your house, your rules - sm
Posted By: lilly on 2008-07-08
In Reply to: Need to know if we're doing the right thing - sm - New York MT
You are the adult here. Who cares if DD is mad or not? Hormones rage at this age and it is up to you to preclude anything happening under YOUR roof. The fact that you have caught them alone under a blanket means things have gone on too long already. Act NOW, before it is too late.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
Your house your rules. I would not even
open that door to letting them sleep together at your place because then it will only get worse - trust me - with kids 30, 28, 24 and 17 - I've seen and heard a lot. Stick by your guns - you will be happier and the kids know where you stand.... you are not a prude and don't think for a second you are!! Best of luck!!
I agree--your house, your rules.
You are cutting her a sweet deal there by allowing her to stay there and save up money. Sounds like she needs to start holding herself accountable--she is an adult afterall and should act like one. If she doesn't like the rules, of course she should be welcomed to leave.
My mother did the same for me...except she charged me rent too. I was responsible for all my bills and even did my own grocery shopping. Personally though, I couldn't take the curfew either (which she had, just like you), and I moved out to shack up with my now husband. ;-)
Looking back, I kind of regret missing out on a huge opportunity to save some serious $$$, but kinda not, as I would've stayed an under-educated minimum-wage worker if I lived there, deal or no deal on the rent.
Good luck with it all. Us girls can sure be difficult to stomach sometimes! 
I get to be the one who makes the rules in the house...
I hate following rules when I was younger...
Rules of Engagement, Big Bang Theory, House ...
The New Adventures of Old Christine, CSI Miami, Bones, Design Star, Biggest Loser.
Rules is rules. Cant make exceptions or everyone
x
I have always made my rules and the rules were
no overnighters for my son or my daughter with their girlfriends or boyfriends. I would never back down on my values and as long as you pay to be the boss, then you are. Simple.
Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
Rules
Here is the reasoning listed in an article on NJ beach rules:
Ocean City passed a law in January prohibiting the feeding of seagulls from beaches or other public property. Officials say they acted to prevent bird droppings from contaminating waterways and spreading disease, but also note the avian scavengers have just gotten too brazen in recent years.
By the new rules
the bp is a bit high. The diastolic isn't too bad, but the systolic is high and might need meds to control it. It's the top number that generally gets high if you're under stress. As for the migraine, who is to say it wasn't the body warning of impending hypertension?
I have the same rules as you. nm
x
ass ? really? is that against the rules?? sorry!
pathetic aren't you
you want my post removed because you can't deal with the truth.
New School Rules
 Not every child does this for attention. If you had read the post -- you do know how to read right? The original poster stated that her child has a medical condition! I think it is wrong to punish a child for doing something that a body does naturally especially if it is due to a medical condition! There are a lot of good teachers out there and a lot of not so good teachers. There are a lot that need to get back to teaching instead of worrying about this sort of thing. If you ignore it -- children will not do it because it did not bring about the attention they sought to get. And if it is due to a medical condition the teacher will have to deal with it! I have GERD and my stomach makes noises all day long. Are you going to come after me too?
New Class Rules
I have 2 children and neither have to the best of my knowledge done this in a classroom. However, if there is a medical issue behind this I do not believe the child should be punished. I do agree it is rude if done on purpose but I do not believe that was the situation wiht the original poster. When I have parent teacher meetings I am praised up and down because my children are the best behaved in the class so I do not believe my personal parenting skills are an issue here. I think everyone is making way too much out of this. Boys will be boys. Sooner or later they will out grow the behavior. Maybe the problem with the world today is that kids cannot just be kids anymore? Things are different now then they were years ago. I cannot remember school shootings or threats at my school. Twice my daughter was sent home because of a bomb scar. This never happened when I was in school. The world is different now and if the worst a kid does in class is burp or pass gas I think the teachers should be grateful.
New school rules.
My children do not do any of these things to the best of my knowledge. They do not do it at home because they were taught that it is rude, but if it happens to say excuse me which I believe is the polite thing to do. I have never heard of them doing this in school either. However, I do believe that if a child has a medical problem he/she can politely say excuse me and should not be punished. I'm not saying it is proper behavior -- just that if it happens the child can say excuse me. At my daughter's school not all of the teachers allow children to leave the classroom during class to use the bathroom. I don't agree with that either. I guess that makes me a monster.
EPSON RULES
I have the Epson CX6600 it has four different ink cartridges but I spend less on ink that I ever have. the photos I print look like I got them from the store and it is much faster than my husbands and daughters (cannon/Hub and HP for daughter) Everybody uses moms printer for anything special and they buy ink more often than I do lol
hope my opinion helps!
No but he is abiding by the rules now....sm
so that is a BIG plus. Plus now his girlfriend's parents have forbid her to call him or text him so at least they will have a break from that. Maybe when she gets her phone back they will understand.
Thank you!
My home, my rules
Simple at my house. When the kids have their own homes, then they have their rules. Under my roof, under my rules.
I did not set the rules for this. Where I live
we cannot have individual sales, only twice a year is when our community allowed. We have to get a $10.00 permit from our city and I am much too old for this. I was finishing setting up when folks started coming by, before the sun came up. I can say never again because I really mean that. I don't have to put up with attitudes, either and that woman that came as early bird had one. Some people have lots of nerve.
They need those no touch rules!
I went to a place that is very well known in Florida before they enacted the 'no touch rule'. My older brother pounded into my head when I was little 'if someone grabs you - hit, kick, and scream'. So, of course, when some zombie-thing grabbed me, he got elbowed VERY hard in the stomach. He was not happy about that! I had gone thinking that they weren't allowed to touch you, so it really freaked me out!!
After that incident, I told my friend we had to leave before I got arrested! I don't go to those things any more - my nerves can't take it!
Cookie rules
Here, we eat the dough too, and of the ones who make it to the baking stage are carefully inspected when they are removed from the oven because our rule is that we get to eat all the "cripples", you know the ones that are crooked or missing a leg or part of Santa's hat, or the tip of a star. If we don't have enough one of us always gets the spatula and cripples a few more so we can eat! Frosting day is another story altogether. By the time we are finished we usually have just a modest amount of cream cheese cutouts left and the same amount of gingerbread. We all need a diet by that time. Then, there is always "bread baking day" - so many baking days, so little self-control.
LOL--that'll never do...there are RULES to that too!:-)
I know the timeout rules all too
well, but truthfully, I needed the timeout. It took me a good 20 minutes to compose myself to the point where I was ready to address what he did. I figured he was safer sitting on that chair. By the time it was done, he sat for about 30 minutes. According to the timeout rules, it should have been 8 minutes, but sometimes we adjust the punishment to fit the crime. Then he sat for another 10 minutes while I lectured him calmly about the what-ifs.
eBay rules....sm
state that sellers have up to 30 days to ship items once they're paid for.... just as buyers have up to 30 days to pay UNLESS it's posted otherwise in the original listing. My guess is that with the holidays the seller has gone away for a few days. Furthermore eBay/PayPal won't open an investigation until it's been 30 days past the day of the sale.
never heard of the new rules before - thanks
:)
They're just following BOS rules.
NMM
Mandatory BBQ Rules!
BBQ RULES
We have entered the BBQ season. Therefore it is important to refresh your memory on the etiquette of this sublime outdoor cooking activity. When a man volunteers to do the BBQ the following chain of events are put into motion:
Routine...
(1) The woman makes the trip to the store, buys the food.
(2) The woman makes the salad, prepares the vegetables, and makes dessert.
(3) The woman prepares the meat for cooking, places it on a tray along with the necessary cooking utensils and sauces, and takes it to the man who is lounging beside the grill - beer in hand.
(4) The woman remains outside the COMPULSORY 3-METER EXCLUSION ZONE where the exuberance of testosterone and other manly bonding activities can take place without the interference of the woman.
Now here comes the important part:
(5) THE MAN PLACES THE MEAT ON THE GRILL.
(6) The woman goes inside to organize the plates and cutlery.
(7) The woman comes out to tell the man that the meat is looking great. He thanks her and asks if she will bring another beer while he flips the meat.
Important again:
(8) THE MAN TAKES THE MEAT OFF THE GRILL AND HANDS IT TO THE WOMAN.
More routine...
(9) The woman prepares the plates, salad, bread, vegetables,utensils, napkins, sauces, dessert and brings them to the table.
(10) After eating, the woman clears the table and does the dishes.
And most important of all:
(11) Everyone PRAISES the MAN and THANKS HIM for his cooking efforts.
(12) The man asks the woman how she enjoyed her 'night off ', and, upon seeing her annoyed reaction, concludes that there's just no pleasing some women.
Let's not have any slip-ups on this, 'kay?
Copied this so it is not to "you" just some rules.
Get ready for a big surprise: According to traditional American etiquette, wedding gifts are purely optional. That's why it's uncouth to include any mention of gifts with your invitation—it comes across like you're expecting a gift.
Asking for Monetary Gifts
You’re planning a bridal shower, and let’s face it – the bride and groom have been living together for three years, already accumulating at least two blenders and a toaster oven. What they could really use is some extra cash (they’ve been dying to remodel their bathroom.) However, blatantly asking for specific gifts – monetary or otherwise – is in poor taste. Just imagine an invitation that reads: “I could really use some new shoes – please send me some strappy sandals.” (Just because Carrie Bradshaw got away with it does not make it ok!) What you can do is let guests know if they ask that the bride prefers cash gifts. Send shower invites without registry information; inquiring guests will ask where the couple is registered, presenting a perfect opportunity to respond with the bride’s preference. Some guests will still prefer to give a tangible gift, so the couple should register for a few items. Avoid drawing attention to the cash with a “money tree,” or other cash-displaying gimmick, so guests bringing tangible gifts don’t feel awkward. Simply display all cards and gifts together for the bride to open and acknowledge.
Bottom line? The happy bride-to-be should always remember to feel privileged, not entitled.
Giving Monetary Gifts
You’re sorting through your mail, and to your dismay discover a shower invitation with a cutesy rhyme such as...
…To make it easy for you
and avoid a shopping spree
We thought that we would have instead,
a little money tree…
Although this presents a clear breach of etiquette, it does not justify an uprising of the etiquette police. Pointing out another’s faux pas is just as rude as the original blunder. Here are your options:
Bring a monetary gift – If you choose to participate with a cash donation, give whatever you feel comfortable giving. The shower host will start the tree off for guests by tying a bill or small envelope on the tree, and guests will follow suit. There is usually no way to tell who gave what amount. In this instance, bring a card separate from the cash for the bride.
Bring a tangible gift – I say this with caution, because you don’t want to appear as if you’re protesting the shower theme. However, if you’ve put a lot of thought into selecting something memorable for the bride, take pride in presenting her with a thoughtful gift to acknowledge her upcoming nuptials.
I think different states may differ in rules...
but the answer was yes in my case. He "quit claim" deeded the house to me, but the mortgage was still in both names. No way is a bank or mortgage company going to let one off the hook in case the other defaults.
Hope this helps.
Rules about bringing medication to
school are there for a reason. She knew she was not supposed to do it as all of that is explained EVERY school year. In our schools, medications (even aspirin) is kept in the office with a note from a doctor (whether rx or not) and they dispense it.
Better rules than to live in trash city
I live to live a little better upscale life than that. It is my hubby, me and the furries and that is so good for me. No kids running thru the yard, no knock down, dragouts. Living in the country or city does not guarantee you good neighbors. Trying to sell 6+ acres of lake front (not where I live nor have I ever lived there) but in the country and those people on each side the neighbors from hades. They wanted to buy from me and I would not sell to them but that is in the country and ??? If you call making sure your kids nor animals don't roam and no beer battles, neighbors with their loud, obxious music and shaking my home a problem, not for us. We absolutely love it and by the way, the cost of these homes really keeps that rift-raft out, thank goodness! You pay for what you get.
I'm probably older than you and I DO follow rules of etiquette,
s
Where r u at in Texas? I live here too and argue with 50% of their rules!
x
It's not the worker's fault. She has to follow the rules or be fired. sm
I've taken a lot of flack from a lot of customers, and the run-of-the-mill retail worker really has no freedom to make decisions. When the worker is caught between a yelling customer and a yelling manager, who do you think she'll listen to?
We have a house and
who want a dog. I'm not a cat fan and we can't have an outside dog b/c we live in a development (and I don't want a dog inside). Rabbits are quiet and cute. Thanks for the insight!!!
Get a job in house
Again you knew what you were getting into when you signed on. Also some MT's in our hospitals do have to work holidays. Some of it is covered by those that chose to "work at home" but again they knew this when they took the job with being able to "work at home."
Well, not in my house!
lol
House. nm
x
Do they have a dog house?
I definitely agree that she should take the dog inside, but if she absolutely refuses maybe you could buy her a well-insulated doghouse so at least the animal will have some protection from the cold. Animals have survived cold temperatures for years, but they need a place that shelters them from the cold, and she needs to provide that for them!!
I feel for you - vegetarian here :) One of the big reasons I lost respect for my ex-best friend was the way she treated her animals. She was always buying dogs and cats and then leaving them at the pound or pawning them off on people. It really made me think less of her, because what kind of person does that! She also won't admit she did anything wrong! arrrrgh! It drives me crazy when people don't take proper care of their animals. They are a big responsibility - not just a cute puppy to show off when it's convenient. I hope your daughter straightens up, but again, if she doesn't I highly recommend purchasing a good doghouse for the poor dog!
i want to eat at your house
I have a cookbook from LA Leche League - Whole Foods for the Whole Family. many good recipes. don't know if still available, bought 12 years ago. Many ethnic recipes on-line to try.
Get him out of the house
This kid is angry at you. He is going behind you undoing everything you do. He wants your attention, even if it is negative.
He needs kids his own age - he may be a number to the day care people, but he'll be a real kid to the other kids and will make friends.
Get him into something you can afford, even if it is just the 2-hr a day program. It will work wonders for him and for you.
Good luck - let us know how it goes for you.
S/L you are carrying a huge load. Home schooling sounds great, but when you're working another job as well, it can break your back. Maybe you and the husband need to reassess how you are doing things. Do the home school classes when the DH is there to help out, or whatever takes the stress out of it for you.
Your cat looks like it ate the house!
Beautiful!
have them to your house? or -
talk to all about it, best policy. bet they understand - haven't they been there? they all might settle for a drive by later for coffee and desert for t-giving...or some other type of compromise.
That's every day at my house :)
...
the dog house - sm
Girls, has your hubby ever gotten you a "practical" gift that you did not appreciate? This video will put a smile on your face! Enjoy the lighthearted fun. 
http://bewareofthedoghouse.com/video.aspx
You just described my house
I chuckled reading your post. I have 9 - yes 9 - cats, three of whom are kittens in the range of 7 months old. I got them all about a week apart and they're each about a month apart in age. They are refugees from the neighbors really bad decisions.
Nothing in the house is safe any more. All of my bigger plants are now in hooks on the ceiling - the smaller plants were already there. It looks silly, but it works. There is nothing left on any flat surface. It cracks me up when they get going and chasing each other. My house is very cat friendly at this point. I made the choice to put the good furniture in storage for now and I have washable furniture. There are cat beds everywhere. My office shelving unit is more cat bed than it is storage and I have 2 beds on the desk beside my computer.
Yes, I am the crazy cat lady.
This is always a hit at my house
Rotel tomatos
Velveeta cheese
taco-seasoned ground beef
Brown ground beef and add taco seasoning (as in making tacos). Melt Velveeta and Rotel in microwave; add meat mixture. I transfer to a crockpot to keep it hot. Serve with corn chips. This recipe is made with 1 lb ground beef, 1 packet taco seasoning, 1 small can Rotel, and half of a big block of Velveeta. Of course, you can vary it to the amount you need to serve.
House
Love the show, but I missed it...what happened?????
Dr. House would say to see a
However, the suggestion to check out the truck/car for carbon monoxide exhaust is really intriguing. Does he get a headache while the wavy-thing is happening? CO poisoning also causes a killer-headache, I've heard.
I'd also look at what he's having for breakfast and what time he's eating it, in case there's possibly a blood sugar connection. When my blood sugar drops, all sorts of crazy symptoms start happening. Doing a glucometer, I'm always below 80 when that happens.
I really think the beer intake the night before is not relevant at all. Amusing though!
Dr. House would say to see a
However, the suggestion to check out the truck/car for carbon monoxide exhaust is really intriguing. Does he get a headache while the wavy-thing is happening? CO poisoning also causes a killer-headache, I've heard.
I'd also look at what he's having for breakfast and what time he's eating it, in case there's possibly a blood sugar connection. When my blood sugar drops, all sorts of crazy symptoms start happening. Doing a glucometer, I'm always below 80 when that happens.
I really think the beer intake the night before is not relevant at all. Amusing though!
Did I mention that my
license to practice medicine
without a license
was revoked for malpractice!
*giggle*
House
Ya gotta love him though!
I have Karndean throughout my house. It looks just
like wood, I mean REALLY looks like wood, but it's not. It's not a vinyl either. You just have to see it. See the website below.
|
