18 here. Graduated and then married
Posted By: Wow on 2005-08-12
In Reply to: how old were you when you got married? sm - curious Georgia
two weeks later, still with the same man 16 years later.
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I was married at 21, been happily married for 18 years now.
Have 2 teens, 16 and 13. Love my soul mate!
Graduated from....
Mandarin High School, Jacksonville, FL
not everyone is like this - my kid graduated
Not everyone buys into/bought into the changes you describe. My kid bought the car with $$ saved/earned when 17. Outside of that, worked full time/still does and goes to school and expects nothing but to move forward in the life and strives to do so.
And we are not a poor family either - just didn't and don't buy into commercialism of every occasion in this country.
Graduated from M-TEC
It cost me about $2600 when I graduated in 2001. Right out of school I made excellent, unheard of money by being paid on a gross line. I was able to top out at around 60K after 4 years, increasing steadily each year. I worked about 60 hours a week, as I knew when these accounts went away I would make *regular* money. They did after 4 years. I now make around 28K a year and work 30 hours a week. You may want to stay where you are!!
I graduated from AHP
Just about 12 years ago I graduated from At-Home Professions and am still doing transcription. I've worked for Medquist for 8 years and worked for a hospital before that. So now you've met a graduate of AHP who is able to do the job. I've learned far more with on-the-job training than I ever did through the program, but just wanted to let you know there are a few of us oddball AHP graduates who are actually productive...
I graduated in 1989 (sm)
Good to see someone from back home, though! :)
I graduated CS and do have regrets
The reasons are the same as you have read elsewhere. There are no instructors, but rather an impersonal "grader" that you aren't quite sure you can trust since what might be right one time is wrong the next. There are errors in the material that can make you end up looking like a fool. I had nitroglycerine in my spell check on word for a year before I realized I had added it from a cut and paste report taken out of FOMS and was incorrect. Of course, that is only one example of many. I could go on and on, but I won't. All in all, it is inferior, and I wish I had gone to M-Tec or Andrews so that I could have started out excellently instead of clawing my way there of my own volition.
Both. Graduated from a junior college with sm
medical secretarial degree, but learned 99.9% on the job. Schooling proved to be an invaluable foundation for the years to come.
33 years of MT.
RE: I hear you on that one - same for me. Baby just graduated :-(
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I graduated from M-Tec, and MQ hired me without experience. nm
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It depends on what school you graduated from.
If you graduated from one of the top 3 schools many MTs have a job by the time they get finish the program. I take it that isn't your case. You would probably be better off trying to find an in-house job locally until you get some experience. You can post your resume on the job boards and might get some offers that way. Be careful though and ask questions as there may be some less than desirable companies trying to take advantage of newbies.
I went to career step & graduated 3 yrs ago. I think it prepared me well.
Hey FC girl--I graduated in 1994 at FCHS
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When I graduated high school in 1967, sm
I got a set of matching luggage and a manual typewriter!
I was fortunate to have parents able to afford all tuition, books, and on-campus living expenses. Many graduates don't have what I was blessed to have and need a little help from family and friends.
I graduated from a local community college. sm
Had my first job before graduation but it was in-house with hourly pay and great benefits. Those are very hard to find anymore. I worked in-house for my first 2 years and then went on maternity leave picking up side work through a company for more income. Realized I was tripling my money going from hourly to production by that time, turned in my notice, and never looked back. Been at home ever since. If at all possible, in the beginning I would recommend to anyone to work inhouse even if it is for a transcription company. The value of having other "ears" is definitely not something to take for granted. I also learned as much as I could while getting that hourly pay as time is money when on production. I have to say I probably would not be near as proficient of an MT today had it not been all those hours learning and having another ear around to help out when stuck.
You bring up a point too though that I haven't really thought about before....With all the transcription being outsourced out of the office, it is only going to get much more difficult for anyone to get those breaks and get the required "experience" as a beginner.
33, Medical Secretary Degree, graduated in 1999
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Thanks..school wont give another copy since I am graduated now...also went to a whole new comp, sm
not just an upgrade. Could not pull the free program off the old one. thanks anyway. Just looking to get by on something inexpensive until I get some $$$ coming in.
Like that's so easy? Divorced bud of mine at 51 graduated college w/her BS last year ...
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I know of a company who is restarting up their mentoring program for newly-graduated MTs. A GREAT
company to work for - I think they are independent contractor status, though not sure about their mentoring program status. At any rate, they are willing to take new grads and help them transition into actually working! The women who owns the company is truly wonderful. I have been blessed to have had the opportunity to work with her, though I don't at the moment. The company is Accu-Stat in Wisconsin! Keep that name somewhere on a sticky or something! Really great people, and she did mention that she really wants to restart this program she used to have for newbies! Blessings to you and good luck! Have fun! Cause it sure can be fun, while having to work, which, of course, is not fun in and of itself, huh?? Oh, to be independently wealthy. Congrats on your new baby, by the way!! And that's SO great that your Mom is there for you! You have a good example to follow!
how old were you when you got married? sm
I was...18! Wow, now that seems SOOO young! Been married though, to the same man for 18 years! Just a curious question!
Married at 24.
Married for 18 years and going strong.
Married at 18, again at 34
I was married (pregnant) at 18, had two kids and divorced at 30. Then I remarried at 34, having learned a lot about what I wanted and didn't want in a mate, and two more kids and almost 19 years later we're still going very, very strong, still making goals and achieving them. Been working at home as an MT since our 14 year old daughter was born, and that's been absolutely crucial, as we're all homebodies.
I never said I was married,
I am only into stealing husbands.
I was 26, married 5 yrs, before I had first NEW car. nm
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I used to be married to
then, got divorced (another long story unto itself), but he wouldn't "let" me do anything. He was a real dictator and was very condescending and just basically not a nice person. Of course, he wasn't like that when we were dating. Anyway, I have remarried and my husband is wonderful. He really is one of the best guys I've ever known. He loves his kids and looks forward to me going off somewhere (shopping, visiting my sister, etc.) so he can have the boys to himself; it's daddy/kids play time.
I was so used to asking my first husband's permission to do things that every now and then I slip up and ask my husband now, and he gets offended when I ask him for permission! He can't believe my first husband was that kind of person. Just had to share this with y'all. My best friend wants to clone him.
yes, married 25 yr now
With the assumptions you gave, I would -- we are all susceptible to temptation. Our marriage had a breach of trust and that was a tremendous blow. But 10 yr later, we are happier than ever. It's a slow deliberate road back to a sound relationship -- but committment is the name of the game, isn't it? I'm glad I stuck it out.
Every day since I got married.
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married at 27; am still, 23 years later.
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Married at 19, same man for 23 years
18 and still married 27 years later. nm
24 - married 8 years on 08-09
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24, married 26 years now.
He was 27. We only dated 7 months. Although both knew what we wanted, and did not hesitate, I would recommend a longer dating period. We went into it with the idea that divorce was not an option. I know that everyone's situation is different. My brother and sister are each on their fourth go around. But people just don't think about marriage in the same way that they used to.
24, will be married 18 years on 10/3/05. nm
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why are they getting married this year (sm)
 and having their "fairy tale wedding" next year? Why not just wait and do the whole marriage thing next year, but have an engagement party this year?
I know it's probably personal but hey, you brought it up!
After being married for almost 19 years....its even better!
 My husband and I have been married for almost 19 years and our sex is better now than it ever has been and there is no downloaded porn involved. 4 times a week after being married for almost 19 years is a good thing. But for the others remember its not the quantity but the quality that should count.
What makes you think that your love life has to fizzle just because you are married so long?????
Been married 29 yrs, get more now than ever but I say it took me 18 yrs to train to where he knows
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Yep, even though she's grown and married
, he still gets it anytime he wants it. The molestation has never stopped.
Why you're still married! sm
Hang onto this one, girl! Hearts of gold shine through. :)
Married or adopted?
...not to stir the pot, but if you are married it should be a compromise. If in the end your furthering your education benefits you both, can't see how he could object. Try sitting down and showing the pros to this side of the coin. If he does not budge, well, go any way. Ask friends to help with the babysitting.
P.S. - he's WRONG ABOUT OUTSOURCING. The sky's the limit here - nothing will stop outsourcing as long as there are HUGE profits to be made.
I was married to a guy like that once. I divorced him.
Most selfish, insensitive, clueless human being on planet earth. Good riddance.
28/f..married with no kids yet..nm
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33/F/married/no kids. nm
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33, married with 3 kids...
Ages 12, 10, and 8... Thankfully they are in school most of the time I transcribe... Otherwise, I get NOTHING done... ;o)
Are they getting married in a church?
Do you have a preacher or someone he could speak with at your church? I will pray for you. I am so sorry you are going through this. What a mess. She'll be his "first divorce" as they say.
They're not married yet - NM
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Married almost 20 years
My first gut reaction would be NO, but it would depend on the circumstances. I think I would have a very hard time trusting him again and forget about the STDs that could be involved. OMG. So, I guess. I might be able to forgive him but the marriage would probably be over.
Unhappily married?
Either leave or call Dr. Phil. Better yet, phone a friend. Life is too short to stay in a bad relationship, whether married or not. There is always someone out there who will appreciate you. Too many factors in bad marriages. Do you bring it on yourself, do you feel sorry for yourself, or is he/she really that awful. I stopped trying to figure out why things change from good to bad after time passes by. If you're not happy, get out. That simple. Kids do not benefit in bad relationships. Actually, they suffer the most because they have to deal with this ordeal their entire adulthood. Who do we spend Christmas with this year. Let's see, we went to dad's last year or mom's. Then there is the in-laws. The only person I feel for living in bad relationships is the child or children. Parents move on. Children have complicated lives for the rest of their lives, not to mention listening to mom and dad talk awful about each other. Abuse.......I will not tolerate - verbally or mentally. My mom left my dad for an abusive alcoholic. What a joke. When he passed, she talked about him as if he were a saint. My brother and I went like 15 years w/o seeing her. One, she moved to AZ and had another child with this man. Two, he beat on her, cheat on her and she was always nervous around him. We just decided that until she either left him or he passed away, we would not be subjected to that type of life. Point being, not all fathers are to blame. I could not imagine not seeing my children for 15 to 20 years. We worked hard for anything and everything we ever wanted in life. My half-sister, she is a spoiled snot, cannot keep a job for more than 2 months, and still lives at home at the age of 27. I had to decide on dwelling about this or moving on and living my own life. Guess what I chose, moving on. Again, the child suffers more than the adult.
married since 03 and pregnant now sm
and totally on the way out the door. He is 6 years younger than me, lazy, doesn't know how to keep a job, is immature. Can't handle it. Love him but just can't do it on my own.
60k+ NOT MARRIED TO KEYBOARD
Get your own accounts. Not married, work for single to dual office physicians. Not going for that "ONE BIG" account but several that add up to that one big account. I work 30 to 32 hours per week with pick up and delivery, printing time all counted in. So it is out there, just gotta keep looking. As for EMR - have been asked -- did not seek out -- to do their EMR and you can hook into the EMR programs at home and do not need to work in the office. So the possibilities are there just gotta be a little creative and work smart. So if your accounts decide to go for EMR show them how much time YOU can save them by doing the dictation still. After a while the docs hated doing it and dictated on their way home, send the dictation digitally, you transcribe and can send them over to be downloaded or you can go in and load them into the charts. Patti PS typing without my glasses please 'cuse any goofs.
I was married to a Frenchman for 12 yrs
his accent is still so very thick, it's still very difficult to understand him....and I agree, french dictators are with the worst/most difficult accent!!
My hubs and I married there and he
thinks that is the only place really to vacation. Been married 7 years and have actually gone back 6 times since. I love the shows, he loves the Rio seafood feast so he goes 1 way and I go the other. Really fun place and we did stay at the Bellagio last time. He is such a sweety wanted to do something really nice for him. The Lexor has really good food. Try that if you get a chance, little out of the way but we think worth it. The Mirage has gone too asian as far as food.
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