DH goes to funerals but he does not go up to the open casket and he does not walk in front of it
Posted By: at the end. Would she do that? nm on 2006-02-19
In Reply to: Funeral etiquette question for you. sm - dol
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Open Casket can be very traumatic
I was only 8 when I was forced by my mother, Catholic family, to "go see greatgrandma" - it was an open casket and to this day I've not forgotten how she looked or "felt"; my mother insisted I touch her hand one more time, ewwww!! It was horrid and I never took my children to any funerals; in fact my son is 26 and has yet to attend a single funeral.
I believe at 11 years of age your daughter is entitled to her opinion and you should abide by her decision.
Death is traumatic and it does affect different people in different ways. If she does not want to attend the funeral, maybe graveside after everyone else has left?
I agree with the previous poster there are always other ways to pay respect.
Blessings on your family,
Thanks Laura. I didn't seem my first open casket until
I was in my mid 20's and I just about passed out. I had never been to one. Although I respect and understand other religions and rituals, my husband is not a practicing Catholic and feels the same way that I do.
I appreciate your input. It's a tough decision.
Keep busy out of the house in addition to your job. Volunteer. Take a class. Walk a dog. Be open
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Black is the color worn to funerals.
To wear black to a wedding is to imply that the marriage is doomed to fail or that you don't approve of the marriage. You shouldn't wear white either as that's the bride's color.
Then again, what do I care? Etiquette schmetiquette. I never did like etiquette "rules" anyways. Who makes up these things? And why didn't I get contacted to vote on the rules? It's after Labor Day, and I am still wearing my white shoes. Silly Victorian traditions that make no sense at all. As if we are somehow gauche or less of a person if we don't do what someone else tells us to do.
Remembering the concept that funerals are for the living, I would
take my daughter. You say, "I feel uncomfortable going to a funeral where I have only met the mother of this child once (at a birthday party)" but you aren't going for the mother. You are going for your daughter. I think this would be a wonderful opportunity for you to teach your daughter how to care for others at a time of loss. It is best to start with funerals of people that aren't that close to you, in order to introduce some of these ideas without personal grief getting too much in the way. Then when Grandma, Grandpa (or closer) go, it's not all completely new to the child.
I would say as long as hubby is neutral, let here decide - she could always just not go up to casket
if she does go. My DH never does either. Everyone just has to deal with it in their own way.
Try the front jack on the front of the CPU if it has one- or on the
it if is not pushed in all the way, sound will only be in one ear.
You can't just open the attachment. You need to save it to a file and then open SM
your wave player and load it.
How do I get it ST to open when escription is open?
Be up front
I'd be up front with them and just flat out tell them that you'd rather they didn't contact your current employer. Most companies understand that. Offer plenty of references so they have a way to gauge your work.
Your name sounds familiar. You wouldn't happen to have a husband named Mikkos, would you?
Are you sure there are none on the front? sm
I have a Dell desktop, and I have 2 additional USBs on the front of the tower.
I think they will all walk
Have been thinking they are probably guilty, but really, there is no proof. I agree 100% about the chaperones. You wait until you get to the airport and then discover everyone isn't there?? Sounds absurd to me. How come we haven't seen any of the chaperones on TV? Still feel for the parents, but I think they have done all they can. They certainly have kept it in the attention of the media.
I don't think they are trying to walk all over
anyone. I think it is out of frustration. Lots of changes have came about in a very short time. Some people are not good with change. They see this attitude as rubbing salt in the wounds. They are being jerked around and you are all happy and that makes no sense to them. There are people begging for work out there and then you get on saying you got 9 accounts. In their mind, they are thinking how is this fair and of course lashing out at MQ. You do tend to lash out at people who you think hurt you. I do not agree with everything that is going on with MQ, but I do work here and I am going to continue to work here. I have sympathy for the other MTs who are not so happy. I agree there are those who get on here to do nothing, but bash, but then again there are those just trying to understand what is going on and speaking out of frustration. I just think that people should not be attacked or whatever you want to call it just because they do not share your views. You must remember, we are all in totally different situations and most importantly - we are on the same team. Why not try to help them get happy and try to work out their problem, rather than bash along with them.
How many MTs and MEs would be willing to have a walk out
If nothing is done by Oct 1st with MQ
walk, walk, walk, walk, walk. :)
I do 3 miles a day at a good clip and I have lost 25 lbs. since I started doing MT at home a year ago. I'm back into a size 6 from a 14.
No bagels, donuts, cookies candy, etc., etc. in the breakroom like it was at the office.
Keep the crap out of your fridge and cupboards too.
Leftover Halloween candy put 5 lbs. on me in one week! 
Yes, that should walk you through it
I am not real familiar with Melbourne IT, but when I Google searched, it came back with registering domain names, so yes, follow that through. The next time you post, if you need more help, click on the button to add an email reply and I will email you to see if I can help walk you through it
The Walk
Cesar emphasizes taking regular walks with your dog at your side, not in front of you. Maybe it would help to do this with your dog, establishing yourself as the leader, and then take two and eventually all three for a walk at the same time. He says this gets them used to being a pack, with you as the pack leader.
If you can put a in front of it, it is followup..sm
For example he had a followup visit scheduled. OR He is to come in for followup in 2 weeks.
He will follow up in 2 weeks. OR
He is going to follow up with me in 2 weeks.
Hope that helps
One foot in front of the the other sm.
Oh honey please run don't walk, right out that door. This man you live with is only in your life to beat you down with discouragement and lies. Please do not allow this to continue. You were created by one who counted the hairs on your head, is the God of the universe but he knows you by name. He did not make you for destruction but for good. Please take your children away from a person who would put them down, call them names and does not care one bit about their well being. Begin to look at yourself for the wonderful, divinely created queen that you are, you have purpose and potential and this man is only there to keep you from seeing it. The day you walk out the door and shut it a ton of weight is going to fall off your shoulders as you will begin to realize that he does not love you, he does not love anyone but himself. You have to show your kids that you love them too much to let anybody (even their own father) treat them as less than great. You are a woman and deserve to be cherished, protected and provided for, anything less is not acceptable. Please go and as you do please know that myself and I am sure many other people out here are praying for you and lifting you up. We stand in the gap for you!! Now go girl and don't you dare look back. Go and be fabulous!!
I agree, but front-end AVR and EMR will
the work bring back to the US, with a minimal number of MTs.
It's also a law here too and a law you can't walk dog without muzzle...
nm
Hello...that should be take a walk, not "talk"
Something must be wrong with my fingers :)
Walk in the shoes.
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RUN - don't walk to the nearest ER. sm
I am an MT/ EMT/ nursing student, who has also had bouts of depression in the past, never hurting self but thinking how to permanently. I am great now, but with my family history I know what to look out for. PLEASE - Go to the nearest ER and talk to a professional about this. You cannot work through this alone or online with anyone. They will not judge you or belittle you - they are there to help and your hurting yourself is a cry for help. You don't have to tell your family or friends a reason for going, just say you don't feel well and need to go to the doctor. Don't wait, go now!
Walk your own talk, then.
Why don't YOU take in all that trash if they're all just innocent victims of "the system". It's always someone else's fault, isn't it? You liberals never hold the parasites responsible for any of their own actions or any of the CHOICES they make. It's always the government's fault, or capitalism's fault, or the fault of people with money (you know, the ones who worked hard and EARNED their lifestyle). We're all supposed to keep paying through the nose so a bunch of parasites can breed generation after generation of parasites and no one is allowed to point out the truth. Fine. YOU let them all live with you.
Let's just get out of the car and walk inside.
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I wouldn't let them walk all over me like that. It was not right.
Yep, took them out for walk today sm
and they are as good as gold today. They even got cauliflower (their fav) for their treats today.
Walk. Two miles a day should do it.
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You have to get up and stretch, go for a walk
and take lots of breaks from just sitting, even if they are only 5 min. breaks. It helps both mentally and physically.
Is a 15-min walk possible in your area sm
at that time of night? That would get your blood moving!
Run, don't walk to METROSCRIPT
metroscript.com - best deal in town! We've used them for 5 years. Great service, easy dial in dictation or digital file upload. Cost is minimum $14.95 month. Phone cost is $0.15 minute, fee kicks in after your doctor racks up past the $14.95 flat fee. They are a terrific company and will help you get up and running. Best of luck.
I have a cat who dashes in front of my feet
I'm thinking of using one of my dogs squeaky toys to get his attention when he cuts me off again, that will show him!
that was going to be 'question them up-front' and see how they respond..(nm)
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Our cat (yes we have a zoo) plops on my desk right in front of me - sm
usually on my note pad or a patient list, makes it interesting too. But she doesn't usually stay long, and if the dogs are in she hides ---her and the Husky are mortal enemies, granted it does not help that he tried to eat/kill her a couple weeks go-- our signals got crossed and my husband let the dogs in before I could up up the gates to ensure her safety. Luckily I was right there and was able to grab the dog before anything really bad happened. So my husband learned an important lesson that day...communicate with me when you let the dogs in, or put up the gates first.
Had a drive-by shooting right in front of my
home office window in July. Unfortunately, a baby got shot in the head. I thought it was someone setting off cherry bombs or something - the pops were too close together I thought for gunfire. It was 2 girls and a stroller and they didn't even realize the baby had been shot at first. It was a big howdy-do. The cops were out here for hours, blocking off the streets so they could look for shell casings. A couple of news trucks too, although the subsequent TV news reports were somewhat inaccurate regarding the location and details. Never found out what happened to the baby.
Anyway, right after this happened, the guy and teenager kid across the street stayed away from their house for about 2 weeks after, coming by periodically to check on the mail. The cops would occasionally call on the house during that time. I never did find out what the deal was and if there was connection between these people and the shooting, but I always worry about a gang thing or a home invasion thing and they get the wrong house (mine).
OK. Now there are construction guys out front
using a big saw to cut through our new concrete sidewalks that have already been dug up twice since being put in this spring. I can't hear to work. They didn't even warn us of any construction or water shutoffs. How many times do they have to dig up the same old spot this year before they get it right?
One of those would be cool for my front porch. sm
I think I would leave it up all year and decorate it for the different seasons and leave it on all night. I used to know a lady a long time ago, giving away my age here, who had one and had it all decorated with crystal glass ornaments and red garland. I liked it but my mother said it looked like a tin can.
How did they get past the front desk and
where was security when they didn't take no for an answer the first time? Having worked in a psych facility (which has a higher level of patient confidentially) and tyring to be "forced" into giving information not able to be given, it became natural to just say no. NO ONE on my watch got the first hint of information they were not entitled to. People may want information but getting it is something different.
front tooth not sure about $$ but expect....nm
You are talking about front-end VR. Not very good.
Slow learning process for the rec engine. Very tedious.
There are signs all over our hospitals right from the front
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You don't need a macro. Just add a semicolon in front of
your yo abbreviation so autocorrect will back up and take out that space. Then type 34;yo and it will expand to 34-year-old.
Sorry, don't have it in front of me, only have #2 and wait to hear from others, sorry, not sure!
I haven't sprung for #3 yet, I found #2 confusing enough, just do verbatim. I may have misspoken.
Front-end/back-end systems...
"Front-end" SR means that the original dictator's speech is turned into text. "Back-end" SR means that someone listens to the original dictator, redictating and "cleaning up" the original dication. This "sanitized" redictation is then fed into the SR engine.
The main disadvantage of "front-end" systems in the healthcare setting is that they must try to adapt to the speech peculiarities of many different dictators, whereas a "back-end" system only has to deal with the speech patterns of one dictator, namely the person who does the redictation.
Back-end dictation adds a layer of human intelligence to the conversion of speech to text because the person redictating presumably catches errors, eliminates hesitations and miscues, squares up ambiguous sentence structures, etc. - things that front-end dictation cannot do or does very poorly. As such, while the back-end speech engine might still cause some errors that require keyboard correction, there should not be nearly as many as front-end systems produce. And, a back-end SR application can be less sophisticated than a front-end system because it is not being required to deal with so many vagaries of human speech. In fact, a back-end SR application does not need artificial intelligence at all, whereas front-end SR really does.
Add a couple of zeros in front of .05 cpl and
Let the Indians get the CMTs and support AHDI. They're AHDI's little darlings (aka cash-cows), anyway.
Here is one that will say up front I am not going to stop working
just because this consultant to the stars thinks we should. Everyone else go on strike, not this lady.
when I was 12 I had my appendix out...I could not even walk...had a fever...
was vomiting bile. The most painful memory was the doctor trying to lay me down on the table, and everytime he would try to straighten my legs out, I would sit up, when he would lay be down, my legs would go back up (haha), but I mean it was so painful the only position I wanted was a fetal one!
If you have it, you would also have a fever, be vomiting bile. Have you tried talking to the doctor, I mean, he told you it is not appendicitis, did he tell you what he thinks it is? How 'bout going to an emergency care center (not an emergency room)?
Do you have a fever?? Gosh, hope you are going to be okay...
The grossest person to ever walk the
planet!!
I have a Golden Retriever that needs her walk every day, sometimes
twice a day. I walk 2 miles daily and go to the gym at least 3x a week. No big butt here, although I have noticed things shift as we get a little older. I am 39 and my boobs shift to my armpits (LOL) Any exercises for them?
I agree...30 minutes walk/jog/run every day
on the treadmill if the weather is inclement. If not, 30 minutes with the dogs outside. Provides me with MUCH more energy to start the day with and a much better outlook. If you have other health conditions, you might want to check with your MD first, but otherwise, give it a try, starting slowly at first. You'll be amazed at the difference in the way you feel.
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