Feeling too guilty to work after son breaks down.

• Feeling too guilty to work after son breaks down. - Feeling Guilty
  • What I did was.... - I hear ya!
  • going through the same thing - me
  • Consider this... - Momof2
  • Nearly the same situation here - Robin
  • when I read your post... - I get angry....
  • I feel like I work all the time too and my kids- sm - Laura E.
  • Kinda along the same lines as muff (sm) - I feel your pain
  • Try this.. - muff
    • Also, if you can switch the hours you work, get up earlier, - Mom of 3
  • You're going to have to make a change. - BTDT
  • your plus is... - aa
  • Have you considered...... - muff
    • Guilty about working sm - Older Mom

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Speaking of feeling guilty, if I hit the lottery tomorrow, I'm going to feel a little guilty that I hit it instead of the poor guy who's worked for minimum wage all of his life, but does that mean I'm going to refuse to accept the prize or give part of it back to the state in which I won it?  I don't think so! 

I understand what you're saying, and I agree too that she must do what she feels is right.  If it were me, though, I'd charge my normal rate, and if the client came back to me with a "WHOA!!", then I might negotiate a "little something" out, but remember .... whether an MT types everything out by hand or does a few clicks and "viola" (sp), she still has to meet turnaround time, which means you'll find her sitting at her desk day in and day out.  I personally would not transcribe at substandard line rates just because doctors choose to work smart and use macros because for me to do so would mean I'm not working smart.  JMO.  

Maybe something is escaping me and I don't want to be rude to anybody. I'm trying to understand.

You are an employee who signed an 8-4:30 contract, right? Are the people you are mad about employees, or did your MTSO hire additional IC folks? If she/they did, then that's who you should take issue with.

If these are other scheduled employees who are doing this, you have a choice. You can either do what they do, tattle on them (I probably would), or work elsewhere.

If they are extra IC help, what can you do? Can you make them feel bad about team spirit? I don't think so. Do you think McDonald's feels team spirit with Burger King? An IC is a business owner, in competition with others.

Are the other people employees?

cook breakfast and load the dishwasher.  I work some more and then do some more chores.  Sometimes I do a hobby for about 15 minutes, or I prep dinner, work in the yard if the weather is nice.  It seems like I'm working 12 hours/day that way, but I'm not and I'm getting housework done too, which tended to pile up when I tried working in 4 hour stretches. 

I also try to make a game out of it sometimes.  I reward myself for working 2 hours straight - maybe read, work on hobby, something just for me, not something that needs doing. 

then maybe you are one of the many transcriptionists out there who are working HARD and not SMART.  If you are SMART you will learn how to use your skills to acheive the MAXIMUM payoff. 

The majority of Transcriptionist I have met really do not KNOW how to increase their line counts, how to be INDEPENDENT, how to SELL their services, etc.  Instead, they are CONTENT making under 30,000 . You have to be SMART in this business and quit SELLING yourself SHORT.  Learn everything you can about BEING THE BEST in your profession.  The work is OUT there!!!!!!!!  You need to seek it and turn down the CRAP that doesn't make $$$$.  I am only a 5 year MT and last year I made close to 52,000 after taxes.  Get motivated and get moving.  The work is there!!!!

so I probably won't be staying.

Will see what they will put into writing.  They don't ever seem to find the ink to do that.  And with cut after cut and twists and turns I can't afford any more assling around.  I need to make a living.

But I have a feeling that the only dictation we will find is the terrible guys and the editing they have already said will be reduced 20% or something to that effect.

Well, I'm not ready to do a steady diet of pulling my hair out over some creep, and I'm not sure I can live on any more reduction in pay.

All these people, if they were making the BIG BUCKS that they claim to be making, would have absolutely NO TIME WHATSOEVER to be on forum boards posting 24/7.

Most posters embellish and most are full of it!!!

So, yep, I agree totally with your post. 

I think the way it goes is that you must be allowed to take breaks and lunch.  I was an employee for a company that did not care when you worked, as long as you met turnaround time. 

WASHINGTON (AP) - The Internal Revenue Service on Friday advised taxpayers on how to file for deductions passed by Congress too late to be included in 2006 forms.

Nearly 1 million taxpayers may not have their returns processed until early February, the agency warned.

The instructions involve three deductions renewed by Congress just before it adjourned two weeks ago and signed into law by President Bush this week: for state and local sales taxes in states that don't have income taxes, for higher tuition costs and for educator expenses.

The tax agency urged taxpayers seeking the three deductions to file electronically. Software will be updated to include the three tax provisions and taxpayers "will get their refunds faster through e-file," said IRS Commissioner Mark W. Everson. "Even more importantly, e-file will greatly reduce the chances of making an error compared to claiming the deductions on the paper 1040."

The IRS said that some 6 million taxpayers in states without state income taxes who receive Form 1040 will by mid-January get a special mailing of Publication 600, which will include tables and instructions for claiming the sales tax deduction.

Publication 600 was also posted Friday to the IRS web site, http://www.irs.gov/.

Form 1040 will not be updated and the higher education and educator expense deductions cannot be claimed on Form 1040A.

The IRS said the deduction for tuition and fees can be claimed on Form 1040, line 35, "Domestic production activities deduction," by entering "T on the dotted line to the left of that line. Similarly, the educator expense adjustment can be claimed on line 23, "Archer MSA Deduction," by entering "E" on the dotted line to the left of that line entry.

The sales tax deduction was claimed on about 11.2 million tax returns filed for tax year 2005. It applies to nine states: Alaska, Florida, Nevada, New Hampshire, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, Washington and Wyoming.

The higher education provision, which allows deductions for up to $4,000 of tuition and fee costs, was claimed on about 4.7 million returns.

The educator expense provision, allowing teachers to deduct up to $250 for personal expenditures on school supplies, was claimed on 3.5 million returns.

The tax agency said it will not be able to process tax returns claiming these deductions until early February. It said that based on filings earlier this year, about 930,000 tax returns claimed any of the three provisions by Feb. 1. This year, the IRS expects to receive about 136 million tax returns.

The three tax breaks expired on Jan. 1 this year, and thus were no longer part of tax law when the main IRS forms went to print in early November.

Guys like your stepdad are master manipulators and they know exactly who to target.  They choose victims who they believe will not tell, who will suffer in silence rather than upset the family.  You are guilty of nothing.  He is.  Is there any group in your area you can talk to, or a counselor who specializes in sexual abuse who you can talk to?  This guy will do everything he can to make you feel crazy and make you feel like you’re wrong, he’s right. 

Sexual abuse is not just intercourse.  It’s touching, rubbing against someone, exposing himself, making very inappropriate comments.  So whether or not he can still get it up doesn’t matter...it’s still sexual abuse and you are the victim, not the perpetrator. 

I do it too.    I actually look forward to working because I can "escape" from the real world for awhile. 

Too bad it doesn't happen every single day.  :)

more negative than positive feedback not because I don't appreciate good work but just because things are so busy, I only take the time to point out something if the client points it out to me or if i happen to see something that really is wrong.  I try to be fair and not nitpicky and only bring something negative up if it really needs to be addressed.

Honestly, I probably don't make it that obvious when I am thinking an IC anymore, I'll just use them less and someone reliable more.  A lot depends on their attitude and willingness to work on problems.  If someone asks me, though, I will always be honest with them about how I think they are doing.  You should talk to your MTSO and just tell her you're wondering how you are doing, whether there's anything she wants you do to do differently, etc. 

My biggest and best suggestions are to type a specialty that interests you and try to keep up with the report.  In other words make it a challenge to diagnose and treat the patient before you're through with the report.  I use an online timer set for 45 minutes.  I'm not allowed to do anything but type during those 45 minutes.  If I'm feeling a compulsion to research something that I found while checking on a word, I write it down and give myself 5-10 minutes between 45 minute sessions to do exactly that.  I also take medication (adderall) without it I would be completely lost.  I also have to make myself use the interest as little as possible.....too many shiny things to take my attention away.  The good thing is that usually ADD people are exceptionally bright and innovative, so I can accurately produce in 4 distracted hours what most can produce in 6-8 diligently working.  However, can you imagine what your line count would be like if you stuck to it the whole time??

So, to summarize:

1.  Try to find an MT job that interests you.

2.  Use a timer to limit your distractions.

3.  Take medication.

4.  Avoid the internet for reseach if at all possible. 

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