And I thank the mothers of boys who have raised them to respect women.
Posted By: (nm) on 2005-07-06
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Unfortunately we as women tend to be raised to think that
our lives aren't complete unless we "have a man". Men, on the other hand, are raised to value their careers, educations and be as financially successful and independent as they can be. Therein lies the problem. We're supposed to dream of a big wedding, they're supposed to dream of being president of a huge corporation.
Moms, raise your daughters to be independent, educated and successful and if someone fits into their lives after they are, that's great; and if not, so what?
Mothers covering for childless women? Don't make me laugh!! nm
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Like customer service everywhere - people don't care, no self-respect, no respect for.
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I respect YOUR opinion. Please respect mine!
I don't think there is any need for mud-slinging. The ONLY thing I contribute to AHDI is the recertification fee. The rest are expenses that are deductible to keep me recertified. Again, that's MY choice.
Correction - Men and women cheat - men get caught - women don't
I know more women who cheat than the other way around, and the difference is that no one knows about it unless THEY tell them.
Women, especially women of childbearing
age (especially this woman) prefer indoor plumbing and a bit of privacy rather than using a port-a-potty. I met a woman recently, she and her husband built the house behind me. She is also a master mechanic and does landscaping, all traditional male professions. She is a bit rough around the edges and I would never have pictured her with the man who is her husband.
I know a few male MTs and if they aren't gay, they missed a good chance.
Mothers day
It could be worse...my husband I I decided to divorce on Mother's Day...and I got nothing from any of my 4 kids.
Right on! I agree with you. It is exactly how I was raised -
and I am a mess when it comes to self-esteem, haha! In fact, the man I am with was raised so full of confidence and self-worth, he has taught me a lot.
He still has a union on his job, but you know what? He works with mostly women. They can not agree on anything. All management has to do is get them arguing about little petty stuff (which seems quite easy, I am afraid), and when it comes to any big decisions, the employees lose out because they are too busy in-fighting.
They even go against the union and do extra work WITHOUT getting paid, and then sort of 'bully' people into doing the same. A huge no-no - there should be NO sympathy for the 'corporation' or 'companies' because they in turn only take away more benefits, more money from employees.
No matter how he tries, though, he can NOT get these women to stand up for themselves in a united way, no sir, no way, uh uh.
Our cat was raised an indoor cat - she has never been out except once -sm
when I "walked" her. She was terrified to be out as she is not used to it. We have her set up with some tables/shelves by all the front windows and she has fun watching the birds and squirrels. She has a nice scratching post too and has never scratched the furniture. She also has spots she can hide out in --trundle under a bed and the upper bunk bed--so she can get way from the dogs and kids---one dog wants to eat her so we have to be real careful. We keep her in the bedroom at night in case the dogs get out of the rooms they stay in at night. But in the morning (i.e. 6 a.m.) she is meowing and scratching the door to get out of the bedroom, annoying to say the least...I expect you will hear a lot of that. I guess just try to have all the stuff I mentioned above and a lot of patience.
Hand raised...
I too tell my teens to get off the phone, bed by 10:30 usually, curfew and such. It's hard because her friends don't have curfews and she does. It's very difficult to be the "party pooper" but somebody has to.
I raised my children being an
having had their mom home. They are grown now and have their own children. I still work at home as an MT and am able to watch my granddaughter. She does not go to daycare, she goes to grandma's and says she is so much happier here.
BRAVO! The mothers never want to work SM
a holiday, they want every school break to be off with their children, they have to go on a field trip, they need to take Bratleigh to the doctor, on and on.
Taking a full-time job is great for them with full-time benefits until they are told they have to work some weekends or God forbid CHRISTMAS....what about the chilllllldddrennnnnn......
if our mothers don't kill us while we are in the womb.
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Message for those who aren't mothers...sm
I hope you made it through the day yesterday without it bothering you that you're not a mom. For many years I'd try to avoid going to the stores around Mother's Day and having clerks say "Happy Mother's Day" and avoid church because of the Mother's Day recognition because it emotionally stung that I wasn't married or a mom. My heart breaks for a good friend who had a miscarriage 2 years ago and is now infertile as she hates the "happy mother's day" wishes as it brings up the sad emotions. I can't even begin to imagine how painful that must be for her and others who have shared the same misfortunes.
I'm now 43 and am now a foster mom so while I don't have any biological children I do have a precious child living with me. I'm sure that her mom was sad yesterday that she chose drugs over raising her child and lost custody because of drugs, but I am grateful that I'm able to use my motherly ways with her.
Message for those who aren't mothers...
I have 2 goldens, 1 Shelties, and 3 cats. Do they count? I love them and they love me! I buy them food and fix their meals. In the evening they get a pseudo raw diet and marrow bones. I take the dogs to obedience, agility, and handling classes. I bring them to the vet. I make sure they have plenty of tennies (tennis balls) and woobies (toy they can rip the stuffing out of) give them unwanted baths, cut toenails, scoop up the yard, play with them, give ear scrunches, belly rubs, give out meds to Taz Duh Golden (dumber than a box of rocks) who has severe heart disease (subaortic stenosis and cor pulmonale), and my heart is torn when any of them make their journey to the Bridge.
So, in a way, I am a mom. Only difference.....mine have 4 legs and not 2. 
work-at-home mothers
And admiration and respect to the MT at-home moms (dads too)who do this demanding job with kids at home! Hats off to you!
That was her - raised a red flag for me too - I wish I had said something at the time nm
i'm shy too, raised an only child, like my independence
 Others do judge that, but i'm tired of justifying it to be quite honest.
I was raised in a union family.
I'm not anti-union at all. BUT, we don't have any leverage present for unionization. Between speech recognition and offshoring practices, there is no leverage for us.
I see it as a much bigger issue than just forcing MTSOs to pay more and keep work here in the US. We would have to drive down healthcare costs for hospitals and clinics and physicians all over. This is just one small piece of the pie.
As another poster down the page pointed out, unions usually start within a company. The workers of a company unionize and then grow from there.
Having been raised in a union environment and with my father having held positions in that union several years, I agree with his advice: A company will do anything to stop you from unionizing. They would fire every single one of you. They can. They have the backup to get the work done. It is not in your best interest to try to do this with your industry.
His advice when we talked about this was to just join current unions as individuals.
I agree with him.
Happy Mothers Day from the staff at MTStars! May you have the best day!
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What a very sweet surprise! Happy Mothers Day
nm
Why only young mothers who want to earn extra?
Why this statement? What about us older ones? I just do not get that statement because I would think experience counts a lot in this job.
you raised a point I've been thinking about
With the use of Expanders becoming the norm now - at least from our end of things - I can't help but wonder if eventually that could really backfire on us.
It wouldn't surprise me one bit if a lot of docs, hospitals, etc. really don't have a clue that a lot of the line counts they're being charged for really weren't transcribed -- and when/if they do find out, I wonder how many will have the same reaction as your doctor.
I know expanders are necessary to meet line count quotas, but where are we going to be if the clients decide they only want to pay for actual keystrokes.
Mothers volunteer as "aides" at their children's schools
supposed to help, not hinder.
Die hard Eagles fan - PhillyGirl, born and raised!
Born in South Philly, now live in NorthEast Philly.
Most daddies don't die. It's the breeding with losers that makes single mothers...
and you need to replace your crystal ball, because it's cracked. I happen to be very happily married with NO kids and LOVE it. Now, some of you will start squawking that I'm bitter because I don't have kids, but I assure you I am grateful every day of my life that I don't have to deal with kids, especially when I read on these boards how unhappy so many mothers seem to be.
If I'm harsh, it's because I've gotten the short end of the stick SO MANY FREAKING TIMES in my working life because of single mothers who expect and get preferential treatment, while those of us w/o kids are expected to pick up the slack. And guess what? I'm SICK of it.
in the old days, most animals raised for consumption at least got a life while they were alive.
not anymore.
Not only are they treated with unbelieveable barbarity, the producers are destroying irreplaceable GOVERNMENT (meaning, it's OURS) owned forests and range for feed - more and more each year...not to mention the absolute filth rampant in the industry - they have them so crowded and unclean that it's a wonder MORE e.coli and other diseases aren't pandemic.
Go visit a slaughter house - any slaughter house. Yep, it's not that hard to give up meat. It is totally unnecessary in anybody's diet.
I have to admit though, when the neighbors are barbecuing a slab of pork, my mouth waters and my brain goes into DESIRE!!!
I'll ditto that! Born/raised SFL. Living near Gville now
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From what I read, his real mother was off the scene very very early on. Stepmom raised him
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They look like boys. That's why the OP
liked Jude Law. Boyish charm. That's why I think they are a bit effeminate. They never got past boyhood.
THREE boys.
I also tried eliminating sugar, reducing caffeine, exercise, and even going braless because I heard the underwire could be causing it. Nothing has helped so far. There's also a website out there where women are pulling together because doctors aren't informing us of the side effects of tubal ligation.
I have boys, too.
They've had girls chasing after them since kindergarten. The notes from girls that I find in the laundry were just too much. I love you, I want to marry you. Goodness! Last year, my 11 y.o.b. had a girl threaten to kill herself if he didn't "go out" with her. He took it really hard because we had just lost a family member to suicide, and he felt like he had to do what this girl told him to do or she would die. She even told him her parents had lost custody of her and she had to go live in another state to be adopted. Compulsive liar. I had to go in to the school and nip it in the bud with the teachers, school counselor and principal.
I told my boys they would not be dating or "going out" until they were in high school. Even with that, my oldest boy had a girl who wanted to sneak around behind her mother's back and lie to see him because she wasn't allowed to date. I told my son no way, you're either straight up with the girl's parents and introduce yourself to them, or you don't date. He told her that, and she dropped him like a hot potato because she didn't want to date an honest boy.
BUT, not ALL little boys do this.....
mom of 3, soccer mom, basebal mom, footbal mom, teacher's helper, preschool daycare provider, 2 brothers, 20+ male cousins and NEVER saw anything like this.
Then why are they after little BOYS???
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Being there for my boys
You nailed it! When I first started, it was purely by accident, trained on the job (1987), and way long before being married/kids. People would say to me "you can do that at home cant you"? Oh no way I said! I never expected to even stay in this profession, I was going to college. But then when I found myself having my kids at 36/37, I realized I did not want to got back to work, so the same hospital I worked for hired me to help at night from home. Who would have thought that my transitional job would be my savior so that I could afford to stay home with my boys. It was truly a blessing, and sometimes when it seems unfair, it's beats having to wake my little guys (4&5) and take them to daycare for 9 hours. Would not trade it for nothing!
when my boys were little they use sm
to come to my office and they said they also said mom sounded like a machine gun typing. The old wheelwriter typewriters, I really did like the sound. It relaxes me for some reason!
ALL little boys do that. They think it's funny.
Boys' language and social skills are also slower to develop than girls. Wait until they have a name writing contest outside in the snow on the school playground. Speaking from experience, sometimes teachers have personality clashes with students and do pick on them.
No, ALL little boys don't do that. Watch your
Yes, I have a son.
What about moms doing the same with little boys?
Ya know that's done more than the former!
My experience with my own boys
was to teach them the fine art of respect and acknowledgement in such events.
For a family member that was not distant in relation, I had them attend. They did not have to approach/view the casket, but they attended. They learned to sign the guestbook. They learned how to order flowers, sign cards, and I spent time showing them the funeral/visitation process.
I had a class in high school on death and dying and it taught me quite a bit I was unaware of.
Most of all, I wanted them to be prepared and as comfortable as possible with their roles and expectations placed on them when these painful situations happen.
My boys were 3 1/2 and my girls were 2.
Cheerios in the toilet worked for me. SINK THOSE BATTLESHIPS!! :)
But both boys were 3 1/2 at least and when I was just about ready to give up, they just started using the bathroom as if nobody had ever told them a thing.
Pressuring and scolding are the 2 worst things you can do. Just be laid back and all of a sudden one day, they are diaper free. None of my 4 have ever had an accident or wet the bed since the day it kind of dawned on them. Sort of like the day they learn to ride a bike without training wheels. :)
This too shall pass like water under the bridge. No pun intended. Now I'm buying diapers for my grandkids.
Those boys need to be exposed to camping LOL!!
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20 and still married with 3 boys, 25 years later nm
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plus 2 (monsters)boys, 4 and 2 at home
nm
I agree that boys are not any easier.
I have raised 2 girls and am now raising a 13-yo boy and 2 11-yo girls. I think boys are worse, although the girls are no picnic.
Well, I have 3 rambuncious (sp), bull headed boys. sm
Of course, they knew everything then and know everything now. I couldn't pick their friends but boy I sure pounded into their heads that as long as their friends were at my house, they abided by my rules and my boys were responsible for their friends' behaviors. If their friends acted out of line, my boys were responsible for telling them to get the hell out--didn't have much trouble when I gave the kids that responsibility. Sometimes their friends weren't the cream of the crop or came from not very well to do families, but they always acted appropriately at our house, then and now. Have earned a lot of respect from my kids' friends that way. Sometimes, they spent more time at our house than they did their own. My kids weren't angels but they didn't turn out to be felons or junkies or drunks, either.
Now, now,. No gold stars for little girls and boys
who have an ugly attitude. You might have to sit in the corner.
Hahahahahahahaha
Think this through. 5 hours in a car with two boys aged 2 and 4? I think your husband might be
on the right wavelength here. By the time you get there, you would all be tired and crabby, he has been working 13 days straight so he is probably tired and crabby and then you have to do the reverse trip in just a day? Maybe if the boys were 12 and 14 but at 2 and 4, the 5-hour drive could turn into 7 hours with stops.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. My husband goes fishing with the guys for a week each summer and I think it does us both good. It is like a vacation at home too and we do goofy things like eating cake for dinner just to make it "fun" and not a whine fest for the kids.
Be grateful that you have a husband who obviously has a great job and who is thinking about you (although it might not seem like it).
Take the 5 hours each way and do something fun with the boys instead :)
Signed,
Happily Married but not joined at the hip
I forgot the bathroom - me and I have 3 boys (10, 5, 2) and a husband - YUK!!
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Blind boys are being taught MT now in Indonesia or someplace like that. Was
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I think the boys did a much better job than the girls -- I really like Taylor's style of singing
let's face it, I just enjoy everything about Ace! For the girls, I like Paris, and what's not to like about Kelly?
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