Any advice for dealing with picky eaters?
Posted By: Going Nuts! on 2006-06-13
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OK, I'll try to explain this the best I can. My boyfriend has two children...one is a girl who just turned 18. The other is a boy who is 15. These two children will not eat ANYTHING! The girl is pickier than the boy, but still he is bad enough on his own. I have an 8-year-old son who will eat more of a variety than these two put together.
I am really getting tired of eating the same old thing every week. They will eat chicken, pork chops, burgers, hot dogs, pizza, and steak. It gets very old. My boyfriend and I love italian food, but if we make it we have to cook something separate for the kids (not including mine) to eat!
The girl doesn't like ham. OH, but she will eat ham that you put on a sandwich...but if you cook a ham, she turns her nose up?!?!? She likes baked potatoes, but not mashed?!?!? The boy would live on pizza ANYTHING if you let him.
I know that since they are older there isn't much I can do about it. Plus, they aren't my children, so I feel strange saying much about it. Their dad tries to get them to try new things, but they won't do it. In my opinion, he doesn't really try hard enough. My son has always been made to try at least a bite of something new...if he really doesn't like it he doesn't have to eat it, but most of the time he thinks it's good.
I just am sick and tired of the dinner menu choices being so limited. My boyfriend is a great cook (I am a good cook too, but he loves to cook, so he does most of the cooking). I'll ask what's for dinner and then almost feel sick to my stomach when it's chicken AGAIN!!
If anyone has any advice I would appreciate it. I think I needed to vent about it more than anything.
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Picky eaters
Dealing with picky eaters is really hard. I have 2 kids, and their dad is really picky, and my kids inherited his pickiness. My daughter is 10, and she has never, ever had any type of beef before. She only likes cheese and bread and can't stand anything wet, such as salad dressings, or ketsup. She hates any type of fruit, vegetable, pizza or meat but will eat tofu and soybeans.
The way that I deal with it is this. I make a normal dinner, but I make sure there is 1 side dish that my kids will eat. They have to try at least one bite of everything if they want desert, but I never force them to eat anything.
I also have my kids each pick out 3 TV dinners each week. (Even that is hard, since they frequently have a hard time finding a TV dinner that they will eat). If they absolutely cannot stomach what I've made, they are allowed to make themselves a TV dinner instead. They know that if they ask for more that they have exceeded their "pickiness allowance" and that they have to eat what I make or starve.
picky eaters
My daughter is 9 and fairly picky. I agree with M, I always try to make sure there is a side dish that my daughter will eat, and if there is something in the main course (i.e. onions, tomatoes,) she is allowed to pick them out and eat the rest of the meal. However, if I make something new she has to try one bite of it. Many times she ends up liking them, although since your boyfriends kids are older that may not be easy for you.
My husband thinks the kids should eat whatever I make, regardless of if they like it, but I disagree somewhat. I think that we should all be allowed our taste buds, and that it is normal for one person to like what another doesn't. He has learned to come around to my way of thinking. LOL
Good luck to you!
My picky eaters were all told sm
as soon as they were 15 and working that if they didn't like what I put on the table, they could cook their own or order out. My oldest boy, 29, always ate anything and everything. He still does. My second boy, 22, only liked pizza (minus the cheese, go figure),chicken nuggets, popcorn, tomato soup with bacon bits, apples with peanut butter, and cereal. He has a girfriend now and eats more of a variety, like Chinese food. My third boy, 20, eats only freshly cooked food. He hates leftovers. Would rather go hungry than eat leftovers. He gets a lot at Subway or Burger King or he orders from the restaurant. My hubby was picky at one time, too, but not after 26 years of marriage. I always tried to keep whatever they liked on hand but that is as far as it went. I cooked the main meal. If they didn't like it, oh well. I told them I was not a chef in a restaurant. That solved a lot of problems. Sounds mean but I came from a family of 7 that had only 1 income and we ate what was put on the table and if we complained too much then we had liver and spinach the next night. We learned in a big hurry. 
Oh there are placenta eaters everywhere, with hairy legs and armpits SM
and breast-feeding their kids till they're five. I didn't know John ate a placenta. That's gross to me. But you can't deny what his message was and I don't see how you could find fault with it because he wasn't just like you.
Picky
What kind of pickiness? Was it for style-related issues or things like type-o's? Do they give you account guidelines to follow?
Same here too. They are VERY VERY picky...
that every single word of radiology is done just so. Even if WE mess up a word, they rads catch it and bring it to our attention. They'd never be happy with VR.
Nit picky
I was doing some subcontracting when business was a little slow about 3-4 years ago and the gal would send me back little corrections circled in red and on the margin was the correction -- it was like a teacher but she would get me for not putting punctuation in the address, (which the post office wanted no punctuation) abbreviations for Ave or street or really pickly things that did not make sense and did not change the meaning of the sentence. But to her defense I also noticed that I had been getting sloppy, like driving a care for 20 years and then taking a driving test, and some things that she brought to my attention I did appreciate but some were just ridiculous. So after a while when business picked back up I could give her up. A learning lession for me.
If you are so picky about the pay, then
As long as there is work and you do it, 8 cpl adds up quickly.
I was always picky about what I ate
but I have learned to eat a better variety than I did as a child. Chitlins haven't made it to my list though. Used to hate, hate, hate cabbage too but I love them now! Who knows, maybe I'll be brave and try chitlins one day. Umm, probably not. What made you finally give in and give them a try?
Picky, picky, picky, picky, picky, picky!
I have a picky little kid who doesn't like
it when the bread gets soggy from the PB&J. I make sandwiches ahead of time and use hamburger buns, which are inexpensive at the thrift bread store. The buns are more dense than bread, so they don't get soggy. You can also make the PB&Js ahead of time on bread and freeze them, although I've never tried it. Or put a light layer of peanut butter on both pieces of bread, then spread the jelly. The jelly won't soak into the bread through the peanut butter.
I do like the other Mom's advice about prebagging things like cookies and chips. I prebag carrot sticks and celery in the fridge. We use a lot of yogurt and applesauce cups, granola bars, fruit bars, juice boxes, and that type of thing. It does add up and costs as much as a hot lunch, but the kids don't like hot lunch. It takes me maybe two minutes to do a lunchbox.
Some accounts are picky and
some are not so, just depends. It sounds to me like you are frustrated and are not feeling appreciated. Do they also give you positive feedback? I personally would love to get some QA back, especially on correct style. If you are unhappy with them, there are a a lot of job openings. I would try looking around with someone you might be happier with. Better yet, get your own accounts.
I'm gonna seem picky here...
Anybody have any ideas for appetizers that are simple, quick, and relatively cheap? I know I'm particular, but I'm not a good cook, don't have much time or money!! This is just for a card game, so I don't want anything extravagant anyway. Thanks bunches!
It's a very picky platform
That's an issue they need to address big time. However, they do have adapters for that kind of stuff. I had to get a USB-to-Serial adapter for my food pedal when I used EditScript.
Picky vets
You're right, landroverlady, the vets are incredibly picky about their reports, yet they are far from perfect themselves. It is a relatively new trend that the veterinarian offices are turning to "professional" transcription services to have their reports typed, so they have no clue what the "norm" is in transcription. If they weren't so darned picky, it would make my job a lot easier in hiring and training. Any time someone makes even the smallest mistake, I am sure to get a phone call or email from an unhappy doctor! Life would be sooo much easier if they read their reports in the same manner that they dictated! 
Depends on how picky they are (verbatim)....
I personally would prefer to type "cillin"-type medications or something like that. Maybe check with your QA point person. If you have never been told who he/she is (would not surprise me), his/her e-mail should be listed near the top of the client profile.
It's kind of like with picky little kids.
You have to serve them certain things at least 10 times before they get used to them enough to eat them. And always serve the vegetables first so you eat them when you're the most hungry. I'm not a vegetarian, but I do try to make at least half my plate at each meal vegetables or fruit. There are some veggies I won't eat cooked, but they're great raw. There are some veggies that taste better fresh and steamed than canned and reheated. I finally like onions and red peppers but it took forever to adjust my tastes.
I'm waiting for hubby to make some Italian veggie omelettes right now. Spinach, tomatoes, onions, peppers, fresh garlic with eggs, Italian seasoning, low fat mozzarella and a sprinkle of parmesan. 12-grain toast, cantaloupe and Italian dark roast coffee on the side.
Picky is the name of the game IMHO. Either it's right or it's not.
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AND they are trying to throw in more nit-picky things about what this doc wants...
and this doctor always needs to go to QA and this resident needs an extra signature line and make sure the visit you selected was at the right place and be sure to change this worktype for this doctor because we cannot teach him to do it and we can't tell this doctor that worktype 800 is really not an EEG because we don't think he'll get it and no we can't get the software to recognize a visit ID when its entered and no you cannot start the audio in the document information screen so you can verify the patient and please automatically know when the doctor gives one name at the beginning of the dictation and a different one at the end who he is really typing about and take the following VR sentence and make it a lucid part of a medical report - CT scan guided biopsy performed February refills banding is without mucus brain which is negative.
My VR plan is quickly shaping up like this...take a 20-hour a week job at the local nursing home for full health insurance benefits and find an IC job doing transcription for supplemental income and repeat year after year until ready to be in nursing home.
Unfortunately, their way of dealing SM
with what they call a "troublemaker" on that forum is to state that the discussion has gone as far as it can go and they proceed to lock the topic. If you try to open a new topic, they lock that one also.
There are so many issues they have done this on, their advertising ethics, the cost of the BOS, not giving the journal to student members...they just say IT'S BEEN DECIDED, NO FURTHER DISCUSSION. Really makes someone want to join, doesn't it? 
Dealing with it
We went to a lot of counseling and at first I did not agree with the counselor but now I see where he was coming from. It was worse in my situation as my husband is a truck driver and was on the road a lot and so I was the main discipline, rule maker, etc. His son lived with us twice and when he stole our car, etc. he did go back to Florida where his mother lived as he had outstanding juvenile warrants down there that his mother forgot to tell us about when she shipped him to us. But looking back I definitely see where it was the unstable life style and the first time that he was as bad as he was, we should not have sent him back to him Mom where he wanted to go. That is how he controlled us was by being bad. Now I see what the counselor was saying that no matter what he did, we were not to send him back to his mother but we did. Even if we had to separate but basically what the counselor was trying to do was to get Jeff to quit his job and stay more at home and be with his son more which he refused to do, so the first time (age 11) he took a butcher knife to new furniture, stole money and checks and took his bicycle trying to run away to Florida. Then he came back at age 16 and did the car thing. But I truly think that if we had stuck it out the first time, it might have made a difference but who knows. But my ex also had two daughters from a second marriage and I am closer to them than he is. We are now divorced -- no children -- after 22 years but I stay in contact with the kids --well grown kids now and see them. One got married a year ago and I went to the wedding, Dad did not. The easy thing to do is to walk away and give up, the hard thing to do is to love them and try to shape their life somewhat. It is hard but I really don't think it is impossible at this age. But your husband does have to lay down some rules, give you the support when you need it and let them know that they must listen to you as well. You are a family and I always worked with the kids mother to show unity and in fact am still friends with one of them but have gotten along with both of them better than he did. We just tried to do what was best for the kids. But again, they do need to know you are a united front and together and at this age, they have two choices, follow the rules and be part of a family or not and be alone. My oldest stepdaughter called on Mother's Day to say hello and she had lived with me/us from age 19 to 21 and gave us especially me since I was home most of the time a run for our money. Nothing like the stepson but doing some partying, not calling, things that normal kids do. She did move out after a little over a year but stayed in the area. She did apologize and say that she now understood where I was coming from and wished she had been a little different but she did appreciate everything I had done for her and was glad that we were still friends. So that kind of made my day. Again, counseling would be a good idea. Remember that kid is coming from a different lifestyle and we expect them to adapt immediately to our lifestyle. Like when you first get married and your first Christmas comes along and you realize you now have to deal with celebrating Christmas two different ways with two sets of traditions, it is hard. Good luck. Sorry I rambled on so much. Patti
That is exactly what I am dealing with....nm
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Dealing with burnout
Hi:
Is anyone out there dealing with burnout due to their transcription job? I have been doing this for 7 years as an Independent with only 1 vacation in that time. I work weekends and holidays and feel like I am about ready to yank my freaking hair out  from the responsibility!!!
Lynn
I don't like any commercials dealing with
gender, medical, racy or adult topics. I mean, really, when's the last time you saw a feminine product on TV and decided that you simply must run to the store right away to get you some? Cialis and Viagra? Come on, maybe E.D. was invented to give women a break for once in their adult lives. And all those pills being pushed by the manufacturers? Yes, let's go to the doctor and demand pills because we're all self-diagnosing.
The only one having trouble dealing with anything is you
If your life sucks it's no one's fault but your own. Successful people take accountability for their lives and move forward instead of placing blame wherever they can and being angry at the world like you obviously are.
The only one having trouble dealing with anything is you
If your life sucks it's no one's fault but your own. Successful people take accountability for their lives and move forward instead of placing blame wherever they can and being angry at the world like you obviously are.
My prayers are with those who are dealing
with Hurricane Wilma. I'm catching bits and pieces on TV and, living in the midwest, I can't imagine the fear that must go through those who stay to ride it out. I would be terrified. God bless all of you.
Guess I'm just not used to dealing with this
In the hospital when I was in-house, the radiologists always said "assault" or even "alleged assault." They never got more specific than that.
This is the first time I have run across this particular issue as a Rad MT. I suppose it is more common to hear about it in other modalities.
I am dealing with the same thing
me since October. They owe for three months of work at this point. I get the runaround when asking the office staff. I have put a call in to their accountant. I have not approached the physician himself, but that's my next step.
My husband has told me to not type another page until I'm paid. They owe me hundreds of dollars, and I plan to hopefully get that payment and then quit.
It is unfortunate, but is not worth me stressing over it. I am tired of robbing peter to pay paul, yet I've been loyal. This same practice had the nerve to call me last week to type a STAT report for them. How dare they?
I am so tired of this situation and I plan to get away from it. I would rather take a cut in pay then have no pay at all for months on end. It is driving me insanse.
QA that is so picky it makes you go back and relisten to the whole thing.
when it causes people to live in fear of losing their jobs because they get a major error from doing a new specialty, you wish you weren't helping out on the new specialty, and tend to turn off the computer.
I hate to be picky but it is "advice" not "advise". Come on now, we are supposed to be
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It is to the Johns. And drug dealing is a necessary
job to the addicts. And hey, both of those make more money than most people do working an honest job.
I've been dealing with AOL since 1996...
so U may be eligible! I don't think I've ever hated a company more...well...yeah. LOL
The person in question is not K.P. We are dealing with
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and just plain out right dealing with folks!
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Maybe facilities use to dealing with employees
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US HOSPITALS ARE DEALING WITH THESE PEOPLE.
nm
Are you really dealing with a weight issue that significant?
BUt I like not being the boss and dealing with the headaches and I like having co-workers to help
:+
So tired of dealing with incompetent offices...
they just emailed me for the upteenth time for a stat report that I already sent to them 40 minutes ago. Wouldn't you think they'd check to see if they had it first!?! Constantly emailing me questioning what they've sent me and when. Why can't she keep logs like I do!?! Doesn't take a rocket scientist! Can't remember from day to day to send me patient lists. Don't know what the heck she does with incomplete reports I've sent because doc doesn't give a name of messes up his dictation and cuts half of it off. I'll get a call a couple of weeks later saying doc insists he dictated on so and so, but they never got the report. I'm the one who has to go back and search for the nameless reports and match up the the patient they're missing with diagnoses, age etc., then tell her that's the one I sent you on that date that was incomplete. Why can't she figure that out!!! If I functioned like they do, I wouldn't last a week! Sorry, had to vent.....
Anything traumatic dealing with young children gets to me (nm)
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By any chance are you dealing with Indian technicians?? nm
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has nothing to do with the race, but rather the communication gap when dealing with my own medical n
I pay a premium for through my health insurance coverage. I want clear communication with my physician. Please do not throw the racial aspect in, as it has absolutely no bearing on the point at hand. In fact, my gynecologist is Asian, but she has taken the time to learn our language because she chose to practice medicine here.
Been dealing with banks all morning and majorly stressed.
Have you ever had a credit card and all the phone numbers they give you do not allow you to talk to a live person, but get an automated system, that is not capable of doing what you need? Have you ever had a late charge because it took the bank 3 days to post an on-line payment? I'm going to have to write a letter I guess and when the next statement comes I'm paying it off and cancelling, though I'm not sure how I'll do that - have to write another letter.
Can you use a debit card on-line just like you can a credit card. I know most places only accept 3 major credit cards and didn't know if I entered a Visa debit # if that would be the same. I prefer Paypal cause I keep a little stash for on-line purchase, though most places don't take Paypal at least not yet. I just know I've got to get rid of the credit cards - much too stressful.
I didn't put up with it! I kicked my ex to the curb because I got tired of dealing with his SM
friends and incessant need to pretend he was a college boy, going to the bars, coming home drunk at 3 o'clock in the morning. Let me tell, nothing goods from letting your man hang out in bars with his buddies. NOTHING! If he needs to have a drink and relax, he can do that at home and the drinks are cheaper!
I can understand that it's hard for you not to give your friend your opinion. I can't hardly stand to see a woman letting a man treat her badly. It drives me crazy! Call me a feminist or a bra burner, but modern women need to get the message that we don't need men so badly we have to put up with all the garbage they hand out!
I completely agree. Working alone is so much better than dealing with all that stuff.
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I was just dealing with this yesterday. I really love it when they change something to mean the exac
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Advice to YOU..1st learn to spell before insulting poster and trying to give advice...sm
You're welcome! Start dealing with some lawyers, and they make MQ look nice!
I definitely feel like we are dealing with the same person! I think I need to make some phone calls
and put a stop to her! I cannot stand the idea that she is out there still scamming people like she scammed me!
Sound advice from a fellow MT if you want advice or support (sm)
I have been an MT for over 10 years. I also am getting burnt out, tired of my job, day in day. However, I do love transcription and make excellent money at it, have grossed over $50,000 per year the last 5 years. I decided to go back to nursing school and am very happy with my choice. However, over these 10 years of transcription I have had my ups and downs. My biggest issue with being at home working is lack of socialization, being home day in and day out with just the kids and the animals really gets to a person, sure hubby is home at night and thinks working from home is the easy life, thus the return to school and boy has my overall enjoyment of life changed once I realized I was the problem, not everyone else and I needed to find myself again.
Anyway, my biggest advice to you three-fold:
1. Get into counseling for yourself, find out who you are and what your needs are, whether or not you think you need to, I sense you are feeling overwhelmed and need someone other than your family to talk to that can be nonjudgmental to your feelings and needs.
2. If you're only making $100 after you pay preschool you can either keep doing it and be miserable, or quit because you are lucky enough to have a husband who can support the family without your income. (See how fast his mind changes just by losing the income you do have as to whether your job means anything.) Or look for a different company or office that you like more and are more productive if you really want to do transcription (lots of fish in the sea as far as companies).
3. Find a local "mom's" group where you can get out and socialize. MOPS (mother's of preschoolers) is an excellent one that is nationwide, they have a website. Also Mom2Mom is in a lot of areas. They provide a once a week time for moms with kids the same age to get together, socialize, (some offer spirtual guidance some don't) and each week a different mom takes a turn watching everyone else's children at the facility that hosts it so the other moms can talk about things they have in common. Every stay-at-home and work-from-home mom needs to socialize with adults, without their kids, or they will have a nervous breakdown eventually no matter how much they love their kids.
Sorry so long but it does get better but you have to take the first step at making yourself happy.
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