I agree wholeheartedly. Your kids are only young once. nm

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I have been working at home since my first child was a day old and all I can say is you get used to it and so do they since they don't know any different.  I think it would be harder having them a bit older and then starting to work at home.  I took short breaks for feeding but worked during the regular work day other than that, just had the baby lying on a blanket next to my chair or in a bouncer seat or sometimes on my lap, and as he got older he started playing next to my desk.  The second time around I had twins, and well, that was a bit harder, but I fed them both at the same time and put them on the same feeding and nap schedules to maximize both work time and my sanity. 

Ya do what ya gotta do.

The kids were fooling around in the parking lot and chasing each other around.  One of the boys, who was approximately 10 years old, jumped up and ran across the hood of a parked car in his cowboy boots.  He totally scratched up and dinged the hood of the car.  The owner, a pastor at a local church, told the parents about it.  The father denied it, then he tried to hit the pastor.  The police were called.  I took the car license number and testified as a witness.  These people are just a prime example of the poor excuses for parents that our country is full of.  The parents should have been publicly caned.

My parents would have beat my butt with a leather belt if I had dared touch someone else's property.  They never had to, though, because they told us how to behave and enforced it.  I'm not saying I never got spanked with a hand when I was young, but I knew it was a potential consequence.  My own kids know if they dare to damage someone else's property, they will pay for the repairs and be punished.  They are too old to spank, however, especially since they're bigger than me!  LOL  My kids also know what it's like to have their property stolen or damaged by other people.

As I understand, daycare is a touchy subject here but I am looking for some opinions.  I have been MTing for 10 years now part time.  During that time I had my 3 kids.  With the PT hours it worked out great.  Now not too long ago I started FT (8 hrs/day). This has been since the school yr started.  My older two are in school all day.  My youngest is 2 and goes to the neighbors house. With summer coming all three will be home.  Its tough because they are 10, 8, 2, the older two argue constantly it seems.  I feel bad to have them have to take care of their 2 yr old sibling on summer break.  They all go in different directions.  I am weighing my options on what to do.  Anyone else in this situation or have any suggestions? If I were putting less hours in I would have no prob.  I understand a lot of you are able to do this with no prob, but it just doesn't work in my house unfortunately.

Oh. but I DO know how GREAT it is to not live with this type of personality any longer (married 13 years, divorced him and now 15 years without him and I am SUPER HAPPY).  Unfortunately, there are also passive-aggressive women out there in the world, equally as oppressive as the men who have this diagnosis. 

By the way, my ex was never *formally diagnosed* - I diagnosed him myself.....and today I feel bad for his  wife of nearly 5 years; however, I never deal with them, have never met her....I simply feel sorry for her from afar....because horses NEVER change colors.

So, yes, I not only lost the oaf, but a mere 5 years after the divorce, I dropped 50 pounds and KEPT IT OFF!!!  *talk about big weights being lifted* 

Best of luck to ALL who are going through life dealing with a passive-aggressive personality on ANY level.

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I feel for you and in my own life have felt like *chopped liva*.....I used that expression growing up in a family with 4 kids.  So, I do GET feeling like chopped liver.  I only have 1 child and she never forgets me - I have everything she ever gave me (she's 25) and she makes my life and vice-versa.  I'm very lucky.  She said in a card yesterday that I was her best friend, provider, caregiver, and support in her life.  WOW, did she EVER MAKE MY DAY. 

That's okay - your old children hopefully will someday GET IT!!  They are at THAT AGE....a little self-absorbed.....it might very well change for you in your favor with your children. 

As for husbands, I got rid of mine years ago and don't want another one.  *grin* 

Be well......God sees everything!!  *hugs* 

Mine are grown, but the grandchildren occasionally are over.  The oldest one will play his Gameboy or some cube thing all day and only occasionally ask to be fed.  However, when the youngest one can't go do daycare for some reason my world is turned upside down.  The granddaughter has it in her head that when I ask her to be quiet it means come over to my desk and whisper.  All in all, it isn't too often that I have children in my house when I work.  My hat is off to those of you who do it on a regular basis, you are queens of organizational/concentration skills. 

   First, if someone does not like her acting style or anything else about her, they are certainly entitled to their opinion.  I think through chance or intent I have seen  every thing released to date that she has done - Hackers, Girl Interrupted, Gia, Beyond Borders to name a few.   She steps up to every different role and continues to grow.     She is 30 years old and has been speaking more intelligently in interviews for years than a lot of 40 and 50 year old actors and actresses.  She is putting herself out there and putting herself in harm's way as does anyone who puts their face, famous or otherwise, on a cause.

     Many of the humanitarian roles she has assumed now are ones she has been asked to do.   Since practically birth, and particularly since her teen years, everything she has done has been under a microscope.    Now, everything she does is under a different kind of microscope and I think she is doing an admirable job of walking the line.  No question she has a wild spirit -  didn't most of us have some wild at 20 and 30?  She is now formally representing the US and I cannot begin to imagine how stressful it must be to have to say the right thing to everyone every time and still try to achieve the objective.  She has looks, brains, money and could be doing anything including sitting around whining about any number of trivial pursuits.    Is she an actress who wants to be a philanthropist, or a humanitarian at heart who wants to act?  I don't know, but I for one enjoy the entertainment and only wish I had all her gifts so that I could go out and make that kind of a difference.   For the record, in my mind there are no similarities between Princess Diana and Angelina, other than perhaps the eye of the world being on them at any given time.  Diana's circumstances were forced and tragic and I believe her unbelievable heart and empathy were borne mostly of her pain.  She did not strive professionally to be an actress.   As a member of the royal family, she was both expected and required to be involved in some charitable works or humanitarian efforts.  What she became is a reflection of her true heart, I think, and I admire her very much in that regard.   If a single child does not die of thirst and hunger on a floor of dirt because of Angelina Jolie or Princess Diana, I think the world is already a better place.    

I do work as an IC for an online company that does not require a line quota and does not dictate my hours.  They only require that the work I take is back with 24 hours.  So, I think you've made a blanketed statement here.  I certainly do believe that MTSOs do abuse IC status in more ways than one.  I have a whole lot of experience in this field, and I can tell you that it is abuse.

call her by her first name.  The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away. 

I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated.   Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie.  :-)

But, as someone pointed out, to each his own.  If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that.  I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks."    

Your son sounds like a very smart young man. Not many kids these days truly care about their education. They look at high school as a party/social time, and dont look into the future what so ever, and said thing is a lot of our children are not getting the guidance from home either.

My son loves to learn and loves to be challenged and with him being home schooled we are able to do so.

And one other positive note on home schooling college intrance exams have shown that home schooled kids are just as smart if not smarter than those who go to public or private schools. The one on one they get is a big big factor in that.

Best of Luck!!!!!!!

cannot legally ask you how old you are.   I quess they can get an idea of age based on work history though or if you put educational history on resume.  I'm nearly 50, but when I answer the phone I frequently have people ask to speak to my mother.  I've been offered a position with every company I've ever applied to.