I'd hire an attorney and do a quickie divorce. They're cheap and well worth it.
Posted By: Sue on 2006-07-21
In Reply to: For those of you who have gone through a divorce...sm - TW
If it's uncontested the attorney can help you amicably sort through what needs to be split and do it fairly and according to the laws of your state. This will avoid potential problems later.
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He was my divorce attorney
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If you hire an attorney (sm)
you an also request reimbursement for your expenses, court costs and attorney fees. I would mention this in my letter to the MTSO also. If this MTSO does this to you I guarantee you are not the only person they are doing it to.
Good luck
I'd still hire an attorney, especially if the blame game is involved.
If either or both parties are getting nasty, it's best to go by the book and make sure all your T's are crossed and all your I's are dotted. Can't do it on your own if there is any anymosity involved.
Hire an attorney & have the atty write a letter
that if you do not receive pay by (the date), you will file a lien on her business and her house, and may take her to Judge Judy  I guarantee you will get your money faster than going to small claims court, spending less time going to court, etc.
Great idea and they're pretty cheap, too!
Only about $20 or $30 at Wal-Mart. You're one smart cookie!
Only if they're paying 20+ per/hr with cheap benefits, 401K, and generous vacation time.
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Well, you're a rare one... mostly I get newbies demanding I hire them...sm
for a variety of reasons- because I really-really-really want this job, because I have to work at home to take care of my kids/mother/handicapped sister/old dog, because how can I get experience if you DON'T hire me, etc. etc. Most can't pass a grammar test to show they can use effect/affect effectively, and some even reply with emails riddled with typos and sloppy work. So good for you, but you're about one in a million...sad to say
What we're worth
 Right now I get $23/hour. Seems like a lot, but where I work we're subjected to a lot of abuse. So right now I'm starting to wish I could make more. I only know how many minutes of dictation I do on an average day (about 130-140), but have no idea how many lines that translates to. Wish I did know, to see if maybe I should be working somewhere else on a per-line basis.
That's because we're worth it!
getting paid what (we think) we're worth
You may chuckle at what you're being offered, but there's a possibility that the company you're applying for a position with cannot offer more than that. If they're billing the client 13 cpl but after all of the overhead (401K plans, paid time off, software programs for MTs, employer's share of the SS tax, etc), comes out 5 cpl (which leaves 8 cpl), how are they going to keep enough for company expenses (i.e. lawyers, accountants) and still pay a decent line rate to the MTs.
So, unless you have access to the accounting books and have access to the profit and loss statements, you don't really know why MTs are not offered more than they were in the late 1980s to early 1990s.
My two cents, for what they're worth.
Leasing never worked out for me simply because I put too many miles on a car at that time just going back and forth to work, etc. It did, however, work out wonderfully for a friend a mine who lived about 2 miles from work, took one car trip per year, etc. In fact, she came out great at the end of her lease and leased another one. She will probably buy this outright at the end of its lease.
Now that I'm no longer traveling for work, I would very seriously consider leasing were it not for one thing. I have now built up value in my car and it's simply not the best option for me.
Two ways to look at this thing.....good luck!
You're absolutely right that we are worth more, so when are you going to stop
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Here's some quickie info for you....
Majors Bookstore is still thriving (I just ordered from them last week and got very prompt delivery); their number is 404-873-3229.
You can download the ShortCut Expander program for Windows; it's about $100 and is very good (works like PRD). The company is even located in Marietta if you need to have something delivered quickly. Here's their link:
http://ehti.net/mtso.asp?p=26
Good luck. Aren't rush set-ups fun? :)
I have sent a quickie e-mail a few times along with my resume,
before I test, and have been successful in getting that info (not all the time). I think the recruiters don't want to get in a lengthy interview-type discussion before the testing.
Me too. Been there, done that, got the divorce.
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For those of you who have gone through a divorce...sm
My husband and I have decided to go our separate ways after only 2-1/2 years of marriage. I have no idea where to start and what to do because we bought a house together, bought a new car together, have credit cards together, etc. This is a mutual decision for both of us to end our marriage so it's not like it is a bitter divorce or anything. We would like to NOT involve attorneys but how do we separate all of our stuff?
Thanks
You have a point there. I wonder if it's the divorce?
It's like Tom Cruise not aging well also. And have you seen Robert Redford? OMG. His face is ravaged with time and his neck..... terrible. But you get Paul Newman he he does look better as he ages. Guess it's in the genes?
Not due to divorce, but our family went their
separate ways after both of our parents died. Strange, because I always thought we were close before that, but it could have been wishful thinking.
My attorny put in my divorce that I have to take him
to court to enforce any part of the divorce agreement, he has to pay fees for both of us. To the best of my understanding, it's very difficult to have something changed once it's been a legal and binding contract in a divorce. The judges normally stick to what the original agreement was. Good luck.
Well, if it's due to divorce, you DEFINITELY want an actual
real estate agent. You are thinking of the money you think you could save, but what it will end up turning into is a bigger mess. If you sign a 60 or 90 day contract with a for sale by owner agent (i.e. Help-U-Sell, Assist2Sell, BuyOwner) and all they do is plunk a sign in your yard and give you a lock box then you're not getting much. They don't do a lot of advertising other than on their own website and they might print a few flyers for you.
With the market soft right now, unless you price the house really low just to get rid of it, expect it to sit for 90 to 120 days.
when I got a divorce -- see message
Whe I got a divorce my husband tried to make me put a price on my small business and there basically was no value as most of my clients would probably not go with a new owner. Most of the value was in my computer, printer, etc. which after a year is worth nil. It is mainly an income and not much else as you cannot quarantee that when you sell that your clients will go with the new business. Sometimes it can be valued at a one month income. There are real estate agents that sell businesses and she can check with them to see what they say. I worked for a small MTSO that sold and what they did was to not tell any of the clients that it was being sold, ran under the same name with some of the same people there and it went okay but that is touchy. You are selling more the name of the business than anything else. Again, she needs to contact a real estate agent that specializes in selling businesses. She is selling her client list and name mainly and hoping that they all go with the new owners which is a gamble and not one I would take. Good luck.
She hasn't filed for a divorce yet -
Because the state she lives in does not recognize legal separation, she had an agreement drawn up by her corporate atty. This agreement handed the house (quick claim deed) and business over to her, while her "future ex" draws his pension and moved to warmer weather (California). This all happened when things were friendly. Now she wants a divorce so she can get on with her life (with her new beau she is buying the house with). BAD idea since she has not filed for a divorce. Anyway, thanks everyone. I think I'll be visiting her in jail.
I guess I was wondering how a divorce could have been
the agreement or been before the judge with your lawyer to dispute something in the agreement. People with nothing to dispute rarely have to appear, as they have already signed the documents that the lawyer presents to the judge. I don't know if you signed your portion of the agreement without having read it to ensure your wishes were followed...hope you find some resolution.
And they say divorce is less traumatic on adult children....
Unfortunately, this is NOT the case. Adult children whose parents divorce quite often end up just as you have described. They are old enough to form their own opinions which are quite often colored by their life experiences and how they relate to each parent as an adult with adult biases and opinions. Divorce, regardless of the age of the children, always affects the children and people who are "waiting until the kids are grown" are only deluding themselves.
Each state has different divorce and family laws; however, sm
ex-hubby is not entitled to anything after the date the divorce was filed. So, if she filed for divorce on January 1 and hit the lottery on January 2, he gets nothing!
At least that is how it is in PA. Don't know about other states.
This is not illegal in most states. Sometimes it's in the divorce agreement.
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I needed to divorce cheating DH of 27 years. This was
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they don't REFUSE to hire new MT's. They REFUSE to hire them at 6-8 cents per line.
mostly because you can now hire experienced MT's at 6-8 cpl. In the near future, you will be able to hire experienced MT's at 5 cpl. Then people will start getting out of this business and new people will stop trying to get in. I had a job opening and asked people to bid what they wanted per line. One very smart young lady was a new grad and bid 3 cpl. I hired her a year and a half ago, she has been terrific! and I was willing to spend my time training her because a) time is money and she saved me money so I could spend my time and b) she had definite potential!. In another six months, she will be the MT with 2 years experience applying for jobs. AND she will get them because she will test well and essentially "bought" her experience. So use Economics 101...
You need to join a divorce support group. Look around. Helped
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Divorce will be final in 2 wks, can I stay on my ex's health insurance?
My ex is willing to leave me on his health insurance. Is it legal to do this? Will we get ourselves in trouble if he doesn't take me off?
How true, mine is trained quite well....before we married he asked if I would ever divorce him -
abused me in any way. So far so good after 9 years. He admits to cheating on his first wife a couple of times though as she did not like having sex (not the reason of their divorce and long before I met him which was 2 years after his divorce). He is germaphobic so it's amazing he ever cheated in the first place....but I think he was actually trying to get her to divorce him (subconsciously)....took 12 years for it to work though. Luckily they had no kids. She did not want kids either, at least not then. She has since remarried too (a month after he did) and her 2 sons are very close in age to my 2 girls. Weird. Men can be such weenies though. Now to just train him to throw out his used paper towels instead of leaving them all over the kitchen counter (my dad does the same thing too). Oh well.
After divorce, child chronic illness, involuntary job change, parents illnesses and death, was force
I frequently regret it, the changes it has made to my life, but when life hands you horror, at least there is this "final solution" to your financial situation. I must admit, I sleep better, and I can finally hold my head up, and I no longer feel hopeless. Find the attorney you can work with,get your free consultation and DO WHAT HE TELLS YOU TO DO. If you have doubts, see a 2nd and a 3rd attorney, till you're comfortable with the person you choose.
Get an attorney now
Find an attorney that will take your case - then let them write the letter. Just talk to a couple who handle medical malpractice -these are severe medication errors.
attorney general
good idea. I have contacted an attorney already (I am a corp by myself so I have access to an attorney) and he states that legally there is nothing right now that I can do. I can possibly sue them later down the road, but they have not done anything illegal. He suggested to try and "sugar" them into paying me. I will contact the attorney general's office. The company and I are in the same state, so that helps tremendously.
Get an attorney and have them draw one up for you. sm
It costs about $200 and well worth it!
You can usually call an attorney and
But, you do have a receipt and the title. Let the person go ahead and make a fool of himself. You owe him nothing, don't let him bully you.
PS - Am very sorry for your loss.
power of attorney
by QA mgr says im supposed to capitalize but i dont agree (so i dont, hehe)
Call an attorney, but ....sm
In the state of NC a few years back, one person could not force the other to sell in this situation. I went through something similar with my siblings. I ended up buying their portions.
But, no, at that time and again in my state, you cannot be forced.
You get an attorney to type it up...sm
My dad's attorney typed it up for me and I had it notarized and then MAKE TONS OF COPIES because you have to prove you are able to make decisions for your Mom. I had this power of attorney for 10 years, my dad dying last January.
I suppose you could get some form.....even probably at Office Depot...I got a living will there, actually a package of them. It's just more complete to have an attorney do this 2-page paper for you...and not terribly expensive either.
Best of luck to you and your Mom. 
Consult an attorney....
He'll tell you everything you need to know to operate a business, and it will be an hour's worth of money well spent......
You need a good attorney NOW!! My
friend's sister died at the age of 51 because a doctor prescribed birth control pills for the mood swings of menopause without first checking her triglycerides or doing any blood work. Her triglycerides were very elevated, and the addition of the medication caused her pancreas to shut down and she died. There is a big lawsuit on this one, too.
I would get an attorney to fire off a ...
letter. I have had to do that several times in the past (not MT related), and it is amazing how quickly things are resolved. It has only cost me $35 to explain the situation to the attorney and have a short letter sent. I think it would be well worth it in your case...$35 vs. $1300.
Also, be sure to send the letter certified, return receipt requested. Even though that is only to obtain proof of delivery, there seems to be something "official" about it...and that can't hurt.
I think you should consult an attorney
who specializes in modifications and have them do a forensic audit of your loan. Are you in one of those toxic arms? WFB might be forced to modify your loan if attorney discovers any discrepancies. If you don't want to consult an attorney I would suggest calling the lender and asking to speak to someone in the loss mitigation department. The regular Joes in customer service aren't qualified to help you. Be prepared to reference paystub/bill information and spend awhile on the phone. I wish you well.
Capitalize Power or Attorney or not?
Hmm. Every doc, nurse, attorney, accountant
I know is making WAY good money and none are working at McD's!!! LOL
Husband is a corporate attorney
He makes more than I do - obviously.
We must follow our attorney's advice. (NM)
Goldbird
Still, I say find a good attorney way outside your
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Prosecuting attorney's office.
I would call a tax attorney/accountant in
x
My husband is an attorney and suggested the same thing to me once.
http://www.bls.gov/oco/ocos152.htm
It definitely sounds more promising than MT but it does also sound like you'd be back to Square One with training/schooling.
It may be well worth it.
Best of luck whatever you decide!
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