I'd still hire an attorney, especially if the blame game is involved.

• For those of you who have gone through a divorce...sm - TW
  • suggest finding out if your state is a community - property state #1....if so it's all 50-50...sm
  • This is what you can do... - M
  • I'd hire an attorney and do a quickie divorce. They're cheap and well worth it. - Sue
    • Good advice but some people refuse to - sm
      • blame game..........sm - property state #1....if so it's all 50-50...sm
      • I'd still hire an attorney, especially if the blame game is involved. - Sue
  • Same situation with me a couple years ago... - sm
  • Suggestion - KT
  • Depends - Patti
  • My brother went through this - njmt
  • sm - NY MT

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As for the *blame game* - most states and MOST judges don't care....they don't care if your spouse is caught in bed with people.  Hopefully the OP's state is like that.  Many states today are *no contest* states.  If you want a divorce, you can get a divorce in most states with no contesting.  If the OP's state is not like this - is not a *no contest* state, the OP needs to file for a divorce in another state, where the OP would need to get residency status in that particular state (using someone's address who you know real well). 

that if you do not receive pay by (the date), you will file a lien on her business and her house, and may take her to Judge Judy    I guarantee you will get your money faster than going to small claims court, spending less time going to court, etc.

mostly because you can now hire experienced MT's at 6-8 cpl. In the near future, you will be able to hire experienced MT's at 5 cpl. Then people will start getting out of this business and new people will stop trying to get in. I had a job opening and asked people to bid what they wanted per line. One very smart young lady was a new grad and bid 3 cpl. I hired her a year and a half ago, she has been terrific! and I was willing to spend my time training her because a) time is money and she saved me money so I could spend my time and b) she had definite potential!. In another six months, she will be the MT with 2 years experience applying for jobs. AND she will get them because she will test well and essentially "bought" her experience. So use Economics 101...

My dad's attorney typed it up for me and I had it notarized and then MAKE TONS OF COPIES because you have to prove you are able to make decisions for your Mom.  I had this power of attorney for 10 years, my dad dying last January. 

I suppose you could get some form.....even probably at Office Depot...I got a living will there, actually a package of them.  It's just more complete to have an attorney do this 2-page paper for you...and not terribly expensive either.

Best of luck to you and your Mom. 

letter.  I have had to do that several times in the past (not MT related), and it is amazing how quickly things are resolved.  It has only cost me $35 to explain the situation to the attorney and have a short letter sent.  I think it would be well worth it in your case...$35 vs. $1300.

Also, be sure to send the letter certified, return receipt requested.  Even though that is only to obtain proof of delivery, there seems to be something "official" about it...and that can't hurt. 

who specializes in modifications and have them do a forensic audit of your loan.  Are you in one of those toxic arms?   WFB might be forced to modify your loan if attorney discovers any discrepancies.   If you don't want to consult an attorney I would suggest calling the lender and asking to speak to someone in the loss mitigation department.  The regular Joes in customer service aren't qualified to help you.  Be prepared to reference paystub/bill information and spend awhile on the phone.  I wish you well.

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volunteer work.  Let him do for those less fortunate and maybe his life will seem pretty good.  If he feels needed that may change his whole attitude and everything else with just fall into place.  

He might also need some adjustments in his meds.  It s/l there is some depression involved, but it could just be situational and the counseling will help with that.   Meds could possibly diminish his libido and it would be worth talking to his doctor to see if that could be the case in his situation. 

Maybe you could make him a list of little things to do to help out, or plan the meals and have recipes on index cards so that he can actually prepare the meal.  If he is home all day he needs to at least be doing the daily chores. 

I think it's ridiculous that your team leader would post such a thing.  Every MT's situation is different--different accounts, shifts, work types, hours, etc.--and a team leader should know that.  As far as working for a national goes, I feel less "communication" is better.  Why stir things up?  These companies ought to just let us transcribe and keep their silly emails to themselves.  Don't they know the old saying, "Familiarity breeds contempt?"  Maybe your team leader needs more real work to do.  Don't let it bother you.  Just do your part and forget about it. 

One time I told a national bigwig (because my opinion was requested) that if I were asked to draw a cartoon which described this company's relationship with its MTs, I would draw the MT in a cage, sitting at her computer, with a (particular) "suit" poking the MT with a big stick, saying "They produce more when they're angry." 

Fortunately now I am a happy IC with a very nice company that treats its MTs with respect.  Ya have to kiss a lot of toads in this life, ya know? 

really can't compare things.  A lot of the people making that money have their own accounts or are working many hours.   You don't know if the person making 60,000 is an IC and has to pay their own taxes.  IC positions generally pay better than an employee position.  One acccount may not pay for spaces or headers.  You might actually be doing the same amount of lines, but they aren't being counted. 

At one time it wasn't that difficult for someone to make that amount of money if all the variables were favorable.  These days it is harder because line rates are overall lower and companies are always reconfiguring how to count lines in their favor.

If you are pleased with the amount of $$ you are making that is all that really matters and I would not feel that you are inadequate. 

and I mean it.  Every time I've had contact with an office and the wife works there, things are not as they should be.  They like to hole the money up as if they'll miss a shopping spree they could take on that cash or something!  It's sooo true!

These physicians are loaded, and the wives don't take kindly to the money flying out of the window or at least that is their perception. 

I'd leave that sucker like he was yesterday's trash....  He deserves nothing and didn't even deserve the cut in rate..  what a jerk!

You go girl!!  My thoughts exactly....

I've learned to take a more pragmatic view of the problem rather than blindly placing all the blame on the doctors themseves.  Rather, I place the majority of the blame on the shoulders of the government and the insurance companies for driving up the costs not only to patients but to the providers.  Practices have found that they've got to cut back somewhere. Some have turned to EMR, some are using voice recognition, and some have resorted to going the cheapest way possible, offshoring, to create the documentation REQUIRED by insurance companies and the government in the first place.  Though we may debate the morality of sending American jobs overseas, they're not doing anything illegal.

The biggest problem I have with offshoring, as my friend once put so eloquently, is "I wouldn't want my medical records to go to some country we're going to be at war with in a few years." (thanks, AK!) We Americans are expected to abide by government-imposed HIPAA laws, but does that extend to offshore companies?  They say they are HIPAA compliant, but who really knows? Which "government" agency watchdog do we have to protect our privacy in these other countries?  Gee, we're having such a problem with identity theft, wonder why?

I've taken to asking any new physician that I go to who will be typing my medical record after this office visit.  If they say they sending it to some really cheesy company in India or even refuse to tell me who, I walk.  How many of you do the same thing?

"Anonymous" and "Untouchable?" 

Don't speak for me.  You don't know me.  I have always wanted to deal directly with the MTs.  There are other QAs who agree with me, too.  But we have been told in may meetings that just will not happen.

Of course, I would imagine the anal ones who should not have their QA jobs would not like to do that, because they could not back-up their corrections.  But I stand behind mine.  I would rather talk directly to the MTs -- lack of communication is good for nothing but misunderstandings and bitterness. 

I am not out to get any MT.  I will not make a change in your report unless it is an outright blatant medical terminology mistake or a formatting error.

Why are you so mean?  You don't know me.  I wouldn't be nasty to you.  I have never done anything to you. 

Bitterness is not good for anyone.  Why don't you place your anger towards the QA who is giving you troubles?  Turn that QA in.  Keep doing it.  If more MTs would speak up, then the ones who should not have jobs will be held accountable.

I know what you are talking about.  I understand.  I see it myself when I look at completed reports and I see what some QA are doing.  It is wrong.  But not all of us are the same way with our jobs.  I have always tried to be professional and helpful to the MTs.  I leave notes with info that they might need concerning the particular report, and even thank them for their hard work. 

I am sorry you feel so hateful towards someone who never did a thing to you.