Does husband know how unhappy you are? SM
Posted By: No Kname on 2006-02-24
In Reply to: 5-year marriage falling apart - newbie
Men are dense. I'm not kidding. You have to beat them over the head for them to understand. I'm with the woman below who says it will be tough for single mother with two small children.
Encourage him to attend counseling with you. Some people will say it will not work, but, believe or not, most men are scared silly of being alone and will at least try to keep the marriage together. Good luck. I mean it.
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DH is dear husband or any number of colorful adjectives preceding husband. (no message)
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Who said I was unhappy?
I never said that. The funny thing is, I am extremely happy at Medquist. I am a high producer too. So, don't act like you know anything about me. What I know about you is that you are pathetic and you are coming on here all day and night and harrassing people on this board. It is sickening. So, have you decided who you are going to be tomorrow? Or, isn't this about the time when you start posting things and then answering yourself? ROFLMAO. Can't wait. Everyone, please stay tuned for the show!
Maybe she was just really unhappy with where she was (sm)
Sometimes people just end up in situations where they don't belong and are miserable and have to make a change. I'm sure it's nothing personal against you.
another unhappy MT
I have been sitting here all night trying to find a solution to this very problem, like I have many nights for the last several months. I am considering going to nursing school and giving up MT for good. I have never wanted to do anything but transcribe, have over 20 years experience just like you, but the inhouse hospital jobs are gone, as are the days of getting paid by the gross line, this editing crap is the final straw, I can no longer recommend this profession to anyone. It's really sad that nobody values the experienced MT anymore, the ones who take pride in their work, really sad..........................my income has gone from a net of $1300.00 every 2 weeks to barely more than $300.00! My husband passed away not too long ago and I am on my own now, really scary.
Don't worry -- they are the unhappy ones...
doubt they will ever find satisfaction with their attitudes.
They should be pitied for their woeful disposition.
They are embarassing themselves.
unhappy with mq supes
I know what you mean. I don't need constant contact with my supe, but when my grandmother passed away, my supe didn't say anything about it, no sorry, condolences, or anything!
Oh lighten up, unhappy one
unhappy people
I agree. They could care less. There has to be an end game. Maybe they're getting ready to do the India thing.
I agree. If you are unhappy with your job
for whatever reason (lack of work, jerks in mgmt) leave it and find another company -- there are others. If you don't want to edit, opt out. If you don't like the new plan, quit. Life is too short to waste time worrying about what might be forthcoming on 10/1.
To unhappy MQ oldtimer
Line rates can be deceiving. I make 8.5 cpl now, made 10 cpl for MQ. I'm much better off emotionally, mentally, physically and financially with the 8.5 cpl.
So....unhappy MDI-MTs - any idea where you will
look if it comes down to having to find work somewhere else?
some people are just so unhappy,
nm
I am unhappy about it, but those are the rules
No young lady here is happy about it. I'm tired of being called a lier. This was in place for years. My 40-year-old friend had to get one as she never had a license until now. I'm not crazy. I do not need help and I'm sick of being called a lier here. No, this was not in place when I was 16 and getting a perment to drive. As for my daughter being sexually active, she is focused on school and works from home typing phone notes for doctors along side me-- her choice. She will be starting a new job in the summer. She doesn't date and rarely goes out. So no, she has better things to do than screw around wth the opposite sex at this point in her life. Not all teenagers are bed jumpers. I'm not blind. I know some girls are, but she is not. I know her friends, they spend a lot of time together. Sex isn't an issue right now.
No, lots others unhappy here but
have more years than you and I work for lower wages but I am no longer having to provide for kids, etc. My pay now is not for every aspect of my life financially like it used to be. What I would say and have said this, if you don't make enough, if unhappy, things are not changing in this field, pay has gone lower over the years and you need to get more than 1 job to live on or move on.
not new or unhappy. having fun. wrong on all counts.
wouldn't want to be ya.
Yes, rather be lonely and happy then with a guy and unhappy
Thank you for post. I was so much happier when I had my 3 years of single life after my divorce and before I met him. My daughter and I were on our own, I had life by the horns. I didn't have much, but was so DARN happy and CONTENT. Funny how life works.
The mortgage I am looking at for lender #1 is WHEDA 5.375 interest, 30 year fixed. #2 is anywhere from 6 to 6.25 I have been told, 30 year fixed. The problem with the place is the real estate taxes are very high.
I will keep board posted. I am sure I will have my moments. 
Unhappy cable net user
I am on cable internet right now and it is always going out. I was on Verizon DSL prior to cable and if I could switch back to DSL I would, but it is not offered where I live, only cable, so I am stuck. There is not a huge difference in speed between DSL or cable. I know you can pay a little more for the faster DSL package. I don't know what your paying now, but I pay $50 a month for cable internet and I was told i could get a way faster speed on DSL for less than that per month. Personally, I prefer DSL over cable just for the fact it only went out on me once in the 1-1/2 years I was on DSL. I have been on cable 1-1/2 years and I was down just the other day for over 4 hours.  I lose cable connect every month.
lol You're no employer, just an unhappy worker trying to cause
Good funny though.
Leave. For goodness sakes, if you're unhappy
get out. Stop this juvenile whine and complain behavior.
The only thing more ridiculous than your incessant whining is the fact that you have NO IDEA yet what the new plan is. You have nothing to base it on. What? The 20% ASR reduction? That was foretold upfront...it was a pilot program and the rates would be adjusted later. Well, later is here, people. This is not a new business concept. This happens all the time. The phone company does it with new services, industries do it with new products. You have an option -- opt out of ASR and transcribe. YOU HAVE A CHOICE.
Stop trying to incite panic. It's embarassing for supposedly mature, intelligent people to be acting like this. Grow up.
Reliable Internet Service? Currently using Earthlink and very unhappy.
I've been using Earthlink as my ISP but this past year the service has gone downhill. I've been without service at least four times this year for anywhere between a few hours to a day. Plus all tech support is out of the country so you spend more time than necessary asking the tech to repeat the instructions. I'm looking at Verizon right now. Comcast is not recommended. Thanks
very unhappy verizon customer, i switched about 6 months ago
nm
Time to move on if so unhappy! I've left
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I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
Sounds like exactly how I feel. MQ has a tremendous amount of unhappy people and could care less.
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LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want? Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...
The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!
Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.
Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.
Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.
And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
my husband does that, too
and he drives his truck. He's been thinking of getting him a motorcycle but with him using that at 4:30 a.m. in country roads that have no lights, do you think it is safe for him?
My husband is the same way SM
He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc. He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer. He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc. I feel so stressed out too. It is a regular argument in our home as well. I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m. I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??"). Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school. He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh. Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours. Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.
Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house). Sigh...Men! Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;) Waaaaahhhh!! I need a wife!
LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone! Hugs to you,
Chickadee 
Husband's a CPA......
says you can work as an IC or SE, for different companies. You just get different forms from your companies to file with the IRS. As SE, they will pay some of your taxes, you then pay the rest quarterly, and you can still deduct your expenses. If IC, you pay ALL your own taxes quarterly and can still deduct expenses related to your business.
Husband
Well, first of all, I don't believe that it is babysitting if it is your own kids, it's called parenting and more husbands should try it. I think I would look into counseling. No way would I be married to a man who "let me" or "didn't let me" do anything. Good thing I have a great DH.
Good luck!
about husband won't let me.....sm
Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.
Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs! That's a crock. A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.
And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago. *lol* but not really laughing. Any man who will not let (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man. Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!!
feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)
Take my husband, Please !
 Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket? Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal? While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink? This is not helpful. 
Yes, please tell us how your husband
Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race. How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet. Did his classmates tell him what their race was?
I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement. Did you think that only white people visited this site?
this is my first husband.
My son was born out of a very short immature teenage relationship, which I ended 2 weeks after I told him I was pregnant. He proved his immaturity very quickly in his actions and I decided one baby would be enough to handle, I didn't need two. That choice, I feel, was very responsible and smart. I DO NOT regret keeping my son as he is a wonderful, smart, loving child who has a lot to give to this world.
I am done defending myself to those who choose to bring me down rather than offer some of the pros/cons of staying married or going single again.
What husband???
:)
No husband. nm
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My husband had this done
He regrets it sometimes. He still has problems on and off with reflux but had it much worse before the procedure. He lost a lot of weight after the procedure, probably 20 pounds or so because you are limited on the portion and what food you can eat. You are on a liquid diet the first 2-3 days then soft diet for about a week then gradually can start eating solid food again. He also has a lot of problems with gas, he constantly take gas pills but everyone I am sure is different.
my husband was there and...
He had me send Coolaid, nonperishable foods, candy, snacks, toiletries, and stuff like that. When my husband was over there, it was the beginning of the war over there and they didn't have all of that stuff. It may be different now though. You may want to go look at the forums at www.military.com. I am not sure, but you may find something there.
I said to my husband
at the beginning of the show "I hope Uncle June doesn't have a firearm in that house". He was talking about Pussy and some other guy that was also whacked. Tony made the mistake of saying one of their names when he was calling to him for supper. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! I said, "he shouldn't have said THAT", no sooner were the words out of my mouth and BANG! I hate when I'm right about things like that. He's going to survive, just waiting to see how it plays out. I LOVE THE SOPRANOS! I LOVE JAMES GANDOLFINI! Good night!
My husband was like you regarding me and
sleep. At night, it was difficult for me to fall asleep but in the morning, I was out and it took dynamite to get me up if I hadn't gotten my 8 hours of sleep. I didn't continue to sleep because I didn't want to start the day with him, I did it because I was so drowsy.
When I did get up, I could feel his resentment, made me feel like I was lazy. It was very very bad to start the day off with bad vibes. This happened on vacations as well. He was an early riser but would take naps in the afternoon. I preferred to stay in bed until 9.
Let your kids witness you and your husband in a healthy happy relationship and they will go on to create one just like yours. That is all kids want really. Your actions toward are being watched very closely by these kids.
And yes, your husband sounds like a good man. After my marriage ended (I left), my husband was more than willing to give me the little that I asked for but the negativity snuffed out the positive in the relationship.
My husband used it
He said the withdrawals really weren't that bad. It comes with an aroma inhaler and that helped him a lot! He's been a nonsmoker now for 3 years! Good luck! It's one of the best things you can do for yourself!
Ugh, I am so sorry for your husband.
I've learned that when they speak their native language as much or more as English, the accent never goes away. It's a crying shame.
My husband used it...sm
He used it when he was a teenager at about 16 for 3-4 months and then again as an adult at age 26 for three months.
He had no side effects at all except maybe dry skin. For him it was a life saver because he is a salesman and appearance means a lot.
You just have to make an informed decision. I would do it if my child had acne. I'm a 33-year-old adult and have the occassional pimple because of my birth control and hate it. I try to cover it up with makeup, but boys don't have that option. I, myself, wouldn't hesitate to use it if I had severe acne.
Anyway, my husband says he was told that there may be times again in the future when he has to use it. It is not for long-term use all at one time, but he used it for a few months twice in 10 years.
Hope this helps.
My husband
did the shopping when I was pregnant. One time he came home and had spent $400 at Kroger. WOW!!!! AND.........didn't buy any meat. I couldn't believe it. With the # of bags he brought in I would have thought $150 to $200. UGH. And no meat. I still can't get over that. LOL.
Needless to say I am back to doing the shopping. I would hate to imagine our financial situation if he handled the money. LOL.
My husband is the same way sm
Sometimes when I need a change I cook tortellini alfredo and crumble bacon over the top of it. He loves it. We usually add some garlic toast or a salad.
This is what husband and I have done...
for each big decision on job change, moving to a different state, or a situation similar to what you are facing now, one where we find it hard to decide but think we would be happy with either one. Scarey spot to be in, I know!
Make a list of two columns, one column for each choice (Admin Asst and MT).
Then list each pro/con for both options (each choice has to have the same pros and cons). Gas money, time spent with kids, social contact, type of work, etc., etc. - list whatever options are important to you.
Then assign a percentage or number to each option (my husband is an engineer so we have had to use this elaborate percentage work sheet thing he makes up!!! I just give him my number on a scale of 1 to 5 how I would rate each option and he does his mathematical calculations).
Then sit down with whoever you want to have input and start assigning numbers to each option in order of importance. If you use 1 as low importance and 5 as high importance - then, say, "Gas Money" option - working at home would be a 5 and the office would be a 1 (no gas money for home, lots of gas money for office). In other words, if gas money were the only consideration, home would win with a number 5 and office would lose with a number 1. Then go down your list assigning numbers.
When you are done, add up your numbers and see which option has the most points and that should tell you which you would prefer.
This may sound convoluted and I guess it is (unless you are an engineer or a math major) but, like I said, we have used this each time we have had a big decision to make, have gone ahead with the "most desirable" in terms of percentage outcome, and have been very content with our choice.
I might add that we have lived in 5 different states in 10 years - so we have really put this to the test!!!
The hardest part for me, I think, was getting to the point where I felt each option was equal in desirability. But you seem to be at that point already, having two choices and facing the anxiety of picking one over the other. So you are probably ready for THE BIG TEST.
Good luck to you no matter which you pick and whether or not you use my method!!
i see now that my husband is not only one
who can't seem to quit. I absolutely hate the effects (on health, house, etc), the stink, the cost, to the point i've thought of living separately. and he has been extremely self-diciplined in other areas of life too, but cannot seem to give this up.
My husband has this
My husband, 30 years old, had an ear infection. It got so bad that it caused him to develop Bell's palsy. They told him that it takes anywhere from three weeks to six months to return to normal, but he may have some permanent residual palsy. It has been about seven months and he still has some problems. He can only shut his eye about 75%, his smile is not all there and he has some noticeable paralysis to his cheek. Stress, common cold or hot days can bring on a recurrence or worsen residual symptoms. Our outlook is that there are worse things to have. Hope you do well with yours.
No different than my husband
downloading Express Scribe for me so I could test for an online position. That's why I love him sooooo!!  My own personal techie, the love of my life!
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