Good grief...multiple personality disorder???

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You just described my ex, and he has passive aggressive personality disorder and oppositional defiant disorder. 

Here's a description:  http://www.toad.net/%7Earcturus/dd/papd.htm.

I would also recommend reading "Why Does He Do That?  Inside The Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft.  You can buy it at Barnes and Noble and amazon.com.

My ex loves to annoy people for the fun of it.  The only way you can get him to do anything is to tell him not to do it.  And, of course, he is extremely controlling.  It is just my opinion, but I think that people with these types of personality problems just shouldn't be married to anyone.  Every time my ex gets a new girlfriend, I really just want to give the poor girl a hug.  If your husband has this type of personality, you really should divorce him.  Life is just too short to spend it with someone who makes everyone around them miserable.

My therapist said that of all the personality disorders/mental illnesses, this is the one that is the most difficult to live with, and I think that it even mentions that in the diagnostic criteria.  Once my ex was diagnosed, a huge weight lifted off of me, and I no longer felt so much anger and frustration.  I can't tell you how good it feels AFTER you divorce someone like this.  Suddenly the world just seems wonderful when you don't have to deal with them anymore.

OMG!  You have got to be kidding yourself here.  First, Barney is Zipper, MQLover, Frankie Boy who ever else  you accused and now she is MQ whiner?  Listen to yourself. 

It was meant as sarcasm-- I guess you didn't "get it".  What I meant by it is why was HE worried about not speaking English when none of the ESLs give a rip.

those (yourself included) who only add a few words in the signature line and never use a "name" twice.

Geesh.

If you are set on housekeeping, I do know people who clean houses for a living and do very well. One woman even went on to own her own business. But in a HOTEL? I'm sorry to say this, but are you nuts?

If your MT skills need polishing, there are different tapes and courses and WHATEVER you can use. Perhaps someone here can assist you.

As another 50 something year old woman, who works for a National, so far I have made $30,000 this year. I realize that is not a lot of money, I'm not exactly busting my behind, but you can make money. Please stick this thing out. Housekeeping is not an option, except in one's own home.

It is the Meyer-Briggs personality test. There are four componts that show how you relate to the world.  Take the test.  When you get your results, do a Google search to find a description.  I've taken several Meyers-Briggs tests, and I always come up an INFP.  I've read the descriptions of my personality, and I think it is dead-on right. 

First Letter:  I or E, which stands for introversion or extroversion

Second Letter:  N or S, which stands for intuition or sensory

Third Letter:  T or F, which stands for thinking or feeling

Fourth Letter:  P or J, which stands for perceiving or judging

"Oppositional defiant disorder is a recurrent pattern of negativistic, disobedient, hostile, defiant behavior toward authority figures without serious violations of the basic rights of others. Such children exhibit persistent stubbornness and argumentativeness, persistent testing of limits, an unwillingness to give in or negotiate and a refusal to accept blame for misdeeds. This behavior is evident at home but may not be manifested elsewhere. These children and adolescents do not see themselves as defiant; instead, they feel they are responding to unreasonable demands or situations. This disorder is usually evident before 8 years of age and is more common in males (until puberty, when male-female rates are equal).  From Vacarolis's Foundations of Psychiatric Mental Health Nursing...