Absolutely. Our relationship is first priority. sm
Posted By: omt on 2005-11-26
In Reply to: Do you come first in your husband's life? - questions
Otherwise our marriage would have failed years ago as so many do. Sure we both have different interests and different ways of thinking, but we respect each others space in that regard and we teach this to our children as well.
We were both married before to the types that needed to make themselves and their controlling families top priority and neither of us could ever figure out why they did that.
We were lucky though as our parents never interfered and they always made their relationship their number one priority. What happened in their private lives was none of our business. My parents would have been married for 60 years in May, but both are gone now. His parents have been married for 51 years.
Our older two are grown and gone and thankfully live locally (by their own choice). They call to say hello, but not every day. We watch the grandkids when we can. We do say no when we can't. We'd never dream of interfering in their private lives unless there was an obvious issue that put any of them in danger.
We still have 2 younger teens at home and both are doing fine . . . .for teens that is!
I've no turkey left already with the teenager appetite! 
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As MTs, our #1 priority is the patient, just
as it should be for doctors, nurses and health care professionals. I know how frustrating it can be trying to translate broken English, etc. I complain about it, too!! Sometimes I get so angry, because it actually takes money out of my pocket in that I spend so much time trying to "get it right" instead of just using my knowledge and typing skills typing dictation from a clear-speaking doctor with good English. Sometimes you want to just scream!!!  BUT, again, it is part of our job to provide an accurate and presentable medical document. I wish things were different, but it appears that we have to work with what we've got or learn a new profession.
That is my humble opinion. 
Top priority to succeed in this field..sm
is a strong grasp of proper grammar (not grammer). You must first master these before you can be successful in this field. This field is very competitive and many who have been around for years and can produce the top quality and quantity work. I am not pointing fingers at you in particular, but there are many out there who believe if they are a fast typist and have a home computer, they can prosper in this profession. Even with a good MT curriculum, it takes several years to become proficient. I, like another poster, have been in this profession for 20+ years and do a variety of specialties for a teaching hospital. A day never goes by without learning something new. The building blocks of success in this profession starts with your ability to master grammar, punctuation, etc. I don't think any Editor or QA person would purposely be harsh on a blank for a medical term that a new MT or mentoree could not figure out. On the other hand, it is quite frustrating to have to correct someone for simple misspelled words or improper grammar. No one has time to deal with these issues and every person entering this field should understand this.
Priority #1 is breech/breach, which to use? nm
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If you priority is to make less $ in order to learn
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Maybe you need to reconsider this relationship.
What you have described has many elements of an abusive relationship. He blames you for everything. He becomes angry at you for no reason. He withdraws from you. He accuses you of lying. You're walking around on eggshells trying to cater to his "moods". He never takes any responsibility for problems. This cannot be a rewarding relationship for you. You are obviously a very loyal and caring person. You deserve to be treated better. You deserve a relationship with someone who will return your affection and will treat you with respect. You might at least want to consider getting out of this relationship for awhile, until your current boyfriend takes some initiative himself to get help. I don't think anything you say or do will have an effect; he will need to determine for himself that he needs to change. Otherwise, he'll just keep blaming you. Please take care of yourself.
this is my kind of relationship too
 Just being comfortable and enjoying each other. Its so hard to find that, people want you to be a certain way and it creates so much stress. Just allow each other to "be", no criticizing allowed! I see married couples just picking at one another, its sad. I'm definitely a hard person to match up because of how laid back I am. You mentioned being lazy, well I probably have you beat, i'm like a lion, i'm thrilled to take a nap. I'm really very easy to please, if my guy found a blade of grass outside my door and attempted to tie it in the shape of a rose to hand to me, I would break out in tears of happiness. Its just so easy, wish people would understand that. Just cuddle and do the little things and be joyful. Happy Valentines day.
Yes, if you have a good relationship, obviously - sm
if you have been estranged for years, or they abused you, etc. then NO. I am not looking forward to possibly taking in one of my in-laws in the future (my dad has a younger wife, so he has her to take care of him). I get along with them but I don't want to live with them though, they each drive me nuts in different ways. My goal would be to get them a small house or apt. in the area and do it that way though. Condo's are coming near us soon, hard to believe in the rural area we are in but the sprawl is coming, so that would be my wish (5 miles away). However lots of down sides to doing this, and perceived as being selfish I am sure, it will totally disrupt your life, you may become a taxi driver if they cannot or are unwilling to drive (my MIL won't drive more than 5 miles to get somewhere)(they are strict catholics, nearest catholic church is 45+ minutes away), become nurse/cook, etc. So if we ever do do it, we will have to think long and hard, and not erroneously open up our mouths before we think of what it really means. Responsibility is the word, though had it been my mom I wouldn't have felt that way. Obviously you don't want to do it if you are going to be resentful, that is the problem I will probably have to overcome at some point.
Definite relationship here...
Note that as transcription has moved further and further from the hospital (to outside hospital employee, then to US transcription vendor, then to offshore, and finally to the ultimate form of distance - machine-generated transcription) the hourly compensation and benefits have deteriorated steadily.
As the MT is pushed further and further from the source, she becomes more and more of an faceless and, consequently, powerless entity. Welcome to Never-Never Land!
yes, have a very good relationship
with my supervisor. Like I said, neither the MTSO or our MAJOR client have converted to it yet, so maybe we won't.
Love/hate relationship
There are so many things I love about this job, working on my own, being at home, no office politics, better money than I can make anywhere locally, (I live in a rural community) can work in my jammies, flexibility, intellectually challenging...but then again so many things I dislike too.. no appreciation, being squeezed out by technology, not being paid what you're worth, forcing yourself to be self-disciplined, sitting for hours, hands aching, no respect from doctors or the public (Hey, I can type so can I get a job doing what you do??? UGH!), ESLs and poor dictators... it's hard to say which side of me wins out on most days.. It's a job, like any other job, good days/bad days... suits my lifestyle for now so I'll keep at it.. but always keep my eyes open for the future.
I agree with having a good relationship.
Patti, you have probably earned respect because of your excellent turnaround, attention to detail, and responding in a timely fashion when things can get "hairy" so to speak and the office is in need of a report. I also have that kind of relationship with the offices I transcribe for and it is very nice. When I lost my mother, one of my docs, called me personally and told me that he was not at all worried about late dictation because "family comes first". I know these docs are hard to come by, but I have also responded to his STAT requests in a timely manner. I have managed to please his staff and do not come off (just because I'm an IC) that I am not a part of their team and feel the same stresses that come along with being part of the staff. I have been offered lunch if I'm there and a rep has brought in some sandwiches. I have sat and eaten that lunch, too (not everytime) but I want to be part of the team. I think this very much increases your productivity and then like you said when it comes time that you may not have gotten that report back, it is not taken as such a bad thing. We are all human. I feel the OP should have a contract with this office and specify her charges as such. I'm sure glad someone understands though that there are some great offices out there that really do care about their staff, including their IC transcriptionist. 
abusive relationship ruining mt career
I had an extramarital affair. I deeply regret it and am trying to get my life straightened out. I ended the affair and I believe this man wants to see me lose everything out of spite and revenge. I had to quit my last MT job because my computer was hacked and had alerted the company there was a security problem and then a bunch of personal correspondence with this man got uploaded to the company server via "technical assistance" on the phone. I have had harassing phone calls as well and calls that were programmed in my autodial end up at the wrong number or playing Mexican music, etc. I went to the sheriff's department and they did believe my situation, but said there is little I can do about it without filing a report. I do not want to appear spiteful or vengeful, but may have to file a report against this man, but he lives in another state. I just want to put my life back together. I fear with my computer tapped and my phone calls screened I will be unable to secure another job or get the harassment to stop. I have three firewalls on my computer am rural and had to work via satellite. I live in a small town with little opportunity. I am going to lose everything if I cannot work as an MT.
Any MTs victims of domestic abuse and had to deal with anything similar?
If someone is sabotaging my career what am I to do?
I agree here. He may have developed a new relationship on the side. Sorry. nm
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Isn't it an "at will" relationship, meaning that no cause is needed at all?
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..usually reading that either party can end the relationship at any time, but yours may be dif
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This sounds like my kind of relationship! No great expectations and you can relax
I always have a fear of disappointing people. It has caused me to isolate myself...
Request that they place a stop payment on the check, reissue, and mail priority or overnight mail
If they refuse or invent unbelievable excuses, you'll know you have a problem. If MY check was a week late, there are many months I would be in deep trouble.
I realize checks occasionally do get lost in the mail. If they are 100% sure it was mailed, then they shouldn't mind issuing another.
Be firm and be persistent.
Absolutely, I absolutely love my job and
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you are absolutely right and I know because I know
which is just as good as knowing any other way.
a policy of kindness is the only *way* to go....
Absolutely not, just a FYI. nm
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Absolutely!
Stay at the Polynesian - it's right on the Disney Property and it is OH SO LUXURIOUS! Very reasonably priced, too for what you get. They have a great luau (sp?), and you can walk out your hotel room and hop on the tram straight into the park.
Speaking of parks, you MUST to go Epcot and bring lotsa de casha for the country of Germany - they have colored crystal that will knock your socks off and your pocketbook clear out of your purse.
IT IS TO DIE FOR! THE POLYNESIAN AND EPCOT!
Absolutely
...the immature vitriolic attitude some people on this board have. If it bothers you so much to see what may seem to you a no-brainer question posted, please feel free to move on, sparing us your crappy, holier-than-thou attitude. I'm absolutely ashamed to have people like you part of my MT community.
ABSOLUTELY!!!
MQ has hurt too many people and their families. I don't even work for them, but the hospital that I work for bought their DQS program, which is wonderful, but it also included the DocQmanage program which CHEATS TRANSCRIPTIONISTS!
ABSOLUTELY!!!
MQ has hurt too many people and their families. I don't even work for them, but the hospital that I work for bought their DQS program, which is wonderful, but it also included the DocQmanage program which CHEATS TRANSCRIPTIONISTS!
ABSOLUTELY!!!
MQ has hurt too many people and their families. I don't even work for them, but the hospital that I work for bought their DQS program, which is wonderful, but it also included the DocQmanage program which CHEATS TRANSCRIPTIONISTS!
Absolutely
How do you know DocuManage cheats MTs?
Absolutely no!
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Absolutely!
I agree with you! However, I do not consider people taking necessities to survive "looters." HUGE difference with someone taking shoes, jewelry, TVs, and nonessential items. These are 2 different classes totally. People trying to survive should not even be compared to a looter. I was all for shooting any and all looters that were caught in the act!
A absolutely
I wouldn't encourage my worst enemy to get into this field!
Absolutely not!
NO WAY - YUCK!
Absolutely NOT
MQLOVER would get upset. Yeah you sure did dig yourself into a big one. Just keep on going and may be you can find some more people to hire in China when you get there.
Absolutely!
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Absolutely not.
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absolutely right!
i couldn't have said it better -- agree with you totally!
Absolutely not.
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Absolutely!
 I wish you the very best of luck! You'll do great!
Yes, absolutely
Absolutely!
I've been working a 13-hour per day schedule recently (getting ready for changes coming up). While I do slow down by the end of the day, I'm still holding quite steady and a decent line count. I've been accomplishing anywhere from 3016 (my low so far on the 13-hr schedule) to 3653 (my high so far on this schedule). TOUGH? YES! Possible??? Absolutely.
Absolutely! Go for it!
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No, they absolutely do not.
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Absolutely
Certainly the length of time it would take to complete the transcript would be dependent on a lot of things, but I personally would not bid less than $40 per audio hour, and due to the availability requirement of -- "I need for you to indicate your days and hours of availability. These
days and hours should NOT be flexible. These should be the days and
times that you are ALWAYS available to work. You will be receiving jobs
during these days and hours without advance notice and you are expected
to do them, no excuses."
I would not even do it for the $40 mentioned above.
no you are absolutely not alone!!! nm
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Absolutely not. They will appreciate it more
and will take better care of it if they have to work for it. We obtained a loan for our son to have his car and then he had to pay us back monthly, as well as keep up his insurance payments, car repairs, etc. However, I do know that A LOT of parents feel it is a requirement for them to buy their children cars. I personally think that is asking for trouble in the long run. Nothing in this life is free and kids need to know that, especially since they're getting ready to enter the real world.
Absolutely.
I've been doing this for 20 years...don't want to do anything else.
Absolutely NOT. I take
every single job that comes to me...good, bad...long, short...do my best and go on to the next job.
That has absolutely zero to do with this. She could have SM
been an atheist, devil worshipper, a Buddhist, and what she did would still have changed the world.
ABSOLUTELY!
I have hired numerous MTEC graduates, and have not had a problem with any of them. They are excellent MTs. The program is worth every penny. 3 of the girls I hired five years ago are now making over 25/hour on production.
Absolutely yes!
The question really should be, if Michelle were healthy enough to skate at nationals, would she have been on the team. With all else being equal, she would have been in the top 3 and therefore would have gone anyway.
Absolutely!
I read anything and everything I can get my hands on pertaining to this profession.
absolutely
I have worked for over 25 years for a major medical institution as an MT, and it all goes away in two weeks. First came outsourcing to India (clinic AND academic), and now comes the EMR. There is very little for me to do these days, except try to edit what little academic comes through from India. I have come to the sad conclusion that quality doesn't matter when it can be done so much cheaper overseas, broken English isn't that big a deal when it all gets dumpted into an EMR anyway, and that now, at the age of 49, I have to find something else I can do to get by until retirement, since I honestly believe outsourcing is here to stay. Physicians with whom I've had a wonderful working relationship through the years have practically ignored me the last few months. One doctor half-heartedly offered me something for two days a week, but it was too little, too late, and too sad for me to accept. I would never, ever promote this field to anybody, since when I see an entire medical center outsource and go totally EMR, there just is no demand for what I do any more.
Absolutely not
MT is a dead-end, no respect, joe-job with no room for advancement, best suited to people with limited social skills and low expectations for themselves. Anyone who wants to better themselves instead of stagnate in limbo should move on. I have.
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