Calm down
Posted By: Patti on 2006-07-19
In Reply to: I am FURIOUS and need advice...pronto - totally not MT related...sm
If your husband told you about it, he is not hiding anything. He could have not told you if you don't ever see the phone bill or his cell phone. If you get so upset he will being to hide things. It is not your place to call this woman, should you run into her you could say something but again you don't know the entire story. Though it does sound a little questionable, perhaps there was a legitimate reason she was calling your husband's friend. If you jump in too soon without all the facts you could turn out to be the fool. You have to keep the communication open betwen you and your husband and don't jump down his throat. Now don't think that I am one of those that just takes anything and everything from a husband as my husband was cheating, I caught him and divorced him but I don't think that this is the situation here and you cannot control the issue and calling this lady will only add flames as it is none of your business. But your husband also has to step aside and tell the two of them that if they are going to involve themselves in an affair, he will have no part of it by lying for his friend or covering for him. But again, he told you about it when he did not have to and that speaks for itself but if you continue to react like this he won't. You know what ASSUME means. Take a deep breath and go on with life.
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Oh Calm Down Already!
Of course it's not a difficult field to get into, but dear it takes more than skills. Like nursing, it takes formal training! When are you willy nillys going to learn that? And a flying monkey? A flying monkey could become a nurse and a doctor and an attorney "with a little training." Ha.
Don't Get Mad, Get Calm
This girl is a wacko and you should just act like she is not even alive. Yes, that's what I said, act like she is not even alive. She is beyond wacked and from your comments (assuming they are all true) there is nothing anyone can say to make any relationship with her approach anything near normalcy, and in fact it will approach the nightmare category. So to jumpstart your "hindsight" intuition (hmmmm, here's what I should have done in the beginning with this broad!), just ignore her. She won't go away, but you do not need to interact with her. Don't apologize, don't justify, don't explain yourself away (onto their deaf ears). Like I said, she is just plain wacked in the head.
Calm down.
The time to refuse a job is before you accept it, not afterward. If you accept the work in the morning, the company has every right to expect it will be done. If you have another account that pays more then come along and want your service, that in no way relieves you of your first obligation, that being the work you took in the morning.
The person who seems to have nerve is the person who thinks that can accept work and then not complete it.
Here's an example that has nothing to do with MT but will illustrate the point just the same. You hire a painter to paint your living and he says yes, I'll be there on Monday morning. You make the accommodations necessary, expecting him to come and paint on Monday. He shows up, opens the paint can and starts to work. His cell phone rings around 10:00 and he's offered a job that pays more than you. According to your line of thinking, he's perfectly justified in leaving your job unfinished to work for someone else who pays more. When do you get your job finished? Does it ever get finished? Are you happy with the reason given? Are you likely to hire them again?
So, if anybody in this discussion has "nerve", it would be you. Until you're the employer, don't pretend to know what you're talking about.
Calm down my dear
Now don't be getting yourself so worked up you smear that beautiful red lipstick off your lips.
Actually, I am perfectly calm as well, but
people on this board seem rude and ready to jump on anyone for anything.... no wonder I rarely come here.
Easy now, calm down, it
was just an observation.
re your calm down statement...sm
 Awful presumptive of you to assume I was not calm...just due to a few extra question marks? As an American, I think it's safe to say that plenty here would kill first and ask questions later......I'm not that way.
I happen to be very calm and very rational.....
You need to chilll out and calm down -sm
you are being way too hard on yourself. I doubt any MT is 100% perfect 100% of the time. I know I am not. I know I am good though but that I do make mistakes sometimes. My mistakes are generally her instead of here, that is my big one, that sort of stuff. I know some slip through but I don't beat myself up about it. I proof as I type then take a quick look at the whole report when I am done, I am more thorough in my proofing with letters though. Where I work there is no QA, we direct submit to the client though at first another MT does check our work then we are cut loose to direct submit, generally a week or so at the most. If they feel we are not able to do that, you are let go, simple as that. Sounds like you are just putting too much pressure on yourself, yes you want to submit good error-free work but you have to cut yourself a little slack too. This is a hard line of work to be in if you are a perfectionist. Try to learn somehow not to be so hard on yourself, do the best that you can, maybe do a few reports then go back and check them after you get a few done, take a look at with fresh eyes if you can. Good luck.
Try to stay calm. I know the feeling. Been there
believe me. Now, what about this? If you know for sure you are getting paid on the 10th and it will cover the rent, send your landlord a postdated check for the 10th or 11th if you need the $$ to clear your account. Send it via certified mail - couple bucks to protect you - type up a nice letter explaining your situation - that you just started several new jobs and that unbeknownst to you, or without your being aware of it, your pay would not start coming in until the 10th. Be honest - and giving him the postdated check shows your intent. But write clearly in the letter that the check is postdated, that you do not have the funds available should he cash it/deposit it now, but that it will be there on the 10th, or 11th. This worked for me. It happens, and one of the major reasons I am afraid to try a new job. I did about a year ago, and it messed me up royally. For those of us who live paycheck-to-paycheck, it can be pretty dangerous to change jobs. Good luck to you. Please keep us posted. By the way, lots of folks think postdated checks are illegal. In most cases they are not, as long as you notify as above. If he tries to cash it early, you will get insufficient funds charge, etc., but that's better at this point than eviction, right? And as long as you notified him via proper letter and certified mail, he can't claim he didn't know the funds weren't there.
Sept 5 - have a calm August up ahead - sm
the last 2 months have been nuts with Dr. appts (eye, dentist, oncologist, regular checkups); only have 2 scheduled this month, yeah, and only 1 weekend trip. Try to do some local stuff in the remaining month we have though if we don't fry first. Hit 100 today here in VA (NE of Richmond); it's 99 now and 5:30 p.m. NUTS!!!
Calm down now. I'm just saying the roll works out much more economically for my needs...
I double checked and it's $52 including shipping for 5016 labels (8-1/2 x 1). That's equal to 456 sheets (8-1/2 x 11) or $0.1140 per sheet. Two of your boxes (250 x 2 = 500 sheets) x $28.70 per box is $57.40. That's $0.1148 per sheet plus your time cutting each of those little notes apart. I just print off the sheet and the office separates each note without the chance of losing a little 1" paragraph somewhere before it got to the med rec dept. I have absolutely no problem with curl, as the roll core is fairly large and I use a paper towel dispenser for quick dispensing. Six of one, half dozen of another. The gal from Med Arts Press is the one I was really speaking about. Their prices are nasty. Only if you want custom colors and then I'd go to Compulabel before MAP. And BTW I wasn't trying to step on toes, just trying to help save somebody a buck. Your welcome.
Please calm down. Minor MRI findings are usually accompanied by (sm)
the message, "Correlate with clinical history." Radiologists don't know the patient' history in detail. They are often noting findings that can't be interpreted without knowing the patient. That's why radiologists will so rarely talk to patients; they aren't your doctor and aren't able to match findings with symptoms and clinical findings. I suspect, but can't know, that your MRI is perfectly normal ... FOR YOU. Let your MD mull it all over. If he/she is not certain, he'll send you to a specialist.
it was a typo. No one is disputing that exclamation is correct. calm down.
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calm, simple, short repetitious answers
"I have to work, I'm on a schedule, I'm still working, I'm clocked in";
and....repeat.
Really - calm down. My MRI had me having lung cancer with metastases to lymph nodes sm
guess what - they were inflammatory active lymph nodes and not cancer at all. I am 40 years old, healthy, and was in shock when I got my MRI report. It really does depend on how experienced the radiologist is that is reading your study. Some really "over-read" studies, especially the new docs.
Needless to say, I went through all those emotions thinking "oh my gosh, I'm gonna die in a few months and leave my kids and my husband behind." This went on for 2 weeks until I had to have a medistinoscopy. I only had that done for my own peace of mind. I have 3 specialist radiologist look at my films and all said, it was probably just reactive inflammatory lymph nodes, but after hearing the "cancer" the first time - I just wanted them biopsied to know for sure so I can sleep at night.
Everything turned out fine - just as you will see - yours will probably turn out fine.
Many, and I mean many films are "over-read"!
Look on the brighter side of things - at least the Impression didn't say "metastatic lung cancer or liver cancer." Just slightly top-normal size liver and probably 99% of the American population are walking around with the same "normal" finding.
Just got it today. Just stopped pacing to try to calm down. Didn't work. See inside---
The cover story should be posted on their online site within a month or so for those who do not receive the printed version as well.
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