Anyone's husband in the military?
Posted By: worried wife on 2005-07-12
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My husband is thinking of joining the military. He has always wanted to since we met about 7 years ago and we just went to a wedding where his couisin was there, who just got back from Iraq. His cousin is going back voluntarily. He is a higher rank (I have on idea what the difference is). Anyway, I am really worried about this. It is just something that he is thinking about right now, but we have 2 kids and it scares me to death!!! Any advice or anyone with experience with this?
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my grandfather and father were marines and my x-husband was a marine, all front line, first in last out. my father did 2 active tours in vietnam-by choice. not until recently would he talk about it, but when he does, the pride that is in his eyes is unreal. my x and i had just announced our engagement a few days before 9-11. he wanted to reinlist and i had the same fear that you do, that it wasn't for us. that's a decision that only you guys can make. as good as it can be, it can also be as horrible as can be. just like everything else in life it's how you approach and deal with it that will make you or break you. no matter what branch, you will always be able to find a friendly face anywhere in the world because there will always be someone else living the same experience. best of luck in your family's decision. 
my 18 YO is considering the military...
and I don't know if I want him to do that or not. Has it been a positive experience so far for your son? If you don't mind, what branch did he join? I know you can't wait to hug your baby boy again! 
Military
It sounds as if he needs to grow up and accept responsibility for his actions. What did he expect the military to be like??? You just dress up and march in parades? Get real!
Military
Actually, I'm glad he's out-- I wouldn't want a wimp like him "protecting" me or this country anyway. I hope he enjoys his NEW time away from his family being in the brig. Like, duh----. 
military deserter?
Don't you have him confused with his predecessor?
Military time
I've done it both ways depending on what the client/doctor wants.
Our Military People
I want to share something my family does in case you're interested in doing something similar. We live near a military base and every year I call and get the names of a couple of soldiers to invite into our home for Christmas Day. These are soldiers who are very far from home and not scheduled for leave on Christmas. We been doing this for several years and it has been such a wonderful experience. We have made friends that we'll keep in contact with until ... 
We pick up these soldiers up at a set time and set gate on the base. They have dinner with us and we always give them some small gifts -- phone cards, note cards, stamps, restaurant gift certificates, etc. The guys love it when they get a box of all occasion cards with stamps, as most of them say they aren't very good at picking out cards to send back home. We end the evening by driving around showing them Christmas lights, etc.
Yes, it is generally a bit awkward for them at first, but they always end up getting "comfortable" and enjoying themselves.
You usually need to call early - they do have to make sure you aren't a serial killer or terrorist.  Often times, they have an office set up where you fill out a form for "adopting a soldier" and that simplifies matters a great deal.
Merry Christmas to all of you!
Don't know about transcribing for the Military, but...sm
your transcription skills will most certainly qualify you for an Administrative Assistant/secretary position for the Military. I started as a GS-4 in Aug 04. Got promoted to a GS-5 in Aug 05 and now am lead secretary in an office of 50 people. I get an automatic promotion to a GS-6 in Aug 06. On top of the all the benefits, they are going to pay for my degree too. I know a lot of people complain about Federal jobs, but mine has been a blessing all the way around.
Military wife
Yep, my husband has been in the AF for 29 years. He has been deployed since middle of March and will be coming home at end of May. I've been MT for 3 years, but all at one place. Wish I would've done it sooner, when we were moving around. He's retiring this summer.
Military Overseas
When companies state no overseas applications or solicitations does that include Overseas Military?? I have DSL and we have a US Post office here on base. Curious cause i'm about to start school and want to know it wont be wasted while we are stationed overseas.
Thanks!
I appreciate the military. I DONT appreciate
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Transcribing for military hospital
I have a question, does anybody know of how to get into transcribing for say a military hospital so you could get government benefits, or has anybody does this before? Would love to have the safety net in retirement of some good government benefits.
Just wondering if there are other military wives out there who are also MTs? NM
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Are your military members fighting for your
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Your child JOINED military. Did she do so with
Sounds like apple doesnt fall far from tree if she made life changing move with no forethought. You say this is 2nd tour. To me that that means she and her hubby signed up for second time so its not like this was sprung on all of you. You need to learn to look ahead and plan better. And I dont mean plan on better ways to rob your fellow citizens.
when typing military time, is it, for ex: 1645 or 16:45 nm
Military time would be 1645 hours.
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a lotta of the older docs were in the military...sm
and these were memorized by rote...kinda like the ABCs. Extraordinarily bright men and women who'd served their country and then went on to be docs.
It's always nice to hear them say "Thank you for transcribing this dictation",  Cat
Her child was not drafted, JOINED military. Do
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I believe private MTSOs have to bid on contracts to do military work.
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care package for military in iraq ideas?? sm
i have a very close friend who is in iraq and i went to send something but no idea what? he ideas or someone know anyone in military and what they like to receive or need? FYI, they are on a ship. TYIA!
I totally understand but if your husband is like my husband... sm
When it comes to something like that, that I usually take care of but for whatever reason I can't, I will tell my husband exactly what to do, but when he comes back - to use your case as a "for instance" - I will ask him, "Did the doctor look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "Did you ask the doctor to look at his foot?"
Him: "No."
Me: "I told you to have the doctor look at his foot!"
Him: (shrug)
etc., etc., etc.
Your husband may not be like that - I sure hope he isn't. And yes, they should have checked his vitals and checked his foot without being asked. But sometimes you have to be assertive with people. And while my husband attained the rank of major in the Air Force and had no trouble ordering people around, there are times when he should be assertive but isn't. And he is not intimidated by doctors - he started his AF career as an x-ray tech (that's how we met). I dunno....(Rad MT wanders off, mumbling....)
Sounds like a wartime military POW personnel training manual..nm
I live in a small rural area and they housed some evacuees at a nearby military base
crime went UP in our little community that previously HAD a ~very low~ crime rate. It is a FACT. I'm not saying all NO residents are like that, but MANY seem to be.
My mom was raised in conditions like this poster describes. Mom's parents died when she was 7 (father) and 9 (mother). Her teenage sister (newlywed) raised her and 4 other siblings. They had next to nothing. Not ONE of them turned to a life of crime. Not ONE even graduated high school but they still made good lives for themselves. Life was rough for them, but they didn't blame it on everyone else and cry around about what the president should be doing for them. It is all about RESPONSIBILITY and taking what life throws your way. IMO.
LOL husband
But you have your husband all the time, think out of the box (smile)..who else would you want? Sure hubby or boyfriend is the best but.....
Not me...husband. nm
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At least I have a husband...
The word on the street is that your husband left with the better-looking, better-smelling, thinner girl next door. POOR MOLESTED YUCK!!
Yes, my husband and I had our
we chose our wedding date (go ahead and laugh if you want) so that we would have an auspicious start to our marriage...has worked so far, as we've been married for 23 years. People tease us 'cause we act like a couple of giddy teenagers around each other and (try not to throw up) it's really true.
Historically, centuries ago, physicians also were trained in astrology and wouldn't perform surgeries until the stars were aligned properly for the patient. No void of course moons and certainly no retrograde mercury.
Remember all the confusion with the 2001 presidential election? Election day was held with mercury retrograde.
And, yes, I believe what you've said. And, yes, listen to your intuition; it's never wrong. As Einstein said, "The intuitive mind is a sacred gift, and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
my husband does that, too
and he drives his truck. He's been thinking of getting him a motorcycle but with him using that at 4:30 a.m. in country roads that have no lights, do you think it is safe for him?
My husband is the same way SM
He mumbles and grumbles, rolls his eyes, etc. He says I spend all my time on the stinkin' computer. He wants me to stop working whenever he calls, whenever he is hungry, whenever he wants to go somewhere, etc. I feel so stressed out too. It is a regular argument in our home as well. I routinely work to 2 to 3 a.m. I get up at 6:45 to get the kids dressed and fed (big struggle as I am dead tired and they are generally uncooperative-not morning people-so I'm yelling, he's snoring (can you say "resentment??"). Finally, about 7:30 I wake him up and tell him to take the kids to school. He thinks he's so great because he spends 10 minutes dropping them off...ugh. Then he has the gall to throw it in my face that I go back to bed for 2 hours. Geesh...he comes home from work each night and crashes on the couch until it is time to go to bed.
Well, he certainly doesn't mind spending my paychecks and complains that they are not as big as they used to be (when I worked in house). Sigh...Men! Can't live with them, can't....nah, just can't live with 'em! ;) Waaaaahhhh!! I need a wife!
LOL....well, at least you know you're not alone! Hugs to you,
Chickadee
Husband's a CPA......
says you can work as an IC or SE, for different companies. You just get different forms from your companies to file with the IRS. As SE, they will pay some of your taxes, you then pay the rest quarterly, and you can still deduct your expenses. If IC, you pay ALL your own taxes quarterly and can still deduct expenses related to your business.
Husband
Well, first of all, I don't believe that it is babysitting if it is your own kids, it's called parenting and more husbands should try it. I think I would look into counseling. No way would I be married to a man who "let me" or "didn't let me" do anything. Good thing I have a great DH.
Good luck!
about husband won't let me.....sm
Wow - I feel like we are back in the Dark Ages....with the neanderthals...."husband won't let me go back to school" and "husband will not babysit the child" - or words to those effect.
Father's are not babysitters if the children are theirs! That's a crock. A babysitter is someone the parent(s) hires.
And as for "husband won't let me" - I'd have gotten rid of him DECADES ago. *lol* but not really laughing. Any man who will not let (allow) his wife to better herself in any way, shape, or form is a terribly INSECURE man. Get out before it's too late for you to save your own life and become your own HERO (heroine)!!!
feel very bad for the poster(s)........pitiful actually (the controlling husband)
Take my husband, Please !
 Why does he put his clothes on the bathroom or bedroom floor two inches away from the basket? Why does he take his plate to the sink with food on it when he knows he hasn't installed a garbage disposal? While I'm on that subject, why does he take PAPER plates to the sink? This is not helpful. 
Yes, please tell us how your husband
Some people are sooooooooo incredibly stupid. Some people are also plain ol' bigots and will attempt to lump everyone in the same category based on their race. How in the heck does your husband know the race of his classmates if he takes classes over the internet. Did his classmates tell him what their race was?
I am a black person and am extremely offended by your statement. Did you think that only white people visited this site?
this is my first husband.
My son was born out of a very short immature teenage relationship, which I ended 2 weeks after I told him I was pregnant. He proved his immaturity very quickly in his actions and I decided one baby would be enough to handle, I didn't need two. That choice, I feel, was very responsible and smart. I DO NOT regret keeping my son as he is a wonderful, smart, loving child who has a lot to give to this world.
I am done defending myself to those who choose to bring me down rather than offer some of the pros/cons of staying married or going single again.
What husband???
:)
No husband. nm
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My husband had this done
He regrets it sometimes. He still has problems on and off with reflux but had it much worse before the procedure. He lost a lot of weight after the procedure, probably 20 pounds or so because you are limited on the portion and what food you can eat. You are on a liquid diet the first 2-3 days then soft diet for about a week then gradually can start eating solid food again. He also has a lot of problems with gas, he constantly take gas pills but everyone I am sure is different.
my husband was there and...
He had me send Coolaid, nonperishable foods, candy, snacks, toiletries, and stuff like that. When my husband was over there, it was the beginning of the war over there and they didn't have all of that stuff. It may be different now though. You may want to go look at the forums at www.military.com. I am not sure, but you may find something there.
I said to my husband
at the beginning of the show "I hope Uncle June doesn't have a firearm in that house". He was talking about Pussy and some other guy that was also whacked. Tony made the mistake of saying one of their names when he was calling to him for supper. I COULD NOT BELIEVE IT! I said, "he shouldn't have said THAT", no sooner were the words out of my mouth and BANG! I hate when I'm right about things like that. He's going to survive, just waiting to see how it plays out. I LOVE THE SOPRANOS! I LOVE JAMES GANDOLFINI! Good night!
My husband was like you regarding me and
sleep. At night, it was difficult for me to fall asleep but in the morning, I was out and it took dynamite to get me up if I hadn't gotten my 8 hours of sleep. I didn't continue to sleep because I didn't want to start the day with him, I did it because I was so drowsy.
When I did get up, I could feel his resentment, made me feel like I was lazy. It was very very bad to start the day off with bad vibes. This happened on vacations as well. He was an early riser but would take naps in the afternoon. I preferred to stay in bed until 9.
Let your kids witness you and your husband in a healthy happy relationship and they will go on to create one just like yours. That is all kids want really. Your actions toward are being watched very closely by these kids.
And yes, your husband sounds like a good man. After my marriage ended (I left), my husband was more than willing to give me the little that I asked for but the negativity snuffed out the positive in the relationship.
My husband used it
He said the withdrawals really weren't that bad. It comes with an aroma inhaler and that helped him a lot! He's been a nonsmoker now for 3 years! Good luck! It's one of the best things you can do for yourself!
Ugh, I am so sorry for your husband.
I've learned that when they speak their native language as much or more as English, the accent never goes away. It's a crying shame.
My husband used it...sm
He used it when he was a teenager at about 16 for 3-4 months and then again as an adult at age 26 for three months.
He had no side effects at all except maybe dry skin. For him it was a life saver because he is a salesman and appearance means a lot.
You just have to make an informed decision. I would do it if my child had acne. I'm a 33-year-old adult and have the occassional pimple because of my birth control and hate it. I try to cover it up with makeup, but boys don't have that option. I, myself, wouldn't hesitate to use it if I had severe acne.
Anyway, my husband says he was told that there may be times again in the future when he has to use it. It is not for long-term use all at one time, but he used it for a few months twice in 10 years.
Hope this helps.
My husband
did the shopping when I was pregnant. One time he came home and had spent $400 at Kroger. WOW!!!! AND.........didn't buy any meat. I couldn't believe it. With the # of bags he brought in I would have thought $150 to $200. UGH. And no meat. I still can't get over that. LOL.
Needless to say I am back to doing the shopping. I would hate to imagine our financial situation if he handled the money. LOL.
My husband is the same way sm
Sometimes when I need a change I cook tortellini alfredo and crumble bacon over the top of it. He loves it. We usually add some garlic toast or a salad.
This is what husband and I have done...
for each big decision on job change, moving to a different state, or a situation similar to what you are facing now, one where we find it hard to decide but think we would be happy with either one. Scarey spot to be in, I know!
Make a list of two columns, one column for each choice (Admin Asst and MT).
Then list each pro/con for both options (each choice has to have the same pros and cons). Gas money, time spent with kids, social contact, type of work, etc., etc. - list whatever options are important to you.
Then assign a percentage or number to each option (my husband is an engineer so we have had to use this elaborate percentage work sheet thing he makes up!!! I just give him my number on a scale of 1 to 5 how I would rate each option and he does his mathematical calculations).
Then sit down with whoever you want to have input and start assigning numbers to each option in order of importance. If you use 1 as low importance and 5 as high importance - then, say, "Gas Money" option - working at home would be a 5 and the office would be a 1 (no gas money for home, lots of gas money for office). In other words, if gas money were the only consideration, home would win with a number 5 and office would lose with a number 1. Then go down your list assigning numbers.
When you are done, add up your numbers and see which option has the most points and that should tell you which you would prefer.
This may sound convoluted and I guess it is (unless you are an engineer or a math major) but, like I said, we have used this each time we have had a big decision to make, have gone ahead with the "most desirable" in terms of percentage outcome, and have been very content with our choice.
I might add that we have lived in 5 different states in 10 years - so we have really put this to the test!!!
The hardest part for me, I think, was getting to the point where I felt each option was equal in desirability. But you seem to be at that point already, having two choices and facing the anxiety of picking one over the other. So you are probably ready for THE BIG TEST.
Good luck to you no matter which you pick and whether or not you use my method!!
i see now that my husband is not only one
who can't seem to quit. I absolutely hate the effects (on health, house, etc), the stink, the cost, to the point i've thought of living separately. and he has been extremely self-diciplined in other areas of life too, but cannot seem to give this up.
My husband has this
My husband, 30 years old, had an ear infection. It got so bad that it caused him to develop Bell's palsy. They told him that it takes anywhere from three weeks to six months to return to normal, but he may have some permanent residual palsy. It has been about seven months and he still has some problems. He can only shut his eye about 75%, his smile is not all there and he has some noticeable paralysis to his cheek. Stress, common cold or hot days can bring on a recurrence or worsen residual symptoms. Our outlook is that there are worse things to have. Hope you do well with yours.
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