Anyone homeschool their children and do MT from home? NM
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Anyone homeschool their children and also work at home?
I currently work for a hospital but am considering get a home job so I can also homeschool my 6-year-old. He is just having an awful time in school and I am getting sick of trying to work all day at the hospital and get phone calls from the school EVERY DAY.. I just feel like I need to be home. Any suggestions?
I homeschool my children and I get so very
tired of the "S" word. I think most people feel like we keep them locked in the house all day, doing school for 8 hours a day. They are community sports teams, the kids in the neighborhood, homeschool activities, park days, church, etc. There are some families who isolate themselves, but the majority do not. My kids are extremely social and on weekends we have a line at the door wanting them to come out and play. I told DH we needed to put up a sign on the door that they aren't here so kids will stop knocking. Not only are my kids very social, but they are as comfortable with someone 65 as they are with their own peers. My oldest DS has kids 5 to 6 years younger wanting him to come play because he plays so well with them and they look up to him.
Kids don't have much time to socialize in the public school setting and the socialization isn't always positive.
Two children ; 24 and living at home, 23 and married.
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I agree...working at home with children is possible just very hard...
I have a 9-year-old and an 18-month-old and I wake up early in the morning before the kids wake up and work and then work some more during my daughter's nap...there are days I want to pull my hair out but my children don't suffer and neither does my job...thank goodness my company is flexible otherwise I couldn't do it...
It is difficult to work at home and watch young children.
Don't take that as a slam because I had to do it, too. I got up before they did and worked for an hour or two, worked during their afternoon naps, worked after they went to bed at night, and worked a little bit in the morning while they were playing or watching Blues Clues. It wasn't fulltime, but it felt like I was chained to my computer desk from the moment I got up to the moment I went to bed.
I actually blockaded my kids in the living room with me using big plastic toyboxes or baby gates while I worked so they wouldn't escape. Lock the doors to the house and put cowbells on them so you can hear if they try to escape. If not cowbells, use those little battery operated buzzers that go off when the connection is broken. Don't wear headphones but listen through the speakers. Pay a neighborhood 'tween or older sibling $1 or more an hour to entertain the young kids after school while you're there. No job is worth the risk of your child getting into something tragic.
I was fortunate in that my kids were good about entertaining themselves for short periods of time, but certainly not for an 8-hour shift all at once. My niece and nephew are nothing like that. If they don't have your full attention, they fight and get into things. One time while I was babysitting them, I was making dinner in the kitchen. My 3 y.o. niece managed to untape the knob and turn off our water heater, drop the cordless phone into the toilet, and climb out the dog door into subzero weather in less than 5 minutes. She's still a holy terror 3 years later, but I refuse to babysit her any more.
anything beats crying children .... particularly from home late at night ...
oy! Those poor kids, not asleep in bed yet, and exhausted mom or dad are tryyyying to catch up with dictation ... imho -- the worst ... though I admit I personally have never had from-the-car-on-the-freeway dictation which I gather beats the band!
Wailing children are so heart wrenching.
Keeping small children at home will cost you more than paying a daycare ... see message
If you are really committed to working, then transcription can be beneficial. It is not a job where you can attend to your children at the same time you work, you either work or you attend to your children. You make choices.
I would recommend this career field - I make 50,000 a year working 6 hours a day. It is still good if you work it.
Working full time at home with small children is hard but part time works great
is almost impossible. You will either have to work when your spouse is home or for only a few hours during the day and then more when they are asleep. I work part time at home and my kids (2&5 now) have done very, very well. They are great kids, very well behaved, don't get into much. I stop working to check on them/give them some attention every hour or so while I work (5 hours each afternoon or so) and they get all my attention in the morning and at night. It has worked out beautifully for us.
I do this job with young children around and neither my job nor children have suffered...
It can be done...
Homeschool sm
Pros: Wonderful bonding. Flexible schedules. We "do" school on our time frame, no getting up at 5:30 a.m. to get the kids ready for school. We can take vacations whenever we want. My children have thrived. My oldest was in public school for 3-1/2 years, nearly destroyed not only his love of learning but his spirit. My children have had time to explore their own interests in detail. For us homeschooling is not what we do, it is a way of life. We do everything together - grocery shopping, doctor visits, yard work, cook, etc.
Depending on the laws in your state you can teach whatever you want, however you want. What works for me might not work for you and that is okay. It does take some trial and error though to find what works.
Unless you live in a very rural area there are lots of support groups with field trips, park days, activity days, etc. Most people think socialization is an issue, can't figure that one out though. Our kids participate in community sports, scouting, play with kids in the neighborhood, plus in my area we have a weekly activity day during the school year, we have park days throughout the year, we have at least monthly field trips, the Y caters to homeschoolers with all kinds of classes, we visit nursing homes and do a lot of socializing with young and old.
You don't have to worry about bullies, you don't have to worry about someone bringing a gun to school, you don't have to worry about having a school lock down while they bring in the drug sniffing dogs.
No one loves your child more than you and while there are some good schools and some good teachers, you can still do better. It is not written in stone either that if you homeschool you can't later put them in public/private school.
CONS: It is hard work, especially if you work FT on top of it. If you've ever had a child in school you may be like a lot of us who have a public school mentality and think you have to mimic the school situation, where you do every subject every day for 7 hours a day and it just isn't so. If you're child helps you cook that is life skills, not only learning to cook but learning math by measuring. You'll probably get lots of flack, especially about the "S" word as we call it (socialization), you're raising a momma's boy or a sissie, someone who will never be able to do for themselves, you're kid needs to learn the hard knocks of life.
Actually I think we'd both get out more when we homeschool
with the homeschool group activities, etc., but getting into the whole homeschool/perceived need for socialization with peers topic would really open a can of worms, wouldn't it? :)
We homeschool and we are all looking forward
to getting back to a structured learning time. Homeschooling is not something we do, it is a lifestyle, and we are constantly learning, but we have an "official" 180 days as required by our state.
homeschool and work
Hi, I homeschool my stepson, who is 10, and I also work full time at home. Please email me. The company I work for is hiring. They pay well and very flexible schedule. I also use an online homeschool program that is free. If your interested, email me and I can give you more information.
I homeschool and work...
It is not easy. I work at home at nights part time. I school a 2nd and 3rd grader during the day. I had my children in public school when the youngest was in Kindergarten and ended up pulling them out. The whole school situation was awful. I won't go into it all here but I was dealing with a child that needed help and a school that was not listening to me. Again my case was extreme but the whole situation stressed my husband and I out so much. We ended up pulling both children out because we feared for their safety, literally.
Our choice was to private school. Ha! Naive we were. Private schooling is very expensive and we did an exhaustive search in the area. The cheaper ones were awful, the most expensive were what we wanted, but couldn't afford.
So we turned to homeschooling and have kept at it. I cut back to part time work. "Home" though is a laugh - we do classes at home twice a week. The rest of the time we are at other groups to do classes. We do math and language arts at home. History, science, PE, music, Spanish, art, computers are all done in groups. Homeschooling here where I live is huge and many business have sprung up catering to this. We are able now to pick and choose classes to pay for. So we do 1/2 homeschool, 1/2 sort of private school. For us, it works great and I feel the kids get the best of both.
Is it easy? NO. Is it worth yet? YES. Until my kids can handle the pressure of a public school setting (or we move or win the lottery for private school placement), then this is what is best for them. My kids are protected from the worst of a group setting but I feel also exposed to the best of a group learning environment by the way we are educating them. Good luck to you. I hope it all works out.
First, be very sure of the reasons that you want to homeschool.
It is tougher beginning at such a late grade, but it can be done. I started my son in 9th grade 9 years ago, so obviously I know a little bit about it. I also had a great friend who homeschooled her high school kids, so she could get me started with a lot of support and encouragement. Be sure you're ready to be with this child 24/7, because that's pretty much how it will feel. We did have problems with the school but tried every avenue to solve them before saying, "We don't need to put up with this, we do have a choice," when the school counselor said that we didn't have a choice. They thought they ruled my son's world; they were WRONG. I AM HIS PARENT, I believe I do have his best interests in mind when making choices for him. We are a Christian family, so it was easy to start by investigating Abeka Books for materials; bear in mind you'll have to buy all your own materials, nobody helps with that. My son now has his degree and is IT manager at a bank, looking to make VP.
You'll need to check out the homeschooling laws for your state, they vary. Just do an internet search for homeschooling laws for your state. Check around for homeschool groups, there are several out there. But, the biggest thing is just to make sure that you and your child are committed to working together to do this. It does take a lot of commitment and communication to do this and do it right. BEST of luck to you whatever your choice.
So, PFFFT to the person who says kids need to be in school. I know better and obvious hundreds or thousands of others do too.
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them to be exposed to other religions and cultures? It shouldn't be offensive to hear songs about others' cultural and religious beliefs. If you feel so strongly, and you're not willing to examine yourself over the issue, then why not homeschool them or put them in a Christian school where they'll only be fed what you want and not have to hear anything else?
you will have more time when you homeschool
Your schedule is dictated by you, not by the gov't school.
Well I homeschool and that isn't the reason I do. Homeschoolers
for the most part are just normal people, some do it for religious reasons, some do it because they have a special needs child whose needs aren't met in the public school system, some do it due to medical issues. There are extremists in every segment of society, homeschoolers are no exception. This is a very sad situation and I knew that the homeschooling issue would be picked up on and picked to pieces. It is funny hearing all the news people trying to figure out how these 2 could have possibly met since they were homeschooled. Unfortunately there is a lot of ignorance out there and people are quick to condemn that that they know nothing about.
Since this has been on every news channel the past 48 hours I'm really surprised it has taken someone this long to post the comment you did.
Homeschool, so year-round fun! nm
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Honestly, I homeschool. Never once have my kids had a bellyache. nm
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Homeschool! Freedom! Great family bonding!
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My kids have suffered greatly from me working at home with them home. SM
I have been working at home as an MT since my two kids were born. They are now 4 and 5. In the first few years, I had no help whatsoever. Their father was a bum who didnt work or take care of them while I worked. Your children get neglected while you work basically. And babies and young children desperately need your attention while they are home with you.
My kids have so many behavioral problems right now because of their neglect. I would try to set them up with things to occupy themselves, like coloring or a movie, etc.
I finally put them in day care and things have improved, but there are still a lot of issues because of the damage that was done. They still try to seek attention by doing bad things and they dont listen to me because they are so used to me letting them get away with a lot of stuff because I was too busy typing to discipline them in their early years.
If I could do it all over again, I would definitely have put them into day care from the very beginning.
My advice would be to seek PT care for your baby. Maybe you can do some work around her schedule a little when she is home, like when she takes a nap, and then bang out a bunch of work while she is in day care.
I enjoy being alone at home, but I've got one home sick from school already.
One on one with a kid is nice, too.
This summer has been absolutely crazy. I haven't had a moment to myself for three months because all of my kids were home traipsing their friends through the house and yard. My husband switched his work schedule, too, so he's around more than usual. However, I like not having to do two loads of dishes and four loads of laundry a day. There are no toys or clutter dragged out everywhere. I can clean the house first thing in the morning, and it stays clean until everyone gets home at night.
I even got to relax with a cup of coffee and watch TV for half an hour this morning, something I liked for a change instead of cartoons or kids' movies. I signed up for an online class that I've been wanting to take. I can exercise without being interrupted. Yesterday, I went to the mall and spent all my saved up gift cards. I got some clothes, books, bath stuff, and a new coffee mug. My work gets done a lot faster, too. Call me nuts, but I've never had the luxury of being alone in the house for 14 years. It's kinda nice. I love my family with all my heart, but I love having a few hours to myself each week, too.
Except now the cat and dogs have been acting weird since the kids went back to school. They must think that I need someone or something to clean up after and correct behavior on. They're getting into everything and racing around the house behind me.
my take is that she worked inhouse, not at home, and now wants to find out how to work at home. nm
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Forget "per line." Your take-home pay should be taking home SM
roughly what it was before. If it is not, is it because your current pay rate for editing (which in many companies keeps changing as the VR system is developed) is too low or is it because your talents and skills are more for speed typing than speed editing?
If the first, discuss it with higherups, and go get a new job if you don't get the response you need. My last MTSO was secretly refiguring how production was counted to pay us less. I can accept hard reality, it was the secrecy that burned. Sometimes, though, it's just that the learning curves of individual editors and that of the system aren't in sync, and you end up temporarily making less.
If the second, though, recognize it as soon as possible and change to straight transcription work, in your company or a new one, for as long as you can find it.
As for why we aren't paid more for a higher skill, that's just the way the labor supply ball bounces. Best wishes.
Both of my children, now 23 and 24,
bought their own cars and neither of them had a new car. I don't think it hurt them, either. They both were proud of the fact that they did buy their own cars and I was proud of them, too.
Wow that's a lot! We have 4 children and
we probably will not spend that much on all 4 of them. Glad you can afford it.
May you and your children have the
Merriest Christmas ever! As the Christmas carol sings "God is NOT dead nor doth He sleep." I am so happy your children will have Santa Claus this Christmas, and that you feel loved!! That's what Christmas is all about. I thank you... Merry Blessed Christmas to ALL!
I have 5 children and have had many a
I agree, something for myself would have been neat. My absolute favorite thing was when someone brought me something special, like something they made or had made for my baby. Those are really the things I remember when thinking back on my showers, and the things I still have today.
32/F, three children
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And what did your children get?
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I definitely think having children has something
Does she have other children who can help
relieve some of the care? Does her insurance pay for ANY nursing care? I know what you mean. We were all on shifts as well. Is there a GOOD home she could go to? Even one that isn't a nursing home per se, but adult foster care? My grandmother lived in one. It was very nice and had less than 10 residents and people with various types of needs lived there. My aunts and uncles decided to do this (it was self pay) because they figured if she lived with any one child, that the responsibility probably wouldn't end up being shared by all, and this way they were all responsible for her even though she lived separately from them. Is there a hospice/nursing agency that can offer free or cheap respite care? How about through their church? Even if they could get an evening or a few hours away together, that's a start. They need to preserve their marriage too.
think of your own children if you have any....sm
Would you want them to have to care for you? All I want for my children is to be happy. I would never want to put that burden on them and, believe me, it is a burden regardless of how you feel about your parents. Caring for an ILL elderly parent can be a nightmare. Caring for an elderly parent is totally different. I've had to do both and, BTW, so did my parents. My mother, when in her 50's, now 92, made me promise to never try to have her live with me. I have done the same with my children. I do everything I can to help her including bringing her to my home to care for her when she is ill or has had recovery from surgeries. I don't think the "Waltons" is a realistic plan in this day and age. If you want to destroy your marriage and stress your children, move your parents into your home.
If you have children under a certain age...
...you can be excused for years from jury duty by submitting a copy of their birth certificates to the court.
Currently, I'm a single parent with 2 kids in elementary school. I have been excused from jury duty twice now; once when I lived in PA and both kids were just babies and again recently excused from serving or being called to serve here in NY for a few more years by submitting a copy of the birth certificate.
The courts will not force a primary caregiver with minor child(ren) to serve as long as you provide them a copy of the birth certificate.
I would think this also applies to anyone who is a sole caregiver of a chronically ill or elderly family member, but you would have to call your courthouse to find out for sure.
We are not children and by that I mean...
we don't have to go crying to the moderator whenever we feel someone is being mean. I think MT30+'s biggest sin is she's just blunt. Personally, I appreciate straight forward people. I don't have time to pick through all the fat to get to the meat. And, of course, I am one of the blunt people.
I think some need to simply grow up. You can't spend your life kissing your perceived boo boos and tattling on the "bullies." Momma always said the only way to get rid of a bully, is to stand your ground and take your lumps. And don't hold a grudge. Just move on.
children and nitwits
You still don't get it. No matter how old they get, they are still your children but I no longer have the right to make their decisions for them. If your comprehension was good enough, you would have known that as they left my home and started their own lives, I had no further voice in what they did, but until that day, I did have a voice in what they did as far as consequences of bad decisions is concerned. If I am paying for the roof over your head and the food on the table, I do have a say. And being 18 does not make you an adult, nor does 30 or 80. When your child can make good sound decisions about their life and how their decisions impact on others, then you've done a good job. Your silly little cartoon characters in your messagee show that you do not have a command of the English language and I am done with this discussion because it is too complicated for you to understand. I think you probably had your nose and ears pierced too many times and too deeply.
Not everyone is here to "love" your children. SM
I dont expect day care to "love" my children. Geez. I expect them to care for them and watch them when I cannot be there.
I do have to say, however that the day care my kids are in is a close-knit community. The staff is very friendly and really get involved with each kid individually to some extent. Everybody knows everybody, even though it is a fairly large day care. There is a younger toddler room, an older toddler room, an intermediate room, and a pre-K room. As well as a big room for before-school and after-school programs for the bigger kids.
All of the kids in my children's classes are really close. We all celebrate B-days together and even get invited to Christmas parties and all kinds of nice things. They throw lots of events around the holidays. They even have a mom's night out at the day care once a year. It is like a little community. They have lots of safety speakers coming in and educated the kids on what to do during an emergency. I dont see why my kids would not benefit from being a part of something like this.
It is a great thing to be a part of. They treat you like family. I do understand that not all day cares are the same. I went on a lot of tours of local day cares and I picked this one because I could pick up on the vibe that this was not your oridinary day care. They are just such great people. I can honestly say that I love them all. I love the friends that my kids made and I have grown to love their families and also the teachers. They are all truly a wonderful bunch.
So I don't care for my children because I
choose to work my job. Because I choose to be done with work at 5 and not have to work all night as my children play at my feet. Your absolutely right! That makes me a horrible mother. I mean wanting to give them the social graces, the ability to interact with other children and spend the evening with them without my computer in their face--what a bad mommy I am!
I was trying to be nice. Even to children like you
I was only asking an honest question.
I didn't realize there were children posting on this board.
My son is only 15, but he is fortunate enough to have parents that want to help him so that he will not end up being an eternal bitter child, such as those whose parents obviously haven't bothered to realize that there was a possibilty of their child becoming a total waste of time.
And speaking of wasting time, I'm doing just that. And you should be going upstairs to check on your parents.
I believe it is important for children too..
That does still does not mean that since you made a mistake in your life that you are not entitled to the same rights as everyone else. Could've, should've, would've. We can point fingers and tell people what they should have done, but the fact is, they have rights like everyone else. Of course you tend to do better financially when you do things in the right order. Life does not always work like you want it to though. I myself got pregnant while on BC with a man I had been with for 4 years. I had my son before I got married. We got married when he was less than a month old. He was our only witness. We have since had another child. I have never been on assistance, but I am lucky enough that we have been able to work out our problems and keep our marriage intact. If I could do it all over again, I would have waited, of course. We have struggled quite a bit by having kids so young. Life just doesn't always work out how you want it to though. I want my daughter to get married first and then have children, as do all mothers. Those are things I will teach her too.
Sorry, that should be heard Jen did not want children yet. nm
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my children are minorities
my children are interracial, black father, white mother. however, they dont know the first thing about Kwanza. They are raised to believe that Christmas is about the birth of Christ.
For children, it's best to let them decide.
It can be healing or traumatic. I do think I'd have her go to the funeral home once, set it up so she only has to be there a short time, help her understand it's time to say goodbye and let go (whether close or not). I've been through a Catholic funeral and don't think I'd force a child to be there. It's good that neither you or DH are forcing one way or the other. Talk with your daughter and help her decide what's really best. Just don't let her hide from the fact that she needs to say goodbye to grandma, close or not.
26 with 2 small children.
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GOD BLESS YOU with 5 children!!! *S*...nm
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I am 49, two children (ages 26 and 20). nm
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I have 5 children, two of which have been babies...
It is not always easy, but you do what you want to do. You will make it work if you try and find out what works best for you. Don't put your baby in daycare just to make it easier on yourself. You can work around the baby!
I smile, say "I don't have children, thanks." nm
I don't think anyone said violence against children was okay...
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WHERE DOES YOU CHILDREN GO TO COLLEGE sm
Maybe our children go to the same college.
I will start
One daughter goes to Sacred Heart University in Connecticut. The other daughter will be going to UMass at Amerst in the fall.
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