Here's the way I see it.
Posted By: speaking with kindness here on 2005-08-07
In Reply to: ok---i need help - editor
Having three kids under 5 years of age IS a fulltime job. Are you trying to work fulltime at the same time? Maybe you need to lower the expectations you have of yourself. What would you be making if you worked outside the home and had to pay daycare? If I had worked fulltime outside the home with all three of my kids in daycare, my remaining income would have been maybe $500 per month. THAT became my MT goal. Anything I made over that was "extra". Plus, there was no way I was going to take care of the kids before and after 10+ hours of work and commuting, clean the entire house, cook meals, shop, deal with our bills and finances, and everything else that's expected of a wife and mother. If your husband is expecting you to work fulltime to "carry the load", put him in his place. What does he do with regard to housework and child care? If it's equal, good for you. If not, he can take on a side job or second parttime job to take some of the stress off of you. After having been there myself, I know what it's like. I can only say that your kids and your job will both suffer if you're trying to do both fulltime. Either put the kids in daycare, have hubby watch them while you work, or cut back on your hours. If Momma's not happy, ain't nobody happy. I had to learn that lesson the hard way because I worked two jobs, went to school, and had a young child with a husband who didn't do squat with regard to housework or child care. Let him deal with EVERYTHING for a while to see how HE can handle it. You've got to take care of you because nobody else will.
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