Dear offended
Posted By: typnqueen on 2007-03-25
In Reply to: venting/advice - Linda
I would go to the doctor and tell him exactly how you feel. You are completely justifed in feeling offended - you were in a sense stabbed in the back.
Since you will be less productive while you are training this person, you need to let the doctor why. That way, if the office manager tries to criticize you for being less productive, you know that the cardiologist understands why.
That is why I like working at home - no office politics. Had more than my share of that kind of obnoxious behavior in the past.
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Also not offended
... unless they use poor grammar and can't spell. I actually told somebody I work with (I don't work at home anymore because I didn't like it) that she would make a good Transcriptionist because she is so careful to ask questions and learn things thoroughly. She looked very pleased and thanked me. Of course, if she asked me about it, I'd direct her to Andrews.
Not offended here..
I plan on quitting myself when my 35th b-day rolls around in September....how did you do it? I tried with the gum, Zyban,but have always gone back. I think it is just will power.
Sorry that I offended you......
I am truely sorry that I offended you. I don't post on chat boards often so I wrote in a letter form. There is nothing fish going on, I just needd some guidance. I am very down right now about this profession, but I surely did not mean to offend you!
No, I am not offended...sm
LOL! I do not find this offensive at all. I actually love it. I think everyone should just have a sense of humor about it. I tell you if that word offends someone then they have lived a very sheltered life indeed. BUT different strokes for different folks as they say. :)
Not offended...You just keep smoking that
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So sorry..say something about the MTs who don't do their jobs and they are all offended, but yet
MTs who DO do their jobs are not. HMMMMMM
Now THAT comment would have offended me!
nm
Here, here!!! My own husband got OFFENDED when someone would say
"Oh, you're babysitting." He'd say, "NO, they're MY kids. You don't say my wife babysits when she stays home with them." Aren't guys amazing!
No, not offended and not turning on you sm
I think some of us are frustrated and concerned for you because we know it will happen again--and there's nothing we can do.
We also see the things that you're saying and see them as typical problematic statements, classical of someone who's being abused and will be abused again.
Statements like these:
"I have neglected to mention that when he is calm, he is actually okay." What? What difference does that make? He's probably very sweet and wonderful when he's not hitting you, yes.
and
"The incident two weeks ago was because I was forcing a trip to see my daughter's family." In other words, you caused it, right? That's so typical of an abused woman. "I made him mad" or "I egged him on." See, we on this board read things like this and see what you're not seeing, which is why we are SCARED for you and urging you firmly to see them. You're interpreting this as turning on you or that we're offended. No -- we are seeing something and trying to get you to see it, and really worried that you're not. And yes, frustrated that you're going to live with this man under the same roof while you try counseling and religion.
I'm offended that you laugh about it
Have you checked into seeing what is required of someone to become a fellow of the AAMT? It is a lot of work, believe you me. And, it is not just the education--it's community service, holding offices in the organization, as well as the continuing education part of it.
I work for a surgeon who is a fellow of the American College of Surgeons. It works basically the same way---they have to prove that they have completed so much continuing education, hold offices in organizations, community-type services, etc.
Basically, just being a "fellow" just means that you've gone above and beyond what an ordinary person in your organization does. Honestly, I think it is an honor; a matter of distinction, even if it is just AAMT. It just sets yourself apart from everyone else; says that you are a hard worker.
I'm sorry if I offended you personally....sm
 That was not my intention and I see in another thread you defended my post about eTime....da DE dum dum is what I said about the web clock question. So I want to thank you for the defense....on the eTime and apologize if I insulted you about the gift-giving recognition for MT Week.....
Have a nice weekend!!! 
What is offended is my hearing!
I know exactly where the post comes from. I hear physicians say the patient mother, no patient's, but the patient mother. That really grates on my nerves. Some words are not even pronouced correctly. I would think if you have the sense to become a physician, surely you can get some English in on the side. It is very rude and offensive for me to have to listen.I get enough of that on the evening local news.
I would be offended as well. A lot of assumptions going on here.
I was accused of being a troll.
I personally am not offended by asking about my salary...
I am just saying some people might think that way...
Yeah, and I suppose I probably offended
some newbies, too. I didn't mean to. I know what I was thinking in my head but I didn't communicate that in my message post.
I wrote the post and I am not offended, I took it how you meant it.
and like I said.... I love warm milk, drink it almost every night.
I wasn't offended. I thought it was funny. :-)
I am white and offended by that garbage post as
well. I am so sorry there are people like above poster in this world. A nice informatie post turns to garbage - oh well. 
you didn't offend me. you offended yourself and males who you know. if you think it's funny,
i don't. and i don't like the buffoon dumb male vs very clever female schtick either. it is degrading to both parties. if the female is so smart, why is she with some dumba$$ guy anyway?
I get offended by blonde jokes. They're not funny at all.
Especially, after hearing them over and over again from people who think they're being "clever". In addition, I don't know how many times people have told me to prove that I'm a real blonde. Like they can't tell from my eyebrows. Duh, really funny and so original. I've never heard that one before.
We blondes do have to overcome the stereotype. People think we're stupid or promiscuous just because we're blonde. Scoff all you want to, but it's true. No, we don't have it as tough as minorities do at all, but nobody ever takes us seriously either. I'd give examples of real life discrimination and harrassment in the workplace, but why bother? Everyone just thinks they're being funny or clever.
I apologize if I offended you, that wasn't my intention at all. As far as any suggestions for SM
your situation, I would agree with MT2RN above that maybe she is being enabled to behave the way she behaves. She is getting exactly the reaction she wants. It's hard to do, but if she refuses to get help from trained professionals, then you shouldn't be there to take care of her. My ex-husband refused and I stayed for a long time, taking care of him. He had employment issues and drinking issues and spending issues and legal issues and I just enabled him. I made the money and cleaned up his messes, paid off his debts, bailed him out of jail. It is an endless cycle that can only be broken by the stable person saying "I won't help you anymore, unless you help yourself first."
Again I apologize for offending you. My initial post was in response to your post chronicling what seemed to me to be depression without mania and you made no mention of her being diagnosed as bipolar, so I just simply was curious. I thank you for clarifying and I wish you well. It's really tough situation to be in.
Anyone else offended or insulted to be offered 6-7 cpl? Or is it just me or finds this insulting.
Is this how bad it is that now this is the going rate?? I get sick to my stomach just thinking about it. I need a career change. 
was anyone else offended to get an e-card from a free site from team leader that was
blanket message to everyone. I thought that was low class. You can send an e-card to casual acquaintences, coworkers, etc., but I do not think a blanket 1 message fits all to employees, bosses, or family is appropriate for Christmas. I would rather have had nothing than this thoughtless piece of nothing.
Thank you dear!
But, my dear, you see, when you are able to
see another MTs line counts and the job #s that they have done, and how they skip many, many reports, when the work was sent and how the job #s went for each job type, you then KNOW when someone is cherrypicking!!! It is also great that you are able to go into the system and check out the job #s she DID and know that they were the best of the best dictators!! Believe me, it does make a huge difference to those of us who do not cherry pick. The account I work on is relatively small and only 5 or 6 MTs working on the account. When the cherry picker has her two days off, I really, really make great line counts. The rest of the week is a real struggle. I say keep showing the other MTs work.
This is definitely not someone's hallucination; it is a reality and happens all the time. Once an MT gets all the proof she needs, then it is only common sense that she should go to the supervisor to point it out and the situation should be corrected. What I try to do, at times, is go on very early in the morning, around 2:00 AM; do all the "crap" that she left for me plus then be able to get some of the good guys. There have been times where I've been tempted to skip the bad just like her and leave her the bad!! However, then I feel guilty!! Cherry pickers need to be ousted from MT work. Do the job that comes up and be happy about it!!
Then my dear ..
You have no clue about the workings of an inner city. I am not saying walk into bullets or gangs .. what I am saying is that you have no clue how the plantation mentality looks to the rest of this world .. lining up all the wrongs do not make them right and it is downright ignorant to be so obviously insensitive to those who live differently than you do. Mother help us all when there are people like you who have no concern for simple human suffering .. this is not a race issue god blast it .. it is a human issue and we all got here and are going out of here the same damned way.
Hello there my dear
You HAVE deserved it honey. But this post is neither the time or place to discuss your "bonus." (I am chuckling and I think you know why).
My dear, I think you know your beauty is more important to me than any report you could ever type. Perhaps, the next time I drive by, you could be in, um, lets say, your birthday suite? UH OH - I hope my wife don't catch me on here (shaking in my boots).
Smooches and Kisses my lovely.
Frankie Boy
Sorry, my dear
I am sorry you had to share it with so many women that night. It was getting difficult to get 15 gals hands around it.
Believe it or not, my dear...
Until recently MQ was THE best company around - and many of us do not want to "jump ship" just yet - we're trying to figure out how to "take a sad song and make it better" and not have to go to these other truly foul companies that aren't big enuf to pay what MQ pays and benefits MQ has which most other companies can't begin to compete with. Its like New York City - people complain about its problems all the time but nobody wants to leave to go to Podunk, Iowa. Well, we don't want to go to Podunk Transcription Company, thank U very much. MQ has a huge amount of potential and the fact they are going thru changes is to be expected - and we have every right to work together on a solution for us all. So go back to Podunk!
OH DEAR!
Much work! I would like to add ADHD has nothing to do with intelligence and autistics would never be able to speak out a story as you have detailed, or plan a revenge, especially weeks ahead. Her previous environment and genes I think win the cause of her behavior, and sociopath does comes to mind, seriously, and children do and are maturing much earlier now-a-days. . .especially females. 
Thanks dear!!!!nm
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Oh dear LOL
 Doc just said, "She takes ginkgo biloba, when she remembers", I needed that today!
Dear
nm
Oh dear!!
Yes, veteran MT made a typo on CONTINUE....happens from time to time with rheumatoid arthritis and AGE....still trying to make a decent living....even after a big pay cut for me and fellow account MTs from my current employer without a reasonable explanation. Unfortunately, I do not see the situation changing for the better for any American MT. Have a beautiful Saturday.
Dear RE
I believe you should contact an attorney or Google "free legal advice" and ask these questions. I do think you would still be violating your non-compete even though they pursued you. You should explain that to the company recruiting you and they should understand. Good luck to you.
Dear QA . . .
I understand there are two sides. I have nothing against QA -- really I don't. I feel we all learn and better ourselves from mistakes. However, I think everyone needs to be on the same page and QA would do better to leave out nasty comments when there is no need for them. Really I left a blank while typing an ESL doc that I had only typed 1 time before and QA faulted me for omitting dictation? Since when is leaving a blank for a word or two you cannot understand omitting dictation? And when I questioned in writing the "QA Head" about conflicting feedback she/he never bothered to respond. Do you have any idea how confusing that is? I want to do right by the company and be a good MT but how is that possible when no two QA people follow the same rules? I am the first to admit I am far from perfect but I give it my all. With almost every other MT job I have had I was taken off QA within a week or two. I guess I was already angry because my check was late, this only added fuel to the fire. There are days I feel good and days I am made to feel lower than dirt. I pray this board will always be here for those of us that need to scream and vent. :-)
no, dear, it's all about you and how you - sm
and how you utilize yourself with the knowledge and tools you have accumulated.
sheesh...you just Won't (not Don't) get it.
Oh, dear.
Doctors do not take it kindly when you take a swing at them. (Just ask that unfortunate, long-gone children's dentist I once went to....)
But seriously... take a good deep breath, let it out, then take another one, and remember, it'll all be over quickly. And whatever you do, do NOT watch that needle coming at you!!
Interestingly... I was about your age when I thought I was going to have to change jobs. Of course, back then, I'd been doing MT for about 8 years on typewriters, and I'm not sure they'd invented the word "ergonomics" back then... and the workman's comp carrier laughed in my face, because they hadn't figured out the concept of repetitive strain injuries back then either, except when it came to farm workers using short-handled hoes.... But "girls" sitting at desks? Fuhgeddaboudit. Go fix your lipstick, and shut up. (No, not quite, but close.)
Anyway... keep that left wrist immobilized as much as you possibly can, and watch out that you don't overcompensate with your other hand and make it start hurting too! (I know whereof I speak. Trust me.) Do whatever you can to adjust ALL of your daily movement activities--every little bit helps--and speaking from the point of view of an old geezer-chick, get used to living with pain. 'Cause the older you get, trust me, something hurting is going to be a way of life. You just sort of learn to ignore it after a while. Case in point--that would be me, still transcribing nearly 30 years after I thought I was going to have to quit.
And get that computer arrangement fixed up! :)
Now, Laurie --- if what the others say is what they WANT to, same for you dear...
you're seeing what YOU want to. You're not the authority to say you see him for "what he is". You see him the same as others -- for what you WANT to see in him.
You're no more superior in knowledge than anyone else. It's your opinion versus theirs. LOL
oh puh-leeze, my dear
You don't know what I know, who I am, what I have experienced, and how I got to where I am today. So, don't tell me what I know or don't know.
Save your excuses for Oprah!!!
It's those causes that keep these people in the whole that they pass down from generation to generation. They need to do what Montel Williams said: "Pick yourself up by your boot straps."
Let me leave it at that, before I say something I'll regret.
that much less they have to give us, my dear:)
You'd think they'd have wanted to save to postage on that amount though, especially the two center !!!
Calm down my dear
Now don't be getting yourself so worked up you smear that beautiful red lipstick off your lips.
Dear Franky
That thing is so little, 15 women can't look at it at the same time, let alone grasp it at the same time.
Frankly my dear...
We MQer's are soooo sick of the whining non-MQers who just don't "get it." Sorry if U have so little energy that navigating around our posts is so darn hard on U. Sheesh.
you, my dear, are amazing!
I thought i had browsed around sufficiently in the dqmanage area, and didn't happen upon this little useful discovery -- so thanks a bunch for sharing with us!!
advice /oh dear
First off, my prayers go out to this family! You see a lot of this type of behavior in foster kids, who have seen way to much in their young lives and have been effected to no end.
I wonder if they should not try to place Tater in an inpatient Children's psych unit for a week, to get a total comprehensive work up? They may have a wider base of specialist who can pinpoint, diagnosis then treat Tater along with her family, more so than the psychologist.
Just a thought.
Dear Wendy
Those of us who have been in the business for a very long time know all of the sweat and hard work it took us to get here, and we know that yours will not be an easy road, nor will it be a very accomplished one if you plan to work at home. Hospital- or clinic-based experiences, often hopping from one specialty to the next, is the only way to get proficient at this game, and it offers PRECIOUS LITTLE in the way of monetary rewards, let alone respect.
I agree with Oldster. Best word of advice I can give you, kid, and I don't even know you: "Get out while the getting is good." Find another line of work. You will not regret it. This field? You'll flood the field with your tears. Best of luck to you, young lady.
oh dear, no no no. There are quite a few companies that will do that - sm
They tell you that they will "take you under their wing" and teach you the ropes, and all the while they are still making money and doing a little less work while you do it for free.
Think of it this way, would a lawyer just out of law school work for free just to get hired? Or a doctor that didn't graduate at the top of his class? Or how about an accountant?
No, it's *not* the *new* way of doing things, my dear......
No, sorry, dear. It's her responsibility to
set and example of standards and intelligence because she's representing the company she's working for. She's a manager, not an owner and she's not paying anyone. She's on the payroll too and has the responsibility to make the company look professional and polished.
You're dead wrong on this one.
My dear, we ALL have things which
we wish we would've done, wouldn't have done, and misgivings in just about every aspect of life, but this is not a dress rehearsal. This is your life, your children's lives. You have a little girl who DEPENDS ON YOU! to take care of her, to look out for her interests. If you think she is too young to know what is going on, you are mistaken. Adults just don't give children enough credit. They FEEL things, but can't express them, instead they internalize, and becomes a part of their being, in their soul, if you will.
As stated, I had to leave my first marriage, and it was NOT what I wanted, but it was what I NEEDED! Didn't know it at the time, and SCARED, was I scared! But most of all, what I didn't realize at the time was that my children had to PUT UP with ME, sad, crying all the time, angry. I thought I was a good mother, but in actuality, I was an enabler. Always there when he needed me, always dinner on the table, always a clean house, always, always everything to everybody....but not me, and not the mother I wanted to be when I carried my children.
Life is just way too short...
In just about every one of your answers, you have "ifs, ands or buts." Is your situation really going to change? Most likely it will not. One thing it took me awhile to learn in life is that I am the only one I can change, myself, I CANNOT change anyone else.... I am not trying to tell you what to do, I really have a hard enough time living my own life. Just relating to you what I see from this vantage. God bless.
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