I agree. Sounds like a controlling attention-seeking parent so
Posted By: the apple didn't fall far from the tree on 2006-04-02
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This sounds like a parent talking...
I never want anyone to think I am yelling at them, even if something is a MAJOR no-no.
The above is what the poster wrote. I am not saying that I don't think her approach is good. I am just stating that words like MAJOR no-no are as if she is talking to a child. That's all I was pointing out. I don't like baby talk when it comes to being professional. Do we not strive for professionalism in this business?
So, some of you here like being talked to like a baby? That makes QA so special and great? 
A little please and thank you goes a long way. I don't need a QA person to be sugary sweet to get the point. We are adults here.
sounds like he needs attention and is afraid
One controlling so-and-so
Unless you are paid by time instead of production, or claiming that you work more than 40 hours per week, what right would anyone have to be monitoring this anyway? Sounds like someone who is controlling and needs to get a life. There are many in our industry who enjoy, and take advantage of, any power that they can get, which often is the result of great inner insecurity. It also sounds like it could be a symptom of OCD.
controlling men
Please be sure and make plans ahead of time if you decide to leave. My daughter has been through this twice now. Her first left her and son at age 4 1/2 took over $75,000 and left her with nothing. She did get the house but has to pay $525 per month. She is also an MT at home. Get separate bank accounts, etc. He took bankruptcy and never did what the judge ordered then told her she would have to sell the house since they had joint business. If I hadn't stepped in and had her put the house in my husband's name and mine she would have lost that and could only have kept $10,000 of it. So, please be careful check the laws in your state.
And anyone who is THAT controlling and suspicious
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It must be mind controlling or something, I have no idea.
and divorce has come to mind so many times. He has been playing this game nonstop since the end of last year. Spends hours on it a day. He loses sleep because of it too!
Water seeks its own level. Controlling men (and women)
seem to end up with a spineless jellyfish of a person. The wimpier person likes being told what to do because he/she has no confidence to make a decision, and the bossy one loves ruling with an iron fist.
Been there, done that.
Got rid of the bossy one too.
I do not agree w/your post.....sounds....sm
Hypochondriacs can be huge manipulators, sympathy seeking, game-playing people. I wouldn't waste one minute of my time or even a breath until your neighbor GETS HERSELF TOGETHER - it's NOT your responsibility......and she probably had these problems before she became your neighbor or you became her neighbor....some people are just comfortable in their negativity. If she has this history, I wouldn't go near her with a 10-foot pole unless she apologizes for her bogusness and means it......
I have little tolerance for game-players in the life......
I agree. Sounds like they are using this error as a
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I agree, sounds like a scam.
ok-could be your parent for sure...LOL...sm
32 !!! A mere babe in arms *S* and yes, old enough here to be YOUR MOM!!! Too funny!!! 
I agree -- go for it. After all, 9 cpl is not all that great for IC work, and it sounds like you nm
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Agree, sounds like a business deal gone bad...
In any case, I was just pointing out that it was stolen...and for all her go USA, no overseas yadda, yadda, yadda....here she had someone from overseas build the thing. I'm seeing people posting that new owner's taking advantage of it being known as US-based website, but I think previous owner took advantage as well...seeing as how she had it built that way.
Exactly what I was seeking
Yes, this the kind of advice I was seeking. Thank you!!!
I'm seeking out a second job...
Right now. I don't mind helping a company meet their goals and deadlines, as long as they help me meet my goals and deadlines by giving me enough work to make enough to live on.
Hopefully it won't come down to me having to seek out a 3RD job.
Well, I am the parent and I run my house sm
My kids are told to speak only when spoken to, and if they talk back in anyway, I smack them in the mouth. Granted, they are teens and not toddlers. In their teens, they try to push it to the limit no matter what situation. My kids know not to push!
I am a foster parent of 3, have been for about
a year and a half now. I would highly recommend you try to place you children with family or a good friend before turning to the state. After seeing how the system works, IMO, it is not a very good one. I would hate to see you lose your kids because you asked them for help. Two of my FC are about to get terminated from their parents, their mother of which put them in care for "help" and is now going to lose her kids.
There are many, many programs out there to help you. I'm not sure how long you have been married or really what the situation is but given the fact that you are considering this for children tells me you are a decent person because you don't want them on the street. Call a family member or a friend and ask if you and the children can stay with them. You might have to consider placing (or leaving) your husband somewhere else until you can get back up on your feet.
Go to your local welfare office, they might be able to get you something short-term. Try, try hard to keep your family together.
God bless you and your family. I hope things turn out and the world seems like a better place. Just know that we are all hear praying for you!
I think she is very much a good parent, and I don't
see how she is treating them as pets.
Ok, she was a parent when she got involved w/ a
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I agree with her 100%. sounds like you dont want to admit QA needs to fix things
No one is saying you are a bad QA person, just that she is getting conflicting results and it should be one standard, not 2 or even 3.
No one is bashing anyone. You are bashing yourself by saying you stink. I have been in this position before and went straight to the QA person and talked about it. They explained to me that sometimes its a preference of style.
I agree Nature Sounds better than music.. IMHO.. NM
NM
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Could anyone tell me anything about MDI on their Meditech Radiology Accounts? I would like to hear from anyone who is currently or have been previously employed with this company. Specifically concerning their line counting, is this calculated by Meditech or some other method? How accurate do you feel their method is and if you could maybe give me an average estimate on daily line counts you have experienced. Also anything you can tell me about the work flow for the weekends. Does it easily run out? Any information would be appreciated. Thank you.
Seeking information
Sorry about that. FL
I was seeking a response
from someone other than my TL because she makes me feel I'm bothering her. In general, what is the role of a team leader?
Seeking my own account
If anyone has an account in the Atlanta, GA area that they'd like to pass on or know of a doc who is looking for a reliable Transcriptionist (work from home), please email me.
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I need a wav USB pedal today. Is there any store in NY that supplies them?
Seeking accounts (sm)
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seeking work
I need some advice on applying for jobs. I have 8 years acute experience but have never worked for an online company. I have my own computer, and am willing to add any programs, buy the books, whatever. I am fairly firm about not working Sundays or graveyard, but all the rest of the week is fine. I want to quit this in-house job and go home. I have applied to 6 companies; one likes me but said they have no work which I am taking as a nice brush-off - I aced everything - I aced all the written tests, flunked the first company's transcription test, but now I either don't get that far or I pass the trans test. I am knocking myself out, leaving this in-house job nightly and spending at leats 2 more hours on the compuer applying. What is it? ARe there any tips? Is it that I've never worked from home? Please help me just a little if you can. I'm losing my self-confidence.
It's not a parent's job to entertain their children 24/7.
Back in the olden days, parents AND children did chores from morning until night. They didn't play, go to the movies, own electronics or do ANYTHING fun. Chores, chores, chores all day long. The kids worked right alongside their parents. Church on Sunday. They didn't have neighborhood kids parading through the house without an invitation. They might have gone on an occasional picnic or square dance, but that's it. Children aren't supposed to be in charge. Parents aren't supposed to entertain their children 24/7 and give in to their every whim. At least her kids are having fun instead of being left home ALONE with a list of chores to do while Ma and Pa go to town for supplies.
A parent's job is to raise a child but....
I've been in that boat, too. Chore lists didn't help. Taking anything away didn't help. Holding their allowance didn't help. Going on strike didn't help. All I ended up was triple the work. . It was their job to bring in wood for the stove to keep warm. I left the fire go out one night. That got their attention when they woke up and it was only 50 degrees in the house (pretty warm considering it was 0 outside). Never had to worry about heat anymore, but the other stuff....well...
At that time, I held down 2 full time jobs and 1 job at home typing college books part time. (I was young, so could handle it). Well, one day I sat them down and told them that if they EVER wanted to go out on their own, they would have to know how to clean, wash clothes, iron, cook, etc. I taught them how to cook the basics. I showed them how to do everything else. Well, they still didn't pitch in....didn't know what else to do so I left all their stuff alone. Stopped doing their wash and closed their bedroom door. Ignored them when they asked for something like they did me.
My guys all went out on their own between age 18-21. You should have seen their place. Spotless and they did it all themselves. Now that they are all married, my boys cook meals for their wives at least once or twice a week. They help their wives clean and do all the stuff I wish they would have done at home. But, you know what? That's fantastic. I know I taught them something that stayed with them and all my DIL's love me for it. 
Now, all I have to do is get hubby trained. I'm still supermom to him even though he often states "I don't know how you do it all."
My opinion is not to worry about it. If they are embarrassed, they may do something. If not, then when their friends come around, just mention, "I'm sorry the house is such a mess but since I work 2 jobs, I just don't have time to do everything else." They might get the message then.
Have become a single parent...how to survive
Hello.
First, I want to apologize if this is not on the right board. I wasn't sure where to put it.
Second, I am not looking for pity...just advice.
I have two wonderful children (a 5 year old and a 5 month old) who are my life and because of that I have left there father (verbally abusive to everyone) to make a better life for all of us. I am a new MT (have only been in the business for 4 months now and make enough to pay rent but that is all. With an infant it is hard to work during the day so I start my work around 7pm and work until it is done. I am not that fast yet but am gaining speed and could handle another small account. Can anyone tell me how they have made single parenting work as an MT or have any ideas on how to make it work, please. I am deperate to stay home with them. Honestly, daycare cost would kill my paycheck if I had to work outside of the home and I am trying to stay off of government support.
I appreciate any help or advice I receive.
Thank you.
elder parent care
Of course I feel "responsible", even "obligated" to take care of my aging parents. They took care of me, now it's my turn to give back. However, I'm not in that position right now as my parents are both in their early to mid 60s, so don't require taking care of yet...so who knows how I'll feel when faced with that responsibility. But, I hope that I feel the same way I do now. My husband and I have discussed more than once perhaps buying a larger home with an in-law suite to accommodate our aging parents.
If only more of us would take the responsibility of taking care of our elderly parents, then perhaps we would not hear of some of the horrors that happen to the elderly such as getting bilked out of their life savings, being abused in a nursing home, having accidents while trying to take care of themselves, etc...Thanks for the thought provoking question....have a wonderful day! 
Sounds like a bunch of BULL to me. I agree, I wouldn't let the kids
 stay with her again at ALL. It's not okay for the kid to get arrested and the parents not be told IMMEDIATELY or at least first thing in the door when you're home. THAT is total DISHONESTY and I don't see how hubby could feel any different.
Seeking good company
Anyone have any info on Eight Crossings, Inc, or Sierra Medscribe?
Or know any services that will either accept MTs with dial-up, or help pay for satellite?
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to the person seeking J from RX Transcription
email me. I used to work with J too and I live in the town next to her. I can help you get in touch.
I agree, sounds like a server problem with your employer. I helped with the switch over when SM
we installed EXText where I worked and I learned that there are a certain number of channels or ports per server, meaning on one server an allotted number of dictators and transcribers can connect to the server at one time. The more channels in use, the harder the server works, and that will slow connection speed.
I also learned that if all channels are in use, any other would be users trying to connect are sort of placed in a holding pattern waiting for an open channel and that can cause hiccups in the server as well, i.e. disconnections, lock ups.
We were told by the IT department that although we may have 20+ channels available for use, we shouldn't schedule 20 MTs to be on at the same time just because we can. We have to consider the dictators who need access, etc.
So basically your employer may have too many trying to connect at the same time and the server just can't handle it. You might ask the other MTs if they are experiencing similar difficulties and if they are, then its a better bet that it is a serve problem.
As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
A parent's job is to raise a child the way they should go as an adult ....
Isn't part of being an adult cleaning, taking responsibility? If so, YOUR job is to make them clean, certain rooms on certain days, not just during vacations. (I'm at work so this is succinct, and probably not real tactful, sorry)
I don't think it is cruel to admit your remaining parent - sm
into a nursing home. Those that think its terrible are just concerned with appearances I think, that and guilt themselves if they ever thought about it. My mom put her mom in a nursing home after she could not care for herself. My grandma actually thrived there. They got her off all her medication and she was felt a lot better, even got engaged to get married again, but broke it off shortly before she died. We lived in PA and her mom in FL. My mom's (adopted) family thought she was such a terrible person for putting her "mom" in a nursing home. My mom's adopted parents did not treat her well at all, would never tell her much about the adoption when she eventually found out about it in the 1950s (smell of scandel somewhere, this was 1935) and my grandparents never really ever wanted children. Needless to say my mom has a less than ideal childhood but she took care and upheld her "responsibilities". Some people take in their parent(s) because they want to make sure the $$$ if there is any stays in the family (or goes to them). I know that is the wheel turning in my DHs brain about his parents, though he says they would never re-marry after the death of the other. His mom has told me she will not remarry, but you never know do you. I think he is wrong about his dad though, I think his dad would do the exact same thing my dad did, i.e. remarry within a year of the mom/wife passing and say bye-bye to any substantial inheritence on a re-marriage. In my case I will "lose" (my husband's thinking) out on about $140K which my husband deeply resents unfortunately. It has caused a lot of distention in the last 2 years between me and my DH that is. I am cool with my dad, it's his life and money; and I have pointed out to him a zillion times that inheritence is a gift, not a right. But yes, to be honest it is disappointing, but as my DH expects to get close to $1 mil from his parents I think we will survive (in a way I hope they disinherit him). Greed can cause all sorts of problems. Along with responsibility comes motive in some cases. I do not want to take in either of my DHs parents, but his fear/greed will induce him to have whichever one is left move in with us probably in the next 5-10 years (they are 76 and 71 right now). Sad.
I'm a current foster parent in Georgia and...sm
have e-mailed you to contact me so I can answer your questions.
new here/wanting to leave MQ/seeking a better place!
That's right, MQ has finally really, really gotten to me after eight long years! I have told and told and told myself that it's okay there are major lawsuits against the company that imply terrible wrongdoing, it is okay that MQ seems to change CEOs every few months, it is okay that I haven't had a raise in two years, it is okay that I do a brilliant job without anyone caring... and finally, finally, it is just not okay. I am talking to Medware who apparently won Employer of the Year in 2002 and 2005. Can I get a witness? Anybody work for them? What about Spheris? Flexibility of schedule is utterly crucial to me, and I have to have benefits, so no IC work. Where can I go where they'll appreciate me? I'm a former high school English teacher with 15 years as an MT (8 in acute care) and some QA experience. Help???
Seeking home-based MT job from Canada!!!
Hello, I am seeking a full-time MT job from home (in Canada). I want to work for a great company that pays well. I also want my computer and all required supplies paid by the company. I will pay for high speed internet!! Where I reside, we have fibreoptic telephone lines - therefore it is the best place to do medical transcription, the quickest speed of voice data and the clearest in north america!! We also rarely have storms here! I live in New Brunswick, 1 hour for calais, Maine.
I have 5+ years of experience and I am also a coder trained in Toronto. HOpe to hear from you soon. Thanks!
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rigi60@hotmail.com
seeking info on general transcription,
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Desperately seeking psych trans job from home
Does anyone know of any companies who are in need of transcriptionists for psych? I am available immediately. Please reply asap!
Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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pay attention
I think you got confused, I did not call you or anyone else a fool.
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This would definitely get his attention!
Sorry I didn't try the frying pan thing FIRST!!! Will keep this in mind....for the next go 'round....
Like I said.......looking for attention....
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You pay 100% attention to work while SM
you are working and get someone to care for the baby while you are working. Same when it gets bigger.
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