I agree - my kids are grown and gone.
Posted By: Fatty on 2005-12-31
In Reply to: Not me - love my 2 teens at home! Enjoy it while you can. - Mommy
The house looks great, but I do miss the days when they were kids and lived here.
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So since YOU don't have to worry about it because your kids are grown
Have you ever ONCE tried to put yourself in someone else's shoes or see something from someone else's point of view? Have you ever, in your entire life, had an open mind about anything?
Apparently not, from what I've seen here.
I understand when the kids are grown, so I started over!
My youngest was turning 17 when I got pregnant with another. I guess it is called empty nest syndrome. I'm now 48 and raising a 7 year old beautiful little girl and I remember when my oldest children were growing up I'd think it was never going to end. Now I wake up every day thinking she is growing up too fast! I sure appreciate her more, now that I've seen how fast they will be gone!
Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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I agree. Have grown child, but can work during their SM
school hours and in the evening. A split shift is highly productive.
44-year-old WF, M, Texas, 3 grown kids, just had 26 year wedding anv.
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Yep - I agree - your kids should know better...
I feel for you and in my own life have felt like *chopped liva*.....I used that expression growing up in a family with 4 kids. So, I do GET feeling like chopped liver. I only have 1 child and she never forgets me - I have everything she ever gave me (she's 25) and she makes my life and vice-versa. I'm very lucky. She said in a card yesterday that I was her best friend, provider, caregiver, and support in her life. WOW, did she EVER MAKE MY DAY.
That's okay - your old children hopefully will someday GET IT!! They are at THAT AGE....a little self-absorbed.....it might very well change for you in your favor with your children.
As for husbands, I got rid of mine years ago and don't want another one. *grin*
Be well......God sees everything!! *hugs* 
I agree about the kids....AND
Unfortunately people don't always think about the child's future before bringing them into a bad relationship or into this screwed up world. I am so sick of seeing divorced pregnant women or women with toddlers who say the marriage was bad for years! HELLO! Guess not that bad? And knowing what we know now and how screwed up society is, who would want to bring another child into this world, period? Things are not going to get better. Just the other day even Oprah said it's a totally screwed up world with no morals. I often wonder if that's why she didn't have children. Very smart lady, that Oprah!
I agree wholeheartedly. Your kids are only young once. nm
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I agree... I'm pulling my hair out some days with my own kids..
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Have to agree. Kids do make working at home "different" (sm)
Mine are grown, but the grandchildren occasionally are over. The oldest one will play his Gameboy or some cube thing all day and only occasionally ask to be fed. However, when the youngest one can't go do daycare for some reason my world is turned upside down. The granddaughter has it in her head that when I ask her to be quiet it means come over to my desk and whisper. All in all, it isn't too often that I have children in my house when I work. My hat is off to those of you who do it on a regular basis, you are queens of organizational/concentration skills.
Sounds like a bunch of BULL to me. I agree, I wouldn't let the kids
 stay with her again at ALL. It's not okay for the kid to get arrested and the parents not be told IMMEDIATELY or at least first thing in the door when you're home. THAT is total DISHONESTY and I don't see how hubby could feel any different.
I agree with the Hyland's homeopathic tablets - saved me with all 4 kids!
Totally agree. Her kids are brats and spoiled with dirty money. I know she works
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Agree! What about your hubs, kids, sex life, groceries? Something's gotta give if you're doing
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Why would a grown
woman think that what you are doing is fun? What is wrong with you?
Yep, even though she's grown and married
, he still gets it anytime he wants it. The molestation has never stopped.
Yes, a daughter, all grown.
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
Yes and grown-ups and do not cry like a baby
over some lost time on a newbie! Business is business. Why cry baby about it on this board! This kind of thing happens every day. People do get better offers and this OP wants to cry baby about some lost time! She should have picked someone who was experienced instead of trying to CLAIM she was helping a newbie! I bet if this all came out in the wash, she was only paying a small cpl and wanted a whole lot! I'd bet she's more upset about the fact that she has to do her own work instead of making more than half on someone else. I just don't think a "grown-up" should make accusations of "people stealing information" or try to slander someone's name simply because they cannot support the account. That kind of thing happens every day. If you feel sorry for this OP, you need help more than me. Misery loves company! I'm bitter, but the OP isn't? Who really needs to get over it? Me or the OP or maybe even you!!! tsk tsk on the OP and you! People quit, people make changes, get better offers, cannot put up with being micromanaged, and that is no reason to slander someone! Making false accusations regarding stealing information can also result in a lawsuit. Poor taste in this OP and I hope I never take a job with her and want to quit for any reason! JMO. 
My children are grown and now
I am still working at home. Get to be grandma now. Don't forget $3 for a gallon of gas also.
Grown-up daughters - say nothing unless asked. And then don't say too much. nm
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How could a grown man be in love with a child....
but they way she was dressed with the hair and make-up, etc., she looked about 25. Too many perverts out there and he definitely fits the image. I don't know how or who would hire him especially around some kids. He has pervert stamped all over him.
His hair has grown out? Not extensions - NM
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As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
51, female, married, 1 grown daughter
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Guess you're not ready for grown up humor then.
BLTs on toasted whole wheat with garden grown tomatoes and lettuce.
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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home grown lettuce etc salad, topped with chicken breast cooked in
fajita sauce, fried eggplant and fried zucchini along with zucchini/parmesan muffins. I'm stuffed!!
I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
Agree, agree, agree! Just listen to Benny Hinn..
he speaks perfect English, especially when asking for money! Also, in my opinion, blanks should be left in the doc's dictation if not able to be transcribed, maybe then they will know that are NOT understood. With QA fixing them, what need is there for them to care if we understand them or not?
No I said thank God I do not have kids
I think the wrong point is being taken here. Yes he does not worry about money and is used to that. I am afraid of not making ends meet if I stop working my day job and I refuse to stop working either MT jobs as we all know it takes a lot of education to make it.
I am my kids mom
My children are lucky to have their mother taking care of them, not a stranger. I work my butt of taking care of my kids and have made many sacrifices to be able to live this life of working PT and being a full time mother. I know that I am my kids mom.
I know that it must be hard for you to look at your kids and tell them that you don't want them to be with you everyday. The sacrifices could be made.
Thank God you have no kids. NM
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How much can you get done with 2 kids?
I haven't done transcription for a few years and would like to get back in. My question is--if you don't mind me asking--how many lines a week can you get done with kids? Is 1000 reasonable or way out there? I have 5 kids, but 3 of them will be in school during the day and the other two nap...any advice?
For kids
Tacos, as son to work and daughter off too, and me and hubby home made wedding soup, ummm ummm good, and sweet italian sausage on hard rolls, not stale, just good.
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Kids come first for both of us, then each other, I don't think I'd want a man who
and catering to me constantly. I like the fact that he does all the cooking, and most of the grocery shopping and gets me things I like w/o me having to ask him to buy them. I do the same for him. We don't get much alone time but enjoy what time we do get together. My man does a lot other men don't but doesn't act like a doormat either.
Same here... kids come first, then each other. sm
Our kids are still at home, and the kids come first. I've seen lots of other parents who put themselves/each other first, and the kids always seem to be second thoughts to them. That's not how it works in our family. We're all equally important, but the kids' needs come first. If I only have $30 and we all need shoes, the kids get them first. I wouldn't have it any other way.
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We have three kids.
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DH does his own. So do the kids.
I used to have Mount Everest on the basement floor every single day and then I just got fed up and stopped doing laundry except for my own and household items, i.e., towels, etc. Half of the pile was clean stuff that I had folded and put in the kids' rooms that they just put back in the pile when they "cleaned" their rooms.
It took them a while to adjust, but the youngest was 8 and the older ones were 12 and 17 and I left their stuff in the mountain until they realized that they couild actually work the washing machine AND the dryer. They also know if they put the washer on the extra small cycle for only one pair of pants, one shirt, one pair of socks and one pair of underwear for themselves, and I actually find it, it gets hauled out of the washer and thrown back on the pile wet.
And don't even think about not scraping AND rinsing your plate. You won't get fed.
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yep and even KIDS..........nm
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How many kids do you have?
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My kids are now in their mid-20's and
we always had them save their money. I'd give them $20 of their paychecks and put the rest in high-interest CD's for them.
My son recently used the money from his childhood savings as a downpayment on his house.
My daughter is using hers to pay off her student loans from college.
They are now very responsible savers/investors.
Teach them young. It's a great learning experience that can be applied to the rest of their lives.
We pay our kids...
to watch the baby, but it works like this. They are 14 and 16 and the "baby" is 4. They watch her for more than 2 hours, they get $6 an hour. Those first 2 hours are considered just being part of our family.
It would be the end of it for me. Not something I would want as an example for the kids, either.
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