Boyfriend is a contractor
Posted By: alani on 2006-03-09
In Reply to: What do your husbands do? - 41F
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Boyfriend who is depressed.
A great therapist I used to work for would tell folks in your situation, that you ARE not trained in counseling, therefore, you can not help him in the way he needs. It's just not your job so to speak. Go easy on yourself, it sounds like you have been very supportive, you now just need to decide how long your willing to do so.
You should take the boyfriend out of the equation. sm
I don't understand what you mean financially you can't leave? I'm a single mother (divorced) with twin boys age 11. My net income is about 2,000 a month and I get child support of $500.00 a month. I'm sorry but the phrase "I stayed because of the kids" is no good. I do believe you need an emergency fund.
My daughter is 10 also and just had her first boyfriend...
I was very upset about it at first. At my friend's suggestion, I sat down with my little girl and asked her exactly what she thought it meant to have a boyfriend. I asked her if they would be holding hands, if they would be kissing. She was shocked and a little embarrassed, but I'm glad we had that talk because I don't think it occurred to her that he might expect those things.
I also made it very clear that young relationships last days, not years. So, when he broke up with her after 27 days (she counted) she wasn't all that shocked and probably took it better than she would have if we hadn't talked about it.
Horizontally, but my boyfriend has to cut his off and eat it
He had his two front teeth knocked out as a teenager playing baseball. They fixed his teeth, but he can't bite down into anything like that...corn on the cob, apples, etc. So he cuts it off with a knife and eats it.
Please help with "discussion" with boyfriend (argument)
Boy, I love that this board is available. I'm an IC and only have catastrophic insurance so there's no mental health access available for me.
Anyway, here it is:
1. I've noticed over the years that my boyfriend has periods of what seems to be a depression. It impacts his treatment of me, it then kind of upsets our routine and, of course, it upsets me. It seems that NOTHING I do or say can get him out of it. In fact, the perkier or more cheerful I try to be, the more he withdraws (I must pretty get annoying, too, do ya think? with all that perkiness). So I just try to stay out of his way and it usualy doesn't last more than about 10 days, usually more like 3-4. Sometimes he can go up to as long as a month or two without one of these episodes.
2. When I try to talk to him about my concerns he generally goes into a denial thing. It's usually a given, with him, that anything wrong in our relationship or even sometimes in his relationships with others, is absolutely my fault, but that's another story. So when I mention casually or carefully that he seems down, is everything all right it kind of makes him get mad and aggressive and usually he will say "yeah, WHY?" kind of in an ugly way. So as I said, usually I say nothing. On occasion, he has admitted that he gets down at times but that's all he'[ll say, and then later he doesn't seem to remember that he admitted this.
3. A while back I approached him about his depressed mood and he got kind of defensive. I mentioned that he acts particularly down around his brother and that his brother had said that he noticed he seemed depressed quite a bit lately and thought he was "suicidal" although I think the brother was just kind of exaggerating on the suicidal thing. I only mentioned the brother commenting on his being down because, as always, my boyfriend usually denies any problem, and says it just my making things up.
4. Today my boyfriend got very angry that I had told him that his brother said he thought he seemed depressed - what kind of a girlfriend would mention something like that. I said "a caring one" and should I just "pretend nothing is wrong" and no one else sees this either? I said it wasn't meant to be an attack but a reaching out. A couple other folks have seen my boyfriend in his depressed state and commented on it also (I have never told him that). I said one of the reasons I mentioned his brother's comment was because he always negates what I say, tells me it's basically all in my head, nothing is wrong with him....blah-blah-blah.
5. He asked me how I would feel if my family talked to HIM about them thinking I was depressed. I said I would be touched and concerned and most of all would feel like they really cared about me. I certainly wouldn't be enraged. He says I am lying about that. He said it over and over that I couldn't possibly feel that way. I said that depression is not like calling someone dishonest or cruel, that it's out of that realm completely. That when people ask about how you are doing that they care about you. He laughs cruelly at me when I say these things. He also says this has driven a wedge into our relationship, that he can't trust me and that all I want to do say mean things about him. I say "huh, what in the heck are you talking about?"
6. Incidentally his sister committed suicide after cycles of depression for many years. The family knew she had problems but didn't really get involved or try to contact her or do an intervention in the weeks before her suicide. Most of all, they didn't talk to each other about what was going on either. I was thinking this was perhaps family tradition to turn away from highly charged emotional issues? I don't know, as I said, I don't operate like that. I'm more from the school of "hey, there it is - let's talk about it. But everytime I try to talk about it he denies it or tells me I'm lying.
HELP!!!!
No way, my DD has JUST started going in cars w/boyfriend. nm
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DJ AM, nicole Richie's ex boyfriend
He's got a real manly look about him that must makes me melt!
My boyfriend ordered me flowers last week from....sm
1-800-flowers but they dropped the ball and still haven't delivered. They sent him an e-mail at 6:30 last night stating that they wouldn't deliver as promised yesterday and we've both had a lot of problems getting through to a "human" to get this resolved. They still haven't been delivered and it's now 1:15 p.m. the day AFTER Valentine's Day. So much for ordering ahead and paying an extra "delivery guaranteed on time" fee.
My daughter met her boyfriend on Myspace. He's an wonderful guy.
Be careful, yes, but don't automatically assume that everyone on a specific site is out to do harm. It just isn't so.
My boyfriend who is a school bus driver now makes more than me...
by $1.00 an hour. Only because they have a union, I guess, because the trend now would be to make them slave labor, as well....but their union holds on by a thread...
I have been an MT for over 14 years, started in the hospitals making what I make now, and am now working for a company (top of the line in the business) who says to stay competitive the MT pay has been cut. I was told to work more hours to make up the difference.
This is no longer a profession, and I think if we are suddenly required to be certified (which the AAMT is pushing very hard), I would highly contest this as I no longer consider myself a professional. We get paid only per line, lose our health benefits, if we do not work a required amount of hours, and are treated as laborers, not professionals.
Does anyone know, if any other 'professions' require certification for nonhourly positions, no guaranteed work, and no real long-term job security...
For myself, I can barely pay my rent now, there is no way I could afford a certification.
In other words, I would be expected to act as a professional, but would never ever be treated as one. I mean, what would WE get out of it?
Does anyone care anymore about people. When I first started working at 14, every job I ever had employees were always treated like they mattered...and were the heart of the job, the old 'we are nothing without the employees' - that is all thrown out like trash now and the mantra is we are nothing, we do not matter, we can be replaced, shut up and just do your work, your paycheck is your reward. What a bunch of crap and what a way to keep people down.
I was in shock when I saw my paycheck, and my boyfriend is making a whole dollar more an hour than I am...and that was a good, full 2 weeks of work for me, with the most lines I have typed since being with this company.
Can you imagine...
my boyfriend's union has helped him to be laid off 6 months this year already...
Sure Union's PROTECT the workers... okay that's fine. but they also do plenty of other stuff that is not cool with me. I like the idea of them getting paid a good amount for what they do, but then there are times when if something happens on a job, for example, two workers get in a fight, they may get fired from that particular job, but re-hired with another one that hires union workers. It makes no sense. Obviously I see the point of unions so workers are not taken advantage of... but like someone else posted, someone would sneak away to sleep during her job with the union. I mean, have you seen DOT workers? Cal Trans ? i dont think I EVER see them working and I'm gonna guess they are a union (although I can't be sure).
For sure transcription needs something, but I don't think a union is it. Although I don't think we will ever have anything to protect or help us... too little "higher up" people know the problem.
sitting in my computer room, typing away when my boyfriend at the time, called me from work. nm
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What actions can I/should I take when contractor will not pay?
I did some IC'ing for a company, and they have not sent my $ yet for the last 2 invoices. They say they are going to send it around the end of the week, but just in case, I want to know what steps I should take because I WILL get my $ one way or the other. They are located in Houston, Texas. Does anyone know about the court system there and what are your opinions on what the next step should be for me before I sue them--which I do plan on doing if I do not receive my $ by early next week. I do not want to waste a lot of time waiting. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated.
Independent contractor here (sm)
How about you?
Contractor vs Employee
I've asked this before, but now have new problems and am hoping to get some advice. I've been working at home for a small clinic (one physician). Her husband, who is the doctor's husband, let me go due to physical problems that kept me from doing some additional duties they needed me to do; also, my not being a "team player"--not enthusiastic about the extra duties. So I'm at home with no contract now for about 1-1/2 months. The OM didn't think it was necessary--he said "we trust you!!" The OM calls me on the weekends or nights with requests or questions, and messages get increasingly snippy if I don't return his calls ASAP. This week I had a job interview out of town, because I cannot live on my current income (approx $850.00/month gross). I informed the office I was going out of town. During the time I was gone, less than 24 hours, he called three times and sent an email. It wasn't anything that could not have waited until I returned and responded to one of the phone calls or email. I feel like an offsite employee (with no benefits) rather than an independent contractor!
How should I handle this? Probably, as my daughter tells me, I should just put up with it until I can find another job. Any experience with a similar situation? Thanks--
First, were you an employee or contractor?
This will make a difference. If you were not an employee, you did not earn wages so it would not be reported.
Second, if you feel that is in error, contact your local Employment Security Division and explain that situation. If you have paycheck stubs for that time period, take them with you.
Let us know how it turns out!
Independent Contractor
This is the form that all ICs have to use for their taxes and I can't find the answer anywhere. .Thanks.
IC = independent contractor
I think you meant employee not IC as a subcontractor and IC are the same.
Independent Contractor
In the contract I was considered an Independent Contractor, so labor laws, etc. do not apply to me. According to the PA Labor and Industry Board my only option is to take them to small claims court in PA, and I live in CA, so that would be difficult and costly at best... I just mean there are restrictions that apply to me because of my Independent contractor status...
Independent contractor
I am hesitant to take that giant leap into being totally an IC. I have an IC position now and my boss has offered it to me FT and he lets you work as much as you want. Basially I try to keep somewhat of a decent schedule. I also work for a large outsource company. I can make more money as an IC and have checked on a zillion insurance companies, all about the same. I have never been without health insurance doing transcription and that is what scares me especially since I am older.
One friend has quit this company that we work for already. It is such a struggle to get line count especially since they do not pay for "S".
Do any of you IC people that might work for a smaller outsouce company regret being an IC? I know that one has to be organized and set aside money for taxes but I feel that mentally I would be happier if I would just take the dive. I have worked this PT position for 4 years and the boss is great to work for and he tells you all of the time he appreciates your work which one very seldom hears and he also has good bonus money for working holidays if you want and even gets you a Xmas gift which is very nice and he really is thoughtful and I know we make him lots of money, but he is lucky to have dedicated girls too.
I am thinking that I need the mental change and I will be doing the work type I love to do and that is OPs. I have just lost my drive, motivation of going to work everyday for this national company and I just cannot seem to get beyond that barrier no matter how much I have tried. We run out of work, too many people on accounts, then have to sit and wait. My time is valuable just like theirs. My doc wanted to put me on Lexapro and I took three and then I got to thinking I am not going to let my old hospital drive me crazy and depressed and I quit taking the Lexapro. I need to focus on another goal right now. I feel like Eagle Eyes are watching me all of the time. The only thing holding me back is I have medical insurance with this other place but since being there I have only reached the 800 lines a day goal a few times and it took me about 10 hours to do that which is awful. It seems like you type forever and get nowhere. I have lost my speed and I very seldom get to do OPs anymore. I used to do 30 a day at least.
I want to enjoy life a little more and there are other jobs out there that do pay much better than I am making taxes or no taxes to fool with. I have done this type of work for 29 years and maybe I am at that burnout point and just need a fresh change. I really think I need a fresh start so to speak. Thanks for letting me vent. Any feedback will be helpful. I do not have any small children, all grown so I am very very flexible.
Is it worth being an IC, bottom line????
Independent contractor
I have worked for this PT company for 4 years and he has always paid on time, never a problem with paycheck and I personally knew him when he was a salesman for Lanier, so I am comfortable with him.
It is a big step to take and he a 5-year contract with hospital so there is plenty of work. I am a pretty organized person, but if it was not for that darn insurance. Someone told me that the company that I am working for FT will have open enrollment in November and they are changing to a new insurance but you have to be producing 1000 lines a day to qualify. With their platform it takes around a 10-hour work day just to get to the 800 lines. That is what we all thought, 800--no problem. Boy did we have a rude awakening, everyone is struggling. It basically boils down to how much of a hassle for doing own taxes very peace of mind and get back to what I really like to do without someone "dinging for every little comma, semicolon, hyphen and incorrect verbage. I am a good MT but here lately I am beginning to doubt just about everything I type and I am always having my head in the BOS. I have been doing this for 29 years, but I do feel like I am just coming out of English class and just a newbie which is not a good feeling at my age and exp. I want to like to do my job but right now not feeling that. Thanks for input all.
independent contractor
It's like being self-employed. You don't get taxes deducted from your paycheck. You have to do it yourself. You are also supposed to be able to set your own hours, although some companies still make you work a shift.
So, if you hire an independent contractor to sm
paint your house, do you do a criminal background check on that person. It's the same thing. Independent contractors are just that.
If you are an independent contractor, you are not an employee so the
rule of thumb is that pay should be made to the employee within 30 days from the date of resignation. If, however, you signed a contract that says specifically that half of you pay can be held until say equipment is returned, etc., then you may have to abide by that. The company may just want to make sure they get their equipment back.
IC meaning independent contractor?
As far as I know...no...for independent contractor, they do not have to pay any benefits or even take out SS, so I would think it would be MORE not less for IC. Someone correct me if I am wrong.
Employee vs Independent Contractor
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Independent contractor status
Don't forget, though, as an independent contractor, you will be paying 100% of your social security tax, which accounts for somewhere around 15% of your gross income. You have to factor that into the equation. Working employee or statutory status makes it mandatory for the employer to pay half of your social security tax; being independent makes you 100% responsible. Also, you are responsible for sending in quarterly tax statements/payments, whereas as an employee, your company owner does that for you. I would want to factor all these things in and allow enough to take care of the social security at least.
This is confusing. An independent contractor IS
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As an Independent Contractor, you set your own rate.
then you are not truly an independent contractor. How she bills a client has nothing to do with how you bill her.
Statutory MT/Independent contractor
Does anybody know of companies that still hire Statutory or independent contractors? Since I take the standard deduction on my personal taxes I can no longer deduct my MT expenses and that's a major ouch. Thanks for any help.
You are not an independent contractor, if you only have one client.
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starting as independent contractor/need help!
I'm going to be able to return to work very part time since my disability is getting a bit better. I have an offer to work as an independent contractor, probably not making more than 12 grand per year.
This will be my first time being a contractor and I'm boggled after reading the IRS info on the site. Do I need to file for a taxpayer ID# or can I just use my Social Security number? I think I can wade through paying the taxes, etc, but may have an accountant do this initially.
Thank's in advance, Becca.
independent contractor lunches
can i deduct lunches as a business expense?
For those "Indenpendent Contractor" positions...
For U.S. MTs and U.S. MT companies, here are the basic U.S. Dept of Labor definitions of who is and is not an "Independent Contractor":javascript:editor_insertHTML('text','');
http://www.dol.gov/esa/whd/regs/compliance/whdfs13.pdf
Yes, but are you employee or independent contractor?
There's a difference. When I had a job as an IC, I had to pay all my own equipment, software, references, phone, internet, utilities, self-employment taxes at 15.9%, etc. No insurance, no retirement unless I paid for private plans. No holiday pay. In fact, no days off at all!
I'm glad you're happy. I'd be happy to have a job paying $11.50 an hour, but I can't even get an interview! There are 800 people competing for one job if you check out the job board ads.
My spouse and I together are down to maybe $1,000 a month now in income when we used to gross $5,600 a month. Time for welfare, I guess. Can't get unemployment being a contractor. Cripes, Walgreens won't even hire me.
Independent Contractor vs. Small Business?
I am negotiating a contract with a clinic to be one of two transcriptionists. I have typed for this clinic for several years as a sub-contractor, but the current contract holder is not renewing the contract. The clinic's lawyer is not comfortable with "Independent contractor" as the contract would be for one year and for the usual questionable definition of an IC.
I tried to research this and just became more and more confused.. so I hope I can get a little advice here.. I do not want to be employed by the clinic - I prefer to be self-employed. Do I make myself a small business and get a license? I do plan to meet with my accountant to ask some questions, but I was hoping to get a little info here so that I would not sound completely stupid! (Doesn't seem as bad to sound stupid here rather than in person!) I am used to getting a 1099 and paying self-employment tax.
Are you an Independent contractor or a small business? I do not plan to have any employees..I just want to type for this clinic and get paid! THanks!
IC contractor out of state where company is, how to file
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Not sure how to file taxes... Work in PA, IC to IL, do I have to file taxes in IL?? Any help on this I appreciatejavascript:editor_insertHTML('text',' ');
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independent contractor kinda sorta....nm
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Independent Contractor/Taxes Question
If you are IC and you live in California and the company you work for is in New York, which state do you claim your taxes with?? The state you live in or the state of the company that you work for?
Thanks!
Employee + set hours. Independent contractor
do the work at your convenience. Within reason, yes. As long as the work is done by the deadline. But if you are partying it up or visiting friends or whatever and don't meet your deadline, then you have broken your end of the contract. Yes, ICs DO have a responsibility, even though you seem to think they don't. There is a deadline to be met. It is completely irresponsible to be doing OTHER things and not meet your work deadline. As an IC, when you agreed to do the account you agreed to keep up your end and have the work done by a certain time. If you don't want to do that, the MTSO can and will find someone who will.
What if you hire a roofer? Is it okay with you if he just puts your roof on whenever he gets around to it? Or is it okay for him to put it off if there's something else he'd rather do? I think you know the answer to that.
Are you venting as a patient or as an employee/contractor? -nm
Statutory Employee vs. Independent contractor
I work for company "A" as an IC. I work on Dictaphone ichart platform. I make 9 cents a line. Good accounts. Good managers. I have been offered a job as a statutory employee with company B, still on dictaphone, still 9 cents a line. Is justifiable to make a lateral move to company B just for the sake of being an employee? Tell me pros and cons please! Thank you!
OK. I will. Get your own accounts & truly be an independent contractor. Set your own rates. nm
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How to find legitimate work as an independent contractor?
I work about 25 hours per week for a company, making 7.5 cpl. I'd like to try supplementing with some IC work to try to make more per line. How do you go about scouting out legitimate work?
Thanks...
she did say IC lunches as in contractor/client business related network.nm
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14.00/hr for radiology private contractor job/PT, internet based. Good dictation.
When he said we pay by the hour not the line, I was unprepared to give him my fee! I typed for these rads when I worked at the hospital so know them well. About two hours per day of work for their outpatient imaging center (MRIs, CTs, mammograms, ultrasounds).
Thanks!
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