Can I cry on your shoulders this morning?
Posted By: Kar on 2006-01-15
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My husband is gone until spring with his company about 5 hours away from home. Not too far but far enough where I can't see him often. In fact, he left Jan1 and haven't seen in since. No big deal - 14 days.
He is staying in a nice hotel with company car, perks, etc. He doesn't have a boss, but they have him working 13 days straight and then one day off and he is working his tail off. He calls me every night, and we trust each other 110%. We have 2 boys - 2 and 4. I am basically going nuts over here with them but that is a different subject.
So I got this grand idea last night that in the morning (today) I would drive and come see him, he has tomorrow off, and then I would leave early Tues to come back home. No big deal. The kids could watch DVD, etc. I am very, very independent and can do this with my eyes closed. I've always traveled by myself, etc., because of my background, and he's the type who is ultra-conservative, worried about traffic, safety, etc. Which is irritating because yes, there are risks involved when traveling. I have a new vehicle, great tires, great gas mileage, a cell phone, money, and street smarts. What the h*** is the big deal? He calls me this morning when the boys and I are ready to go to tell me, "don't come."
Do you know how upset I am? I am very upset. He won't be back until April or so and he doesn't want to see us????? He can't leave the area, so we have to come and see him. Yet, because he's so darn cautious and conservative (always has been that way), we have to suffer by staying here and basically I have done nothing but work extra and take care of 2 kids who really miss their dad.
I am upset. I am all packed up and ready to go with no where to go. He did say I could possibly come down later, as in a few weeks later, when the area is not as congested (he's near the gulf of Mexico where hurricane hit, but in a city that was not devastated so there are hotels and restaurants, etc). But to be honest, I'm not going to waste my time or energy on him if he doesn't want to see us. I am not going through this again in 2 weeks. He can just forget it.
I'm usually very mature, but I am so pissed right now and I don't really care. He doesn't want to see us today, then I guess he and his ultra safety self can wait until he comes home in April. 
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