Absolutely, any parent who does less is negligent! Glad my kids are grown, my baby will be 18 in Ju
Posted By: Dee on 2005-07-05
In Reply to: Have we reached the point where we cannot let our children out of our sights? sm - Sue Casa
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As a parent of 3 grown men, I'd be real clear with him
on the reason for quitting. This is not the norm for most of these players, especially after playing for so many years. After this time it's usually "in their blood" as some would say. You really need to keep an eye on him and see where he really focuses his time now that he's not playing. Since his GPA is 4.0, it just throws up a flag to me as I read your post, and I'd be sure to keep a close eye on this young man. BUT, for your P.S., his team may nudge him back into playing and I don't necessarily think that would be a bad thing. Hopefully it's not a people problem that's caused him to want to quit, i.e. people picking on the little guy (wink, offensive linemen usually aren't too little, are they?). Just make sure you stay objective and keep an eye on the bigger picture if that's possible.
I remember when my now 25-yo was the tight end in pee wee footbal, lots of practice and lots of fun. He totally loved it but quit after midgets because he couldn't get along wth an upcoming coach. Ahhh, those were the days. Thanks for making me remember some good times.
Yes and grown-ups and do not cry like a baby
over some lost time on a newbie! Business is business. Why cry baby about it on this board! This kind of thing happens every day. People do get better offers and this OP wants to cry baby about some lost time! She should have picked someone who was experienced instead of trying to CLAIM she was helping a newbie! I bet if this all came out in the wash, she was only paying a small cpl and wanted a whole lot! I'd bet she's more upset about the fact that she has to do her own work instead of making more than half on someone else. I just don't think a "grown-up" should make accusations of "people stealing information" or try to slander someone's name simply because they cannot support the account. That kind of thing happens every day. If you feel sorry for this OP, you need help more than me. Misery loves company! I'm bitter, but the OP isn't? Who really needs to get over it? Me or the OP or maybe even you!!! tsk tsk on the OP and you! People quit, people make changes, get better offers, cannot put up with being micromanaged, and that is no reason to slander someone! Making false accusations regarding stealing information can also result in a lawsuit. Poor taste in this OP and I hope I never take a job with her and want to quit for any reason! JMO. 
I agree - my kids are grown and gone.
The house looks great, but I do miss the days when they were kids and lived here.
So since YOU don't have to worry about it because your kids are grown
Have you ever ONCE tried to put yourself in someone else's shoes or see something from someone else's point of view? Have you ever, in your entire life, had an open mind about anything?
Apparently not, from what I've seen here.
I understand when the kids are grown, so I started over!
My youngest was turning 17 when I got pregnant with another. I guess it is called empty nest syndrome. I'm now 48 and raising a 7 year old beautiful little girl and I remember when my oldest children were growing up I'd think it was never going to end. Now I wake up every day thinking she is growing up too fast! I sure appreciate her more, now that I've seen how fast they will be gone!
Glad an Old Baby Boomer could
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44-year-old WF, M, Texas, 3 grown kids, just had 26 year wedding anv.
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Split - first in the morning before kids get up and then the rest during baby's naps.
It helps that I can do an entire day's work in 3-4 hours.
Glad you don't take care of my kids
If I was paying you for daycare for my kids that is what I would expect you to be doing. Not off in a corner transcribing medical reports. If you are licensed maybe they should check into your license. You are licensed to take care of kids while there are with you not transcribe, and if you aren't licensed that explains it.
Glad I don't take care of your kids too...
None of those scenarios you guys mention happen here while I am working. You may allow children to hit each other in the head with trucks, but that behavior is unacceptable here. I run a very well organized daycare, all the parents know I type during the children's naptime and movie time and have no problem with it because they are right here in the room with me and mom knows her child is being well taken care of. My job as Transcriptionist doesn't suffer as I have never gotten an audit of less than 98% and have made 100% accuracy on many audits. Whether you guys believe it or not and want to put me down is not my concern as your hateful opinions matter nada bit to me. :)
Absolutely would - however, I have to wait until my 2 kids are out of school
and off to college! I always wanted to be a traveling Transcriptionist with K-Force. I have 3 more years to wait and off I will go to a traveling transcription position.
I, however, love change and get bored fairly quickly. So, I would prefer the shorter assignments from place to place - 3 years is too long in one place for me!
Good luck to you!
Glad it's not just my kids.. They have radar for ANYTHING yummy. Hmmmm,
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Glad I'm not the only one.. My kids have had cystic fibrosis, leukemia, mono, and bone cancer.
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Morning baby, morning adult. Kids born at 11:30AM (both) are night owls, however. Go figure! :) nm
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Are you PT, 3rd shift, negligent to your children, or just plain dillusional? SM
I worked FT with a newborn and had a hospital surgical account. My top priority was to see that all of the preoperative H&Ps were transcribed by 7:00 a.m. I never knew if I would be waking up to 14 or 40, so I would start my day already sleep deprived at 4:00 a.m.
One of my all time worst work at home memories was when I was on my last stat report around 6:50 a.m. and I could hear my little angle crying because was hungry and of course wanted her bottle. I just sat there for a few seconds and tried to determine which of the two top priorities in my life I should take care of. Could I run to the baby and put my job in jeopardy or sit there and pretend not to hear her. I was a new mom by the way. So what I did was try to stay focused, riddled with guilt, then proceeded to transcribe the rest of the report through so many tears, I could hardly see my monitor. THAT was THE worst day of my at-home transcription career.
I don't care what anyone says, without the structured setting of an office environment, working at home is very hard. Just ask yourself how many people, family, friends, or otherwise have called you during your workday that wouldn't dare call you in an office OUTSIDE the home.
My goofy sister called me from her job when I was employee status and had the nerve to ask me to round up her horse that had gotten out and put it up. I told her I would have to clock out just the same as she would. Needless to say, the horse enjoyed a day of freedom.
My daughter is 11 now so my life as an MT is 1000 easier. However, when she was ages 1 to 4, in order to keep her home with me working FT, would have been cruel, negligent, and not to mention dangerous. So I found a wonderful private setter to keep her for 3 to 4 hours a day and she actually loved the interaction with the other two children. In fact, they are all still close friends to this day.
Point is...you cannot be structured in a nonstructured environment. This is why flexibility is SO important.
Troubles with Teething - Baby, Baby, Baby
Hi. My little guy is teething soooooo bad and I am wondering if any of you have some ideas that I can try, to hopefully make his life (and my life) a little easier to deal with? lol. We've tried Tylenol - with little pain relief, but much diarreha! We've tried Orajel - it seems to wear off too fast to make a difference. We've tried teething toys - help for only a few minutes (not nearly enough time for me to get any work done!). His appetite is normal, but his sleep schedule has been totally disrupted (as has mine). For the last 2 nights, he has woke up every couple hours. I would think he would be exhausted during the day....but he never goes to sleep. He is more fussy than usual and alittle more clingy, but overall he is very playful. His pediatrician gave me some suggestions (the above) that I have tried with little to no help, so I am desperate for new ideas! He is cutting multiple teeth right now (and just got a few new ones last week too) so he is in a lot of pain. Poor little guy. I appreciate all ideas that anyone has. Thanks in advance. :)
My great-nephew standing in his baby bed in his beautiful nursey - he is the most adorable baby in t
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32 !!! A mere babe in arms *S* and yes, old enough here to be YOUR MOM!!! Too funny!!! 
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My kids are told to speak only when spoken to, and if they talk back in anyway, I smack them in the mouth. Granted, they are teens and not toddlers. In their teens, they try to push it to the limit no matter what situation. My kids know not to push!
I am a foster parent of 3, have been for about
a year and a half now. I would highly recommend you try to place you children with family or a good friend before turning to the state. After seeing how the system works, IMO, it is not a very good one. I would hate to see you lose your kids because you asked them for help. Two of my FC are about to get terminated from their parents, their mother of which put them in care for "help" and is now going to lose her kids.
There are many, many programs out there to help you. I'm not sure how long you have been married or really what the situation is but given the fact that you are considering this for children tells me you are a decent person because you don't want them on the street. Call a family member or a friend and ask if you and the children can stay with them. You might have to consider placing (or leaving) your husband somewhere else until you can get back up on your feet.
Go to your local welfare office, they might be able to get you something short-term. Try, try hard to keep your family together.
God bless you and your family. I hope things turn out and the world seems like a better place. Just know that we are all hear praying for you!
I think she is very much a good parent, and I don't
see how she is treating them as pets.
Ok, she was a parent when she got involved w/ a
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Why would a grown
woman think that what you are doing is fun? What is wrong with you?
It's not a parent's job to entertain their children 24/7.
Back in the olden days, parents AND children did chores from morning until night. They didn't play, go to the movies, own electronics or do ANYTHING fun. Chores, chores, chores all day long. The kids worked right alongside their parents. Church on Sunday. They didn't have neighborhood kids parading through the house without an invitation. They might have gone on an occasional picnic or square dance, but that's it. Children aren't supposed to be in charge. Parents aren't supposed to entertain their children 24/7 and give in to their every whim. At least her kids are having fun instead of being left home ALONE with a list of chores to do while Ma and Pa go to town for supplies.
A parent's job is to raise a child but....
I've been in that boat, too. Chore lists didn't help. Taking anything away didn't help. Holding their allowance didn't help. Going on strike didn't help. All I ended up was triple the work.  . It was their job to bring in wood for the stove to keep warm. I left the fire go out one night. That got their attention when they woke up and it was only 50 degrees in the house (pretty warm considering it was 0 outside). Never had to worry about heat anymore, but the other stuff....well...
At that time, I held down 2 full time jobs and 1 job at home typing college books part time. (I was young, so could handle it). Well, one day I sat them down and told them that if they EVER wanted to go out on their own, they would have to know how to clean, wash clothes, iron, cook, etc. I taught them how to cook the basics. I showed them how to do everything else. Well, they still didn't pitch in....didn't know what else to do so I left all their stuff alone. Stopped doing their wash and closed their bedroom door. Ignored them when they asked for something like they did me.
My guys all went out on their own between age 18-21. You should have seen their place. Spotless and they did it all themselves. Now that they are all married, my boys cook meals for their wives at least once or twice a week. They help their wives clean and do all the stuff I wish they would have done at home. But, you know what? That's fantastic. I know I taught them something that stayed with them and all my DIL's love me for it. 
Now, all I have to do is get hubby trained. I'm still supermom to him even though he often states "I don't know how you do it all."
My opinion is not to worry about it. If they are embarrassed, they may do something. If not, then when their friends come around, just mention, "I'm sorry the house is such a mess but since I work 2 jobs, I just don't have time to do everything else." They might get the message then.
Have become a single parent...how to survive
Hello.
First, I want to apologize if this is not on the right board. I wasn't sure where to put it.
Second, I am not looking for pity...just advice.
I have two wonderful children (a 5 year old and a 5 month old) who are my life and because of that I have left there father (verbally abusive to everyone) to make a better life for all of us. I am a new MT (have only been in the business for 4 months now and make enough to pay rent but that is all. With an infant it is hard to work during the day so I start my work around 7pm and work until it is done. I am not that fast yet but am gaining speed and could handle another small account. Can anyone tell me how they have made single parenting work as an MT or have any ideas on how to make it work, please. I am deperate to stay home with them. Honestly, daycare cost would kill my paycheck if I had to work outside of the home and I am trying to stay off of government support.
I appreciate any help or advice I receive.
Thank you.
elder parent care
Of course I feel "responsible", even "obligated" to take care of my aging parents. They took care of me, now it's my turn to give back. However, I'm not in that position right now as my parents are both in their early to mid 60s, so don't require taking care of yet...so who knows how I'll feel when faced with that responsibility. But, I hope that I feel the same way I do now. My husband and I have discussed more than once perhaps buying a larger home with an in-law suite to accommodate our aging parents.
If only more of us would take the responsibility of taking care of our elderly parents, then perhaps we would not hear of some of the horrors that happen to the elderly such as getting bilked out of their life savings, being abused in a nursing home, having accidents while trying to take care of themselves, etc...Thanks for the thought provoking question....have a wonderful day! 
This sounds like a parent talking...
I never want anyone to think I am yelling at them, even if something is a MAJOR no-no.
The above is what the poster wrote. I am not saying that I don't think her approach is good. I am just stating that words like MAJOR no-no are as if she is talking to a child. That's all I was pointing out. I don't like baby talk when it comes to being professional. Do we not strive for professionalism in this business?
So, some of you here like being talked to like a baby? That makes QA so special and great?
A little please and thank you goes a long way. I don't need a QA person to be sugary sweet to get the point. We are adults here.
Yep, even though she's grown and married
, he still gets it anytime he wants it. The molestation has never stopped.
Yes, a daughter, all grown.
I married & divorced very young. Have 2 roommates (friend and her boyfriend). Couldn't afford this house otherwise. LOL. I live in an area called Lone Mountain Vistas, not far from Summerlin.
My children are grown and now
I am still working at home. Get to be grandma now. Don't forget $3 for a gallon of gas also.
A parent's job is to raise a child the way they should go as an adult ....
Isn't part of being an adult cleaning, taking responsibility? If so, YOUR job is to make them clean, certain rooms on certain days, not just during vacations. (I'm at work so this is succinct, and probably not real tactful, sorry)
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into a nursing home. Those that think its terrible are just concerned with appearances I think, that and guilt themselves if they ever thought about it. My mom put her mom in a nursing home after she could not care for herself. My grandma actually thrived there. They got her off all her medication and she was felt a lot better, even got engaged to get married again, but broke it off shortly before she died. We lived in PA and her mom in FL. My mom's (adopted) family thought she was such a terrible person for putting her "mom" in a nursing home. My mom's adopted parents did not treat her well at all, would never tell her much about the adoption when she eventually found out about it in the 1950s (smell of scandel somewhere, this was 1935) and my grandparents never really ever wanted children. Needless to say my mom has a less than ideal childhood but she took care and upheld her "responsibilities". Some people take in their parent(s) because they want to make sure the $$$ if there is any stays in the family (or goes to them). I know that is the wheel turning in my DHs brain about his parents, though he says they would never re-marry after the death of the other. His mom has told me she will not remarry, but you never know do you. I think he is wrong about his dad though, I think his dad would do the exact same thing my dad did, i.e. remarry within a year of the mom/wife passing and say bye-bye to any substantial inheritence on a re-marriage. In my case I will "lose" (my husband's thinking) out on about $140K which my husband deeply resents unfortunately. It has caused a lot of distention in the last 2 years between me and my DH that is. I am cool with my dad, it's his life and money; and I have pointed out to him a zillion times that inheritence is a gift, not a right. But yes, to be honest it is disappointing, but as my DH expects to get close to $1 mil from his parents I think we will survive (in a way I hope they disinherit him). Greed can cause all sorts of problems. Along with responsibility comes motive in some cases. I do not want to take in either of my DHs parents, but his fear/greed will induce him to have whichever one is left move in with us probably in the next 5-10 years (they are 76 and 71 right now). Sad.
I'm a current foster parent in Georgia and...sm
have e-mailed you to contact me so I can answer your questions.
Grown-up daughters - say nothing unless asked. And then don't say too much. nm
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How could a grown man be in love with a child....
but they way she was dressed with the hair and make-up, etc., she looked about 25. Too many perverts out there and he definitely fits the image. I don't know how or who would hire him especially around some kids. He has pervert stamped all over him.
His hair has grown out? Not extensions - NM
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I agree. Have grown child, but can work during their SM
school hours and in the evening. A split shift is highly productive.
I agree. Sounds like a controlling attention-seeking parent so
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Guess you're not ready for grown up humor then.
BLTs on toasted whole wheat with garden grown tomatoes and lettuce.
Do little kids like caramel? My big kids won't even eat it! We make the basic Baker's chocolat
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home grown lettuce etc salad, topped with chicken breast cooked in
fajita sauce, fried eggplant and fried zucchini along with zucchini/parmesan muffins. I'm stuffed!!
I never said you shouldn't have kids! Feeling guilty? I asked WHY you had kids.
You clearly stated in your post that you ship the kids off to camp all day, and they're TIRED AT NIGHT!! You know exactly what you said. You said it as a PERK - AS IN GREAT! They're gone all day, it wears them out, and so I shovel dinner in their mouths and off to bed! You can try to paint it any way you want, but YOU SAID IT. Again, I only hope your kids never hear you speak that way or write that way. Shame on you. Why have kids at all? Just another parent who has them, gets rid of them for day AND night, BRAGS ABOUT IT, and then calls ME wicked! Give me a break! Camp is fine - its WHAT YOU SAID AND YOU KNOW IT. Your own words showed your heart. Period.
Kids are demanding and so is MT work. My question is how CAN you do this with kids, rather than how
When you have two young kids, 11 months apart, (like I stated they are now 4 and 5) and have been doing this since they were born with no help from their father and no family around, YES, the kids get neglected. Part time might work but living on one salary, part time, is not an option. How can you possible tell me that anyone with two young kids can stay at home and work a full-time, 8-hour shift, and still give their kids the attention they NEED. I dont care how good you are at multitasking and how great your organizational skills are. It is a very difficult thing to do. And I am offended by your post making it sound as if it is easy to do.
I do agree that it can depend on how well your kids behave and how well they are able to play on their own. But my kids were not able to play well on their own. They needed constant attention.
So please take the time to realize that there are people out there in different situations than your own.
Reading our posts should help you to understand that everyone has a different situation. I believe everyone should have the right to shares their experiences as it might benefit the original poster in her questions and concerns.
I dont think anyone should be bashed for taking the time out to write about their experiences. I dont usually come on here to argue but you really ticked me off with your post. And try reading the post correctly. I said next time around I would have put them in day care. What I DID do with them was set them up to an activity like art or put on a movie for them. Geez.
Stayed "because of the kids?" I say "leave because of the kids"
You're in no position to buy right now. Keep saving, keep paying down your bills, and for heaven's sake get rid of that dead weight of a BF you're living with. You can do better.
So, should I return the $75 (x2 kids) in music cards I got the kids for x-mas...sm
My son has been telling me about free music sites and I was very leary. How do they skirt the law Radguy?
I don't have kids, but my Mom was from the "old school," and still had everyone, kids inclu
call her by her first name. The little neighbor girl next door from the time she could speak called her Aggie (my mom's first name), and they were great buddies until the day my mom pased away.
I don't think there really is much in a name, but more in the respect you are given and the way you are treated. Personally, I kind of cringe inside when someone calls me Ms. Anything or God forbid, "maam" (makes me feel like Methuselah!) ... I'm always just plain Merrie. :-)
But, as someone pointed out, to each his own. If you want to be addressed a certain way, you have that right, and people should respect that. I'm glad you corrected the child ... hope it "sticks." 
Please do not simply give up, kids or no kids!
Talk with a professional. This can be worked through if he really puts forth the effort and you participate. The right counseling can truly make your marriage even better than it was before, if BOTH parties are willing to be honest. Give it a try. Nothing to lose at this point and everything to gain!
Glad I could help and glad you got your setup going. nm
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