I've got a totally non-MT related issue that I need advice on. SM

Several years ago the husband of a friend of mine made a pass at me.  When I was married we would get together with my friend and her husband to play cards and stuff like that.  Her husband made a blatant pass at me, basically called me one night and asked me if I wanted to.... well you get the idea.  After that I basically avoided going over to their house to play cards and we stopped getting together so often.  I never told my friend because she is one of those who thinks the sun rises and sets on her husband's behind.  Women have called her in the past and claimed to have slept with him and she has basically said they were liars and believed everything her husband said.  I figured she wouldn't believe me and it would basically ruin our friendship.

Long story short, I ended up moving to another state and so the issue became a nonissue.  Recently, I have separated from my husband and have moved back to the area where I'm from and where my friend and her husband live.  She has basically started calling me and wanting me to come over again and stuff.  Now, because I'm basically single, I am REALLY uncomfortable going over to her house.  I've accepted her invitation a couple of times, but I just can't stand to be in the same room as her husband.  It just makes me angry to look at him, so smug and just full of himself, like he's gotten away with something.

Anyway, my friend invited me to dinner this weekend and I decided to say no.  She just called me and I told her that I have to plan my daughter's birthday party (which is true) and maybe some other time.  Well, she was very short with me on the phone and basically hung up on me.  Telling me that if I don't want to be friends, I should at least tell her to her face.

So now I don't know what to do or say.  I want to be her friend, but I loathe her husband.  What should I do?  Asking her to do stuff without her husband doesn't work because she does EVERYTHING with him.  She can't go to the grocery store without taking him with her.  I feel very guilty right now, like I've hurt her feelings and I don't know what to do.

• I've got a totally non-MT related issue that I need advice on. SM - MissouriMT
  • Just tell her the truth! - Kristin
  • BLINDED - IS SHE BLIND???
  • I had the same thing happen to me. - ABC
  • Wow, very tough situation. - sm
  • Have to chime in here as a.... - fellow Missourian
  • I would tell her.... - mac
    • This might sound immature..but how about - *ladies only* days/nights out?
      • I agree with this advice. - MT

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Is it inappropriate to wear black to a wedding? 

If so, what is appropriate? 

I worked as an IC for a company with questionable business practices and who treated me like a dish rag for about 8 months this past year and when I finally could not take any more, I quit.  In the end I was stiffed for about $1900 in pay but I pretty much knew it was pointless to even try to get my money and decided to leave it in the past. 

Well now, they have just sent me tax papers, evidently they never got my signed forms or lost them or whatever.  My question is do I really have to fill them out and send them back, or should I hold out for my back pay, or what?  I really don't feel like I should do anything for them even though I know that it is wrong.  Does anyone know if I can get in trouble for not returning this form?

TIA,

Still angry MT

I have been an MT for over 10 years.  I also am getting burnt out, tired of my job, day in day.  However, I do love transcription and make excellent money at it, have grossed over $50,000 per year the last 5 years.  I decided to go back to nursing school and am very happy with my choice.  However, over these 10 years of transcription I have had my ups and downs.  My biggest issue with being at home working is lack of socialization, being home day in and day out with just the kids and the animals really gets to a person, sure hubby is home at night and thinks working from home is the easy life, thus the return to school and boy has my overall enjoyment of life changed once I realized I was the problem, not everyone else and I needed to find myself again.

Anyway, my biggest advice to you three-fold:

1.  Get into counseling for yourself, find out who you are and what your needs are, whether or not you think you need to, I sense you are feeling overwhelmed and need someone other than your family to talk to that can be nonjudgmental to your feelings and needs.

2.  If you're only making $100 after you pay preschool you can either keep doing it and be miserable, or quit because you are lucky enough to have a husband who can support the family without your income. (See how fast his mind changes just by losing the income you do have as to whether your job means anything.)  Or look for a different company or office that you like more and are more productive if you really want to do transcription (lots of fish in the sea as far as companies).

3.  Find a local "mom's" group where you can get out and socialize.  MOPS (mother's of preschoolers) is an excellent one that is nationwide, they have a website.  Also Mom2Mom is in a lot of areas.  They provide a once a week time for moms with kids the same age to get together, socialize, (some offer spirtual guidance some don't) and each week a different mom takes a turn watching everyone else's children at the facility that hosts it so the other moms can talk about things they have in common.  Every stay-at-home and work-from-home mom needs to socialize with adults, without their kids, or they will have a nervous breakdown eventually no matter how much they love their kids.

Sorry so long but it does get better but you have to take the first step at making yourself happy.

used DocQscribe, but I have used Meditech, Cerner, Vianeta, the Precyse platform (I can't remember the name), Dolbey, and  Lanier platform I think was called Cequence (?). 

Out of all the different platforms I have typed on, I have liked EXText the best.  In my opinion, it's very user friendly, easy to learn, and I really like ESP which is the built in abbreviation expander.  Plus it is very easy to create your own normals which I love.  My fingers literally never leave the keyboard because there are macro keys for everything.  You can use your mouse if you prefer or learn the function macros.  I love it.  I think I'm more productive on EXText than with any other platform.

Anyone know the official name for crime scene tape that is used by just ordinary people to rope areas off?  It says something else besides crime scene.  Need to buy some and trying to do a search at different stores, but you can imagine what I'm finding when I search for tape.

Thanks

My divorce is final!!!!! :)

Frank knows that.  What a sourpus.

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I got the ipay notice but no check or letter yet.  I have direct deposit but nothing in there either

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As soon as the wind let up, people were forming lines... and they expected water and ice to magically appear on every street corner.

Granted, the elderly and poor may not be as equipped to prepare like the able-bodied and financially secure, but these are the ones and the ONLY ones who should have been needing help at this early stage.  Did you see the caliber of cars in those lines?  Many were new, nice, and expensive.  No excuse.  I'm sorry.

It's bad enough that many are going to go without power for weeks.  Wouldn't it have nice been if local, state, and federal governments had a couple days to position themselves in an organized manner?  Or be able to provide for the poor and elderly in a more expidient manner rather than servicing a gaggle of people? This would have been hard even under the best conditions, but at least possible had more citizens cooperated by heeding recommendations to be prepared.

Thanks for letting me vent...

Could anyone tell me how to start an English ivy?  I have a plant from my grandmother that both my sisters want a start from.  I am lucky it has still survived with me, but is quite healthy looking and grows like crazy!  How can I make a start from this plant?

Thanks!

If you receive poor service from a business do you:

A.  Discuss the problem with the first employee you come in contact with.

B.  Call/visit the manager and discuss the issue.

C.  Let's say that A&B didn't bring resolution.  Would you then contact the next higher up person, i.e. the owner, company headquarters, etc. or would you just forget it?

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