Guilty about working sm

• Feeling too guilty to work after son breaks down. - Feeling Guilty
  • What I did was.... - I hear ya!
  • going through the same thing - me
  • Consider this... - Momof2
  • Nearly the same situation here - Robin
  • when I read your post... - I get angry....
  • I feel like I work all the time too and my kids- sm - Laura E.
  • Kinda along the same lines as muff (sm) - I feel your pain
  • Try this.. - muff
    • Also, if you can switch the hours you work, get up earlier, - Mom of 3
  • You're going to have to make a change. - BTDT
  • your plus is... - aa
  • Have you considered...... - muff
    • Guilty about working sm - Older Mom

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Guys like your stepdad are master manipulators and they know exactly who to target.  They choose victims who they believe will not tell, who will suffer in silence rather than upset the family.  You are guilty of nothing.  He is.  Is there any group in your area you can talk to, or a counselor who specializes in sexual abuse who you can talk to?  This guy will do everything he can to make you feel crazy and make you feel like you’re wrong, he’s right. 

Sexual abuse is not just intercourse.  It’s touching, rubbing against someone, exposing himself, making very inappropriate comments.  So whether or not he can still get it up doesn’t matter...it’s still sexual abuse and you are the victim, not the perpetrator. 

I do it too.    I actually look forward to working because I can "escape" from the real world for awhile. 

Too bad it doesn't happen every single day.  :)

Speaking of feeling guilty, if I hit the lottery tomorrow, I'm going to feel a little guilty that I hit it instead of the poor guy who's worked for minimum wage all of his life, but does that mean I'm going to refuse to accept the prize or give part of it back to the state in which I won it?  I don't think so! 

I understand what you're saying, and I agree too that she must do what she feels is right.  If it were me, though, I'd charge my normal rate, and if the client came back to me with a "WHOA!!", then I might negotiate a "little something" out, but remember .... whether an MT types everything out by hand or does a few clicks and "viola" (sp), she still has to meet turnaround time, which means you'll find her sitting at her desk day in and day out.  I personally would not transcribe at substandard line rates just because doctors choose to work smart and use macros because for me to do so would mean I'm not working smart.  JMO.  

Maybe something is escaping me and I don't want to be rude to anybody. I'm trying to understand.

You are an employee who signed an 8-4:30 contract, right? Are the people you are mad about employees, or did your MTSO hire additional IC folks? If she/they did, then that's who you should take issue with.

If these are other scheduled employees who are doing this, you have a choice. You can either do what they do, tattle on them (I probably would), or work elsewhere.

If they are extra IC help, what can you do? Can you make them feel bad about team spirit? I don't think so. Do you think McDonald's feels team spirit with Burger King? An IC is a business owner, in competition with others.

Are the other people employees?

more negative than positive feedback not because I don't appreciate good work but just because things are so busy, I only take the time to point out something if the client points it out to me or if i happen to see something that really is wrong.  I try to be fair and not nitpicky and only bring something negative up if it really needs to be addressed.

Honestly, I probably don't make it that obvious when I am thinking an IC anymore, I'll just use them less and someone reliable more.  A lot depends on their attitude and willingness to work on problems.  If someone asks me, though, I will always be honest with them about how I think they are doing.  You should talk to your MTSO and just tell her you're wondering how you are doing, whether there's anything she wants you do to do differently, etc. 

My biggest and best suggestions are to type a specialty that interests you and try to keep up with the report.  In other words make it a challenge to diagnose and treat the patient before you're through with the report.  I use an online timer set for 45 minutes.  I'm not allowed to do anything but type during those 45 minutes.  If I'm feeling a compulsion to research something that I found while checking on a word, I write it down and give myself 5-10 minutes between 45 minute sessions to do exactly that.  I also take medication (adderall) without it I would be completely lost.  I also have to make myself use the interest as little as possible.....too many shiny things to take my attention away.  The good thing is that usually ADD people are exceptionally bright and innovative, so I can accurately produce in 4 distracted hours what most can produce in 6-8 diligently working.  However, can you imagine what your line count would be like if you stuck to it the whole time??

So, to summarize:

1.  Try to find an MT job that interests you.

2.  Use a timer to limit your distractions.

3.  Take medication.

4.  Avoid the internet for reseach if at all possible. 

OFFENDER (a very real proven criminal) was given freedom to kidnap, molest and kill one of two children.  Then again we have that society reject who TOLD the police he was a sexual offender and would do it again.  He was free to kill the little girl in Florida.  Now you hear our wonderful system cannot use his confession because he did not have a lawyer present.  I see why the Arubans may think we are the pot calling the kettle black. 

As for Mrs. Twitty, she needs to appoint a spokesperson before she does any more damage.  I don't care how emotional she feels, she really is clueless about what is going on internally in the investigation and she needs to realize this and quit commenting.

that holiday you refuse to work?  Grocery stores, food joints & seems any store is open on holidays and you expect them to be fully staffed, so why shouldn't we?

Yes, I took off for the first time on Christmas day, in 18 years and it was great, but I worked Christmas eve and this whole past weekend.

Someone has to do it!

There are so many other things I need and want to get done.  I've been working way too hard lately, and summer is just slipping by again.  Well, I'm outty.

Spinning is great if you only want aerobics, but a personal trainer deals with weight training. That's for building muscle, which speeds up your metabolism. You really need both (aerobics and weight training) if you want to slim down and shape up.

In either case, make sure you drink ice water. The body's reaction is, "What the heck is this stuff?! I'm getting cold here. Turn on the shiver mechanism." That's another way to speed up your metabolism.  

It is harder now to break in than it was 15 to 20 years ago when I started but there is still accounts out there.   I got started part-time when working for a local hospital -- not even doing medical transcription.   I was an Admin Ass't but had done this in the past and one of our physicians on one of our boards could not get anyone to do his transcription so I started doing it part-time.  I had been a CMA, CMT, x-ray tech in the old days.  But had not kept up on my certifications when I went to work in the hospital.  But this started the ball rolling.  Since my hubbie then was a truck driver I did it to keep me out of trouble when he was out of town.  Then I started doing it full time.   I get accounts from the private docs that no one really wants, larger companies, and still do tapes, printing, delivering and pick ups.  I advertise and send out flyers and seem to get a bite when I need a new account.   I have 2 Surgical Oncologists, 2 IM's, 1 Plastic/Hand surgeon, and 1 Psych.   I have one permanent part-timer and one that helps out with overflow.  I charge from 10.5 to 12.5 cents a line depending on the account.  My rates are going up this month.  I also work in a clinic doing electronic charts but that is as an employee.    These docs are small and I keep my prices lower because I know what they get back from insurances, etc. are not that great.   I am paid within 3 days of receipt of invoice (usually the next day) have never had my line count questioned, have never had a check bounce and they make me a part of their team.  And yes, I am the one from six months ago that said I would bake them cookies and you know why.  But all I can say is look through the County AMA directories or phone books or if your hospital has physician offices in them, see who works alone and try sending out flyers or going door to door -- never hurts to bring cookies either.   But have been doing it for 15 years fulltime and make enough to support myself through a yucky divorce and pay an attorney $10,000 -- barely but did it.  Good luck.  Maybe if enough would do this for themselves much cheaper than the nationals we could all go back to making a good living.   Am going digital here in the next six months or so, but only to pick up a new account as my docs still prefer the tapes.  Trying to get them to change. 

You can E-mail me for any more questions.