Hurting yourself...
Posted By: alleycatmt@yahoo.com on 2005-09-03
In Reply to: feeling badly - wondering if anyone has done this
Hello, and I'm sorry you had to experience whatever awful trauma you did.
I had a friend who used to do the same thing. Lithium was her saving grace, as well as understanding from her friends and family, and a lot of counseling.
I've posted my email if it helps and you care to use it, but you probably also need medical attention, as well as counseling. If I can help in any way, please write. I don't hurt myself, at least not in that way, but I can relate to abuse and feeling self destructive. I also know that you can move on and create a much better life for yourself!
I'm no counselor, but I can be a friend if you need one.
Please take care and understand that there are some pretty sick puppies out there, and IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. You CAN experience the feelings without the physical pain you inflict upon yourself. It's actually rather common for us survivors to take our frustrations and pain out on ourselves, but we are NOT the guilty parties here.
Obviously, something triggers this and you need to get to the root of the problem with professional help, as well as help from anyone that will listen at this point. I would be more than happy to listen. Just please think of yourself and the fact that you are a unique creation of the maker, and the fact that you do not deserve the guilt/and/or pain you are feeling when you get the urge to do this. You are placing blame in the wrong place!
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But you know, they are only hurting themselves (sm)
and I hope you are able to let it go and not let it hurt you any longer. Count it as a blessing that you are not around that kind of poison anymore; eventually it infects even the best-minded of persons, being around that kind of atmosphere.
I would add also that I personally think sometimes the good girls get the shaft because the supes are afraid of the bad girls litigating in revenge. If you can't dot all your i's and cross all your t's, that kind of person will string you up by your heels.
Hurting the kids...
You say they are not being hurt physically, but they most definitely are emotionally; they are living with an alcoholic and although the bruises and pain are not seen on the outside, they exist on the inside.
I grew up with an alcoholic father who to this day still drinks! I am now a grown woman of 38, but I still live with the repercussions of being a child of an alcoholic. I have had problems with relationships,etc., I know in part to growing up in a home such as this. I am responsible for my own choices now and have gone through counseling, but I wish as a child my family would have followed through and helped me and my brother when we were little. Instead, they stood idly by and watched the chaos unfold.
Please, do what is best for those kids! They did not ask for this and should not have to suffer the consequences. And please ask your BIL to seek help as soon as possible; this will affect his health severely as he ages. The rest is in God's hands.
God bless!
thumbs hurting
Anybody have a problem with just their thumbs hurting after a full day's work? It is starting to become more chronic with me and just wondering if anyone else has it and what to do about it. Figure just an anti-inflammatory should help but which one?
They think they're hurting the ex-wife, so they can't see that
they're actually hurting their kids.
Thanks...I hadn't been hurting for awhile since the
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If this stops hurting so much with pressure or elevation, you have a bleed, honey.
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DANSKOS, but when any part of my legs starts hurting, I immediately do several leg stretches
fixes them right away. One thing though, you have to get a pair of really good shoes now - my daughter-in-law got me a pair of Danskos because she wears them (on her feet all day as an ICU nurse) - that was five years ago - they made a tremendous difference and now I wouldn't wear any others. There are other good shoes out there and you DO have to pay for them, but it's worth it.
My problem now is my back up between the shoulder blades - the only thing that helps there is to stop typing and apply heat. Right elbow is usually achy too, but that goes away when I rest it.
Wish I had a hot tub.
Good luck to you.
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