I've been thinking about you all day
Posted By: still cannot control her on 2005-12-17
In Reply to: off topic, but bear with me here - a really dumb question
I know you must be really conflicted but I really wouldn't be confrontive towards her (your mileage may vary). If you get confrontive, you just validate the continuation of the issue and help to keep it going. It is HER issue to be friends with that person, not yours. You say your marriage is the strongest that it has ever been. If that is so, then I hope you can share your feelings of betrayal with your husband. See, if you confront her, you are going to be pushing for HIM or HER to take sides and maybe he needs your strength to find his feet and be able to pull towards you instead of towards her. I have always thought that in laws (and own family, actually) should only know a limited amount about your personsal relationship with your spose for this very reason. They feel they need to fix it and with all her "advice" it sounds like she was maybe trying to fix your faults and blame you for making your husband want to stray.
Take away her power over your relationship. Work it out with your husband. It wasn't until I got to the point where I really did not care AT ALL what my MIL thought about me that she started respecting me and treating me better (still didn't stop her from gossiping behind my back!); however, when she tried to give advice, I would cut her off at the knees and refuse to be a part in it. When she tried to manipulate, I suddenly found things to end the conversation, leave, get off the phone, ask if she needed help with cleaning her bathroom with my nose curled up, whatever it took to send the message I had no interest in giving her any power over me. Sometimes she wouldn't talk to me for 2 or 3 months at a time, and those were blessed months 
Walk off that anger, clean out the bathrooms and talk WITH your spouse.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
I've been thinking about you too, please let us know how you are.
I've been thinking about this..
How about if they start asking patients when they are admitted to the hospital if they consent to their medical information being sent to another country???? Surely the patients should be made aware of this fact and make that decision, no?
I've been thinking of doing that myself - sm
I would think you would need the wireless software for your keyboard and mouse installed on both computers, then also the adaptor/transmitter on both CPUs. I am just about to buy a new CPU myself and do this, figured I have to go to a regular keyboard and mouse though, which is fine though I will miss the freedom of no wires.
I've been thinking about this lately
There is a big difference between old-timers and newbies.
Those of us who have been doing this for a while got into the field because the work interested us and matched our natural skill (grammar nerds and liked to type and naturally curious and would research stuff in big medical books just because we were intrigued) set well.
It seems like the newbs get into this TO WORK FROM HOME. Doesn't matter what the work is, they just want to work from home. I hear newbs say things like, "I don't like English," or "I'm not good at punctuation." (!!) This is the job, people!!
I actually knew a woman who was going back to school to be an MT. She was deaf (literally--had bilateral hearing aids), had a back injury that made it so she wouldn't be able to sit for long periods, and couldn't string together a sentence on paper if her life depended on it. What are these people thinking??!! Mercifully, she dropped out after receiving marks in the 30s and 40s on her first several tests.
Yeah, I've been thinking about that lately.
We just had a new Starbucks open up here, but it's 10 miles away from my house. No way am I going to drive that far. They only pay their managers $8 an hour. As it is, both times I've been in there, they've messed up my order and the drink wasn't even hot. Yuck. Lukewarm mocha latte.
I've been thinking of getting my own accts but
I'm worried about not being able to find coverage when I want to take a vacation.
How do you handle this with all the accounts that you have or do you have to take your work with you?
I've been thinking a lot about coding
but I'm curious about the future of coding, mainly on the basis of outsourcing for not only MTs, but also so many other professions. I honestly think I would love coding, but worry that anything I can do at home (whether I do it or not) could also be done overseas, and I worry about getting a job (from what I've read, it seems as difficult as MT to get into), so just have been very reluctant to make the change.
I really would love to see a followup from you about how you make out, and wish you much luck with both the exam and your coding career!
I've been seriously thinking about it. I actually like my company this year.
However, I have no money because work is slow and my kids and bills come first. I've been thinking about baking cookies and candies to mail. The people I would like to give the gift to work at home anyway, so sending it to corporate HQ wouldn't accomplish gifting those I want to thank. I can't afford to send individual gifts to each of them. Plus, a little part of me considers buying things for your supervisor to be brown-nosing.
you raised a point I've been thinking about
With the use of Expanders becoming the norm now - at least from our end of things - I can't help but wonder if eventually that could really backfire on us.
It wouldn't surprise me one bit if a lot of docs, hospitals, etc. really don't have a clue that a lot of the line counts they're being charged for really weren't transcribed -- and when/if they do find out, I wonder how many will have the same reaction as your doctor.
I know expanders are necessary to meet line count quotas, but where are we going to be if the clients decide they only want to pay for actual keystrokes.
I've been thinking about a job change recently
I've only been in this biz for about 13 years, but now that my last one is off to school, I'm also thinking about a career change. I live in a very rural area as well, so I understand completely what you mean about people thinking $8 an hour is a good wage.
One thing I'd like to suggest is looking into a state job. We have 2 state prisons in my area (about a 20-minute commute) and both hire medical transcriptionists as well as medical records personnel. These jobs generally start out at about $12 to $15 an hour plus state benefits, which in my state are the best bennies anywhere. The jobs that require coding certification pay even more. I would highly recommend that you look on the internet for state civil service jobs in your state. You'd be surprised at the opportunities in the medical field.
I'm considering this option myself but want to wait until next fall, after I have the summer to spend with my kids (and so I don't start out "in the hole" because of babysitting expenses) and to have time to look into getting my coding cert. I graduated from a business school with an Associate's in medical secretarial and did a lot of coding prior to working from home. I used to do billing for a very large rehab facility, so I don't think it will be too hard to brush up on my skills.
Anyway, good luck and let me know if this (a state job) pans out for you. Most people have no idea these kinds of jobs are even out there (I didn't). 
Speaking of Kenny Chesney, is anyone thinking what I am thinking? see message
When I hear the words, "annulment" and "fraud" in the same sentence, I can only think of one thing. Anybody else thinking the same thing?
I use EXText with my current job and I've used at a couple of other jobs I've had. I've ne
used DocQscribe, but I have used Meditech, Cerner, Vianeta, the Precyse platform (I can't remember the name), Dolbey, and Lanier platform I think was called Cequence (?).
Out of all the different platforms I have typed on, I have liked EXText the best. In my opinion, it's very user friendly, easy to learn, and I really like ESP which is the built in abbreviation expander. Plus it is very easy to create your own normals which I love. My fingers literally never leave the keyboard because there are macro keys for everything. You can use your mouse if you prefer or learn the function macros. I love it. I think I'm more productive on EXText than with any other platform.
Spell as best you can or blank them and keep going. I've passed many tests when I've left blan
s
As you can already see, you've come to the wrong board! By using the word professional, you've
excluded about 99% of the population of "whatever" it is that hangs on these boards. Certainly not professional for sure! But you sure are doing a good thing for someone! Its the thought that counts. Sorry you met the dregs right at the start.
HELP! I've turned my screen sideways, I can't straighten it up. I know I've seen sm
this before, but I can't remember what it is. Do you realize how hard it is to read sideways? TIA.
I've lost track of how many people who've asked about it to NOT
.
I've always verified every line I've typed (I have my ways) -sm
If you're supposed to be paid a certain $/line, that's what you should be getting no matter how they do billing unless of course it's specified in YOUR contract with THEM.
BTW, I've never caught a company cheating me ever.
I've used it. It's the worst piece of crap I've ever seen.
seriously. I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy, or their Vianeta program. Awful, just awful.
Wait until you've been there six months and if you've improved
quality and quantity, I'd say go ahead and ask. Otherwise I'd say annually... good luck
I've seen the same every place I've done acute care, and
pointing out dangerous or repeated errors (often in normals for goodness sakes!) never got the result I expected. When I would press the issue, supervisors said if the dictators didn't complain, then the mistakes must not matter!
It didn't matter if the MT changed what had been a cardiac med in the beginning of the report to an antifungal by the end - I kid you NOT! One poor girl used facial for fascial and fascial for facial!
I've used a few expanders, and of those I've used, all must be "coded" to get things lik
One thing I do to get around this, is to create a macro and then link the ShortHand command to the macro. It works for me, but I do the same five clients every day and only have about 20 or 30 macros/Shorthand commands that work like this. This may not work well for you if you have lots of formats and hundreds of docs.
I've been doing this doc for many years, so I've learned how to function with him. sm
I can tell what's a stutter, what's another word, what's just an "uh." Years of experience will get you through a lot.
Wouldn't want to do his charts all day, of course, but a few per day aren't bad. I haven't had to send his to review in a long time, but they do take a little longer to shuffle through.
I've worn contacts for 30 years. I've had both
hard and soft. My vision is much better with the soft ones than they were with the hard ones. When I first started trying contacts soft ones were still new and they couldn't get me to 20/20, so I went to hard. Hard were okay until my eyes started changing shape and then I could no longer wear hard ones. The soft should give you better vision as they conform more to the shape of your eye.
I've been a bully; I've been bullied.
I used to sell a lot on eBay. There are some people who buy high-priced items and play games with you. I've had to call them repeatedly, report them to different agencies. It's not fun. You put time and money into the business of selling, and there are people out there who live to manipulate the system and cause trouble.
And, I've been bullied by buyers who made unreasonable demands, insist that they pay by check when you clearly state you don't accept them. It's not fun, and is one of the reasons I don't sell anymore. People!
I've also bought from some sellers who I would not deal with again because of their unprofessional attitude.
But, overall, ebay can be a great place to be.
I've become the man I've always wanted to marry.
I live alone, am 46, never married, no kids, just dogs horses and chickens and just got done building a new house out in the boonies away from the rat race. (Used to live in Manhattan) Couldn't be happier. Selfish maybe, but never out of time, never stressed, and I don't take anything out on others. There's something to be said for being alone but not lonely. I'm not looking for a man to "make me complete." They only sap me of my time, energy and money (how little of it there is with MQ). I consider myself lucky getting to choose my time with friends, and not just stuck with a deadbeat partner. Ladies especially: Be strong and allow yourself to be independent. Any old man will not make you stronger!
LOL, that's exactly what I was thinking
Let's try to focus on the original question, not debate the evils of daycare. I agree, many discussions on this board do end in negativity, but I thought this one was going pretty well until we hit the nerve about daycare.
I think Kira has been given a lot of great information from a lot of different points of view. It's all food for thought.
My thinking too - thus the OMG nm
That's what I was thinking.
It sounds like a case of misdirected anger here. Grandma was probably waiting for the right moment instead of springing bad news on them the moment they came through the door. Are you going to all have a yelling match late at night when your'e tired from your trip and all the kids are home? Better to wait until they're at school and discuss it like rational adults. How many times has the kid been arrested and suspended before now? The kid is the one who was wrong by misbehaving in the first place. If he's such a bad seed, why did he get left with Grandma anyway? Everyone knows Grandparents aren't as good as enforcing rules as parents are. All this communication and responsibility nonsense is control freak bunk. The kid wouldn't have been arrested and suspended if you truly had honest and open communication. Why was he arrested and suspended anyway?
That's exactly what I was thinking
nm
I was just thinking. . . .sm
I have a friend that was a Pug breeder. Unfortunately the "Pug couple" only had one litter as the female had major problems with her first and only litter. She still has the male and female who are almost 10 years old and in good health.
She "rescued" a "Puggle" (Pug/Beagle cross) a few months ago and that poor dog had the worst gas. STINK! It was just awful. She was feeding him Iams just like her older Pugs, but he would make everyone run outside. We had him in the car one day and we were all ready to just bail.
I'll have to ask her what she did to make the Puggle stop clearing out the neighborhood. 
I too have been thinking about it...sm
I have not raised my price for five years and am seriously considering going up another penny maybe after the holidays. I too pick up and deliver and we all know the cost of gas! Anyway, I think I am due or overdue!!!
by that thinking
We should all be speaking Native American, they were here first!
Thinking outside the box (Where is this box?) and
people calling eachother "DAWG" - how stupid is that.
and
Anything that comes out of Paul Shaffer's mouth (that guy just irritates me).
I was thinking the
I was tought to type way back in the 10th grade. We learned right from the start not to look at the keys. Why do you need the letters to stay on?? I really don't understand it.
Thinking about it.
I have a BS that isn't that marketable (at least all of my A&P, Patho, etc.. were useful for this job) and am contemplating the same thing.
I have thought about outpatient primary care nursing since I don't really want to work in an inpatient environment. I originally wanted to get my BSN but got sidetracked and am thinking about going back through a BS to BSN program sometime in the future.
My kids are 2,3 and 7 and while I know some people can do it, I think it would be really hard to go to RN school at this point in my life. Your child is older and it might be easier for you, but it will still be tough. You have to get to clinicals early and often stick around to get more information on your pt at the end. The night before your clinical, I have heard RN students have to do tons of prep work - you have to know your pt's medical condition inside and out and have all of your nursing diagnoses and care plans set up.
Its a lot of work but the career is very rewarding and the pay, despite all of the kvetching, is pretty darn decent.
If it is something YOU want to do, talk to an advisor. Get the lowdown on it. When I was in college the first time, the RN program had an information session for prospective students that included a Q and A with a current student. But, make sure it is your goal - I let people convince me to go pre-med and within a semester I realized there was no way I wanted to be an MD. Had I stuck to my desires instead of what someone else wanted for me and thought was a better choice, I might have been a pretty good nurse by now.
Good luck. Lots of people do it. It is much harder than when you have no kids but people do it all of the time.
If the guy is really as bad as she has us thinking,
and she could lose her current job and any future job. I am beginning to wonder if the site should start a "Support your local Jodi" page.
I'm thinking about getting the DVD, too. sm
I can't believe I didn't watch this show from the beginning. I just really started watching it this season. Now it's a must see show for me!
I really don't know what he was thinking......I just think he is
heartless and thought maybe he could leave the country and not have to come back or something??? I really don't know. I just think he put the gun back thinking he had cleaned it good and that no one would ever think to check that gun since noone knew it had been gone. As far as the computer, the porn looks bad if he is guilty but the fact is looking at porn doesn't make him guilty. On the other hand, if you take the computer then it does look like you are hiding something. He probably just didn't think about the computer....None of it makes sense to me either. I think he just killed her and then wasn't sure what to do.....
Don't know what I was thinking...
All of this is new to me. Forgive the stupid question. I get how it works now. Thanks.
Yes, I was thinking that I would...
need to gather some references, maybe a book or two. I have done some reports, but not a wide range. That is why I was hoping to get some imput from people who do psych on a regular basis.
Any references, info would be greatly appreciated :)
What are they thinking...?
I have looked into it and, quite frankly, it looks absolutely ridiculous. All these outrageous rules, especialy when a man (who came up with the theory) decided a woman shouldn't make any noise while giving birth (but she can have all the drugs she wants) and some goofball decides for his wife that's the thing to do! Go figure.
Exactly what I was thinking
Taylor was already an established entertainer, maybe not hugely successful, but already had his on stage persona established. Elliott, for example, was undiscovered and uncharted territory. Ready to be molded. I have read on the AI message board that some people just "couldn't get past the teeth". Well, uh, I think he can afford to get some work done now if he so chooses. To me a talent show should be about undiscovered talent, someone who grows tremendously during the competition. Can ya tell I'm an E fan. LOL.
I'm thinking it is because
it is just as easy to chat here on the boards?
i'm thinking you could
but don't really know about laptops. I was just looking yesterday about replacing my KVC and saw lots of variations. Could probably get your answer from one of these on-line sites or just call a local 'puter guy and see.
not sure about this, but when I was thinking-sm
about doing this, I was told I would need a program that would *transfer* the video from the camera to the computer, and I believe it is Dazzle, or something like it...once that is done, you could use your editing program. but again....not sure, as I have not actually done it. This is just what I was told. Good luck.
Thinking that may be...
one of the reasons his wife left. Not that I would hold it against him, obviously.  LOL!
What was he thinking???!!!
What a very painful thing to do to your son. He should have called you or atleast tried a more sensible approach (OTC products) to take care of the problem.
Your family physician can refer your son to a podiatrist, but most PCP's treat plantar warts right in the office with a procedure known as cryotherapy (freeze method.) It is a quick, relatively painless (some temp. burning) method that works well. In the office I work at children and adults of all ages have this done without much complaint. I would check into it. Kudos for taking pictures of his sores on his foot and sending the documentation to your attorney. Every piece of documentation counts in a situation like this.
I'm only 26 and thinking that already.
It's a shame we spend so much of our time trying to make a living, with any job really. My son is 7 now, and it is really starting to hit me that I only have so much more time with him until he is off to college.
That is what I was thinking that you could always
do something different with it as well, but you can do that with the dental too, teaching, etc.
I have read some nursing forums (there are not many I can find for the dental side) and have seen how they say they have to clock out after their 12 hours and do charts and could be working still 14-15 hours later because of the charts. That is why I am really leaning toward the dental hygienist program, but I just don't have many people that I have come across that can tell me more than the generic info I am finding on the internet.
my way of thinking
I do think of the first letter of each word when it comes to phrases ... but I have trouble remembering a lot of phrases, unless it's one that I've heard 10,000 times.
And then come the was/were combination: The wound was irrigated ... The wounds were irrigated --- The first letter for each phrase is TWWI ... so, how do I differentiate between the two?
And with IT, you're saying that you basically stare at the bottom of the screen?
I was thinking at least $26.
That's what I usually make once I'm familiar with the account. I'm in Missoula. :-)
|
