Calm down my dear
Posted By: Frankie Boy on 2005-09-15
In Reply to: OOOOH! I'm blushing! - MQLOVER
Now don't be getting yourself so worked up you smear that beautiful red lipstick off your lips.
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Oh Calm Down Already!
Of course it's not a difficult field to get into, but dear it takes more than skills. Like nursing, it takes formal training! When are you willy nillys going to learn that? And a flying monkey? A flying monkey could become a nurse and a doctor and an attorney "with a little training." Ha.
Don't Get Mad, Get Calm
This girl is a wacko and you should just act like she is not even alive. Yes, that's what I said, act like she is not even alive. She is beyond wacked and from your comments (assuming they are all true) there is nothing anyone can say to make any relationship with her approach anything near normalcy, and in fact it will approach the nightmare category. So to jumpstart your "hindsight" intuition (hmmmm, here's what I should have done in the beginning with this broad!), just ignore her. She won't go away, but you do not need to interact with her. Don't apologize, don't justify, don't explain yourself away (onto their deaf ears). Like I said, she is just plain wacked in the head.
Calm down
If your husband told you about it, he is not hiding anything. He could have not told you if you don't ever see the phone bill or his cell phone. If you get so upset he will being to hide things. It is not your place to call this woman, should you run into her you could say something but again you don't know the entire story. Though it does sound a little questionable, perhaps there was a legitimate reason she was calling your husband's friend. If you jump in too soon without all the facts you could turn out to be the fool. You have to keep the communication open betwen you and your husband and don't jump down his throat. Now don't think that I am one of those that just takes anything and everything from a husband as my husband was cheating, I caught him and divorced him but I don't think that this is the situation here and you cannot control the issue and calling this lady will only add flames as it is none of your business. But your husband also has to step aside and tell the two of them that if they are going to involve themselves in an affair, he will have no part of it by lying for his friend or covering for him. But again, he told you about it when he did not have to and that speaks for itself but if you continue to react like this he won't. You know what ASSUME means. Take a deep breath and go on with life.
Calm down.
The time to refuse a job is before you accept it, not afterward. If you accept the work in the morning, the company has every right to expect it will be done. If you have another account that pays more then come along and want your service, that in no way relieves you of your first obligation, that being the work you took in the morning.
The person who seems to have nerve is the person who thinks that can accept work and then not complete it.
Here's an example that has nothing to do with MT but will illustrate the point just the same. You hire a painter to paint your living and he says yes, I'll be there on Monday morning. You make the accommodations necessary, expecting him to come and paint on Monday. He shows up, opens the paint can and starts to work. His cell phone rings around 10:00 and he's offered a job that pays more than you. According to your line of thinking, he's perfectly justified in leaving your job unfinished to work for someone else who pays more. When do you get your job finished? Does it ever get finished? Are you happy with the reason given? Are you likely to hire them again?
So, if anybody in this discussion has "nerve", it would be you. Until you're the employer, don't pretend to know what you're talking about.
Actually, I am perfectly calm as well, but
people on this board seem rude and ready to jump on anyone for anything.... no wonder I rarely come here.
Easy now, calm down, it
was just an observation.
re your calm down statement...sm
 Awful presumptive of you to assume I was not calm...just due to a few extra question marks? As an American, I think it's safe to say that plenty here would kill first and ask questions later......I'm not that way.
I happen to be very calm and very rational.....
You need to chilll out and calm down -sm
you are being way too hard on yourself. I doubt any MT is 100% perfect 100% of the time. I know I am not. I know I am good though but that I do make mistakes sometimes. My mistakes are generally her instead of here, that is my big one, that sort of stuff. I know some slip through but I don't beat myself up about it. I proof as I type then take a quick look at the whole report when I am done, I am more thorough in my proofing with letters though. Where I work there is no QA, we direct submit to the client though at first another MT does check our work then we are cut loose to direct submit, generally a week or so at the most. If they feel we are not able to do that, you are let go, simple as that. Sounds like you are just putting too much pressure on yourself, yes you want to submit good error-free work but you have to cut yourself a little slack too. This is a hard line of work to be in if you are a perfectionist. Try to learn somehow not to be so hard on yourself, do the best that you can, maybe do a few reports then go back and check them after you get a few done, take a look at with fresh eyes if you can. Good luck.
Try to stay calm. I know the feeling. Been there
believe me. Now, what about this? If you know for sure you are getting paid on the 10th and it will cover the rent, send your landlord a postdated check for the 10th or 11th if you need the $$ to clear your account. Send it via certified mail - couple bucks to protect you - type up a nice letter explaining your situation - that you just started several new jobs and that unbeknownst to you, or without your being aware of it, your pay would not start coming in until the 10th. Be honest - and giving him the postdated check shows your intent. But write clearly in the letter that the check is postdated, that you do not have the funds available should he cash it/deposit it now, but that it will be there on the 10th, or 11th. This worked for me. It happens, and one of the major reasons I am afraid to try a new job. I did about a year ago, and it messed me up royally. For those of us who live paycheck-to-paycheck, it can be pretty dangerous to change jobs. Good luck to you. Please keep us posted. By the way, lots of folks think postdated checks are illegal. In most cases they are not, as long as you notify as above. If he tries to cash it early, you will get insufficient funds charge, etc., but that's better at this point than eviction, right? And as long as you notified him via proper letter and certified mail, he can't claim he didn't know the funds weren't there.
Sept 5 - have a calm August up ahead - sm
the last 2 months have been nuts with Dr. appts (eye, dentist, oncologist, regular checkups); only have 2 scheduled this month, yeah, and only 1 weekend trip. Try to do some local stuff in the remaining month we have though if we don't fry first. Hit 100 today here in VA (NE of Richmond); it's 99 now and 5:30 p.m. NUTS!!!
Calm down now. I'm just saying the roll works out much more economically for my needs...
I double checked and it's $52 including shipping for 5016 labels (8-1/2 x 1). That's equal to 456 sheets (8-1/2 x 11) or $0.1140 per sheet. Two of your boxes (250 x 2 = 500 sheets) x $28.70 per box is $57.40. That's $0.1148 per sheet plus your time cutting each of those little notes apart. I just print off the sheet and the office separates each note without the chance of losing a little 1" paragraph somewhere before it got to the med rec dept. I have absolutely no problem with curl, as the roll core is fairly large and I use a paper towel dispenser for quick dispensing. Six of one, half dozen of another. The gal from Med Arts Press is the one I was really speaking about. Their prices are nasty. Only if you want custom colors and then I'd go to Compulabel before MAP. And BTW I wasn't trying to step on toes, just trying to help save somebody a buck. Your welcome.
Please calm down. Minor MRI findings are usually accompanied by (sm)
the message, "Correlate with clinical history." Radiologists don't know the patient' history in detail. They are often noting findings that can't be interpreted without knowing the patient. That's why radiologists will so rarely talk to patients; they aren't your doctor and aren't able to match findings with symptoms and clinical findings. I suspect, but can't know, that your MRI is perfectly normal ... FOR YOU. Let your MD mull it all over. If he/she is not certain, he'll send you to a specialist.
it was a typo. No one is disputing that exclamation is correct. calm down.
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calm, simple, short repetitious answers
"I have to work, I'm on a schedule, I'm still working, I'm clocked in";
and....repeat.
Really - calm down. My MRI had me having lung cancer with metastases to lymph nodes sm
guess what - they were inflammatory active lymph nodes and not cancer at all. I am 40 years old, healthy, and was in shock when I got my MRI report. It really does depend on how experienced the radiologist is that is reading your study. Some really "over-read" studies, especially the new docs.
Needless to say, I went through all those emotions thinking "oh my gosh, I'm gonna die in a few months and leave my kids and my husband behind." This went on for 2 weeks until I had to have a medistinoscopy. I only had that done for my own peace of mind. I have 3 specialist radiologist look at my films and all said, it was probably just reactive inflammatory lymph nodes, but after hearing the "cancer" the first time - I just wanted them biopsied to know for sure so I can sleep at night.
Everything turned out fine - just as you will see - yours will probably turn out fine.
Many, and I mean many films are "over-read"!
Look on the brighter side of things - at least the Impression didn't say "metastatic lung cancer or liver cancer." Just slightly top-normal size liver and probably 99% of the American population are walking around with the same "normal" finding.
Just got it today. Just stopped pacing to try to calm down. Didn't work. See inside---
The cover story should be posted on their online site within a month or so for those who do not receive the printed version as well.
Thank you dear!
But, my dear, you see, when you are able to
see another MTs line counts and the job #s that they have done, and how they skip many, many reports, when the work was sent and how the job #s went for each job type, you then KNOW when someone is cherrypicking!!! It is also great that you are able to go into the system and check out the job #s she DID and know that they were the best of the best dictators!! Believe me, it does make a huge difference to those of us who do not cherry pick. The account I work on is relatively small and only 5 or 6 MTs working on the account. When the cherry picker has her two days off, I really, really make great line counts. The rest of the week is a real struggle. I say keep showing the other MTs work.
This is definitely not someone's hallucination; it is a reality and happens all the time. Once an MT gets all the proof she needs, then it is only common sense that she should go to the supervisor to point it out and the situation should be corrected. What I try to do, at times, is go on very early in the morning, around 2:00 AM; do all the "crap" that she left for me plus then be able to get some of the good guys. There have been times where I've been tempted to skip the bad just like her and leave her the bad!! However, then I feel guilty!! Cherry pickers need to be ousted from MT work. Do the job that comes up and be happy about it!!
Then my dear ..
You have no clue about the workings of an inner city. I am not saying walk into bullets or gangs .. what I am saying is that you have no clue how the plantation mentality looks to the rest of this world .. lining up all the wrongs do not make them right and it is downright ignorant to be so obviously insensitive to those who live differently than you do. Mother help us all when there are people like you who have no concern for simple human suffering .. this is not a race issue god blast it .. it is a human issue and we all got here and are going out of here the same damned way.
Hello there my dear
You HAVE deserved it honey. But this post is neither the time or place to discuss your "bonus." (I am chuckling and I think you know why).
My dear, I think you know your beauty is more important to me than any report you could ever type. Perhaps, the next time I drive by, you could be in, um, lets say, your birthday suite? UH OH - I hope my wife don't catch me on here (shaking in my boots).
Smooches and Kisses my lovely.
Frankie Boy
Sorry, my dear
I am sorry you had to share it with so many women that night. It was getting difficult to get 15 gals hands around it.
Believe it or not, my dear...
Until recently MQ was THE best company around - and many of us do not want to "jump ship" just yet - we're trying to figure out how to "take a sad song and make it better" and not have to go to these other truly foul companies that aren't big enuf to pay what MQ pays and benefits MQ has which most other companies can't begin to compete with. Its like New York City - people complain about its problems all the time but nobody wants to leave to go to Podunk, Iowa. Well, we don't want to go to Podunk Transcription Company, thank U very much. MQ has a huge amount of potential and the fact they are going thru changes is to be expected - and we have every right to work together on a solution for us all. So go back to Podunk!
OH DEAR!
Much work! I would like to add ADHD has nothing to do with intelligence and autistics would never be able to speak out a story as you have detailed, or plan a revenge, especially weeks ahead. Her previous environment and genes I think win the cause of her behavior, and sociopath does comes to mind, seriously, and children do and are maturing much earlier now-a-days. . .especially females. 
Thanks dear!!!!nm
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Oh dear LOL
 Doc just said, "She takes ginkgo biloba, when she remembers", I needed that today!
Dear
nm
Oh dear!!
Yes, veteran MT made a typo on CONTINUE....happens from time to time with rheumatoid arthritis and AGE....still trying to make a decent living....even after a big pay cut for me and fellow account MTs from my current employer without a reasonable explanation. Unfortunately, I do not see the situation changing for the better for any American MT. Have a beautiful Saturday.
Dear RE
I believe you should contact an attorney or Google "free legal advice" and ask these questions. I do think you would still be violating your non-compete even though they pursued you. You should explain that to the company recruiting you and they should understand. Good luck to you.
Dear QA . . .
I understand there are two sides. I have nothing against QA -- really I don't. I feel we all learn and better ourselves from mistakes. However, I think everyone needs to be on the same page and QA would do better to leave out nasty comments when there is no need for them. Really I left a blank while typing an ESL doc that I had only typed 1 time before and QA faulted me for omitting dictation? Since when is leaving a blank for a word or two you cannot understand omitting dictation? And when I questioned in writing the "QA Head" about conflicting feedback she/he never bothered to respond. Do you have any idea how confusing that is? I want to do right by the company and be a good MT but how is that possible when no two QA people follow the same rules? I am the first to admit I am far from perfect but I give it my all. With almost every other MT job I have had I was taken off QA within a week or two. I guess I was already angry because my check was late, this only added fuel to the fire. There are days I feel good and days I am made to feel lower than dirt. I pray this board will always be here for those of us that need to scream and vent. :-)
no, dear, it's all about you and how you - sm
and how you utilize yourself with the knowledge and tools you have accumulated.
sheesh...you just Won't (not Don't) get it.
Oh, dear.
Doctors do not take it kindly when you take a swing at them. (Just ask that unfortunate, long-gone children's dentist I once went to....)
But seriously... take a good deep breath, let it out, then take another one, and remember, it'll all be over quickly. And whatever you do, do NOT watch that needle coming at you!!
Interestingly... I was about your age when I thought I was going to have to change jobs. Of course, back then, I'd been doing MT for about 8 years on typewriters, and I'm not sure they'd invented the word "ergonomics" back then... and the workman's comp carrier laughed in my face, because they hadn't figured out the concept of repetitive strain injuries back then either, except when it came to farm workers using short-handled hoes.... But "girls" sitting at desks? Fuhgeddaboudit. Go fix your lipstick, and shut up. (No, not quite, but close.)
Anyway... keep that left wrist immobilized as much as you possibly can, and watch out that you don't overcompensate with your other hand and make it start hurting too! (I know whereof I speak. Trust me.) Do whatever you can to adjust ALL of your daily movement activities--every little bit helps--and speaking from the point of view of an old geezer-chick, get used to living with pain. 'Cause the older you get, trust me, something hurting is going to be a way of life. You just sort of learn to ignore it after a while. Case in point--that would be me, still transcribing nearly 30 years after I thought I was going to have to quit.
And get that computer arrangement fixed up! :)
Now, Laurie --- if what the others say is what they WANT to, same for you dear...
you're seeing what YOU want to. You're not the authority to say you see him for "what he is". You see him the same as others -- for what you WANT to see in him.
You're no more superior in knowledge than anyone else. It's your opinion versus theirs. LOL
oh puh-leeze, my dear
You don't know what I know, who I am, what I have experienced, and how I got to where I am today. So, don't tell me what I know or don't know.
Save your excuses for Oprah!!!
It's those causes that keep these people in the whole that they pass down from generation to generation. They need to do what Montel Williams said: "Pick yourself up by your boot straps."
Let me leave it at that, before I say something I'll regret.
that much less they have to give us, my dear:)
You'd think they'd have wanted to save to postage on that amount though, especially the two center !!!
Dear Franky
That thing is so little, 15 women can't look at it at the same time, let alone grasp it at the same time.
Frankly my dear...
We MQer's are soooo sick of the whining non-MQers who just don't "get it." Sorry if U have so little energy that navigating around our posts is so darn hard on U. Sheesh.
you, my dear, are amazing!
I thought i had browsed around sufficiently in the dqmanage area, and didn't happen upon this little useful discovery -- so thanks a bunch for sharing with us!!
advice /oh dear
First off, my prayers go out to this family! You see a lot of this type of behavior in foster kids, who have seen way to much in their young lives and have been effected to no end.
I wonder if they should not try to place Tater in an inpatient Children's psych unit for a week, to get a total comprehensive work up? They may have a wider base of specialist who can pinpoint, diagnosis then treat Tater along with her family, more so than the psychologist.
Just a thought.
Dear Wendy
Those of us who have been in the business for a very long time know all of the sweat and hard work it took us to get here, and we know that yours will not be an easy road, nor will it be a very accomplished one if you plan to work at home. Hospital- or clinic-based experiences, often hopping from one specialty to the next, is the only way to get proficient at this game, and it offers PRECIOUS LITTLE in the way of monetary rewards, let alone respect.
I agree with Oldster. Best word of advice I can give you, kid, and I don't even know you: "Get out while the getting is good." Find another line of work. You will not regret it. This field? You'll flood the field with your tears. Best of luck to you, young lady.
oh dear, no no no. There are quite a few companies that will do that - sm
They tell you that they will "take you under their wing" and teach you the ropes, and all the while they are still making money and doing a little less work while you do it for free.
Think of it this way, would a lawyer just out of law school work for free just to get hired? Or a doctor that didn't graduate at the top of his class? Or how about an accountant?
No, it's *not* the *new* way of doing things, my dear......
No, sorry, dear. It's her responsibility to
set and example of standards and intelligence because she's representing the company she's working for. She's a manager, not an owner and she's not paying anyone. She's on the payroll too and has the responsibility to make the company look professional and polished.
You're dead wrong on this one.
My dear, we ALL have things which
we wish we would've done, wouldn't have done, and misgivings in just about every aspect of life, but this is not a dress rehearsal. This is your life, your children's lives. You have a little girl who DEPENDS ON YOU! to take care of her, to look out for her interests. If you think she is too young to know what is going on, you are mistaken. Adults just don't give children enough credit. They FEEL things, but can't express them, instead they internalize, and becomes a part of their being, in their soul, if you will.
As stated, I had to leave my first marriage, and it was NOT what I wanted, but it was what I NEEDED! Didn't know it at the time, and SCARED, was I scared! But most of all, what I didn't realize at the time was that my children had to PUT UP with ME, sad, crying all the time, angry. I thought I was a good mother, but in actuality, I was an enabler. Always there when he needed me, always dinner on the table, always a clean house, always, always everything to everybody....but not me, and not the mother I wanted to be when I carried my children.
Life is just way too short...
In just about every one of your answers, you have "ifs, ands or buts." Is your situation really going to change? Most likely it will not. One thing it took me awhile to learn in life is that I am the only one I can change, myself, I CANNOT change anyone else.... I am not trying to tell you what to do, I really have a hard enough time living my own life. Just relating to you what I see from this vantage. God bless.
Dear Mr. Shatner
You're very funny! Unfortunately, some of the folks on this board are not TV viewers, or they are not old enough to remember you or Rescue 911.
Shame on you for toying with people's sympathy. Get your hiney out of here.
That should say, "Thank you, dear; however,"
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no dear - look closely - it was for you-nm
xx
DH=Dear Husband....nm
nm
Dear fellow MTs...sm
I am stuck and don't know what to do. I keep going back and forth and now I am afraid to make any move at all. Could use some of your opinions on this situation. At the moment, I have two part time jobs. The one I have worked for a little over 3 years as an IC. The other I just started about 4-5 weeks ago. I did seek the company out and I started with them full time employee so I could get some PTO for once in my life. However, I had to switch to part time employee because of the schedule thing. We all know as an IC, we have a lot more flexibility and this is very important to me, and the new company is a set schedule that must be followed. Long story short, I went into the new job hoping to make better money, work smarter, not harder, and drop the IC job. But, 5 weeks later, I just still can't drop the IC position so I am now working more, working harder, and working more than full time and I need to make a decision. The new job pays better but after taxes and all, not really! It is an employee position so I have to work a given schedule. The job itself is basically the same as my IC job, not easier, but maybe slightly more difficult to make lines. The IC job is a job and at one point, I was treated very unfairly by the owner and that bothers me a bit because of fear of that happening again, but for the most part, it has been good to me and is considered one of the best IC jobs out there. I really am stuck and need some opinions/advice from you all that have made the leap from IC to employee or employee to IC. I feel I am at a dead end being an IC, but yet I need the flexibility to some extent. I don't know what to do. Both companies are considered GOOD ones by MTstars company board criteria. Any and all opinions/advice appreciated. TIA
Dear offended
I would go to the doctor and tell him exactly how you feel. You are completely justifed in feeling offended - you were in a sense stabbed in the back.
Since you will be less productive while you are training this person, you need to let the doctor why. That way, if the office manager tries to criticize you for being less productive, you know that the cardiologist understands why.
That is why I like working at home - no office politics. Had more than my share of that kind of obnoxious behavior in the past.
Dear thinking........
Could not resist bringing this to the top and to the attention of anyone wanting to get into this business. Be sure the following applies before even getting involved in an on-line course or any "schooling"
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I did not read your original post - but you definitely hit the nail on the head as far as MTs go. Most that I have dealt with on these boards, as well as those I have worked with are either alcoholics, drug addicts, have numerous personal/personality disorders and problems and most are just downright crazy - I think that is the first thing that you have to be in order to go into this business. They do not work well with others and are constantly trying to sabotage their co-workers - even if they work at home. Stealing and lying are not beneath most that I have dealt with. I considered myself quite a normal person until I got into this field and now anyone will tell you that I am not that person any longer. I think that listening to the depressing reports about illness, surgery and death takes its toll on you after a few years and is somehow ingrained into your psyche. I don't know if it could be called an MT phenomenon or what - but MTs are definitely a breed of their own. For any child that gets a check mark for doesn't get along well with others - they should be directed to this field for their life's work. please take this with a grain of salt - I have not had my afternoon medications yet. |
Dear Doctor
Yes, I realize that somebody mispelled that word one time about 10 years ago. But really, it is not necessary to continue to spell that word EACH AND EVERY TIME YOU DICTATE FROM HERE TO ETERNITY! I assure you, we have it now, and if we didn't spell check would catch it. Thank you for your cooperation.
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