Family
Posted By: Patti on 2005-09-17
In Reply to: Don't think you are alone! - To Patty
I have often said that if I met some of my family on the street and were not related often wonder if I would "like them" let alone "love them" but because they are family we are obligated to instantly "love them." Sorry to me blood is not thicker than water and my friends and part of my family are very dear to me and I would do anything for them as it has been a two way street with friendship and love. Lover your parents though and do anything you can for them.
Patti
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family is family wheter 3 or 8 sm
i live in MA and $1200-$1400 a month is what good health insurance costs, ie $20-$40 copays. it was just passed into law that if you live in MA you have to have medical insurance so without being self-employed, you can go right to BCBS etc and get a plan directly from the major health insurace companies, but for a family plan and a decent income bracket, forget it. the prices are outragous. right now my husband pays $120 a week for family plan and this is after his employer pays 30% of the total cost. we have $20 copays, but we have a $2000 individual deductable per year with a $4000 family deductible cap. so when my daughther needed her tonsils out, $2000 and when my son broke his arm, $2000. someone on this board has to be able to tell you what they pay for insurance through their company as an employee. good luck.
your family
What kind of shelters were you in that they did not help you? If your husband is mentally ill, cannot hold down a job and provide for his family, go to Social Security office and start filling out for SSI or Disability. It is a long drawn out process, but worth it, if you want to keep your family intact and safe.
Well, every family is different, but for us (sm)
When we initially signed with them three years ago, we were a family of four with a husband with hypertension and hypercholesterolemia. The first year our rate was $340/mo with a $750 deductible. Every year since then we are given the option of either jacking our payment or increasing our deductible. We are now a family of five, and we are paying $750 a month with a $1750 deductible (per person). We have no maternity coverage, baby #3 was paid for out of pocket. Prescriptions are $10/30 after a $500 deductible (because of my husband's medications, otherwise I don't think they usually require a deductible for prescriptions). Each of us is allowed four office visits per year at $25/each. Well baby care is sporadic, depending on the mood of the adjuster that day, I think. We have gotten stuck paying for a $700 ER bill (applied to our deductible, apparently) and several well baby visits (at about $200 a pop). Overall, I was thrilled when we were paying $340 a month, but now I'm ready to start looking elsewhere. I would go for it, you're going to get jacked every year wherever you are. I think what put us over the edge was baby #3 (unplanned), but I wouldn't trade her for anything of course!
not me, my family gets along
doesn't fight Hmmmmm- I'm not invited anywhere this year- Do you suppose its me??? HA
The other family
Kym and I remain friends. She hates to watch the reruns as much as I do. We both agree that they did a lot of manipulation as far as the show goes and the editing process. She and Hallmark divorced following the show and I have not had any contact with him at all.
Family of 5
1. Me, although, my husband always pulls out the towels and washclothes and folds them and my 5-year-old loves to fold washclothes and can fold them better than me.
2. Me.
3. My husband does them most of the time because I always have to sit down after supper and work some more.
4. My husband does most of the mowing.
Since you know the family,
perhaps you can tell us what happened to him?
About my family
grown and out of the home but I worked at home when they were younger and made it very clear no work, no money, simple as that. I did not get into this job to work from home, in fact worked years away from home doing same because it was not a "home job." If you want to work from home, don't complain about what you are unable to do in your "profession" when you don't come across as being professional doing all the household duties. I started in this because I knew I loved the medical field, fast typist and knew possibility of making more money, nothing to do with just a job to stay home so I could watch after kids, cook or clean. Married but hubby is gourmet chef so he cooks and I have housekeeper. I work because I happen to love the type work I do.
Your family
Well, I would tell you to get a new family, but that's too flip because I know you are hurting.
Why do you care so much about such a thoughtless remark by your father? Obviously, he has no real understanding of your situation. You are working several jobs, wife, mother, caregiver, etc., plus your MT work.
Just try to let go of he hurt and anger from your parents' lack of understanding (or deliberate undermining of you, whichever it is), and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Give yourself a huge pat on the back because you more than deserve it!! Stay positive about yourself and your situation and things will work out to your advantage. Let go of the need for approval from your parents, because you probably won't get it and you don't need it anyway, really.
You should like a great person to me!
what does your family think?
are you going to want to work at home while attending school, and if so would you want to keep the account you have now, and how do your kids feel about it?
Not in Canda but family is. sm
Happy Canada Day to you!
My Grandmother moved to Maine from Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to go college here, where she met and married my grandfather. I have a huge family there that we visit every few years. Beautiful place, beautiful people.
friends and family to appreciate me at my job?
I doubt you're getting raises and I doubt you use your money for "others" and you as well are a poor judge of character. This initial post was about supervisors interacting more with their MTs so we can put a face with the name and feel like we have someone in our corner, being that we are so remote from coworkers. Obviously, we disagree, lets agree to do that much. You just sit and type away and collect your paycheck.
I like this one. We have some family pictures, but
those are for everyone, not just for her birthday. I do have some restaurant gift certificates, so I think I'll take her out to lunch. Thank you for all of the suggestions.
I have family in San Antonio, TX and
they have evacuees housed in shopping malls and old A&P grocery stores.
My family's clothing donations were turned down. Evacuees told them they only want money and ready for this....HAIR PRODUCTS!!!
Go figure!
Family broken up
Does anyone else live with this experience? After my mom and dad split up (after us kids were grown), all the siblings went their separate ways and really do not have much to do with each other. Most of them (three brothers) have taken sides, (either mom's or dad's) but we have nothing to do with each other. Is this odd or usually the norm? 
Not due to divorce, but our family went their
separate ways after both of our parents died. Strange, because I always thought we were close before that, but it could have been wishful thinking.
Family dysfunction
I feel for you too. Same here. I have 6 sisters, and only 2 are talking to me. I'm the oldest and I was very close to the middle sister who is a family therapist (go figure). We never fought before but 4 years ago she pounded on me for revealing to another sister where she spent Thanksgiving and then all hell broke loose! Since then it caused a chain reaction with the other sisters and now I'm not spoken to ever again. Considering they were always fighting with each other and I was the only one who never got involved in their petty fights, it amazes me. Sure it hurts too. What hurts more than anything is that I have a 28-year-old wonderful son who had nothing to do with this and they won't speak to him either! At this point, I feel like they are gremlins and I've tried in the only way I know, by communicating and asking to sit and talk and get it all out like adults - not even a response. So, oh well. At this point their silent speaks volumes. I too am feeling that if anything happens to me, I would not want them at my funeral services. I just can't figure them out.
I'm not NRA either, but most of the males in my family
are outdoorsmen. We've always got fresh fish and game meat. Being raised on game, I think it tastes better than beef or other meats from the grocery store. Plus, you never know what the grocery stores do to the meat. There was a hidden camera news report of a grocery store that soaked expired meats in a bleach water solution and repackaged it for sale. You never know if some lazy person is going to drop the meat on the floor and package it up anyways. At least in processing our own meat, we know where it came from and how it was processed.
Our state needs hunters because the deer and elk overpopulate. They damage crops and run loose on the highway causing human deaths. I would never hunt personally, but I do need to feed my family. Our freezer will be full again soon with a side of beef and a deer.
My family likes my
No, you are the one with issues - Why does your face look like vomit? Are and the administrator of this board twins?
My family happens to like when I give them diarrhea covered bottles for Xmas!
Hey SnowBunny - is that JW's family?
Prayers are being said!
The Addams Family nm
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I'm not going to visit my family either.
They wanted me to take five days off of work and the other huge project I'm working on now to fly to visit with everyone at a luxury condo where they're all staying. That was fine. I was willing to work extra so I could have enough money for the condo rental and restaurant meals. (Everyone else is somewhat well-off with fewer kids than I have. They take frequent trips on holidays.)
Daddy dearest had to get involved and basically told me it would be too much trouble for me to go. I'd have to find a ride to and from the airport because he wasn't going to pick me up in in his rental car. Husband, aunt or taxi cab could have done it. I'd have to share a bathroom and sleep on the hideabed because my cousin was bringing her boyfriend so there wasn't enough room for me. This boyfriend isn't even related, and this event is a birthday celebration for my brothers. If anyone should be there, it should be me, not my cousin's latest bedfellow! Then Dad told me that I shouldn't be wasting money on trips when I've got a family, bills to pay, and that huge project. That's really none of his business. It's not like I'd go bankrupt over a few hundred dollars. He also said I shouldn't leave my kids because who would watch them. That's what my husband, AKA the kids' father, does. It's called parenting. Dad has also chewed me out no less than four times over the arrangements for this trip because obviously I'm too stupid to handle making my own reservations, never mind the fact that I've traveled all over the country by myself since I was 15 years old.
The last time I vacationed with my parents and brothers, my father made it completely miserable. He was bossing me around, treating me like a child, asking me about my finances, and criticizing everyone around him. Then he had the audacity to tell me in front of everyone that I was eating like a pig and was going to end up weighing 300 pounds. All I had eaten that day by 5:00 p.m. was one piece of wheat toast, one hardboiled egg, a cup of coffee, water, and a small handful of raw almonds. Then he lectured me for 20 minutes on the fat content of nuts and the virtues of diet and exercise. Like he should talk. Yeah, well, we've obviously got issues, too. I don't care, I'm not ruining my holiday worrying about it. I'm not going. I don't want to be separated from my own family when my husband and kids weren't even invited. I don't want to put up with Dad's attitude. He's made it clear that I'm not welcome. He tells me I'm stupid for doing things all the time, but I'm the first one he calls when he needs help with something.
$85 on each kid, $15 on other family members, nothing for DH and I.
10 members of DH's family (by drawing), 6 members of my family, 3 kids. About $500 total on gifts, then Christmas dinner, postage, and other stuff. I wish we didn't participate in the big family gifts because it's always just an exchange of things nobody wants or needs. I can only use so much bubble bath and scented candles in a year.
A very very small family.
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Does she have family you can contact?
I had a former coworker say something completely bizarre to me one day. It turned out she had an undiagnosed brain tumor and she passed away soon after. Saying things completely out of context can be signs of other neurological problems, early dementia, stroke. I have no first-hand experience with bipolar, though.
I agree to this one! And I thank them that they are there so I can be here w/my family!! nm
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Personally, when my family gets together sm
since my folks passed away, nobody is allowed to get drunk during get togethers. Call me antisocial, but there's a time and place for that and Christmas get togethers, in my books, are not the place for that. I tell them to save it for New Year's and do it by themselves. Now, my oldest boy is supposed to be here on Christmas Eve and he stated he is going "out with the guys" on Christmas Eve and will probably be "tanked up" when he comes over around 9. Guess what. I told him to stay home and come over the next day when he's sober. My dad could be a teetotaller, but he was always a Coke and Sprite guy on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day (nothing mixed in, either). He always said alcohol took away the fun.
Can you get a refund on your family??? LOL
Come to Texas!! Just the two of us (me and my roomie) and the pups, turkey, football, no rugrats this year (we're doing family Christmas tomorrow).
Seriously, sharing the Word is one thing, condemning others is God's place not a humans. Tell him you're engaged! Then, break the "engagement" the day AFTER Christmas LOLOL.
your family accepts this?
I've been an MT over 10 years, have to work the holidays that fall on my scheduled day of week to work, usually Thanksgiving, and they know this. Yet, they take it personally, get upset with me and do the behind the back talk she's "antisocial" thing. Why can't they accept it as fact? I do NOT get PTO, NOR holidays. I believe a comment made this past Thanksgiving when everyone went up north was "sorry you feel you have to work." Its like, who are you people? Calling them family would be a stretch.
God bless you and your family.
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That's been a hit with my family this Christmas, too.
Everybody bought Sudoku books for everyone else. Oh, well. The kids are actually doing puzzles, reading and Sudoku instead of playing video games.
Maybe some...but my family doctor SM
loves his Transcriptionist and told me he doesn't know what he'd do without her. He says he misses her terribly when she's on vacation and doesn't want her to ever retire. :) He always speaks so fondly of her. Maybe I should make an appointment in April and casually mention MT week...maybe he'll send her a card and a gift. :)
I'd love to transcribe for a doc like him someday.
Chickadee
inmate in family
Prisoners do not and I repeat do not process mail, or mail order catalogs or credit card info. All post office personnel in a prison are fed employees, not paid by the state. Also, if you think inmates live better then you do, you need to do your homework - very little heat, no air conditioning ( in southern states), not enough food, not proper medical care, etc. I have lived this for a long time and I can honestly say I am an expert in this field of knowledge.
Death in family
As the "executrix" in my family it was my duty to be sure everyone was treated fairly. Some things were taken by family members without waiting and rather than get upset about it, I let it go. I just made sure the written wishes in the "will" were carried out. Some did take things that should have been given to others, but I knew better than to bring it up,since it would only make for family problems ad infinatum. You don't know if there was something about the jacket that made this person feel her father's presence, not thinking of where it really "belongs." I agree that it should go back to you but in my experience, they might say, "it was a gift" and never be on good terms with you again. Let it go, believe me, this is what this wonderful man would have wanted you to do. It's hard, it's difficult, but "letting go" will give you more freedom. Perhaps at a later point you could mention how much the jacket meant to your son and how you are glad it was not given to a stranger. Perhaps she'll come to her senses. She's in too much pain right now to think straight. Wait a week or two and don't cause a permanent rift. You'll be proud of yourself later. It's material. Bad feelings go on forever. Somehow "grace" is always the best under pressure. Sorry for your loss.
Don't want a family feud
I think I will take your advice and just drop it. My husband is in enough pain already. I don't want to cause him any more. I think he should be the one to speak up if he wants it for our son. I don't want to be the daughter-in-law who caused a family fight.
Death in family
Quickly - ask for it. Otherwise, it might be sold in a yard sale. I know that when my father-in-law died, my mother-in-law's mother and sister came in and cleaned out the house - within 3 weeks you would have never known that he had lived there. They took and sold everything that they wanted, left my mother-in-law with a few pictures and her own memories. Thankfully, her mother died this year - she and the sister were real vultures. Hope this helps, but whatever you do, fight or no fight - get it back - you will be glad that you did and so will your son.
family or not....they are NOT UR friend....sm
and the life is all about choices......
speak for your own family!
My family loves our pets. I have three children and four dogs and two cats and two birds. Our family loves each of our pets like they are a member of this family because they are!!!!! My husband and I treat them like they are also our children. They are very well behaved and SOOOO much fun.
Thanks! My whole family loves this and now
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Yes, DH's family lives there. I would think this would be ... SM
a very good area to move to. It is very rapidly growing, however, so if you are not into crowds, you might think about that. They actually live in Oakwood which is just outside of Gainsville. Hall County is supposed to have a very good school system. Lots of shopping in the area, and I think they're building subdivisions like crazy. It's also close enough to the north Georgia mountains that weekend getaways would be easy - or you could drive into Atlanta for special attractions. They have recently built the Gwinnett Arena near there that has a lot of concerts, sporting events, etc., so a drive into Atlanta is not always necessary for this kind of thing. All in all, a very nice area.
would depend on your age and if you have a family...
there's a ROI ratio that has to be considered. What will med school cost? Don't forget to figure in lost wages while going to school. Don't believe full time med school and part time MT can be combined...but maybe I'm wrong. Also if you have a family, you better think long and hard. You never get your kids' childhood back. It's not like you can schedule them for when it's convenient....Personally, I thought about med school, but did kids instead and boy did I make the right choice!
Taylor's family
Someone told me the woman with Taylor's dad is his stepmom. Has his mom ever been on the show?
I do, so I never go, even if my own family is hosting. nm
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Yes. very nice to have a family
member who knows what the heck they are doing with computers. Course, I pay him well with good dinners out and such. Yes, the AMD is a little more noisy but not that much. I would rather have the stability of the whole system than to worry about a little fan noise. The only thing is though that if you are gonna use your hard drive from a Pentium, you had better reformat it first, because it is not compatible with AMD and will not read anything you have stored on it, either that or start fresh with a new hard drive. I found out the hard way. :^) But I am happy now.
Eastman Family
Really, I always thought she was. Thanks for the clarification.
Family Practice
I was wondering if anyone has any ideas on what you should charge per line for a Family Practice of 4 physicians? I am interested in working for this practice that currently has been doing their own transcription (oh heaven help! lol), but did not know what would a fair rate to charge per line...thanks for any input! 
Family. Yuck!
I just don't work with friends or family. Period!
Safe Family Act
The case I referred to was settled perhaps 2 years ago. In that case, the grandmother already had custody (not adopted) of the older 2 siblings by filing in court herself. In the case of the youngest child, he was premature, in a different county, and as the bio already had a history of not being able to take care of her children, the child was taken to the foster home the day he was released from the hospital. This grandmother is a kindergarten teacher and grandfather has classification clearance in the Air Force. Even though the grandmother had the older 2, they did not give her the opportunity to have the 3rd child. She hired lawyers and finally did everything herself by terminating parental rights (bios don't like having to pay child support to the grandparents!) and then was able to adopt the 3rd child.
The act gives the state 24 months (period) to close a case on children in state care. If the bio is not agreeable to giving custody to relatives, the case can remain open and the bio has the opportunity to go to drug rehabilitation, parenting classes, get a stable job and prove they can independently provide for themselves BUT while those children are in foster care, the clock is ticking. Some bios don't want to do all those things or cannot in that time frame. If the state realizes the bios are going to make the time frame, and no relatives are involved, then yes, the child can be adopted by the foster care. The case workers are overworked and under a lot of pressure to get cases closed so the state gets a good Federal score and gets bonus money...so yes, there are cases when it is easier to adopt the child to a foster parent than to relatives...then relatives have a fight they should not have to be fighting.
I knew when my GD was born that someday this was going to happen and I put myself in a position to be available and willing to take her. I listen to her night terrors. She asks why mommy doesn't call - I tell her mommy has to take a test (drugs) and then mommy can visit again. It can be maddening because now I have to supervise the bios visiting the child. No overnight visits. Some states require background checks on other people who may care for the child. Can't place her on my insurance as she is not adopted. I got state benefits and part of that means I have to take my own daughter to court to get child support (bio dud has his own court case). Some states make relatives become foster parents to keep their own grandchildren. I'm single so now I work 2 jobs. The state closed my case as it became a private petition. But whatever I go through, what she gives me is priceless. 
geez, do you have a family?
How bout kids? Spouse? I don't think your *work ethic is above* most peoples, just seems that maybe you don't have a life...might want to try one before it's too late! 
Minnie - Do you have a family? (sm)
I'm just curious - If you have kids, are they grown and out of the house now? I guess if I were alone 24 hours a day, my production would be out of this world as well. If you do have family still at home, how do you manage to keep them quiet while you are working? :)
I wonder if your family is related to my MIL
When I decided to stay home, she had a fit! I told her it just made practical sense. We had a premature daughter and with all of these warnings about RSV in preemies, I just decided not to take the risk of putting her in daycare. Especially since I have experience in a field that allows you to stay home. Well...when we told her this decision, you would have thought the world was falling apart based on our decision alone. What she doesn't realize is the money we are saving by my staying at home! No daycare bill, no money spent on gas or lunches. Even after we explained it all to her she still didn't understand. I got to the point where I just basically told her it was our decision and our business. We were the ones paying OUR bills and we were the one worrying about our daughter. You would think the lady would be supportive because this IS her granddaughter, but oh no. The funny thing is she doesn't mind calling me and asking me to watch her other granddaughter whenever the sitter is sick or has a vacation because her other daughter-in-law "works".
Oh! The MIL works at the local bank... I make sure I go to her lane every time I go into to cash my check!
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