As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
Posted By: Mom o' 3 on 2005-08-22
In Reply to: To all you parents of student athletes - sm - Heartbroken!
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
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Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
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Cook it real slow at real low heat; simmer, don't boil.
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ok-could be your parent for sure...LOL...sm
32 !!! A mere babe in arms *S* and yes, old enough here to be YOUR MOM!!! Too funny!!! 
Well, I am the parent and I run my house sm
My kids are told to speak only when spoken to, and if they talk back in anyway, I smack them in the mouth. Granted, they are teens and not toddlers. In their teens, they try to push it to the limit no matter what situation. My kids know not to push!
I am a foster parent of 3, have been for about
a year and a half now. I would highly recommend you try to place you children with family or a good friend before turning to the state. After seeing how the system works, IMO, it is not a very good one. I would hate to see you lose your kids because you asked them for help. Two of my FC are about to get terminated from their parents, their mother of which put them in care for "help" and is now going to lose her kids.
There are many, many programs out there to help you. I'm not sure how long you have been married or really what the situation is but given the fact that you are considering this for children tells me you are a decent person because you don't want them on the street. Call a family member or a friend and ask if you and the children can stay with them. You might have to consider placing (or leaving) your husband somewhere else until you can get back up on your feet.
Go to your local welfare office, they might be able to get you something short-term. Try, try hard to keep your family together.
God bless you and your family. I hope things turn out and the world seems like a better place. Just know that we are all hear praying for you!
I think she is very much a good parent, and I don't
see how she is treating them as pets.
Ok, she was a parent when she got involved w/ a
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Why would a grown
woman think that what you are doing is fun? What is wrong with you?
It's not a parent's job to entertain their children 24/7.
Back in the olden days, parents AND children did chores from morning until night. They didn't play, go to the movies, own electronics or do ANYTHING fun. Chores, chores, chores all day long. The kids worked right alongside their parents. Church on Sunday. They didn't have neighborhood kids parading through the house without an invitation. They might have gone on an occasional picnic or square dance, but that's it. Children aren't supposed to be in charge. Parents aren't supposed to entertain their children 24/7 and give in to their every whim. At least her kids are having fun instead of being left home ALONE with a list of chores to do while Ma and Pa go to town for supplies.
A parent's job is to raise a child but....
I've been in that boat, too. Chore lists didn't help. Taking anything away didn't help. Holding their allowance didn't help. Going on strike didn't help. All I ended up was triple the work.  . It was their job to bring in wood for the stove to keep warm. I left the fire go out one night. That got their attention when they woke up and it was only 50 degrees in the house (pretty warm considering it was 0 outside). Never had to worry about heat anymore, but the other stuff....well...
At that time, I held down 2 full time jobs and 1 job at home typing college books part time. (I was young, so could handle it). Well, one day I sat them down and told them that if they EVER wanted to go out on their own, they would have to know how to clean, wash clothes, iron, cook, etc. I taught them how to cook the basics. I showed them how to do everything else. Well, they still didn't pitch in....didn't know what else to do so I left all their stuff alone. Stopped doing their wash and closed their bedroom door. Ignored them when they asked for something like they did me.
My guys all went out on their own between age 18-21. You should have seen their place. Spotless and they did it all themselves. Now that they are all married, my boys cook meals for their wives at least once or twice a week. They help their wives clean and do all the stuff I wish they would have done at home. But, you know what? That's fantastic. I know I taught them something that stayed with them and all my DIL's love me for it. 
Now, all I have to do is get hubby trained. I'm still supermom to him even though he often states "I don't know how you do it all."
My opinion is not to worry about it. If they are embarrassed, they may do something. If not, then when their friends come around, just mention, "I'm sorry the house is such a mess but since I work 2 jobs, I just don't have time to do everything else." They might get the message then.
Have become a single parent...how to survive
Hello.
First, I want to apologize if this is not on the right board. I wasn't sure where to put it.
Second, I am not looking for pity...just advice.
I have two wonderful children (a 5 year old and a 5 month old) who are my life and because of that I have left there father (verbally abusive to everyone) to make a better life for all of us. I am a new MT (have only been in the business for 4 months now and make enough to pay rent but that is all. With an infant it is hard to work during the day so I start my work around 7pm and work until it is done. I am not that fast yet but am gaining speed and could handle another small account. Can anyone tell me how they have made single parenting work as an MT or have any ideas on how to make it work, please. I am deperate to stay home with them. Honestly, daycare cost would kill my paycheck if I had to work outside of the home and I am trying to stay off of government support.
I appreciate any help or advice I receive.
Thank you.
elder parent care
Of course I feel "responsible", even "obligated" to take care of my aging parents. They took care of me, now it's my turn to give back. However, I'm not in that position right now as my parents are both in their early to mid 60s, so don't require taking care of yet...so who knows how I'll feel when faced with that responsibility. But, I hope that I feel the same way I do now. My husband and I have discussed more than once perhaps buying a larger home with an in-law suite to accommodate our aging parents.
If only more of us would take the responsibility of taking care of our elderly parents, then perhaps we would not hear of some of the horrors that happen to the elderly such as getting bilked out of their life savings, being abused in a nursing home, having accidents while trying to take care of themselves, etc...Thanks for the thought provoking question....have a wonderful day! 
This sounds like a parent talking...
I never want anyone to think I am yelling at them, even if something is a MAJOR no-no.
The above is what the poster wrote. I am not saying that I don't think her approach is good. I am just stating that words like MAJOR no-no are as if she is talking to a child. That's all I was pointing out. I don't like baby talk when it comes to being professional. Do we not strive for professionalism in this business?
So, some of you here like being talked to like a baby? That makes QA so special and great?
A little please and thank you goes a long way. I don't need a QA person to be sugary sweet to get the point. We are adults here.
Yep, even though she's grown and married
, he still gets it anytime he wants it. The molestation has never stopped.
Yes, a daughter, all grown.
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
Yes and grown-ups and do not cry like a baby
over some lost time on a newbie! Business is business. Why cry baby about it on this board! This kind of thing happens every day. People do get better offers and this OP wants to cry baby about some lost time! She should have picked someone who was experienced instead of trying to CLAIM she was helping a newbie! I bet if this all came out in the wash, she was only paying a small cpl and wanted a whole lot! I'd bet she's more upset about the fact that she has to do her own work instead of making more than half on someone else. I just don't think a "grown-up" should make accusations of "people stealing information" or try to slander someone's name simply because they cannot support the account. That kind of thing happens every day. If you feel sorry for this OP, you need help more than me. Misery loves company! I'm bitter, but the OP isn't? Who really needs to get over it? Me or the OP or maybe even you!!! tsk tsk on the OP and you! People quit, people make changes, get better offers, cannot put up with being micromanaged, and that is no reason to slander someone! Making false accusations regarding stealing information can also result in a lawsuit. Poor taste in this OP and I hope I never take a job with her and want to quit for any reason! JMO. 
My children are grown and now
I am still working at home. Get to be grandma now. Don't forget $3 for a gallon of gas also.
A parent's job is to raise a child the way they should go as an adult ....
Isn't part of being an adult cleaning, taking responsibility? If so, YOUR job is to make them clean, certain rooms on certain days, not just during vacations. (I'm at work so this is succinct, and probably not real tactful, sorry)
I don't think it is cruel to admit your remaining parent - sm
into a nursing home. Those that think its terrible are just concerned with appearances I think, that and guilt themselves if they ever thought about it. My mom put her mom in a nursing home after she could not care for herself. My grandma actually thrived there. They got her off all her medication and she was felt a lot better, even got engaged to get married again, but broke it off shortly before she died. We lived in PA and her mom in FL. My mom's (adopted) family thought she was such a terrible person for putting her "mom" in a nursing home. My mom's adopted parents did not treat her well at all, would never tell her much about the adoption when she eventually found out about it in the 1950s (smell of scandel somewhere, this was 1935) and my grandparents never really ever wanted children. Needless to say my mom has a less than ideal childhood but she took care and upheld her "responsibilities". Some people take in their parent(s) because they want to make sure the $$$ if there is any stays in the family (or goes to them). I know that is the wheel turning in my DHs brain about his parents, though he says they would never re-marry after the death of the other. His mom has told me she will not remarry, but you never know do you. I think he is wrong about his dad though, I think his dad would do the exact same thing my dad did, i.e. remarry within a year of the mom/wife passing and say bye-bye to any substantial inheritence on a re-marriage. In my case I will "lose" (my husband's thinking) out on about $140K which my husband deeply resents unfortunately. It has caused a lot of distention in the last 2 years between me and my DH that is. I am cool with my dad, it's his life and money; and I have pointed out to him a zillion times that inheritence is a gift, not a right. But yes, to be honest it is disappointing, but as my DH expects to get close to $1 mil from his parents I think we will survive (in a way I hope they disinherit him). Greed can cause all sorts of problems. Along with responsibility comes motive in some cases. I do not want to take in either of my DHs parents, but his fear/greed will induce him to have whichever one is left move in with us probably in the next 5-10 years (they are 76 and 71 right now). Sad.
I'm a current foster parent in Georgia and...sm
have e-mailed you to contact me so I can answer your questions.
Grown-up daughters - say nothing unless asked. And then don't say too much. nm
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I agree - my kids are grown and gone.
The house looks great, but I do miss the days when they were kids and lived here.
How could a grown man be in love with a child....
but they way she was dressed with the hair and make-up, etc., she looked about 25. Too many perverts out there and he definitely fits the image. I don't know how or who would hire him especially around some kids. He has pervert stamped all over him.
His hair has grown out? Not extensions - NM
NM -
So since YOU don't have to worry about it because your kids are grown
Have you ever ONCE tried to put yourself in someone else's shoes or see something from someone else's point of view? Have you ever, in your entire life, had an open mind about anything?
Apparently not, from what I've seen here.
I understand when the kids are grown, so I started over!
My youngest was turning 17 when I got pregnant with another. I guess it is called empty nest syndrome. I'm now 48 and raising a 7 year old beautiful little girl and I remember when my oldest children were growing up I'd think it was never going to end. Now I wake up every day thinking she is growing up too fast! I sure appreciate her more, now that I've seen how fast they will be gone!
51, female, married, 1 grown daughter
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I agree. Have grown child, but can work during their SM
school hours and in the evening. A split shift is highly productive.
I agree. Sounds like a controlling attention-seeking parent so
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Guess you're not ready for grown up humor then.
BLTs on toasted whole wheat with garden grown tomatoes and lettuce.
home grown lettuce etc salad, topped with chicken breast cooked in
fajita sauce, fried eggplant and fried zucchini along with zucchini/parmesan muffins. I'm stuffed!!
44-year-old WF, M, Texas, 3 grown kids, just had 26 year wedding anv.
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can we clear this up once and for all?
 What does pulling number XX mean ? I noticed now it also says "click on the reply by email link" whereas before it said "click on the blue link" which had me confused also. There were quite a few blue words but no blue link except back to Main Board.
Just to be clear
I have been using NCMT as my screen name on this site for quite some time. I don't know who the other NCMT is that made the post above, but it wasn't me. I personally do not care for Kikki and her negative outlook on everything.
Since it is very clear--sm
That the beloved Ms. Kikki is back and really trying to cause havoc again on this board with her rude comments to everyone, I can only suggest that we do not take her bait and give her fuel for fire. She seems to have it is for a select few on this board and also seems to love to attack what people eat. Maybe if we do not acknowledge her rude comments, she will get tired of it and go away again. Either that, or we all stop posting anything for a day or two and she will have nothing to make rude nasty comments on. Just a thought. If we stick together, maybe we can get her to leave. 
yes there are some that don't even try to be clear
and you can get really fed up sometimes. On the other hand, there are plenty of native speaker doctors who make me mad too! Some of the ESLs are really good. Better a good ESL doc than an American mumbler
Also, was it not clear that...
the site was resold again to someone else? This is old news...
Well that;s clear as mud. nm
Clear something up for me, please...sm
Do you mean editing as in QA, or editing voice/speech recognition work? I thought QA positions were paid hourly. Someone correct me if this is wrong. If you mean editing voice recognition work, then that pay is too low. Actually, it is too low for QA, too, IMO.
You are not clear at all. Look around for what?
She is looking for a macro and you're telling her "it's" a setting somewhere in options or customize. ????? Before you get your dander up again, you might try explaining exactly what she should be looking for.
What are you talking about? Be a bit more clear.
IC? New pay? QA? WTF?
LOUD AND CLEAR
and let us not forget the nonresponsive e-mails when one does inquire as to where their lines are going. Take the old server down here and there and lose 300 LINES A DAY. YES, WE LOVE IT! NOT
Do you want everybody to clear the board for you? sm
Jump in and bring up a topic. :)
I should've been more clear.
I'm saying I'm okay because I have several plans I'm working on and several people are helping me. All it took was calling my parents. My Dad gave me so much confidence and made me remember who I am or used to be. I am going in for some counseling and more planning will take place then. He sold his truck a few weeks ago, so we are down to my truck. He stated that he won't leave without a vehicle. I going to be pushing very hard for him to find one and that will give him more incentive to leave. He has come to realize that we are not a good match. I have neglected to mention that when he is calm, he is actually okay. He was stirred up lately because I contacted my daughter's family for the first time since she was born. I knew this would upset him, but I didn't care. She needed that. I realize that you are all just trying to look out for me and that is why I posted originally. It seems some of you are turning on me and that's okay too. I think I was in panic-mode when I posted the first time and the finer points of what I was saying were missed. The emotional abuse has been worse on me and my kids than the physical. They were not even here yet last time it happened. The incident two weeks ago was because I was forcing a trip to see my daughter's family. He doesn't handle the step-father part very well. I will stop posting if it will make everyone more comfortable, but I did want to acknowledge those of you that helped me clear my head. I will be going to church this weekend. He will be speaking to the minister. He will be on his own if things don't improve with counseling. I may not have all of your support, but the support of my grandparents and my parents is much more important to me. Thanks again. Sorry if I offended anyone's sensibilities. I obviously have. Bye. Jodie :)
Please Clear Up Questions
What brand keyboard do you actually have? I was looking at the Kinesis Maxim and it does not completely come apart but stays hooked at the top.
The problem is when it's not clear
whether it applies to you or not. Such as the statement: "You are leaving too many blanks." How many blanks are "too many?" In what circumstances?
I think it is just a lazy way of supervising - just send it to everyone instead of dealing with the individual culprits.
And, no, I don't consider that "communication."
Isn't it pretty clear?
You say you'll have set hours to work. If your baby needs a didee change or a bottle during those hours, or if he/she's just cranky and needs to be picked up and loved, what are you going to do? If you're a normal mother, you're going to stop working and take care of your child. So that pretty much answers your question, doesn't it.
 I will never understand why some people think they can work at home with an infant. After all, if you worked outside the home and took your infant with you and he needed attention, you'd have to stop your work and tend to him there, so the fact remains, unless one is superhuman, they cannot work and take care of a child at the same time. Pretty clear cut!
your post is not clear - what exactly are you trying to do?
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Thanks for making that clear
I wouldn't want to offend the wrong person. So sorry. but to the other NCMT, I meant every word. :^)
I wasn't clear about that - what I mean was that - sm
more likely than not, they'll get ripped off on their minute-counts, dinged for nonexistent 'mistakes', or have some of their pay 'skimmed', as has been complained about in so very many posts throughout this website, and by too many companies to count. I suppose the truly honest employers in MT can probably be counted on half the fingers of one hand.
You're right about 'weighted' dictators, and it's actually a good thing. I think if a doctor is a difficult dictator to transcribe, he should be weighted, and in addition to paying the MT more to type him, the hospital should be charged more to transcribe him. If it cost them more to have the garbage-work transcribed, maybe somewhere down the road all those ESL doctors right off the boat from somewhere else won't look like such a good deal, after all.
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