I don't think it is cruel to admit your remaining parent - sm
Posted By: Laura E. on 2006-07-13
In Reply to: I love my children and willingly give up a lot for them- however - sm
into a nursing home. Those that think its terrible are just concerned with appearances I think, that and guilt themselves if they ever thought about it. My mom put her mom in a nursing home after she could not care for herself. My grandma actually thrived there. They got her off all her medication and she was felt a lot better, even got engaged to get married again, but broke it off shortly before she died. We lived in PA and her mom in FL. My mom's (adopted) family thought she was such a terrible person for putting her "mom" in a nursing home. My mom's adopted parents did not treat her well at all, would never tell her much about the adoption when she eventually found out about it in the 1950s (smell of scandel somewhere, this was 1935) and my grandparents never really ever wanted children. Needless to say my mom has a less than ideal childhood but she took care and upheld her "responsibilities". Some people take in their parent(s) because they want to make sure the $$$ if there is any stays in the family (or goes to them). I know that is the wheel turning in my DHs brain about his parents, though he says they would never re-marry after the death of the other. His mom has told me she will not remarry, but you never know do you. I think he is wrong about his dad though, I think his dad would do the exact same thing my dad did, i.e. remarry within a year of the mom/wife passing and say bye-bye to any substantial inheritence on a re-marriage. In my case I will "lose" (my husband's thinking) out on about $140K which my husband deeply resents unfortunately. It has caused a lot of distention in the last 2 years between me and my DH that is. I am cool with my dad, it's his life and money; and I have pointed out to him a zillion times that inheritence is a gift, not a right. But yes, to be honest it is disappointing, but as my DH expects to get close to $1 mil from his parents I think we will survive (in a way I hope they disinherit him). Greed can cause all sorts of problems. Along with responsibility comes motive in some cases. I do not want to take in either of my DHs parents, but his fear/greed will induce him to have whichever one is left move in with us probably in the next 5-10 years (they are 76 and 71 right now). Sad.
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I can tell you that remaining on the same account with same dictators
helps tremendously. Having to switch accounts and specifics is not the way to make a lot of $$.
Isn't that interesting. So much for the identify remaining secret. nm
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That is so cruel! You must be having a bad day and I think you should sm
apologize to the above poster. She needs us right now and you are just being plain, well, evil!
If there is something you want to talk about we are here for you too, although it seems you are so hard-faced that you don't need anyone, I bet - or you think you are just too good for "internet help..." Like we women (and few men) don't really have true feelings or families, or whatever you probably think of all of us...That's a shame. There are probably people here who can really help in your bitterness.
Very cruel, not necessary IMO. nm
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Cruel?
I don't mean to be cruel, but do you have the skills for this job? Did you take the required courses in transcription? Are you aware coding pays better?
Again, not to be cruel, but spelling is very important, and you misspelled inept, which is a little ironic, because your post is all we have to go on as far as whether you are ready for the huge challenge of getting your own accounts. I've been doing this for 17 years, and I've never considered trying to manage my own accounts.
So this is my honest reaction to your post, and I'm hoping you find it polite, as I intend it to be.
why are some of you women so cruel?
There comes a point where we all kind of need each other, when we realize that for the most part, men are big dumb animals who do not know how to "be" there, which is what we essentially need. You as a female should be understanding and supportive when another one says how she is struggling as a "single mom." Women are so hateful towards each other when we're the only ones who make any sense on this planet! I know I sound like a man hater, but men can only do so much, and for those things I have a plumber and a maintenance man! Come on what happened to sisterhood!
it is not cool to be cruel, so why do you do it? nm
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I'd rather be fat and nice than skinny and cruel. NM
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How can you people be so cruel and nasty?
She is obviously trying to do the best for her son, and at this point is trying to figure out what it is. I'm sure she would discuss this option with the doctor or counselor before she made a decision. Cruel and selfish, right. Look in the mirror.
Shock collars are cruel on animals.
You can teach dogs not to bark without using shock treatments.
ok-could be your parent for sure...LOL...sm
32 !!! A mere babe in arms *S* and yes, old enough here to be YOUR MOM!!! Too funny!!! 
Agree totally. I'd like to see an end to rodeos, too. So cruel to animals. nm
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Well, I am the parent and I run my house sm
My kids are told to speak only when spoken to, and if they talk back in anyway, I smack them in the mouth. Granted, they are teens and not toddlers. In their teens, they try to push it to the limit no matter what situation. My kids know not to push!
I am a foster parent of 3, have been for about
a year and a half now. I would highly recommend you try to place you children with family or a good friend before turning to the state. After seeing how the system works, IMO, it is not a very good one. I would hate to see you lose your kids because you asked them for help. Two of my FC are about to get terminated from their parents, their mother of which put them in care for "help" and is now going to lose her kids.
There are many, many programs out there to help you. I'm not sure how long you have been married or really what the situation is but given the fact that you are considering this for children tells me you are a decent person because you don't want them on the street. Call a family member or a friend and ask if you and the children can stay with them. You might have to consider placing (or leaving) your husband somewhere else until you can get back up on your feet.
Go to your local welfare office, they might be able to get you something short-term. Try, try hard to keep your family together.
God bless you and your family. I hope things turn out and the world seems like a better place. Just know that we are all hear praying for you!
I think she is very much a good parent, and I don't
see how she is treating them as pets.
Ok, she was a parent when she got involved w/ a
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It's not a parent's job to entertain their children 24/7.
Back in the olden days, parents AND children did chores from morning until night. They didn't play, go to the movies, own electronics or do ANYTHING fun. Chores, chores, chores all day long. The kids worked right alongside their parents. Church on Sunday. They didn't have neighborhood kids parading through the house without an invitation. They might have gone on an occasional picnic or square dance, but that's it. Children aren't supposed to be in charge. Parents aren't supposed to entertain their children 24/7 and give in to their every whim. At least her kids are having fun instead of being left home ALONE with a list of chores to do while Ma and Pa go to town for supplies.
A parent's job is to raise a child but....
I've been in that boat, too. Chore lists didn't help. Taking anything away didn't help. Holding their allowance didn't help. Going on strike didn't help. All I ended up was triple the work.  . It was their job to bring in wood for the stove to keep warm. I left the fire go out one night. That got their attention when they woke up and it was only 50 degrees in the house (pretty warm considering it was 0 outside). Never had to worry about heat anymore, but the other stuff....well...
At that time, I held down 2 full time jobs and 1 job at home typing college books part time. (I was young, so could handle it). Well, one day I sat them down and told them that if they EVER wanted to go out on their own, they would have to know how to clean, wash clothes, iron, cook, etc. I taught them how to cook the basics. I showed them how to do everything else. Well, they still didn't pitch in....didn't know what else to do so I left all their stuff alone. Stopped doing their wash and closed their bedroom door. Ignored them when they asked for something like they did me.
My guys all went out on their own between age 18-21. You should have seen their place. Spotless and they did it all themselves. Now that they are all married, my boys cook meals for their wives at least once or twice a week. They help their wives clean and do all the stuff I wish they would have done at home. But, you know what? That's fantastic. I know I taught them something that stayed with them and all my DIL's love me for it. 
Now, all I have to do is get hubby trained. I'm still supermom to him even though he often states "I don't know how you do it all."
My opinion is not to worry about it. If they are embarrassed, they may do something. If not, then when their friends come around, just mention, "I'm sorry the house is such a mess but since I work 2 jobs, I just don't have time to do everything else." They might get the message then.
Have become a single parent...how to survive
Hello.
First, I want to apologize if this is not on the right board. I wasn't sure where to put it.
Second, I am not looking for pity...just advice.
I have two wonderful children (a 5 year old and a 5 month old) who are my life and because of that I have left there father (verbally abusive to everyone) to make a better life for all of us. I am a new MT (have only been in the business for 4 months now and make enough to pay rent but that is all. With an infant it is hard to work during the day so I start my work around 7pm and work until it is done. I am not that fast yet but am gaining speed and could handle another small account. Can anyone tell me how they have made single parenting work as an MT or have any ideas on how to make it work, please. I am deperate to stay home with them. Honestly, daycare cost would kill my paycheck if I had to work outside of the home and I am trying to stay off of government support.
I appreciate any help or advice I receive.
Thank you.
elder parent care
Of course I feel "responsible", even "obligated" to take care of my aging parents. They took care of me, now it's my turn to give back. However, I'm not in that position right now as my parents are both in their early to mid 60s, so don't require taking care of yet...so who knows how I'll feel when faced with that responsibility. But, I hope that I feel the same way I do now. My husband and I have discussed more than once perhaps buying a larger home with an in-law suite to accommodate our aging parents.
If only more of us would take the responsibility of taking care of our elderly parents, then perhaps we would not hear of some of the horrors that happen to the elderly such as getting bilked out of their life savings, being abused in a nursing home, having accidents while trying to take care of themselves, etc...Thanks for the thought provoking question....have a wonderful day! 
This sounds like a parent talking...
I never want anyone to think I am yelling at them, even if something is a MAJOR no-no.
The above is what the poster wrote. I am not saying that I don't think her approach is good. I am just stating that words like MAJOR no-no are as if she is talking to a child. That's all I was pointing out. I don't like baby talk when it comes to being professional. Do we not strive for professionalism in this business?
So, some of you here like being talked to like a baby? That makes QA so special and great?
A little please and thank you goes a long way. I don't need a QA person to be sugary sweet to get the point. We are adults here.
As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
A parent's job is to raise a child the way they should go as an adult ....
Isn't part of being an adult cleaning, taking responsibility? If so, YOUR job is to make them clean, certain rooms on certain days, not just during vacations. (I'm at work so this is succinct, and probably not real tactful, sorry)
I'm a current foster parent in Georgia and...sm
have e-mailed you to contact me so I can answer your questions.
I agree. Sounds like a controlling attention-seeking parent so
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Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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Okay-I admit it!!!
I to have been known to try and give advice based on what doctors have recommended to family members but by no means do I say "do this, do that"--I just say this is what some of the doctors I transcribe for have recommended. I guess it is my nosy nature-I think that is one of the reasons I love MT. I can be nosy without anybody really knowing-haha. Actually, I dont call myself nosy (my husband does), I just tell him I am aware of my surroundings and there is nothing wrong with that.
I must admit...
My lawn IS looking "perkier" now! LOL. Maybe we'll get some of the "bluegrass" back from the "crabgrass"...
They do have a TON of ESL and admit it! nm
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But the pay is too low you have to admit
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Yep, they admit it.
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I admit it, at least a pot or more. nm
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lol, just admit it already ;0
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Unfortunately you admit you are not the
*best spellers or *and expert in grammer* and this is a big part of what MTing is all about. A great MT has an excellent or above average grasp on the English language, grammar and a knack with spelling/words. Perhaps this field is not for you.
I admit, I do not know a ton about these two, but - sm
can you, as a work around, copy them onto a word document and then copy them from word onto the new platform? It is just a thought, like I said I do not know a ton about either, but I thought I would throw that out there.
I have to admit...
I'm not cranking out the lines like I usually would. I'm doing my one fussy account, but the other one I'm letting get a little behind. It's hard to work up the motivation to work when you aren't getting paid, you know?
I am glad to see this I have to admit
I was beginning to think I was the only one out there who thinks this company is just like all the rest, including pay, platform, accounts, etc. They switch me without asking me and I refuse to do the work. Not for that lousy pay!!
Altho I must admit...
Barbra actually did that duet with Celine, so perhaps even SHE likes Celine better! I can't win!
I'll admit this only because I'm
I actually have a little TV just to the right of my desk. I'm always at my desk it seems, so I have the TV on all day long. As hard as it is to admit, and like I said, I'll do it only because I'm anonymous, I have the "judge shows" on my TV all day long. I feel like admitting that I read the Enquirer or something, lol. I used to have Starting Over and then the ABC soaps on, but I needed a change of pace so I hang out with judges all day. Right now, I'm working and watching Dancing with the Stars...and I'm usually sitting here working and watching Lost, Desperate Housewives, Grey's Anatomy, and other favorites.
admit what??? get off my back and look to yourself.
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LOL! We sure date ourselves when we admit we know
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If I were you, I wouldn't admit to that.
Merry Christmas, dear.
seriously, you must admit there is some truth to what is said; there are many like that.
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I have to admit it. I had a good laugh.
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LOL ... have to admit I get a bit of evil satisfaction from that too. :-) nm
OK, if you'll admit to it. Are you a smoker? sm
 ................and if you quit, how did you do it?
i guess it's easier for you not to believe me than admit you are wrong.
i don't follow all your posts so i don't know if you like girlie men or not but in any case you are dead wrong about trolling and you can wrap your brain around that. i have no reason to lie on an anonymous board to anonymous people. on the other hand you have a reason to not believe me because your ego is involved. too bad sometimes people can learn if they push their ego and need to be right at any cost aside.
ps: you are 100% dead wrong on me trolling and i really don't think you understand the concept. once you accept you aren't that smart, you can continue to learn grasshopper.
I must admit I would resort to something like that. Love my dogs and everyone else's but enough
enough. We have 2 dogs and neither are barkers. I think that is the first thing I teach them. They don't even bark to go outside, just sit by the door. We did have a German Shepard once who was a terrible barker, the neighbors called the police, etc. We bought one of those shock collars, put it on her when she was out and wow, what a difference. She only wore it during the day when she was out. We brought her in when we came home, the collar came off, and she stayed in during the night. Unfortunately for us, our neighbor, 2 doors away, worked midnights, so it bothered him. It didn't stop her completely but it sure helped the incessant barking. Of course, the neighbor didn't want to make any noise, period. I wouldn't recommend them for a small dog or older dog, though. As far as the hose goes, congratulations. My neighber has a dog who ambushed both my dogs, bit the older dog and terrorized the puppy, twice. The next time that dog was going to get the hose as I knew there would be a dogfight. The owner would have gotten it too, I have enough guts for that. Big brother golden retriever hates it when another dog comes by his little cocker spaniel brother. We resorted to a fence and now the dog doesn't even come in our yard. Darn, couldn't try the hose.
I have never heard anyone so outright admit to prejudice like that..sm
I used to live in Virginia. I am not prejudice, BUT what I experienced there taught me some differences. I noticed that quite a few black people DID have attitudes and were actually quite prejiduce themselves. I was very amazed at this. At one time, we had gone to a video store. All blacks running the store. Our family and another white family were there and they REFUSED to wait on this. Now, while I understand the issues of the PAST, I think it silly to blame THIS generation for what was done by ancestors in past generations. I ended up calling the district manager and the entire store was RESTAFFED from Manager DOWN. I also had a lot of black friends in Virginia. I think what it comes down to is no matter what race you are, you got some people who are ***holes and some not..black, white, asian, etc. You also have people who are prejiduce..blacks against whites, asians against black..it doesn't matter. Its very sad.
I hate to admit it, but ME TOO! That is the only TV show I watch.
Gotta keep basic cable so I can watch my one TV show per week.
JD was definitely a cocky one, but he was clearly the best performer, IMO. And I hate to admit that.
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