Bawling....

Posted By: typnqueen on 2006-01-31
In Reply to: Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.

He backed out on the deal you had, now he is being abusive.

I'm not yelling, but you need to get out NOW. By staying after he has hit you or verbally used you, you are telling him that it is okay to do those things. You are also telling your children that it is okay for Daddy to be mean to Mommy. How safe do you think they feel? If Mommy doesn't stand up for herself, why would she stand up for me?

If you are doing MT work at home, move back to your family if you will find support there (my family would be the last place I would look for or find support). You can do work-at-home MT from anywhere.

You know what you need to do. Take care of yourself and your kids - get out.

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Bawling my eyes out. - Starting over.
- RESCUE YOURSELF - nowarrants
- Bawling.... - typnqueen
- Please, please leave him - TwinLessTwin
- don't be hard on yourself for the - dcc
- There are transitional living houses available to help. - Dianna Lazan
- Should I leave? - Jann
  - See message. - OP - Starting over.
    - This is really none of my business, and I know that, - holy cow
      - Oops..came out wrong...I meant it ain't always possible to stay in a marriage - holy cow
      - I made my business your business by posting and... - OP - Starting over.
        My dear, we ALL have things which - holy cow
    - Believe me, you are neither weak or small. - wannie
- Please forgive me if this has already been said... - Little Ace
- Starting over you have a lot of good advice below on..sm - 2teens
- I just wanted to be sure you all saw my... - Starting over
  - Please keep in mind (sm) - me
    - That is an excellent point. I also have another question for all of you. - Starting over
      - What I don't understand is your statement about (sm) - me
        I totally know you're right... - OP - Starting over.
        Start calling some of those help numbers and pose these - MT
      - And how many more concessions are you going to make for him? - MT
      - Um, if he were all that religious, he wouldn't be abusing you sm - MT
      - Religion isn't going to save your marriage. He's an abuser. You need to leave before he harms - & children permanently. nm
      - IMO - no. If he hits you once, he will hit you again. It will not matter what religion you believe - Just Me
        I disagree with both of these and hope the OP reads this too. - JMO
        To JMO - typnqueen
        He has hit her again after saying he won't. sm - MT
- adding my 2 cents - sm
- The easy part is making the decision to leave, the hard part is - MI-MT
- Thank you everyone. (sm) - Starting over.
  - You're starting out well... - TiredMT
    - Big Thank You to "JMO" & "Tired MT" - Starting over
  - You'd be doing him a favor as well. - Seen this a million times
    - I posted before and it was removed. (no message) - I still think this is rude
- I was in a similar situation a few years ago, I got divorced. nm - INMT
- Get marital counseling for the sake of your children. - No mystery here
- Distance is a big plus - Josette
- You already know what to do! Just do it. sm - MT-MOMMY
- Starting over - BTDT
- Your keywords are "physically abusive to us all." Get out!!! - BTDT
- Don't cry anymore...get out as soon as possible. - flutterby
- You have a lot going for you... - wc
- Don't be afraid. Use the law to your advantage. SM - Blu
- just my opinion - jwhitman
- I think you know already know what you need to do. - MT3
- I fear what the future holds too... - MT2
- Verbally and physically abusive to all of you -- sm - MT
  - Please consider leaving - anon

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Bawling my eyes out.
My husband is the BIGGEST JERK on the planet. I have been out of transcription for a few years having children and he has been working nights. We had agreed that I would go back to work after my 3-year-old gets into school (two more years). Recently, however, he decided he is tired of working and quit his job. I took a job and just started last week. He is already complaining that I'm not making enough money. I'm just so frustrated. My family and friends are ready for me to leave me, but I have three kids under 7 and I'm scared to death. I know I could support us, but I fear what the future holds, so it keeps me here. He is verbally and physically abusive to all of us and I know better than this. Please don't yell at me. I'm looking for some support. My family lives very far away. I'm sorry to dump this here, but you are all transcriptionists too and I thought maybe someone had a similar situation and could suggest something for me. Thanks.