Exactly!
Posted By: sm on 2006-03-01
In Reply to: Well......... - My2Cents
I'm still trying to figure out why someone who makes $1350 a month didn't have the foresight to plan her family size more sensibly.
$400 a month is a sweet deal - maybe she should take advantage of a government program and get some assistance to further her education and thus increase her income potential. But in the meantime she has to dig her way out of this mess. It's not going to be easy but she can make her future better, and that of her children.
She needs to sit down and do some serious life planning and lots of hard thinking and work, but it can be done.
By the way, BEEN THERE and it took 10 years but I've finally dug my way out of the mess I created for myself when I was too young to be making those decisions. At age 35 I realized that I had painted myself into a "single mom" corner with 2 kids to support that I could in no way afford.
Today my kids are both college educated professional adults, and so am I. I have also left MT for a more lucrative career where I can keep moving up the scale and have some potential for advancement instead of making chump change for the rest of my life.
KEY TO THIS MESS
1. Stop having kids.
2. Take some "time off" from men to heal and "find yourself". Then when ready to do so, choose men wisely - learn from your past bad choices.
3. Education, education, education.
4. Work on fixing credit problems, improving earning potential, and being financially and emotionally self-sufficient.
5. Be patient. This problem didn't suddenly appear out of nowhere, so it's not going to resolve quickly either. But it is possible to fix it.
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