your husband was a bad boy! Enjoy your well -earned, good days!...nm
Posted By: poll on 2009-05-03
In Reply to: Never had any money, on account of....sm - Ella (retired)
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Enjoy yourself. You have earned it.
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Good for you. Enjoy yourself.
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Thanks for the good news! Enjoy your baby! :-) nm
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I along with my husband lived back in the days when
we were regularly punished with whippings. I remember a yard stick (wooden) plus belts, hands and he probably the same. We have grown into very productive people and we believe in doing right, being the best we can be and no we were not tarnished for life. This is something most kids I grew up with faced and we did not love our parents less for it. I never knew of a kid in high school who fought, cursed the teachers, his parents or really was in any kind of serious trouble and graduated in a class over 200. Now the way kids are brought up, it is an entirely different time and I do not know if it is all for the good. We never thought we were abused, never and if I were growing up today probably would have some busybody sticking their nose in to try and undo what our parents did back then. What you see for your child is not always what others want for theirs. There are more troubled children today than ever before and DH and I both think due to parents babying their kids to the point of almost being scared of them and the kids running the show.
I think most days it is good for me too..
Helps my psyche.. LOL.. I don't think any of my friends understand why I work when I don't have to. I'd just have to say after so many years of being a struggling parent and growing up poor, working hard is just stuck in your head. No matter how much money you have, I just always feel it's never enough because I've always been in the survival struggle mode and I can't let that go. I also am sooo independent. I like having my money to pay for my kid's schooling, vehicles, homes etc..I want them to get a good start on life. I don't want them to struggle like I did. Everything I make I give away, I feel, to others who are less fortunate. I think I've work extra this holiday so I can give to my kids..and give to my relatives who have kids and who were not being able to give them a Christmas. God has blessed me and I feel good giving it back to those who have not been as lucky as I have. AMEN>>>>
Good old days
Unfortunately the "good old days" are long gone! I think the world in general is in such turmoil it's hard not to get negative. The news has one disaster after another, gas and food prices continue going up and wages don't increase at the same rate, if at all. I guess trying to be positive is a lot tougher these days but what is the alternative?
As an afterthought, my good ole days were as a 7 year old playing hopscotch and jumprope outside with my friends or going swimming, playing Miss mary mack" (God I know that dates me); and waiting for the ice cream truck to roll on up so I could get the one with the gum inside; also having a mad crush on Davey Jones of the Monkees! :=) He was sooo cute! Just days of simpler times and less problems.
They good ole days are still here....sm
I starting MT'ing in 1984, just out of high school. I make more money now than I ever have doing MT. Believe me, there are great accounts out there. I make 1 K a week plus. I count my blessings every moment, especially reading these boards and so many of my fellow MTs are struggling.
Believe me, it was a long hard road getting to where I am now. I have been working at home for 18 years now doing MT, editing, QA, my own service, etc. You name it, I have done it.
Now, I have a "good life" with less stress, make great money, and can feel good about my job again.
Good things don't last forever, so they say, but I am holding on for the ride of a lifetime or the big crash that may be coming.....LOL!
These are my good ol days
First being of course growing up where all I had to worry bout was studying in school and getting good grades. All four grandparents were alive. Grandma & grandpa teaching sis and I to dance the polka to Lawrence Welk. Then as I got older going up to other grandma's and sitting for hours talking and talking (I miss those days). Then the good old days were when I joined the Army and became independent. Doing what I wanted when I wanted. Good old days after that was being an Army wife working for the education center in Germany making $6.10 an hour and hitting all the factories (crystal, porcelain, you name it) still with over 1/2 my paycheck to bank, going out to a german restaurant and getting a huge meal with drinks all night for about $5.00. Buying an Audi for about $8,000. Traveling all over Europe, Greece, Spain for what seemed like pennies. Came back to the US and it seemed to go downhill from there. I did start MTing in 1989. Good days then was when we had two incomes. Now I'm grateful for my job. I love it. Work at home for 2 different companies but keeps me busy from 7am til 10pm with breaks in between. Only one income so am grateful to work at home where we only spend $10 a month for gas and I don't have to maintain a "working" wardrobe. I'm grateful for what I have but it is very depressing to see everything sky rocket. What used to cost me $100 a week for groceries I'm now spending around $200. So while I am grateful for what I do have I sure do miss the good old days.
The good old days Remember?
I don't wish for this topic to be sad at all. But I have to get things off my chest. I am remembering the good old days of being an MT. I am even remembering the 1980s although those good times led to our recession now. But anyway, remember when you could make 1K a week at MTing, with job security and benefits? A boss who valued you like gold, because he/she knew you had special skills? When customer service was not just to the client but to each other employer to employee and visa versa.
I am hanging onto the mustang I bought in 2004 by a thread. It is practically brand new with low miles, because I can't afford the gas to use it. It has 1 flat tire and 1 spare because I can't afford new tires. And I pay 504 a month for it. Think I can afford that anymore, when my lines don't count spaces anymore, or when the health insurance costs take up most of my checks? I am not complaining. I thank heavens I get to work at home and don't have to pay for clothes, gas, and day care.
But remember the days of big incentives that were reachable? 14K lines and you were a star? 12K lines a week was an embarrassment and now 12K lines a payperiod and you are amazing.. Remember eating steak? At a restaurant? Cruises. Being able to go shopping and not having to give an account to DH of every item spent? Having clothes for your kids as they grow out of them that did not come from good will?
Please share the good old days here. Even if it is when you typed with tri colored carbon paper and white out, but your boss said thank you every day, and the doctor was not so nasty. Then, the less great days as time when by 2K when computers were upgraded and no more cherry picking because you were now using Transnet. THose were STILL good days because they paid training and downtime.
Enough of me. How about the good old days from you? And it does not have to be about MTing, could be about anything. The days when Metros existed and you could get 45 MPH. Or days when Bazooka gum was a penny. Things like that. Looking forward to your response and BTW: TGIF, even to those who work the weekend!  
The good 'ol days ---
--- were when you could greet people at the airport or see them off, right where they got on the plane. The entire airport was accessible back then.
- Taking a long driving vacation through the Southwest, and being able to afford the gas.
- Being able to afford my pets' vet bills.
- The days before HMO's, when healthcare wasn't 'managed' by cost analysts & pencil-pushers.
- Not having to buy the generic brand of EVERYTHING.
- The days when everything was brand-name, and there WAS no generic!
- MT work was a real JOB, and not just sweatshop labor.
A couple of days would be good - I'll take what I can get right now! Thanks(nm)
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subscription to Good Old Days magazine.
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You are right and I have earned that!
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What U think U have earned and what others think
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Congrats! You earned it!!
Great news. You certainly have earned
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Respect is earned, not demanded, and certainly not an entitlement. nm
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My husband is doing a good job sm
of dulling the finish because he refuses to use a chair mat under his computer chair. Funny, he's usually Mr. Particular about these things, but I have asked him several times to get one and he won't. I got one the minute I noticed the effect the chairs were having on the floor.
So the carpet will fix Mr. Not-So-Particular! ROFL He will probably get a chair pad then because carpet makes the chair harder to roll. 
ha! Was he a good ex-husband? (nm)
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My husband is usually pretty good but once in a while sm
he will forget and talk to me in a disrespectful way. When that happens, I sit him right down and say, "NOBODY talks to me that way, not even you." He knows I am serious. I once quit a job over the way the boss treated me and talked to me.
Because your husband has been getting away with this for a long time, it is going to be difficult to "retrain" him, so to speak. You will have to be firm, even sometimes to the point where you may feel like you are nagging.
The key is to stay very calm and matter-of-fact. Don't show any anger (even if you are boiling over with it) and don't let him draw you into an argument. Simply say, "I will be treated with respect. I will not allow anyone to speak to me in that tone of voice or to say those things to me. I treat you with respect, and I expect the same in return."
Good luck. I wish you all the best.
I make around $50,000 but I work 7 days a week and long days, although I'm not a fast typer eithe
I think even if your fast, you'd still have to work more than 40 hours a week to make that but I could be wrong.
I remember those days too, but these days they don't want make any child felt left out. They wan
to make each of them feel special and that they have accomplished something. My 8-year-old brings a certificate of some kind during the day, accelerated reader award, trustworthy award, jr. achievement award, etc. I guess in a way, no one kid is pointed out as the "teacher's pet" or have the other kids being jealous of him/her for getting this or that award.
Married good friend of my deceased husband
I knew him for over 30 years and yet didn't know him. He is very quiet, reserved, shy and when husband died called after 12 days to invite me to the zoo- I had no idea he had ever seen me to tell the truth. Bottom line months later he told me had loved me since the first day he saw me and "just waited."
about 30 days, < 30 days pregnant (nm)
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I enjoy them also. It's like, have you
ever recorded your own voice and listened to it before you get up in front of America and take such a big chance? Or asked an older sibling? Or taken a lesson? No? You might want to start smaller than American Idol then.
Don't even have a dog but do I enjoy
seeing them out and about. I have 3 furkids (cats) that are inside and do not visit stores with me but I absolutely love all animals and could care less if you bring your dog, just as long as it does not bite me, we can get along good. Doggie-Oggie
You are welcome and enjoy it!
After you get your IPod, maybe you can ask for ITunes gift cards for different occasions. A 25.00 card will get you around 25 songs, which are only .99 cents each. You just enter the gift card # on the website and it adds the amount to your account. Have fun! :)
Enjoy!
I just loved that movie! Sappy, romantic chick flick and you get to look at John Cusack for 90 minutes.
Enjoy N/T Fan
I still have to get season 3 and 4. How did you like last week's show? At least they're trying to redeem Christian somewhat, but on the other hand, they sure have some way out there storylines.
Enjoy it!... sm
Be careful -- push him away too much and he just might go looking elsewhere. Been there, done that. Don't agree with it and not making excuses for him, just speaking from experience. Some people can take rejection only so long.
Enjoy.
My babies are 30 and 24. I really miss them being small. I can't wait for the grandchildren to come along.
I had my last one at 33 and I enjoy him a
whole lot more than the others - more patience and tolerance I suppose. I'm also much more involved in his school since I know he's the last one.
YW, Hope you enjoy it as much as we do!
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But you should enjoy yourself. It is not worth
it always putting up with evil people and not enjoying the holidays the way YOU deserve. I am nearly 50, and wasted 30 years or so before I realized that I do not have to be a part of this insanity. Even if it is just 1 person, its so not worth the time and good memories for you. We cut ties and never regretted it once. And my kids are grown now and have shared with me how grateful they are that we stopped doing the sick holiday visits, etc. We really bonded as our own family and are healthy mentally. Sometimes you do have to think of yourself first, though I know that can be hard. Merry Christmas to you.
We have a small one and really enjoy it.
I don't think the taste is affected at all.
Seriously, if you enjoy humidity,
you might LOVE NC. If you love the beach, places like Wilmington are wonderful.
At the very least, do come here for a vacation. I really think you'd love it here. Very green, warm and humid. Gardeners enjoy it. It's not quite as long a season as California, but pansies survive most winters, and then winter daphnes start to bloom in February. Houses are more reasonable than many other places, too.
DH and I both enjoy that commercial,
but he interprets it very differently than I do. I see it as a dad thinking his daughter is embarrassed by his house, and he wants to improve it so she isn't embarrassed. But DH just thinks she's simply planting an idea for her mother, and that the dad will think it's all his idea that the kitchen needs to be updated. I'm thinking this means that if we had a daughter, this technique would completely work on him!
Please Please enjoy your vacation. sm
I just went on vacation with my family and had something (nothing compared to your worry) that I just had to put on the back burner and enjoy every second I possibly could. I hope you have faith, because God does not give us anything that we truely can not handle. I will pray that your worries are unfounded. You have been given some wonderful advice above and just believe in that. Happy vacationing.
Don't ever apologize for something you enjoy!
It's a huge part of your life and there's nothing wrong with that! We have the most wonderful neighbors who are crazy Catholic...I mean they wear rosaries bracelets, have multiple Catholic-esque bumper stickers, and they carry bibles the way most people carry a PDA. However, they are the most genuine, sweet, and fun people I have met on my little street here. I love having them over just to shoot the chit, share a bottle of wine, and love hearing them talk about their religion, which is a HUGE part of their lives. They are happy, friendly, and they love life and that's what counts. They know I am what I am (atheist) and while I know they say they pray for me, they don't make me feel at all uncomfortable and I think they honestly enjoy my warped view of the world. Gives them some perspective of what else is walkin' around out there ;-)
Nice people are nice people, no matter what their (or lack thereof) religious convictions may be.
He is adorable! Enjoy him!
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I'm the boss at my other job. I enjoy the
homemade items, ie. cake, a tin of misc cookies or candies. Very sweet and simple.
Congratulations! Enjoy! And please keep it down there! LOL nm
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is it abnormal not to enjoy sex?
sorry this is so personal...
I Have been in a relationship off and on for 6 years. I have never really enjoyed sex. With ANYONE.
And I dont mean because it's not spicy enough... or we dont try new things... not cause he doesn't know what he's doing...
This relationship is a good one. But I question whether he is the "right" one if I just simply dont enjoy sex. Mentally I want to, but physically I just don't respond like I did at the beginning. I know since Ive been with other people I physically respond to them because it is new and exciting. but i still dont really ENJOY it. but It's not like I hate sex or anything.
I'm really asking this to see if I am supposed to be with someone that I'm constantly gonna want to jump their bones. I know that sex is not everything in the relationship... and we have tried to make things better. We have good chemistry in all other ways.
No I was never molested, raped... or anything like that.
I just feel very abnormal and frustrated because I really love him and want to do everything with him... the sex is just like whatever to me. i still love kissing him all the time...
i dont know what else to say, im just really at a loss as to what my problem is. im under 30 years old so i feel like i should be enjoying it immensely.... :(
any thoughts?
I actually enjoy the hermitude.
And yes, I made up that word. :)
I am divorced, no kids, I live alone, and I do NOT miss the office politics. I loved my former boss but I worked with a bunch of dysfunctional harpies, and it is such a relief now that I only associate with people of my own choosing. Mostly. I get out to church on Sunday mornings, women's home fellowship on Wednesday nights, and occasionally hook up with a friend for coffee or something, but mostly I stay home, just me and my books and my music, my few TV shows and my online friends. I was actually more lonely when I was married.
But clearly you have a very different set of circumstances and needs, and I am afraid I don't have a lot to offer, if you're looking for advice... it sounds like you and hubby don't have a lot in common anymore, and that can be a real challenge. When my husband and I stopped having interests in common, it was really all over but the shouting; I went out and found some new interests of my own, and he did NOT like that, although he was not willing to meet me halfway in trying to find new things to do together. I said to heck with this, goodbye, it's a lot more fun to be alone all by yourself than with someone else being an albatross around your neck!
I guess maybe I'm just turning into a curmudgeon in my old age. 53 and still premenopausal, and going to bed alone with a book.
But again... my solutions aren't for everyone, especially with children involved. I really do hope you are able to find some solutions that will work for you; perhaps sign up for some sort of a class, take up a new hobby, volunteer somewhere for just an hour or two a week? Surely there is something you can do to get yourself out of the house and meeting new people? Clearly your needs are not being met now; but only you can define what those needs are, and only you can figure out how to get them met for yourself.
And meanwhile, you can come here and spill your guts anytime. Gut-spilling 'R' us.
Yes, I enjoy Discovery Channel.
I'll watch for that. I can add it to my DVR recordings, too.
We enjoy going to live theatre or out to eat...sm
depending on what we find to do.
I always enjoy your posts, Hayseed...sm
but I just want to say I'm with your mom on this one: I feel sad for you, too. But also admire the strength of your convictions in a way as well. I'm not going to preach either. Already went through it with my sister. She asked if I really believed -the whole thing- and I said yes. She wondered how and I just said it's called faith.
PS - Did you start Harry Potter yet????? Open that book already! 
I enjoy the mysteries by Sue Grafton, such as
Her stories are fun & easy to read, and written in the 1st person, which I like. The stories take place mostly in Calif. towns, the names of which are often changed. I enjoy trying to figure out which town she's describing. Anyway, her books start out with letters, such as 'A is for..', 'B is for..', etc.
Thank you both. We do enjoy it a great deal.
There are drawbacks to it, but we feel they are far outweighed by the benefits. We are not quite as footloose and fancy-free as we had envisioned in our youth, but we are about as close as we will probably ever get.
Not all of us ENJOY being cellphone maniacs sm
I have gone to a friend's house for coffee. Yes, I carry a cellphone and yes, I text frequently. I talk some too. Where I live we all have to have Verizon because nothing else works. If you don't have a Verizon cell, no one will talk to you. There are only about 15 land lines in a town of 1400 people. I carry it with me and I have a tone for the text messages so I know the difference. Do I enjoy this? No! It is necessity and I consider a cellphone a necessity, but not a toy.
Back to the story...at this friend's house, her daughter is there and so is another adult. That is 4 of us. During the hour I was there, each of them had more than 2 calls and many texts. They interrupted our conversation for EVERY SINGLE CALL AND TEXT. I found it very disruptive and RUDE.
Your so-called friends were RUDE. If they really wanted to include you, all they needed to do was actually call you and ask you to come to them. Instead, they tried to show up by using a text when you are not a texter. When I add a new friend to my cellphone, I ask if they are text capable because you'd be surprised how many people are not. They don't understand that no everyone is a fanatic about texting or technology.
So how many times did they interrupt conversations for the stupid cellphone?
One way to turn off people from texting you is to use all your Expander shortcuts and all the weird stuff they use on IMs and texts. R U hom? hv u got cof on? cmg ov nw. Gets them every time!
I enjoy Danny and Allison the most.
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