I disagree. I am raising 3 children
Posted By: MTer on 2008-02-11
In Reply to: Keeping small children at home will cost you more than paying a daycare ... see message - Amanda
and have never paid for daycare while working. I have been doing this for about 10 years and my children are ages 10, 7 and 5. As I have added children and they have gotten older, it has become more distracting, but there are ways to do it without daycare.
When younger and I only had the 1, I worked in the mornings and afternoons when he was sleeping and finished up my day when my husband came home. As our family grew and the younger children became older, I dropped the afternoon shifts and worked primarily early morning and nights when the kids were sleeping and/or my husband was home. Now that they are in school, I am able to work daylight during the school year and evenings/nights in the summer when my husband is home. If I had to pay daycare, no way would this be a profitable job.
I would not recommend that you get into this field if you will need to pay daycare expenses. You're much better off if you can work around your husband's schedule (if married) or if you have family close by that would be willing to help out a few hours a day with childcare. Now that my kids are all in school, I really do enjoy the freedom this job allows me. I rarely miss a school function or sporting event and the summers at home are great!
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I cannot stand the attitude some people have toward raising children!
They don't have to be put in daycare either.
I would say people with this kind of attitude usually don't have children and therefore don't believe in the power moms have to get it ALL done. Just because this is not the situation you find yourself in does not mean it cannot be done! Open your eyes and get with the program - we ARE doing it and doing it WELL - like it or not!
have to disagree about the children thing sm
I am a single mom of two under five, and I have been an MT for seven years. I work several IC jobs, two of which have flexible scheduling,and the third is weekends, and my kids spend a lot of weekends at their dads, though that will probably change now that his job is picking up. Anything is doable if you set your mind to it, you just have to be dedicated enough to want to make it work.
I do this job with young children around and neither my job nor children have suffered...
It can be done...
You rock! Thanks for raising the bar! nm
Raising hand
I am quite happy. Always have tons of work. I get more PTO than any other company could even come close to, and now we get 2 extra paid holidays. I think they are really trying hard to turn things around. Plus I love Chartnet.
Raising per line rate
Do any of you have plans to raise rates with the new year coming up? I know my offices have raised their rates three times this past year, but I have not. With gas prices, heating prices, food, etc, going through the roof, I feel I don't have a choice.
I would appreciate any feedback.
Fantasia is raising her daughter...sm
please get your facts straight...........
Help with raising food costs sm
While not available in all areas, this is a wonderful program to help out families and communities. I used it for years when I lived in Colorado and now that I have moved, I am in the process of finding this program in my state.
The program consists of paying a certain amount for a given box of food (you can buy more than one) on a certain day or days. Then, you put in volunteer hours in your community for each box you purchase. You have a volunteer slip signed where you volunteer. On D-Day, you go and pick up your boxes of food.
The boxes consist of fresh fruits and vegetables and meat items. Occasionally there is cheese too. There might be pasta and/or rice. There is often a prepared food item. They offer seasonal boxes for holiday baking, meat lover's boxes in time for summer grilling and Thanksgiving boxes. The retail value of what you get in a SHARE box is usually at least double the cost of the box, and that has been my experience. The kids and I used to go and help on D-Day, passing out boxes, cleaning up for our volunteer activity.
http://www.sharecolorado.com/
is for Colorado and several other states, but should link you nationally too.
Raising hand,,,, I vote Vianeta, too. nm
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So sad, but definitely true. I am 55 and raising 5 grandkids. I see work until at least 70. nm
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Templates raising line count ok?
I have a doc who wants to start using templates with many "much-repeated" phrases already typed in. The template could be rather lengthy for new patients, not so much for rechecks. That's fine with me, but it is causing my line count to go way up and I'm not sure that they will be willing to pay this much of an increase once they see just how much it is. Do I let them make the call, bring it to their attention or keep quiet? I just don't want to start depending on the extra money and have it jerked away suddenly when they "come to their senses." Any input is greatly appreciated!!! Thanks!
The people who care are all raising their hands.
I care about doing a good job and want to be well compensated for that work, so count me in. If you're not interested, don't disparage those who are.
...count instead, or raising your word rate. nm
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Raising my child to be self supporting taxpayer.
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If my husband died I'd just focus on raising my kids.
And then after they were raised - no, I wouldn't actively pursue meeting someone else. If I just happened to someday meet the perfect match, fine. But I wouldn't be out looking. I think it would just be too hard to adjust to not only the death of your husband, but living with someone completely different. I'd just fill my life with all kinds of OTHER stuff.
You don't have to but I take morgage, etc deduction. Need the help now raising family. Plan on
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don't count on raising rates yearly as an MTSO.
As an MTSO, don't think you are going to increase your accounts *yearly* (the word you used).....good luck if you're taking that route!!
I have my surgeons for a decade due to they pay very well and I have NEVER raised their rates because then they COULD choose to go elsewhere for less.....just my take.....
I also worked for nat'l services for years and they rarely raised their rates to their clients, as they, too, never wanted to lose any accts.
Good luck to you, whichever way you go!! 
Raising hand. Let me be the first to apply at DisneyWorld Transcritption. nm
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Yuppie parents today raising a bunch of big babies
Wish someone could get through to them that they are doing more harm than good. Nephew's children are like that - it is so annoying. 6-year-old spoiled rotten, and not even fun to be around at all, but it's because they have babied him so much and given him everything he wants, that now he is just a sullen little boy. Can you believe using that word to describe a very bright little 6-year-old boy? It's really a shame.
When I worked at Mayo the desks had the capability of raising up. The keyboard,
so you could stand and type. It was a refreshing change. I really liked the set up. Mayo paid a chunk of change for those desks and there were over 90 MTs in our office.
Both of my children, now 23 and 24,
bought their own cars and neither of them had a new car. I don't think it hurt them, either. They both were proud of the fact that they did buy their own cars and I was proud of them, too.
Wow that's a lot! We have 4 children and
we probably will not spend that much on all 4 of them. Glad you can afford it.
May you and your children have the
Merriest Christmas ever! As the Christmas carol sings "God is NOT dead nor doth He sleep." I am so happy your children will have Santa Claus this Christmas, and that you feel loved!! That's what Christmas is all about. I thank you... Merry Blessed Christmas to ALL!
I have 5 children and have had many a
I agree, something for myself would have been neat. My absolute favorite thing was when someone brought me something special, like something they made or had made for my baby. Those are really the things I remember when thinking back on my showers, and the things I still have today.
32/F, three children
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And what did your children get?
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I definitely think having children has something
Does she have other children who can help
relieve some of the care? Does her insurance pay for ANY nursing care? I know what you mean. We were all on shifts as well. Is there a GOOD home she could go to? Even one that isn't a nursing home per se, but adult foster care? My grandmother lived in one. It was very nice and had less than 10 residents and people with various types of needs lived there. My aunts and uncles decided to do this (it was self pay) because they figured if she lived with any one child, that the responsibility probably wouldn't end up being shared by all, and this way they were all responsible for her even though she lived separately from them. Is there a hospice/nursing agency that can offer free or cheap respite care? How about through their church? Even if they could get an evening or a few hours away together, that's a start. They need to preserve their marriage too.
think of your own children if you have any....sm
Would you want them to have to care for you? All I want for my children is to be happy. I would never want to put that burden on them and, believe me, it is a burden regardless of how you feel about your parents. Caring for an ILL elderly parent can be a nightmare. Caring for an elderly parent is totally different. I've had to do both and, BTW, so did my parents. My mother, when in her 50's, now 92, made me promise to never try to have her live with me. I have done the same with my children. I do everything I can to help her including bringing her to my home to care for her when she is ill or has had recovery from surgeries. I don't think the "Waltons" is a realistic plan in this day and age. If you want to destroy your marriage and stress your children, move your parents into your home.
If you have children under a certain age...
...you can be excused for years from jury duty by submitting a copy of their birth certificates to the court.
Currently, I'm a single parent with 2 kids in elementary school. I have been excused from jury duty twice now; once when I lived in PA and both kids were just babies and again recently excused from serving or being called to serve here in NY for a few more years by submitting a copy of the birth certificate.
The courts will not force a primary caregiver with minor child(ren) to serve as long as you provide them a copy of the birth certificate.
I would think this also applies to anyone who is a sole caregiver of a chronically ill or elderly family member, but you would have to call your courthouse to find out for sure.
We are not children and by that I mean...
we don't have to go crying to the moderator whenever we feel someone is being mean. I think MT30+'s biggest sin is she's just blunt. Personally, I appreciate straight forward people. I don't have time to pick through all the fat to get to the meat. And, of course, I am one of the blunt people.
I think some need to simply grow up. You can't spend your life kissing your perceived boo boos and tattling on the "bullies." Momma always said the only way to get rid of a bully, is to stand your ground and take your lumps. And don't hold a grudge. Just move on.
children and nitwits
You still don't get it. No matter how old they get, they are still your children but I no longer have the right to make their decisions for them. If your comprehension was good enough, you would have known that as they left my home and started their own lives, I had no further voice in what they did, but until that day, I did have a voice in what they did as far as consequences of bad decisions is concerned. If I am paying for the roof over your head and the food on the table, I do have a say. And being 18 does not make you an adult, nor does 30 or 80. When your child can make good sound decisions about their life and how their decisions impact on others, then you've done a good job. Your silly little cartoon characters in your messagee show that you do not have a command of the English language and I am done with this discussion because it is too complicated for you to understand. I think you probably had your nose and ears pierced too many times and too deeply.
Not everyone is here to "love" your children. SM
I dont expect day care to "love" my children. Geez. I expect them to care for them and watch them when I cannot be there.
I do have to say, however that the day care my kids are in is a close-knit community. The staff is very friendly and really get involved with each kid individually to some extent. Everybody knows everybody, even though it is a fairly large day care. There is a younger toddler room, an older toddler room, an intermediate room, and a pre-K room. As well as a big room for before-school and after-school programs for the bigger kids.
All of the kids in my children's classes are really close. We all celebrate B-days together and even get invited to Christmas parties and all kinds of nice things. They throw lots of events around the holidays. They even have a mom's night out at the day care once a year. It is like a little community. They have lots of safety speakers coming in and educated the kids on what to do during an emergency. I dont see why my kids would not benefit from being a part of something like this.
It is a great thing to be a part of. They treat you like family. I do understand that not all day cares are the same. I went on a lot of tours of local day cares and I picked this one because I could pick up on the vibe that this was not your oridinary day care. They are just such great people. I can honestly say that I love them all. I love the friends that my kids made and I have grown to love their families and also the teachers. They are all truly a wonderful bunch.
So I don't care for my children because I
choose to work my job. Because I choose to be done with work at 5 and not have to work all night as my children play at my feet. Your absolutely right! That makes me a horrible mother. I mean wanting to give them the social graces, the ability to interact with other children and spend the evening with them without my computer in their face--what a bad mommy I am!
I was trying to be nice. Even to children like you
I was only asking an honest question.
I didn't realize there were children posting on this board.
My son is only 15, but he is fortunate enough to have parents that want to help him so that he will not end up being an eternal bitter child, such as those whose parents obviously haven't bothered to realize that there was a possibilty of their child becoming a total waste of time.
And speaking of wasting time, I'm doing just that. And you should be going upstairs to check on your parents.
I believe it is important for children too..
That does still does not mean that since you made a mistake in your life that you are not entitled to the same rights as everyone else. Could've, should've, would've. We can point fingers and tell people what they should have done, but the fact is, they have rights like everyone else. Of course you tend to do better financially when you do things in the right order. Life does not always work like you want it to though. I myself got pregnant while on BC with a man I had been with for 4 years. I had my son before I got married. We got married when he was less than a month old. He was our only witness. We have since had another child. I have never been on assistance, but I am lucky enough that we have been able to work out our problems and keep our marriage intact. If I could do it all over again, I would have waited, of course. We have struggled quite a bit by having kids so young. Life just doesn't always work out how you want it to though. I want my daughter to get married first and then have children, as do all mothers. Those are things I will teach her too.
Sorry, that should be heard Jen did not want children yet. nm
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my children are minorities
my children are interracial, black father, white mother. however, they dont know the first thing about Kwanza. They are raised to believe that Christmas is about the birth of Christ.
For children, it's best to let them decide.
It can be healing or traumatic. I do think I'd have her go to the funeral home once, set it up so she only has to be there a short time, help her understand it's time to say goodbye and let go (whether close or not). I've been through a Catholic funeral and don't think I'd force a child to be there. It's good that neither you or DH are forcing one way or the other. Talk with your daughter and help her decide what's really best. Just don't let her hide from the fact that she needs to say goodbye to grandma, close or not.
26 with 2 small children.
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GOD BLESS YOU with 5 children!!! *S*...nm
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I am 49, two children (ages 26 and 20). nm
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I have 5 children, two of which have been babies...
It is not always easy, but you do what you want to do. You will make it work if you try and find out what works best for you. Don't put your baby in daycare just to make it easier on yourself. You can work around the baby!
I smile, say "I don't have children, thanks." nm
I don't think anyone said violence against children was okay...
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WHERE DOES YOU CHILDREN GO TO COLLEGE sm
Maybe our children go to the same college.
I will start
One daughter goes to Sacred Heart University in Connecticut. The other daughter will be going to UMass at Amerst in the fall.
Can I Trade Children - LOL
My daughter is only 12 and it's like pulling teeth to get her to save any money. As soon as she gets some (any amount) it burns a whole in her pocket and boom it's gone. So now I've taken to keeping all the money I give her for her allowance and when she wants something she has to come to me for the money so that way I can make sure she puts some away.
second time. I had 2 children, he had none.
Very good marriage, We have 2 other children now.
I think most people who can't have children
of their own opt for adopting a child from infancy so they too can have the experience of raising a child. Now, if only people who already have children of their own or these celebs with all the money to burn would find room in their hearts for one more and adopt a grown child - wouldn't that be something?
I see mostly celebs getting children from
overseas...that's why they are able to get newborns so easily. A friend of the family recently adopted a baby from overseas. It cost them some money, but they had no problems. Newborns are the most sought after. Unfortunately, it is the older children who are suffering more and need homes. Maybe you should try and find a place for an older child in your home if you want to adopt so badly. Giving up on adoption is giving up on a child, if that is truly something you want to do.
Children with disabilities
I have two children who have mild autism. My husband and I fought the school system for years. The special education department told us, "I can't see your son analyzing novels." He could not multiple, subtract, add, divide, or any simple math that a 9th grader should be able to do. My oldest son is now in 9th grade and has not learned what he should have in public school. After doing much research, we came up with a plan to homeschool our son and he can analyze novels! He is finally learning! We have our work cut out for us as he is many years behind, but he will catch up. We have had such great success with him that we are going to home school our younger son as well. Home schooling is not for everyone. You will know if and when you are ready to home school when you have had enough. It was the best decision we ever made! For us, it was the light at the end of the tunnel!
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