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I agree. Life is too short. Be the bigger person and keep reaching out.

Posted By: MissouriMT on 2006-07-22
In Reply to: My Mom, who was a very wise woman, would tell you... - XtremeMT

My sister is a big 'ol gossip.  She has talked about me more times than I can remember and she has been telling our mom on my all my life.  She and I would have bitter fights as adults and not speak for months at a time, but then one day I realized that she's never going to change.  So I basically stopped confiding in her things I didn't want to the world or my mom to know and moved on.  We have a great relationship now mostly because I won't allow myself to be in a position where she can make me angry.


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life is too short
Just chalk it up to your value system being different from your value system. Nothing dumb about it. I have seen the same happen.
Life is too short
to let these kind of games drag you down. You know what you contributed and "she" knows you are the one who provided the original data. She will have to live with her dishonest type of manipulation. You cannot change her, you can only change how you react to her.

Keep doing a terrific job for your own satisfaction. The only person you need to "oneup" is yourself. Set goals to outdo yourself and know that the better you do, the more satisfying your job will be. It takes 2 people to play the game. I suggest you bow out of the game and it takes away the fun for the other person.

I have been there too. It will happen anywhere you work if you "play the game." The choice is yours. I hope this helps. I only mean it in a supportive way.
Life is too short....
don't sell your peace of mind and health for a few bucks - you can never buy it back at any price once it's gone.  Take care of yourself.  
Life is too short . . . if you can afford it,
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Life is too short to be miserable
I am in this profession because I honestly love the work, and I love being an IC (setting my own work hours, being at home, etc.) I started out working for local doctors at home, then when that situation changed and I had to go to a company, I was blessed that I hit a good one first thing and have never had to experience a bad one. I am telling you all of this to hopefully encourage you. It is possible to be happy in this field, and there are good companies to work for. Life is too short to be stuck in a job where you are yelled at, bullied, and ready to throw in the towel. I hope you either start looking for a different MT job, or start pursuing another career - something that makes you happy.
Take a vacation honey...life is too short to

worry about jobs, bosses, money, etc. Believe it or not, there are other jobs out there no matter what the doom and gloomers say! Be kind to yourself and your family...you come first.  


"That's Life." It was only on a short while a few years ago, but was really good. nm
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Yes, exact same person in my life. sm
I have a similar situation with my mother. She is just so negative and miserable all of the time. Snide remarks always and lives in the past. It is very painful, but I have distanced myself. I love my mother, but I can not keep her close any longer. It is just too painful. She disrupts my inner peace most times.

Instead of talking to her every day, I now call once a week, and soon it will be once a month. I am one of 6, and the others call once a month or stop in to see her once a month if that, and that is just so wonderful....So, I figure, if it is okay for them than it is okay for me. It actually feels good to have my own life without negative energy feeding into it.

Always love your mother, but you do not need to have her in your daily life. That is my philosophy. Good luck.

see inside, was one terrific person in life....sm
Actress Shelley Winters, 85; Blond Bombshell to Oscar Winner

By Adam Bernstein
Washington Post Staff Writer
Sunday, January 15, 2006; C09


Shelley Winters, 85, a brassy actress and raconteur who appeared in more than 120 films and twice won the Academy Award for supporting performances, died Jan. 14 at a rehabilitation center in Beverly Hills, Calif. She had been hospitalized in October after suffering a heart attack.


Ms. Winters won her Oscars for "The Diary of Anne Frank" (1959), as the sloppy and nervous Mrs. Van Daan, and for "A Patch of Blue" (1965), in which she was one of the true screen vultures, mercilessly abusing her blind daughter (played by Elizabeth Hartman).


Her last Oscar nomination was for "The Poseidon Adventure" (1972), the much-lampooned all-star drama about an overturned luxury liner. Despite her girth, she played a former swimming champion who tries to take others to safety.


Acknowledging the film's rich potential for parody, she appeared on "The Flip Wilson Show" in a skit set in a fast-flooding laundromat. She led the cast in a daring escape through a washing-machine hatch.


At first a peroxide-dyed "blond bombshell," Ms. Winters was typecast for years as a gangster's moll and dance-hall dame. She once joked of her tendency to perish as a sinner or martyr, writing in a memoir: "I had been strangled by Ronald Colman, drowned by Montgomery Clift, stabbed and drowned by Robert Mitchum, shot by Jack Palance and by Rod Steiger in two different films and, oh yes, overdosed with heroin by Ricardo Montalban."


By the late 1950s, Ms. Winters had carved out a successful career in character parts -- the brash and frowzy secondary roles that she said would sustain her career as she aged.


She once called the role of Charlotte Haze, the mother of a teenage vamp in "Lolita" (1962), "one of the best performances I ever gave in any medium. She is dumb and cunning, silly, sad, sexy and bizarre, and totally American and human."


In her later years, Ms. Winters appeared on talk-show programs to detail her indulgences with the leading men of Hollywood's golden age.


She also wrote two kiss-and-tell memoirs, in which she counted among her amorous conquests Errol Flynn, William Holden (they had an annual Christmas Eve rendezvous), Sean Connery, Burt Lancaster and Marlon Brando.


She said Brando invited her to the set of "A Streetcar Named Desire," locked her in his trailer and began to simulate violent lovemaking by shaking the room, pounding the walls and screaming with delight.


Ms. Winters wrote that she found this silly, adding: "When I refused to yell loud enough for him, he whispered, 'You're not helping my image enough. For God's sake, you studied voice projection. Use it!' "


Shirley Schrift was born Aug. 18, 1920, in St. Louis and moved to Brooklyn, N.Y., when she was 9. One of the most stinging memories of her youth was seeing her father jailed for setting his men's store on fire to collect insurance money. Much later, he was exonerated, she said.


"I developed a whole fantasy world during my childhood," she wrote. "Reality was too unbearable. This ability to fantasize has been a powerful tool in my acting."


After winning local beauty contests, Ms. Winters left school to model dresses. She also was a nightclub dancer and appeared in summer stock.


She wrote of having more gumption than talent early on. During a nationwide scouting hunt to find the ideal Scarlett O'Hara for the film "Gone With the Wind," she told the casting agent with a Brooklyn accent, "Lawdy, folks, I'm the only goil to play Scarlett."


She won small parts on Broadway that led to a film contract with Columbia studios. When Columbia let her contract run out, she called Garson Kanin, a casual acquaintance then directing his play "Born Yesterday" on Broadway. She asked to be understudy to star Judy Holliday. Instead, Kanin told her to look up film director George Cukor, who was casting for the doomed waitress in a movie script Kanin had co-written.


The film was 1947's "A Double Life," and it would provide Ms. Winters with her first notable part. She played the mistress and unwitting Desdemona to a psychotic Shakespearean actor (Ronald Colman). Colman won the Oscar that year, and the film's overall acclaim brought much attention to Ms. Winters's talents.


Then under a long contract at Universal studios, she was rushed into a series of forgettable musicals and gangster melodramas. Periodically, she grabbed better assignments as a freelancer. Among her notable work was playing Myrtle Wilson in "The Great Gatsby" (1949) with Alan Ladd, and a hostage who develops romantic feelings for thug John Garfield in "He Ran All the Way" (1951).


Ms. Winters wanted badly to do a big-budget picture, and she devoted her time to pursuing one of the most sought-after roles in Hollywood: a mousy factory worker impregnated by social-climber Montgomery Clift in "A Place in the Sun."


Desperate to prove her ability beyond what she called blond bombshell publicity, Ms. Winters showed up for her first meeting with director George Stevens looking so meek and pathetic that he didn't recognize her.


He was so pleased with her immersion in the character that he offered her the role immediately. Ms. Winters, who received her first Oscar nomination in the part, later called Stevens the best director she had known. They worked again on "The Diary of Anne Frank," when she recalled Stevens playing the song "Purple People Eater" to loosen up the cast after tense scenes.


By the mid-1950s, she was veering into scene-stealing secondary roles, such as the secretary and mistress to Paul Douglas in "Executive Suite" (1954); a trampy actress who gets murdered in "The Big Knife" (1955), starring Jack Palance; and a widow who falls victim to a murderous preacher, played by Robert Mitchum, in "The Night of the Hunter" (1955).


"Mitchum, who was and is famous for playing jokes and kidding around on the set, was contained and serious throughout the filming," she later wrote. "Charles Laughton directed the film slowly and carefully. And we knew when we saw the first rushes that we were part of something classic and timeless. 'Night of the Hunter' is probably the most thoughtful and reserved performance I ever gave."


Ms. Winters studied acting with Laughton but also was a follower of the "Method," a naturalistic performance style in which actors plumb their own lives for motivation.


When her studio contract expired, Ms. Winters revived her stage career. She won praise as a heroin addict's wife in Michael V. Gazzo's drama "A Hatful of Rain" (1955).


Critic Brooks Atkinson wrote of Ms. Winters in the New York Times: "She is simple, aware of all that is going on around her, good-humored and full of compassion and decision when the last scene comes around. She had the taste as well as the craft for a lucid and disarming character portrait."


Also in the Broadway cast were Ben Gazzara and her third husband, Anthony Franciosa, of whom she later wrote: "If there had been an Olympic sex team that year, Tony would have been the champion." They later divorced.


Ms. Winters began writing short plays, culminating in a series of one-acts produced off Broadway in 1970 under the title "One Night Stands of a Noisy Passenger." In the cast was a young Robert DE Niro, who also played her drug-addicted son in Roger Corman's film "Bloody Mama" (1970).


Many of her later roles were Jewish-mother parts, from "Next Stop, Greenwich Village" (1976) to "The Delta Force" (1986). Her last film was the Italian farce "La Bomba" (1999), which reunited her with her second husband, the Italian stage and film actor Vittorio Gassman. She said they divorced in 1954 after she discovered him romancing his 16-year-old Ophelia in a production of "Hamlet."


Her first marriage, to a Chicago textile salesman named Mack P. Mayer, also ended in divorce.


Survivors include a daughter from her second marriage.


© 2006 The Washington Post Company

 

 

 

I heartily agree with the other poster. You have the shock of your life coming SM

anyway, why involve children in it?


Honestly, good luck to you. But you can't take care of your kids and be a good transcriptionist, let alone make any money, not at first.


Totally agree...The Life of David Gale is excellent!
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You generous donations are amazing and truly appreciated.  Once the goal is reached, I will be walking into Walmart to speak to the store manager about getting a gift card to this family back east and know that the MTs children WILL have Christmas this year!


THANK YOU!


You can block that number from reaching you.
They will block the number but not tell you who it is.

Call them right after a phone call comes in that is a hang up. Apparently, this happens a lot since SBC has an 800 number for this request.
Well, congratulations on reaching this exciting :) SM
point n your life. There's nothing like certainty to simplify what was all too complicated for too long. Obviously this new life has to be one in which you do like what you're doing. Best wishes.
Yes, we agree. I 1st posted to person who didnt
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I used Short Keys, not Short hand for Bayscribe, it worked fine.
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Oh yeah, and you'll see them reaching in their wallets a little more
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Agree! What about your hubs, kids, sex life, groceries? Something's gotta give if you're doing
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I totally agree. He's a very good-hearted person. nm
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Agree! Hard to make it as single person, let alone a family. nm
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Ditto, short ERs or short OPs....short anything! sm
And I especially don't like long OPs, they are the most boring for me, and the doctors pause a lot cause they have to think more. I just want to be done with it! Next!!! ; )
Life is life....the haven't bonded the same as if it were a 2-year-old!
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Long short forms vs short short forms

Carla,


A long short form is usually easier to remember. So I would definitely assign the short forms as suggested by Kelli:
SmithCThead
SmithCTabdomen
etc


In most Expander programs you would opt for a short short form as you have to type the whole short form before you can expand.
In Instant Text you don't have to type the whole short form: you type the first two letters of your long short form and then you can type any of the following letters.
So in this case you would type smcth for the first one, smcta, and you may also type smhead, smabd


This is possible when you use the Instant Text marker key to expand. If you use the space bar to expand, you may be better off assigning the initials as suggested in the second response, as you would not be able to "jump ahead".


Marianne


Great post and i agree 100%. As a former depressed person myself, ,I learned that the most depressed
people are self-centered whether they want to admit or not. I stayed in my cave and only talked about me and my problems and I was severely depressed (runs in family)
After I found God and started attending church regularly, I have completely changed and am off medications. I also give lovingly now to my husband, children, family, and friends and have recently taken over teaching a large woman's Bible study class locally and have never experienced such joy, peace, and happiness in my life.
It wasn't until I began taking my eyes off of me and started looking around at others in more desparate situations that I began to learn the true meaning of life.
Great post. I, too, think fasting is a life-changing exp. When I fasted from food for the first time (I am very overweight :) it was one of the most powerful experiences of my life. There's just something about withholding something that you truly desire or want - it's like putting out flames to a destructive fire within you and it feels GREAT!!!!
I work for the person. I know. Very excellent person, personally and business-sense.
It is an INSULT to have QA hovering over seasoned MTs who know what they are doing. She trusts her MTs and again if there are questions there is one person, a trainer, who can answer them via phone, e-mail or instant message or you can send the whole report to them if you choose.
Point was is the person willing to make up for the slack of the person who types 1 job when there is

if that is all they WANT to type.   Is the person who wants to be a supervisor willing to make up for those people?


You have crap supervisors, editors and mts in the business like you have good ones.   Sadly, the really good ones of all of them are few and far between. 


Bigger isn't always better!
I know that one small private online service does nothing but the Mayo Clinic. It's a very nice little company who does quality work.
10-15% seems low, they like bigger
At Acusis, competitive pay means competitive with third world countries.  Company is for all intents and purposes an India company.  Start looking before the mass exodus.
Only 3 years away from reaching total years for retirement
but if I had to do this and raise a family, would feel exactly like you do. The pay is terrible compared to what I used to make. I work 32 hours a week, hope to be able to continue even after full retirement age. I have worked on VR now and unless places get to where they really do not care about how their reports look, think they will need MTs. I very seldom do a report and it is 100%, just cannot remember 1 like that and most take a lot more editing. Working now because want to, not have to anymore, thank goodness!!
Oh, boy, yep, you got bigger problems than me...
Isn't life grand? Sorry I can't offer any advice but to hang in there and do what's best for you. I don't know you, of course, but *hugs*.
Bigger puzzles?
Have you seen the books with the huge grafts? I have not tried these yet.
I see a bigger picture there than you do - sm
I see the state of US healthcare as a whole, which is going steadily downhill. It's a complicated mess and will take a lot of scrutinizing and picking apart to have any hope of cleaning up some of its dirtier secrets. Taking surveys in various sectors of that industry (especially in MT, a sector that for the most part is totally swept under the rug and ignored) is at least a step in the right direction. Not being interested in taking a survey is a personal decision, and if you feel threatened by it, then by all means steer clear if it makes you feel better. But your all-out attack on the idea, which seems to center around a PayPal button, seems skewed somehow, and makes me think you are MORE threatened by the thought that our profession's dirty laundry just might get aired.
That's nice, but they have a bigger problem SM
with the fact that their own employees take the information home on laptops....per the letter I received last week from the VA notifying me that my information had been stolen from someone's car...
Bigger concern is your husband!!
Aside from the fact that your husband's friend is a jerk, what is your husband saying about the fact that he will not give you this female's phone # so you can call her back and let her hear a piece of reality here!! It's as if your hubby is saying this is a game here and it's "okay". Does the fact that this lady called him give him some kind of a charge, a little excitement for him? I would question his ethics first, after all, if he's willing to keep this number from you, what else would he think is none of your business? Sorry, but that's the bigger problem.
the Az Humane Socity said 2 lbs or bigger
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BTW, the bigger issue made of my...sm
smoking....   the more I smoke.  That happens to be true of lots of smokers.  So, don't bug her about it.  She's more likely to do it on her own if you drop it.
Women now are into the bigger crimes
so a woman does not gain entrance into my house. Your daughters are really old enough to know better. I had 2 women come here 1 day, raining outside and they were shivering and wanted entrance and I said NO. I know anyone can get in if they want but no sense in making it easier for them. I saw a police chase yesterday (thought coming from Calif as ones that happen here usually when it is over) but live and the people got out and ran- husband is saying is that not a female? It was and she along with a male trying to escape. I had someone in uniform (who most people trust) show up 1 day asking to use my phone- no way Jose, told them give me a # and I will call for you. I am very, very aware of all around me and no one enters my house through the garage or front door (while I am home, of course) without my letting them in. Rural versus city no different. Crime happens everywhere.
LOL! I've already had to buy a bigger monitor
my problem is that my keyboard shelf only allows space for the keyboard and I love this desk -  is a corner desk - now with more constant use of mouse my shoulder aches because it is higher- I have to figure out how to make space for the mouse - any suggestions?  Need a man to jigsaw me an extension, I guess.
You will have bigger worries than us sitting in
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The bigger the better. Flat screen.
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If you are wanting to make it bigger, but
not affect the final report, look on your tool bar and there should be a box that has a number/percentage in it. Mine says 100%. You can increase it there so it is bigger on the screen, but does not change the "font" of the report. This is in MS Word.
MS Word....anyone know how to get the text to appear bigger
Help if you can! Thanks!
One of the bigger nationals .. very happy - see message

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2)  Very flexible schedling;


3)  Great supervisory team;


4)  Excellent pay per line;


5)  Production incentive and shift differential;


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7)  OT available;


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Easier if you're in a bigger city
I went to an open "cattle call" sponsored by one of the big modeling agencies at a Holiday Inn once some years ago with my DD. Didn't cost any money but did involve several hours of standing around.

Wouldn't hurt to call around to the modeling agencies like another poster said, but I do believe you will have to pay for some photographs, at least. The other factor involved is if the kid can go for a long time without crying or throwing fits in a boring environment. That was my DD's problem. I did have to pay for comp cards made out of an existing photograph. Nothing came out of it for us, but it is possible to look into it without getting rooked.
Because it sits up and has bigger digital numbers.
My eyesight's a goin' in my old age here! LOL

You just have to tap it on top...lots easier.

With the stopwatch, I have to pick it up and press the timer each time.
my butt will probably just get bigger, but I choose face
Look at Madonna, bod is solid as a rock but that FACE  ---eek
Sounds like you have one child that is a lot bigger in size than the others!
I used to get that too-- mine worked 4-10s while I worked 5-8s. When I got home, I had to fix dinner, clean up the house, took care of my horse, etc., and when he got home, he just would lay around. If I asked him to do something, it was always that he was "too tired-- because he worked 10 hours. Yet he had a whole extra day off to go fishing or do whatever he wanted while I was at work-- I told him I was working the same number of hours he was-- and I didn't get a three day weekend! These "poor" men are spoiled rotten and women always get the short end of the deal.
My satellite for the Direcway is on my roof! It is bigger than..sm
my TV satellite, but the best place for the internet was on the roof! I have never had any trouble or "slow" times with it. I have worked through ice, rain, snow...you name it and it has always loaded quickly and with no interuptions. If you have no other ways for high speed, I would recommend the Direcway dish. We have nothing else offered where I live. It is satellite or dial up. Files that would take 1/2 a day or more are now loaded in as little as 5-10 minutes! Also, I have worked for three different companies with my satellite and have never had any security issues and have never had to purchase additional software to make it secure. Cost to me was 600 up front and then 59 a month.
Ditto on the same monitor. Doesn't need to be any bigger. nm
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The font size could stand to be a tad bigger here for us w/old eyes! Thx. nm
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