with Dr Smith's dictation, unless Dr Smith has sat at your computer and trained it. As soon as you input the voice file, your system will give you a great big "do what?"
I hope this explains things better.
living it for the past 2.5 yrs---
my ex quite working a legal job so he doesn't have to pay support. my 3 yo son was able to get insurance through the state but it was very hard to get (and didn't keep it) they don't cover that much. the state keeps rewriting the laws and cut benefits each time. I'm an ic and have my own health ins for my son and myself. I'm robbing peter to pay paul right now and probably will be for a long time. we're doing without a lot of things so that I don't have to take a job outside of the house not to mention that I couldn't afford full time child care. I would try getting extra side jobs so that you could stay home. I worked 3 jobs for 2 years and went down to one job that promised full time work a couple of months ago and needless to say they haven't kept up their end of the deal-as usual-so I'm looking to pick up at least 1 other job. the peace of mind knowing that I'm here and flexible, especially if my son gets sick, isn't worth trading right now.
Look at working for a living like this: (SM)
YOU don't work for SOMEONE/COMPANY. You work for yourself (even if you're an employee). I say that because you are working to provide your own needs, not those of whomever benefits from your work. You arre responsible for providing for yourself and it is your personal responsibility to make sure your own needs are met. If the beneficiary of your need to work (i.e., pay bills, earn money, whatever) is not providing what you need, you owe it to yourself to take care of yourself and find enough work to achieve that goal.
Now, I'm not saying don't have a team attitude or be selfish, demanding, negative, self centered, but when you think about it, NO one is going to take better care of you than YOU! If you are sitting around waiting for someone else to take care of you, then you are not taking care of yourself. Get proactive! Find a supplement source of income. The first company doesn't need to know what you are doing...besides, if you are an IC, by IRS guidelines, YOU are in control, not them. They only need you IF they need you and have no obligation to be reliable in meeting your financial needs.
Really meaning to help.
off my 
4 cpl goes further when cost of living is less. nm
living/working there and not being able to
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Cost of living
Could someone live comfortably in the Phillipines on $2000 per month net with adult and 1 teenager?
Living in the Philipines
I'm sure that is a lot of money to them...however, I'm quite happy here in the US...I'm not sure many people could live the life they live there or would want to. It's a beautiful place, but lots of poverty...A friend of mine married a girl from there years ago, and she told me stories...so, I'm thankful to be in the US 
8 cpl. is too low for ANYONE living and working
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what does Mr. Jug Twitty do for a living? And what about Jar, his brother.
They are all staying in Aruba. How can they take off of work indefinitely even if they aren't wealthy and took a second mortgage on their house.
PS: I doubt very much a resort town is giving away free services to these people and their entourage. This is how a resort makes money you know. Especially when you are there criticizing their government and call citizens criminal who have been released from jail for lack of evidence.
Considering the high cost of living in.....
Florida, you are giving away your services. Out in California they're getting 12-14 cents a line, and that was 5 yrs ago.
More on high cost of living...
That is right about California; in fact, over 15 cents is common, particularly for docs and administrators who are interested in keeping the work local.
not kill any living thing?
oH, what about the plants? are they not living? some worship them too...and NO. I will not leave my God out of anything. My God is in me and I in Him. I will not try to separate one from the other. Sorry if my faith bothers you.
with cost of living going up and MT wages
How much do you think you would need to make a good living. Meaning enough to cover all bills, enough to put some away for a rainy day, and enough to play, like dinners, hobbies, maybe a weekend getaway twice a year. Be realistic. I'm thinking for me, since i'm single, 50k a year.
Second question. If you hadnt gotten trapped in MT, what profession do you see yourself in maybe even earning way more than you can imagine, doing what you love? For me, it would be psychotherapist.
anyone??? ANYONE ???
true...but they are living proof that
at least 6 times he was heterosexual lol.
What is the cost of your living expenses? sm
I would really like to know this as mine seem high. My cost for the bare minimum, not including insurance, medical costs or entertainment, is about $1,800.00 per month.
Is that high to most people? TIA.
you have a bargin cost of living!
Wow!!!! What I wouldn't give to have that as an expense!Here's mine - I live in Ventura County, California, and in one of the most expensive towns of Ventura.
House payment - $2,200.00,
insurances, all - $400.00 a month, utilities - $700.00 a month - electricity, cable is out of sight here and gas is almost double now, let's see, food, gas and personals - about $1,000.00 a month - wow!! It hurts to see it let alone pay it! (of course my home is now worth almost a million with the artifical inflate prices of real estate here).
Of course, that's basic living *grin* ...... nm
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It depends what you consider a good living (sm)
Some only need $150 a month for rent so the low pay would be fine.
But if you are pulling your hair out for less than what unemployment pays, I'd take the unemployment. 
no brainer, take it unless your cost of living....
in New York prohibits you from being able to live in a reasonable fashion on that. did you say UNION!!! Your pay will increase way more than the rest of us will ever see!
to make it official, not living in sin, tax
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Not living in sin? Isn't homosexuality a sin according to the Bible?
Married or not.
I bet there are a lot of MT's on this board living with significant others (sm)
Is one sin worse than another? Maybe we better take this to the religion board. You've got my dander up now.
I'm with you ... I get enough reality just with my daily living. sm
Kinda nice to get lost and just veg with my Law & Order and CSI addictions :)
Obviously, I'm in the minority since they seem to come up with more and more reality shows .... I admit to watching the Biggest Loser a couple of times, but I can't imagine being "hooked" and watching it all of the time, sitting on the edge of my seat.
Can't say I make a great living, but...
I support myself, my disabled husband, and also have 2 grown children at home, which the one pays his bills, but the other is having problems. We are buying our home, paying for our car, and still have enough to eat out a couple of times a week. I make more at home than if I go back out into the work place.
There are transitional living houses available to help.
I too was in your position. My husband would beat me all the time and was verbally abusive. I got started in this business so I could leave him. Luckily, one day while at the ER getting patched up yet again, a doctor took the time to explain to my husband the consequences of wife beating. He looked at my husband like he was pond scum and threatened to have him arrested. He has not hit me since. I wish you luck. There are transitional houses that let you live there with your children while you save up enough money to get a place of your own. They even help with that (usually pay deposit and help furnish). If counseling or talking it out with him does not help, you could try this. Good luck!
for poster who wanted to know about living in KY
I lived there as a transplant for about 10 years -- My answers might be more helpful if you had specific questions and/or what part of the state you are talking about -- e/m me.
Try living in france if you think you have problems (sm)
being young and needing a job.
I know I'm living in the dark ages, but
what is orchiette? (If you don't mind my asking.)
Scary world we are living in.
I just get upset that after an incident at my son's middle school a couple of weeks ago, they didn't think it was a big deal to take a student's threats seriously. I don't feel safe sending my kids to school and we live in a village (that underpopulated). I have been checking into home schooling this week to see what is out there for that.
I get $23.50/hr. in N. Calif, which is still low for cost of living. nm
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Try living in the southeast and listen
to the local news. It is just horrible to listen to city leaders, school teachers etc.. bothch up the English language. They all use ain't and add "ed" to many different words. I was flipping through the TV one day and heard the word "nexted", what is that?
If you make a living with your PC, it pays to
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Yes. You're a US citizen, living in the US and using the
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