I'm not in the position to offer advice
Posted By: just because on 2006-02-24
In Reply to: 5-year marriage falling apart - newbie
I've never been in your position before but it sounds like marriage counseling is a good last step. At least at the end of the counseling, you will know you tried all you could do.
I wish you the best in whatever decision you make. Good luck & I hope things work out for you. 
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did they offer you the position? Which office? sm
If you don't mind my askin'! 
Perhaps they will offer you an in-house position.
Hello! I can't offer any advice, other than
to share that I was in nearly an identical situation about 4 years ago, right down to even selling our antique furniture - not that it was worth all that much, but I had collected it over the years and it was the furniture we used - the chairs, kitchen table, etc. We did lose everything - even many friends who could not understand how everything went so wrong so quickly. I am also a Christian, and I got the most criticism from my prior church family. We had done nothing wrong - just a series of snowballing things went wrong. We had to move to a completely different area of our state. No doors would open for us other than from strangers hundreds of miles away - we weren't asking for handouts - just a house to rent that we had the $$ for. At any rate, I had kids as well, pets - beloved animals that I had to euthanize as not one animal organization would help me - the Lord could not have squashed me further. But he stopped right before I broke permanently, and I then trusted that this was meant to be - 4 years later, I am so blessed beyond my wildest dreams. Everything I lost has been restored and 10 or 20 fold, I have a great job, great new car - though a practical one - and I look at nothing the same - nothing matters as other posters have said - My kids grew so much into great mature kids thru this tragedy, all have new close awesome friends, and we found a church that was absolutely the perfect match for us. I am just picking at different topics, but it was such a tragic experience that in the end turned into such a blessing. We just had to hang in there when nothing made sense...and we got pruned of a lot of - stuff - in our lives, but all for the best in the end. Please feel free to write me as well if you would like to talk. I certainly understand 100% what you're going thru and how depressed you feel. 
just starting--can you offer me advice
I am looking into MT as a "job change". What can you all tell me? I have read that M-Tech or Andrews is the best way to go. Do I HAVE to have formal training? How beneficial is it? Do they help me get jobs? I have no idea what all questions to ask. I live in St. Louis, and have heard of Allied Business School here. Any advice greatly appreciated! Deidre
Thanks to everyone for the advice and offer of prayer - sm
How ironic is this. S works in a mental health unit but they don't see children. The psychologist that Tater does see works with children but I think her 20+ years of experience is missing this particular type of behavior counseling.
Still hoping I will hear back from this doctor I wrote to last night to see if she has any advice to offer too.
Offer 1 week notice, but willing to offer 2 if they would be in a bind. Also, (sm)
make sure your resignation letter is written with class. Never good to burn your bridges.
Advice to YOU..1st learn to spell before insulting poster and trying to give advice...sm
Sound advice from a fellow MT if you want advice or support (sm)
I have been an MT for over 10 years. I also am getting burnt out, tired of my job, day in day. However, I do love transcription and make excellent money at it, have grossed over $50,000 per year the last 5 years. I decided to go back to nursing school and am very happy with my choice. However, over these 10 years of transcription I have had my ups and downs. My biggest issue with being at home working is lack of socialization, being home day in and day out with just the kids and the animals really gets to a person, sure hubby is home at night and thinks working from home is the easy life, thus the return to school and boy has my overall enjoyment of life changed once I realized I was the problem, not everyone else and I needed to find myself again.
Anyway, my biggest advice to you three-fold:
1. Get into counseling for yourself, find out who you are and what your needs are, whether or not you think you need to, I sense you are feeling overwhelmed and need someone other than your family to talk to that can be nonjudgmental to your feelings and needs.
2. If you're only making $100 after you pay preschool you can either keep doing it and be miserable, or quit because you are lucky enough to have a husband who can support the family without your income. (See how fast his mind changes just by losing the income you do have as to whether your job means anything.) Or look for a different company or office that you like more and are more productive if you really want to do transcription (lots of fish in the sea as far as companies).
3. Find a local "mom's" group where you can get out and socialize. MOPS (mother's of preschoolers) is an excellent one that is nationwide, they have a website. Also Mom2Mom is in a lot of areas. They provide a once a week time for moms with kids the same age to get together, socialize, (some offer spirtual guidance some don't) and each week a different mom takes a turn watching everyone else's children at the facility that hosts it so the other moms can talk about things they have in common. Every stay-at-home and work-from-home mom needs to socialize with adults, without their kids, or they will have a nervous breakdown eventually no matter how much they love their kids.
Sorry so long but it does get better but you have to take the first step at making yourself happy.
They won't get you any better $$ or position than you can get on your
own. They recruit for companies that already post here. I didn't accept the position because I had heard too many bad things about the company, had interviewed with the company myself previously and been offered the same thing as what TM was able to get for me and it was no better than what I am making now. The testing is very easy with TM, though you may have to also test with the company, so it wouldn't hurt to try, but don't get expectations too high.
HTH.
I too am in this position but am not quite sure what to do.
Others such as myself (from the non-paying company we worked for) have done a lot of investigating and this is what they told me--The Department of Labor doesn't care because I wasn't an "employee"--only an IC (basically an "Accounts Payable" with no real rights). I personally haven't tried the Better Business Bureau. I did think about contacting the accounts I was working for, but, after reviewing my contract with my ex-MT company, decided I would be in violation of the contract if I contacted the client.....it's a Catch 22.....I would be in violation of the contract, but they are in violation of the contract by not paying me.....I decided not to work a two-week notice (which I did feel badly about at the time), but, if I had, I would now be owed six weeks of pay, not four!
Please post if you get any satisfaction through any of these actions. I would dearly love to get my $1000+. I've never been in a situation where I had to deal with some psycho who won't pay me what is due.
position
Would be interested in finding out which hospitals in NY are hiring. I have been seeking a position in any hospital in Nassau County on Long Island for a while now. Any leads would be appreciated.
position
Thank you for that info. In fact, I work at home with a company that uses the Sten-Tel platform. I also just moved back to LI from New Jersey so I am familiar with the hospital in Manahawkin you are referring to. I think I will definitely give it a shot. You never know. Thanks again!
TRX IC Position
Depending on which accounts you are assigned, and how adaptable you are to ESL doctors in an Acute Care setting (80%), this might be a great fit for you. I have found the flexibility to be incredible as I have a 2nd grader who is my main priority. Yes, there is a fair amount of work to go around now, but between the middle of November and last Wednesday, the well was beyond dry . . . The platform is very user friendly. I started as a newbie in April, and am still at 6 cents/65 character line, so just your starting rate is a plus! Their bonuses are quite generous and attainable when there's too much work to go around. They are a small MTSO, so at times their resources (QA questions, etc...) are stretched a little thin, but they have always answered my questions. I've had some bumps along the road, but I'll chalk that up to newbie ignorance as opposed to TRX negligence. Hope this helps.
Same here. Lap is definitely the best position
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I need some help. I am looking for IC position (have been
transcribing for 15 years), but I'm confused about something. I purchased an Infinity IN-USB-1foot pedal. My question is this. Some ads say a wav-player is required. Is this the same thing? I didn't get software with my foot pedal. Also, some ads say it needs to be version 5. This is the same foot pedal I used when I worked for a company recently with an internet-based platform. I have DSL, Windows XP and Word 2002. Can anyone help me understand the nomenclature here? - USB foot pedal - wav-player, etc. I'm well over 50 and am not 100% "with the program" on the technical end of things, but I'm hanging in there.
Thanks so much! 
If it is that particular one, the position has
I interviewed yesterday and she emailed me this morning.
Yes, I have been in same position
If you can prove a hardship and your new income, you should be able to do a repay plan with some money down. They will just divide the amount you are overdue and add it to your regular monthly payments, sometimes up to a year.
MAC - about the position
Thanks for asking. I seem to have narrowed it down to 3 or 4 people tops. Problem is that it requires a C-phone and some wanted to hear samples, so I had to record my own telephone dictations as wave files. The quality is not great, however some of the applicants did extremely well considering. This dictator and I am sure they will attest if they read this, is off the chart in difficulty. His speaking skills are very poor. He is sloppy and fast and gravelly! I received a fantastic response. It was overwhelming. I think there will be 2 or 3 people I will be able to work with. Some of the resumes were extremely outstanding. Thank you for this board!
Karen
NEVER take a QA position for CPL
QA is a very time consuming job. I have been doing it for 10 years now and I would NEVER take a position where I was paid by the line. Especially if you have to do 100% on them all. That takes forever and you won't make many lines in a day. Some of the work I get is so bad it somes takes me an hour (or more) to clean up one single report(correct errors, research to make sure they ARE errors, fill in the blanks and provide feedback, etc.) Now, if I was getting paid by the line, and this was a 200 line report, that's only $10 for over an hour's worth of work. I would not take any QA job unless they pay you hourly. With 10 years of experience, you should have no trouble finding a decent QA position, but stay away from the cpl offerings. Good luck to you whatever you decide to do. We can always use good help in QA. :-)
You have let your QA position
go to your head. You need to deflate before you explode and can't fit through the door. 
It's a P/T position and was just...
wondering how long it might take to do?
If I were in your position... SM
I would follow your account to the new MTSO who snatched up the contract... :-))
in same position
I'm being used as an employee but am an IC. If I confront them they will "terminate contract" I guess I should say because technically they can't "fire me." I'm getting fed up with the IC @#$# and you end up being an employee without benefits. So any advice please on how to avoid this???? I know I should find another job but from what I read on this board it seems like this is a common problem and at least I have work here -- for the moment.
IC position--sm
I would be glad to send you a copy of the contract I use. I also recommend calling the IRS and requesting some pamphlets for small business owner's. Let me know what you need.
We have a football game tonight and have a child on color guard so it may be tomorrow before I get back to you.
In the meantime, go to the IRS website and see if there is anything useful there.
QA Position
Can you possible tell me what company pays this kind of money?
QA Position -
Thank you to all .......I decided to take the position. To finally not have to worry about being paid solely on production was the convincing factor.
I do appreciate everyone's opinions and feedback. Thank you so much!!
I will let you know how it goes.
QA Position
Good move. Hope it works out for you. Like the others, I'm curious about the company. I do QA for a couple and while my hourly is good, it's not great like yours. Always wondering who the big spenders are. Good luck!
I did go through that with my last inhouse position ...
and after I quit and went home to work for my present employers, I realized what the most significant factor was for my burnout: Working with the absolutely rancid attitude of unhappy coworkers. True, I should not have allowed them to get to me but they were unhappy over ANYTHING. Nothing could make them happy and all they did was gripe and b****.
I eventually quit going to lunch and breaks with them because I just didn't want to hear anymore negative spin on whatever was going on. Of course, then I was Miss Goody-Two-Shoes because I wouldn't fraternize with them. There was already tension enough over production. I got to where I would drive around and around the block before parking...then I would be late a lot because I could hardly bring myself to drive to work. I felt sick at my stomach as I got up, knowing I was going to walk in that office where such emotional poison was.
On their own, I liked these women - they could be funny, were intelligent, had a lot on their plates. But as coworkers, they were unhappy about anything that happened and just could not leave any topic alone. At lunch and breaks, they so horribly bad-mouthed the superv, the QA person, the management, the hospital policies, the equipment, the software, the incentive plan, anyone who wasn't sitting there's production, other people's dress and how they handled their family life, etc. I mean it was HORRIBLE. When I started back to college, they were mad as h*** because I got "special treatment" in their eyes. They worked whatever schedules THEY set, but apparently I wasn't allowed to do the same. I see now that they were angry because I was doing something different and progressive in my life.
Then, when I announced I was leaving I thought they would cheer because, after all, I was the outsider. Instead, they got angry. They were angry because I was leaving and they were left behind. They emailed and left voice messages a few times after I had left, asking how I was, and talking trash still about that hospital. I never called any of them back.
I'm done with that attitude. I literally cannot take it. The same issues were happening to me but I chose to look at it differently.
Making a radical change of quitting and going home into a completely different setting and controlling my own environment, pay, etc., was the key to recovery for me.
I also know that I won't be doing this much longer...THAT HELPS A LOT...LOL.
I appreciate the advice.
OFF TO WORK...
I just accepted a position
and don't want to leave it up right now. I things don't work out I will repost it.
I can't say that I've ever been in that position or that
I even know what you're talking about. All I know is that money issues can tear a family apart. I'm sorry you're feeling down. {{{{hugs}}}}
About in your same position, and I plan on
working until I get out of debt, or until MT goes "under" as you say. As a poster said in this thread, a degree doesn't mean more money or any money, but all the best to you in your endeavors!!
Part IC position
Ok, I've had enough of suboptimal voice files, dumping one account. I know this has been discussed, so please excuse this post, but I haven't had much luck retrieving from archives. I'm looking for a "small" company that hires preferably IC MTs. Looking only for 15 to 20 hours a week to supplement my other account that I'll keep. I don't really want to spend big $$$ to get a piece of equipment and more $$$ on long distance bills. Anyone working for or have worked for a company this description might fit. Or, where I can post my resume and what I'm looking for. Thanks so much ahead!
RE: Part IC position
Give Transcend a try.
I have been offered a position yet...sm
But I have an interview with them this week. Not sure what I'll do either, especially given the time clock. That's a real issue for me. I have a baby at home and can't imaging trying to clock in and out every time he starts to fuss.
I also sent a resume to Medware too, just to cover my bases, but I just sent it this weekend and haven't heard anything yet.
As for you not hearing back from FN last week after sending a resume to them, I seriously doubt they are hiring right now given they recently overhired and the workflow is so low. Thus the reason I've been floating resumes all week. LOL!!!
You are changing your position.
I breed Yorkies and was in the pet care business for over 30 years. Of course, you love your pets and they have a place in your family but you do not let a dog growl at you, as you stated. One of your original posts you said if a dog growled or bit, oh well, dogs have bad days, too. That gives a very different impression than the one you are trying to make now.
i think I'm going to turn the position down
because something just doesn't feel right about it. I can't find current info on them and nobody's is posting anything but making it mandatory for me to be signed in to i.m. and mandatory for me to check my email when I'm not working (nights and weekends) I think is a little bizarre. I've worked as an ic for many years and have never heard of that.
Take the position, prove yourself and
expect an increase within only a few weeks. Good luck!
In my position I have to care
about the client .. my job is to see that everyone is on the same page and our work is correctly done in accordance with account specifics for the client. Additionally, I do not look at AAMT as a union .. an association really is in no position to negotiate wages. The idea is for them to be neutral .. and I know what you are going to say and I wish it were different but the barn door has been open to offshoring for a long time and now we just have to work smarter, not harder, although I can pretty much say I don't see me retiring any time soon .. blah.
I took a position as IC in March
and first time ever for me also.
I was told by my accountant to take about 20% of my pay each pay period and submit it quartly. I have printed out payment vouchers,
Form 1040-ES which I then send to the US Treasury.
I was told the 20% should be enough. We will see at this end of the year and then I can adjust things as I go.
Good Luck and hope this helps.
can we ask what is the pay for your new position? any benefits?
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Just offered an IC position at 7 cpl, lol....
Could be worse, I saw one advertise at 6 cpl
It sounds as if you have let them put you in this position
because the things you say are exactly the things you are scared about, first job, having to work all those extra hours, you do feel guilty regardless of whether you say you do or don’t. If your most important job is your family then do that. There are mothers who sacrifice, cut down on costs and stay home, do just that and don’t worry about it. If for 1 minute I thought something more important, my job would be out the window on this end. I have never had a job where I was running scared something would go wrong if I took off for vacation. It sounds pretty much like the job has you snowed.
just took a position an co. uses emdat..sm
i have never used this before. i have been using smarttype for years and very nervous about starting a new job without my expander. any ideas from anyone regarding this system and Expanders (if any) that work with it? i appreciate all your input.
QA position better option?
I know this was discussed to some degree recenty, but I can't seem to find the posts now.
For someone having trouble making line counts, is a QA position a better option?
What is the pay like, and are there any quotas? What all (typically) comes with this type of position? It would seem that it might be very stressful as far as all the blanks left due to horrible dictators and such.
Due to various circumstances, my MT position is very stressful and nonlucrative right now. I really need a mental and financial break of some sort before I crack, and a QA position might be an option.
Information and advice greatly appreciated! 
pay for inhouse position??
I have an interview in the morning for a part-time inhouse position. What is the pay looking like working by the hour with no incentives? I don't know what a fair offer would be and don't want to sell myself short.
That is how I approach my position as QA as well...
not my problem to find missing commas, et cetera...it is my job to listen to the blank, plain and simple...
Different Test than Position
 Does anyone else get frustrated when a company advertises a Cardiology studies position yet sends a general 6 minute OP note for the test? Why don't they send an actual cardiology test of some type since that is what I would be hired for? Instead they say if you can't pass this OP note for an acute care account to which we are needing a cardio MT and you will not do anything but cardio....i am sorry you cannot have the position.
Anyone else run into this? Also anyone know of anyone hiring just cardio BESIDES cardioscribes (i didn't like the platform)?
Position of chair
seems to give me problems sometimes. If I have it too close or a bit too far to one side, I will get shoulder pain. It's tricky sometimes.
It is an entry position.
I wouldn't consider it a crap job. It is an entry position. There is not a lot of stress unless you work in ICU. If someone codes then the unit clerk has to take notes while the patient is being worked on (at least where I worked). Other than that I enjoyed it. A lot of paper work, keeping the charts in order, answering phones, that type of stuff.
Can I offer something? sm
I have a 13 yo boy. He sounds much like your daughter, wonderful kid, straight A's very much likes to hang with the family, etc. Never had a problem with him. However, he knows that I mean business. If a child is going to sneak and do stuff that he/she knows parents won't like I say give them a consequence to remember. Maybe you either have to take a few days off work and go to school with your daughter, explaining to her that since she cannot be trusted you need to attend class with her to be sure everything is going okay or take everything away from her and let her know that since she is not being responsible enough to come to you and she feels the need to sneak things past you, you have felt the need to remove material possessions from her life until she can become responsible enough to handle it. She is giving in to peer pressure which of course we know will only get worse. Emphasize to her that she is number one to you, you love her too much to allow anybody to influence her the wrong way or to let her waste one day of her life doing things that will not benefit her. She is God's gift to the earth and she should treat herself as such and expect others to treat her the same. If her friends do not respect that her parents will not allow her to do certain things, than those friends need to go bye bye. I know this sounds tough but guess what, you are not raising an 11 yo you are raising a strong, wonderful, beautiful, smart, wise woman, she is only 11 for 365 days.
Lastly I want to applaude you for even caring. When my son was in sixth grade a mother of a girl he goes to school with showed up at the awards assembly and was taking pictures of my son. I sat down beside her and when I cheered for my son as he got an award she said "oh is that your son" to which I replied "yes it is" and she said "oh my daughter is so in love with him, that is why I am taking so many pictures" I just wanted to punch her, what is she teaching her daughter by doing that? I explained to her that my son was 11 and had no time for girls, he was heavily involved in basketball and church and would not be allowed to spend time with girls for quite a few years. She was appalled at what I said. I walked away, hoping she would think about it before her daughter met up with a boy whose parents don't expect the standards to be quite so high.
Job offer
Are you kidding? There are people out there who do QA with many years of experience who don't make that. Jump at the chance.
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