Anyone in your life who enjoys seeing you upset -- gets a kick out of it?
Posted By: annoyed..sm on 2006-03-07
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If you say you don't like a certain behavior or comment, it only makes him do it more and more and over many years just to get a reaction long after you have stopped reacting.
Or who is controlling to the point he wants to know when you showered and why do you need to shower if you didn't leave the house.
Or steals your glory, ideas for inventions or any project you start to say it was his idea and really mean it.
Or is extremely macho and needs to dominate the woman in his life or else he feels disrespected by her.
Or breaks things when he tells you to shut up during a discussion that isn't going his way and you don't.
Or….etc. --
But is happy and smiley face when it's time for dinner to be on the table.
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Not upset - everyone makes bad choices in their life at some time or another. sm
No one is perfect. Hopefully, someone will give you a chance and your money and time won't be wasted.
Good luck to you!
Our family enjoys our traditional lasagna Christmas dinner; less fuss, more fun. nm
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Life is life....the haven't bonded the same as if it were a 2-year-old!
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You need to get over this kick you are
on and get it through you 60 pound skull that I am my own person, I am not responding to anything I post. Whether or not you believe it, fine. I have no reason to lie about it. Get a life and a hairbrush.
Why don't you go kick your dog?
Here's what I get a kick out of....sm
I agree with you 100%. I really get a kick out of the people playing "grammar police" who end up having typos in their own messages!
I'd get up and kick my dog if I got that. I like short SM
little tonsillectomies and stuff. :) Keeps me awake.
Yes, but they get such a kick out of being jerks. So
either you don't post or you put up with skipping the trolls and not letting them get to you. For the most part, people on this board are very helpful and friendly. Too bad the others don't just go away!
Probably around $24K if you kick butt - sm
Not too many MTs make $44K; if they do they either work 18+ hours a day or have their own accounts and still work long hours. If you need a steady reliable income you are best staying where you are; or do your current job at home if you can.
Now, could you kick my butt into gear? LOL
 I don't wanna work today. Not sure if it's the rainy weather or if it's just my total lack of motivation!
Someone please give me a swift kick in the
rear end to get me to work. I go on a week long vacation starting Saturday with no kids and today I did about 1/4 of my normal lines and that might be padding it a little bit. I was too busy looking at pictures of where we're going. Did I mention no kids are going with me?
Before I get comments about why'd I have kids if I'm so happy they're not going to be there. I have 3 teens who act 65, two 13yo, 12-year-old and a 2-year-old. Three are hitting puberty and one just hit the terrible 2's. It will be our first vacation w/o kids in a long, long, long time. After only 3 days here my mom is asking why I'm not bald already from pulling my hair out. Now if work could just pay me to sit and look at pictures all day and daydream, I'd have it made.
I do think kindergarten and 1st grade might get a kick out of it.
x
Unfortunately, he really blew it and she really needs to kick him to the curb.
Sorry.
TWO dachsies stay in my lap (unless I kick them out then .....)
I'm MEAN MOMMY :)
I think you ought to kick the creep to the curb and be done with him.
Living life like that isn't living life at all. You need to do what makes you happy. Never, ever, stay together because of the kids. Your kids are probably not the happiest children with the home situation the way it is, and you know that he already doesn't want the responsibility of taking care of your kids, so what's the use in having him hanging around your neck like an albatross?
I was married to a jerk who was very similar to your husband and with 3 children it wasn't easy to manage on my own, but I sure did it and I'm glad I did. It was difficult getting out of my "comfort" (discomfort) zone and make the change, but I knew it had to happen. That was nearly 5 years ago now and I am happier and my children are happier. Dear old dad comes around whenever he feels like it to see the kids and I have his paycheck garnished for child support.
Best of luck to you!
#1-no doctor is going to kick me out of the room
#2 - My daughter has had the guardasil shots and is just fine. It protects again HPV which is one of the most sexually transmitted diseases that can cause cervical cancer.
It seems if these issues concerned you that much, you should take them up with the doctor.
Something else about the Gold Touch.(Should I be getting a kick back from them?)
Something else about the Gold Touch. I have my chair positioned so hands do not point up or down. I try to keep them as neutral as possible. I also make sure my arms are resting on the armrests, so I am not using any strain/tension to keep them in place and even. I rest one arm on a little pillow wedged at my side since my short little arms don't rest on the arm rests in a comfortable position for me. Then I fly. I hardly have to move my hands at all, the fingers do the typing, so to speak. lol.
I need to gripe or vent - please don't kick me off board
I occasionally come on this board, as do some of my coworkers to get help with words, look around, etc. I've never posted but today I'm fuming and frustrated.
I just got done working a couple of extra hours at the hospital this morning, worked all day yesterday (overtime I might add) and do you know what my job has been on all this overtime? Correcting ALL of the outsource's work coming in. What makes me mad is that all of us have been complaining to our boss and even to HER boss about all the mistakes this company makes - terrible dreadful DEADLY mistakes - and all we get back is "there is nothing we can do about it. We signed a contract and we have to continue to use them until the contract ends." Which, by the way, ends in another year or two, I'm not sure. But anyways, this outsource company (who is WELL KNOWN) does not even make an attempt to do our ESL doctors, who are not really that bad. I know there are harder doctors to understand as I have been doing this for 16 years. The service sends the reports back with a ridiculous amount of blanks. We go in and listen to them and basically redo the whole report, to which they get paid for it. Then there are the easy docs - the so-called "hold your hand while I dictate to you" docs - and the service still has mistakes.
Our boss has asked on occasion if they are offshoring, which they swear they are not. It was in the contract that they are not to offshore so they swear they are not and the mistakes don't look like they are offshore mistakes (the hospital used a company prior to this one that offshored - big difference in transcription mistakes).
I just cannot believe that our hospital has had this company for a little over two years and not only are they being paid a ridiculous high line rate, but we are correcting all their reports and they still get paid!! We have asked if we can start deducting lines, but we were told that their contract states that that cannot be done because our boss has tried that.
I have a friend that works at a hospital in another state that had an outsource service that was somewhat like the one we have, only they constantly lost reports and got paid for them, but she just lost her job because the hospital felt that there was no need to have all the overtime for the past year and the outsource service doing the overflow. So they just hired a new outsource company, let all the transcriptionists inhouse go, and got rid of their current outsource service. she is looking around for another job now. She had that job for 9 years at the hospital, and because of the outsource service, the administration of the hospital looked at is as a huge $$ problem and just said bye bye.
I needed to vent. Aaaaahhh, I feel better now, but I'm worried that with all our overtime and what the outsource service gets paid, that I'm going to end up in the same boat. Even our boss has admittedly had some worries about it as well, but she keeps telling us that her boss says her hands are tied and is just as frustrated with the service. It makes you wonder how it is that these services can be in business for so long, make sooooo much money and do this.
Not heartless...just a bully who likes to kick sand
Please....there is no justification for your behavior, don't try to come here and defend your disgusting behavior. This woman is crying out for real help...not some quick, off the cuff, hurtful remark. I feel sorry for you.
I think pre-existing stuff may kick in if you have have no certificate of previous coverage.
nm
so maybe you should kick back and watch some tv as you relax and drift off in your lazyboy.
you'll hate yourself in the morning when you read your crazya$$ posts.
Thanks for all the feedback...time to kick it into high gear, I guess..nm
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I make sure the job is not my life and that it does not take over my life. sm
I have been at this 25 years, even once had my own accounts and worked 24/7 with cat naps to keep going but no real sleep. I really burned myself out. Now I work a regular 40-hour week, but it is not my life. It is a means of making money so I can go live my life. I work for a company that is not all about production. They want us to take our time and do it right. I am doing that, and it feels so good to be able to work at my craft and be allowed to do a good job while I am at work.
But after I get off, I have my family and I take time to have fun and enjoy life. I think that is the key to not staying burned out. You need down time, time to have fun, exercise, relax, etc.
Exercise is very important, too. It rejuvenates the hormone system so you have more positive hormones flowing through your body and helps get rid of stress.
That's what I do.
sorry you are upset...(sm)
you can notify the administrator of anything you find objectionable...
I appreciate your sharing because we should all try to help each other.
there always seem to be people, like yourself, who produce way over and beyond what most of us do, and in my experience they are always treated with suspicion and doubt as to how they were accomplishing it.
if you can do it, it is great! Most of us, however, are not able to do it, no matter how hard we try.
just curious if you were using the VR machines, or anything like that, because I was considering doing it before...
thanks, for the posts!
Someone's just trying to get everyone upset ... don't believe that...
I think it is just a ploy.
Besides, if that is truly where jobs are going...they will be coming back even faster than they went. Hahaha
Even the sloppiest of physicians won't tolerate that.
Someone's just trying to get everyone upset ... don't believe that...
I think it is just a ploy.
Besides, if that is truly where jobs are going...they will be coming back even faster than they went. Hahaha
Even the sloppiest of physicians won't tolerate that.
Upset MT
You're much harder on yourself than the MDs will be. Everyone makes mistakes - no matter how careful we are. I erased a tape at lawyer's office where I worked - even as big a jerk as he was, he didn't yell at me. Doctors are usually a nicer than lawyers! :)
They know you, they know you are responsible and obviously they like your work or they wouldn't have employed you for 4 years. It'll be all right.
I am so upset!!!!
 I could spit! Recently since I am still a 'student' at that online course in Utah I read a post by the CEO and felt the need to comment. It seems that not only did he suggest that contributions be made to FEMA, but also that students in Louisiana and other state with hurricane damage call THEM at their 800 number. This seemed to me absolute lunacy, as telephone service in La, MS is vrtually non-existant. Perhaps posting that ONLINE was equally stupid, how were students supposed to get online?
However, what really gets me upset is that after making my reply I was 'deleted' from their website.
Apparently free speech isn't appreciated at that school, and neither was my suggestion that the school which has a reliable phone connection, themselves call their students in Louisiana and Mississippi. But hey, what do I know huh?
Don't mean to upset anyone, but I LIVE in Louisiana.
cheryl formerly known as nola71112
A bit upset
I have been with Medquist for almost 7 years and overall am happy. My biggest gripe of late is the fact that there is no work available and it is hard to make your quota. Other than that, my QA people are great, pay is always on time, I personally like the DQS platform, I LOVE my flexible schedule, they reimburse DSL service, they provide you with a computer, and they always remember their employees with great gifts for Medical Transcription Day (LOL). I can assure you that most companies will not and do not do most of the above mentioned things. With that being said, lets just hope the severe decrease in the work load is only temporary! For obvious financial reasons, if the work load does not pick up, they may find themselves without a lot of qualified and dedicated transcriptionists that have helped MedQuist achieve the goal of the largest MT provider.
No need to be upset.
I have been with them 8 years. I agree, they are very flexible on the schedule and I love that part. However, the office I work for totally changed overnight. I hate the way the supervisors are so cold and insensitive now, like they have been programmed with certain reponses. It was NEVER like that before. For instance, two weeks ago, I worked for 4 days just sicker than a dog, started to call in Thursday night, but didn't, then finally felt like I could go no more and called to be off 2 hours before my shift ended. I was told to go lie down for a few minutes and get back on. This would have never happened before the big changes (closing Atlanta office). My other big issue is I don't feel there is a supervisor left on the staff of the former Atlanta office that I can trust. That is not a good feeling.
I don't know what you got for MT day, but I got chapstick. When I first started, I got T-shirts, gift cards and then MT of the month gifts, your name was in the little paper for high producer - I miss that stuff. Just being appreciated.
I am not fond of the DQS as it is a struggle each day just to get any lines. I feel like I am typing my fingers off and then my line count is not totally up to that. This is very discouraging.
Okay, I am finished whining.
Are you serious? You are upset because
someone uses a handle that describes other positions they have held?
Surely, you are kidding. How in the world can that upset you?
I suppose it would upset you if I were to sign myself as "former MTSO" or "former case mgmt coordinator" or any other position I've ever held.
That is sad.
why are you so upset?
It's not as if you own the company or do you?? If some people have not had the same wonderful experience that you have had give them their say. Why be so nasty about it? You ought to be celebrating,when us worthless workers who can't commit every day get kicked to the wayside you will have all the work you want! So it's your celebration day!! I frankly have a bit more magnanimous attitude about it-I have always had a good work experience at MQ, but since DEP I am not. Simple as that. If you have whoppee for you! Congratulations! But don't you think somewhere in 10,000 employees maybe the experience is varied??? Or can't you comprehend that?? Whatever floats your boat.
I'm sorry if I upset you. sm
My sister didn't know she had an aneurysm and she never had headaches at all, save for the occasional overindulging in fine wine, until that night.
The doctors never really even pinpointed exactly where it originated after dozens and dozens of tests. (angiograms, ultrasounds, CT scans, MRIs). She was told that she met the "criteria" for this type of aneurysm because she was female and over 50. (52). That is not too comforting for me as I am 6 years younger that she is.
She was very healthy before this happened with the exception that she was a very heavy smoker. Glad to say that she gave it up and hasn't gone back to that. 
My doctor told me that basically it really isn't something you can spend your time worrying about. Many people live with known aneurysms and nothing ever happens with them.
At first I thought, "oh my gosh, I've only 6 more years," but you can't worry about it I guess.
Again, I'm sorry if I upset you.
Take care.
Of course I'd be upset!
I am SO UPSET!
I am so frustrated that I am in tears, and that takes some doing for me. Is this the norm with being an IC, or what....
When I started with this MTSO, the paydays were on the 10th and the 22nd of the month. I loved it, because my husband was paid on the opposite weeks, so we got a paycheck every week. Well, the paychecks started coming on the 11th and 25th.... then the 12th and the 26th... you get the drill. Then she just officially moved the pay periods to the 15th and the last day of the month. Now this caused me some headaches, sure, because I had to move some auto withdrawals and such, but I supposed that was her right to do as the business owner...
Except now the paychecks are coming later and later AGAIN! Well, she had sent out an email saying that she would not be able to pay us on the 31st, but that she would pay us on the first. So I did something I NEVER do.... I wrote a check to my daughter's preschool with no money in the bank, only because my MTSO said, "Don't worry, I'll put it in on the 1st."
Guess what? I got an email today saying that she would NOT be paying us until Friday the 3rd. There will not be enough money in the bank to cover this. Now, it won't bounce it to the preschool, because my bank will cover it. They will, however, charge me a big ol' honkin' $35 fee for this.
I am SO mad! Is this normal? Do MTSOs just think they can pay us whenever they feel like it? Her excuse was that she didn't get paid by the hospital on time, so she couldn't pay us on time. Excuse me, but this is the same MTSO that said, when my phone lines were down, "I don't care what your personal problems are, I need the work!" Well, I need my MONEY! If she has to take out a personal loan using her car as collateral, then she needs to do that in order to pay us. I admit that this is only my third MTSO, but two of the three did this "pay when I can" thing. I'm just used to a much more professional system.
So my question, after this long-winded post, is the following: Is this normal? Do the rest of you ICs have trouble being paid on time?
(PS - In a recent disagreement that the MTSO and I had, she told me that she was having money problems, too, and that she was declaring personal bankruptcy. That's not a good sign for being paid on time in the future, you think?
Yeah, I said I was going to look for another job, but I started slacking on that when I cooled off because I love my accounts. However, I don't want to be the last rat off a sinking ship. I'm just SO upset. This is not how a business should be run!)
 (P.S. - Grammar and punctuation police please take the night off. It's midnight, I'm typing through tears, and I just don't care enough to edit, okay? Thanks.)
Don't be upset. Really. Try not to
take it personally. I know its hard and I understand. The most horrible thing an MT can do is think that QA is out to get them, etc. I have been on both ends - MTing for 20 years and QA for 5. I know how you feel. But there is often so much more going on behind the scenes that you are not aware of. I know in my company, the Q, there are even different QA styles for different regions, or even QA gets mixed up on the client profiles. You have your QA who always say "good job", and never QA a single thing and the other ones who try and proofread. We are just like you - really. We don't know that the other QA are doing something totally differently. But I do know that honestly we just don't notice the MT at all - we don't have time to notice or pay attention to who is who, so its honestly nothing personal, nor is it all that big a deal, unless, of course, its a critical error. I know its disheartening on the MT end, but its horrible on the QA end - everybody hates QA. Period. And while there are some jerks, there are lots and lots of well-meaning nice QA people, just trying to do their part to send out a complete document. We are following rules given us, and just mind our own business and plod along. 
Umm...wow! Why so upset?! NM
NM
What is that you are upset about?
You only state the title of the article, not the content. I don't mean to upset you more but if you could give us an idea of the gist of the article, maybe you will get some responses.
They always get upset
They want to take the cheaper way out and hire ICs and say here is your minute-by-minute schedule and you better stick to it like glue and tell them basically everytime you get up to pee. I am leaving the company I was at because of that, and their feathers were definitely ruffling. They all need a copy of the IRS definition of employee versus IC!
Upset?
The snot-suckers that we laugh about ARE sick, just (I would hope) not contageous. Otherwise, they would be able to manage their secretions. It's a huge double standard to say when the patient swallows their secretions, they are sick, but when the docs do it, they are rude.
When the docs did these things with my kid, it was at their offering. She had things that were quietly occupying her, and she was not interfering with the exams at all when the offers were made. Good kids who seem to be interested tend to be invited to do things (and it is still her dream to be a doc).
While the docs are paid a LOT OF MONEY, they also have a LOT OF STUDENT LOANS TO REPAY, whereas we don't. The pelvic exam was just an example of gross things the docs deal with that we don't. Granted, I wish speed racer would slow down, but maybe he/she has a life, too, and would like to get out of the clinic/hospital at a reasonable time. Just as we want the most out of our time, they want the most out of theirs. Your earlier post just made me reflect on how much THEY have to put up with. Yes, they make more, but they were also required to spend more time in school with probably more expensive tuition, AND they pay our salary out of that increased pay they get. Many (though not all) of the docs also thank us or apologize when burping, eating, etc.
After taking the spin you put on it, I really no longer have the animosity toward them I had before. And, we really don't want to get into the "well-educated" part. Articulate or not, they ARE well-eduated.
UPSET
Here we go. The first account I tried to get, I am outbid by India. I am laying off five employees because the India transcription services can bill my customers at 5 an 6 cents. I hope they enjoy each other. I am bitter. I am sad. My employees are also my friends........The government needs to do something.
upset
Keep calling and keep emailing. Eventually you would think they would have to answer. That is no way to run a company. I would call them all day. LOL!
I think most are upset because...
Supposedly the new owner is not US-based...we liked having a board for US MTs only since there are soo many boards/companies out there that are india based. There's so much competition from India that we feel like we're getting the rug pulled out from under us and having a bit of USA MT support is nice to have.
Upset
Most definitely!! But being a single mom with a mortgage, etc., I had no choice but to take a job at .08. I have 10 years experience and was making .08 years ago. My previous employer just ran out of work, so for me, the .08 is better than none. I do, however, refuse to go any lower than that and if that were to happen, I guess I would go get a job somewhere else, but I really don't want to leave my 14-yo daughter at home alone - too much to get into!!
Upset
So what exactly would you do? Do you have someone else helping to pay the bills? I don't. Gotta do what I gotta do. I don't like it any more than anyone else, but ... Maybe where you live it's safe for your child to be home alone, it's not for mine.
Upset
Okay, whatever. That's great that you did all of that. Me too. I've always worked my behind off. Stayed up days on end - no sleep - working. You obviously have a strong opinion and won't change it and neither will I. I CANNOT leave my child here alone, so that's that for me. It's not that I'm "too lazy" or think I'm "too good" to work outside the home which you insinuate. I took a cut in pay because I personally had no choice - maybe you would. Have a blessed day!
Is anyone else upset? - sm
If you make 8 cents a line and type 150 lines per hour, which an experiencing MT of 30 years should easily be able to do, you will make $12 an hour. I know that is not killer money, but is more than you would make at McDonald's. A good MT should be able to type at least 200 lines per hour which gives you $16.00 per hour. I wonder how many people who are currently out of work right now would give their right arms to even have a job to complain about.
You've never been upset with your spouse
and didn't have anyone around to vent to in real life? Besides, it's said that marriage without conflict likely involves a lack of deep or meaningful communication. Research has also proven that couples without conflict are more likely to divorce because there's no passion or growth.
WTF? Who is being upset over someone doing good?
Now I take offense with someone who tells me I have a bad attitude and calls me "honey" in a condescending fashion while preaching to me but I am hardly upset. I really can't stand know-it-alls but they amuse rather than upset. Now what's your stake in this do-gooder?
Gee, you are really upset, aren't you?!
The pros of working as an SE for me include such things as not having to work a set schedule--I really need and want that flexibility and as an SE, I have it!
I have a higher base rate than most employees; my incentive plan is better; and I still get quarterly bonuses.
I will be using my new computer equipment purchases and some of my rent and utilities when I file my taxes, etc.
I can still get tax breaks on medical expenses, I just have to file them differently than employees do (no pre-tax here).
I don't need the insurance through MQ; I have my own. I don't PTO, I make it up and I make enough to save for rainy days anyway.
Pros and cons will be different for different people. For me, the pros outweigh any cons.
I'm very happy as an IC/SE. I wouldn't work as an employee now.
Did you stop to think (for all upset with MQ):
that the letter was addressed to "MedQuist Transcriptionist", meaning ALL transcriptionists?
Did you stop to think about the fact that the new plan is a "Medical Transcriptionist and Medical Editor Rewards Plan", meaning ALL transcriptionists?
Did you stop to think about the fact that the letter is an announcement of upcoming information and specifically says "highlights of the plan include..." and so does not give all the details so you cannot draw any conclusions about it?
Did you stop to think that the pay rates, daily incentive, evening/night premium pay highlights in the letter are NOT defined as EMPLOYEE ONLY highlights?
Did you stop to think that there is no way in hell that someone like you can ever be satisfied by any company? That no matter what MQ or any other company does, you'll have a reason to b****? Did you stop to think that if you're so dang upset about being with MQ that you are not a prisoner there? Did you stop to think that there are other companies doing MT that you can work for? Did you stop to think that there are millions of other lines of work you can get into?
Did you stop to think, period? Obviously not. All you did was stop to gripe.
You're probably one of the gripes who are upset because they received a DEP discrepancy check! LOL
It doesn't matter if, after taxes, it is 1 cent or $1000, it doesn't matter if you still work for them or don't, it doesn't matter how long you worked for them or didn't ... if a discrepancy in pay is found THEY MUST CORRECT THAT and that is what they have done. No matter what, you're gonna gripe. If they owed you 2 cents, you'd gripe. If they pay you the 2 cents, you gripe. If they don't make changes in how things are run, you gripe. If they make changes, you gripe.
For cryin' outloud people...get the hell out if you're THAT suspicious and burned out! GET OUT! Who wants you anyway? It's embarassing how you people carry on. Are you grown ups or not? Can't you think for yourself? Do you make your own decisions or does someone else make them for you?
If this company is as bad and hateful and MT-hating as you say, well then you can pat yourself on the back because YOU have outdone MQ on the hatefulness and badness. Good job, kiddies! Good job!! Now you're officially as hateful as the company you're whining about! LOLOLOLOL
SHIP OUT OR SHUT UP.
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