your fear should not hold him back.
Posted By: sm on 2007-08-30
In Reply to: Need some advice whether you are a parent or not - trose
I understand your feelings, but this seems like a completely reasonable and good trip being planned, one that could mold his mind/heart for his future. Your son could make a very positive difference in many others lives. If you haven't already, learn to trust God.
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This is my fear also . . .
10-15 years from now they will find some horrible side effect.
re: fear
The Lord is your keeper;
The Lord is your shade at your right hand.
The sun shall not strike you by day,
Nor the moon by night.
The Lord shall preserve you from all evil;
He shall preserve your soul.
The Lord shall preserve your going out and your coming in from this time forth, and even forevermore.
Psalm 121:5-8
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7
re: fear
Fear is a tool that satan uses to keep us from doing what God is calling us to do. It is also actually sin cause it shows our lack of trust in the Lord. I'm not saying it will be easy to let him go, just that God will comfort you when you trust in Him....
Lovin Jesus,
Jan
why fear it when you won't know it??
:) I am about to turn 28 and I am already losing mine... I know I'm going to get Alzheimer's and that makes me SAD (SUPER sad), but im not afraid of it...
a little fear
can be a good thing, like pain...it tells you something is wrong.
There's a book called "The Gift of Fear," written by Gavin DeBecker. This is from the book jacket: "True fear is often a signal that can save your life. Are you listening?..." This is from the publisher of the book: "Through dozens of compelling examples from his own career, security expert Gavin deBecker teaches readers how to read the signs of impending danger by using their most basic--but often most discouraged--survival skill: intuition. This book provides a unique combination of practical guidance on leading a safer life and profound insight into human behavior."
BTW, I've read that one of the worst things women do (I'm totally guilty of this) is to sit in the car after coming from the store or post office or wherever, reading mail & balancing checkbooks while sitting in a parked car...perfect opportunity for some slimeball.
You did the right thing: Trusted your gut.
d.
If no fear, then what exactly is there to be 'against'?
X
I bet then he sensed his fear
Dogs can sense that a mile away. I know mine can. whenever anyone comes over that is nervous about dogs, the dogs wanna hang all over them and like double sniff them. LOL
my worst fear right now is that even
if I have cash in my hand, it will be worthless, and might as well use it as TP.
not one single fear
zero, zip, zilch, nada...
we are born with two fears: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. the rest we create or obtain on our own later in life. me: none, other than the two i was born with.
I got married out of fear. Then (sm)
I stayed married out of fear. Then he bought me a GPS and now I'm adventurous. Not being able to navigate was one of my biggest fears. Another fear was not having money. The way he spent our money, we never had any anyway.
that has always been a fear of mine..
that I would spill the grape juice or something.. I always feel like I'm soooo shaky with those little glasses..
I understand your fear! I have three sons between
17 and 20 years old. Now and then they talk about enlisting, and of course I worry about the draft. For selfish reasons, I want them always to stay close to home, where it seems to be safe. But it's a very high calling to serve one's country, and I would support that decision if my sons decided upon it. If the draft were brought back, I'd be terrified. I do not support this war. I don't think it was the right thing to do. But I do support the people who serve and respect their decisions and am incredibly grateful to them for their sacrifices. I will also continue to support them by doing whatever I can, small though it may be, to help bring them home AND keep peace for us all. I wish it were a simple thing.
As for our children, the fact is, once they are 18, they can make the decision to join without our consent. Talk to each other, love her and appreciate her. If she decides to serve her country, you do not want to part in anger, and trust me, you will want to support her in any way you can.
I think that's probably a common and rational fear (sm)
I can't stand it and I imagine most people, especially females, but also males, don't like it either.
Fear, not respect. It's not the same thing.
And the fear only lasts until they are bigger than you are and can hit back. You'll probably be surprised when that happens and can't imagine where it came from, but you're the one who taught them that violence is an acceptable way to deal with problems. Some other things it teaches are that it's OK to pick on/bully/hit anyone smaller than you who can't defend themselves in order to get what you want and that once you're an adult, anything goes.
Think about it. You spank a kid for hitting a sibling while telling him it's not nice to hit. You break the hair brush/ruler while paddling your kid for breaking something but you suffer no consequences for breaking something. What you get is confusion and fear, but not respect. Maybe the kid turns out OK; after all, there are other influences in his life. Maybe he doesn't. And if he doesn't, I hope he doesn't have a gun.
Phobia means fear.
Everybody throws around the word homophobia, but that is not the right word. People who are against homosexuality are not afraid of it. They think it is wrong. It's just annoying to keep seeing this word used in this way.
Ain't no way on this earth I am going to live in fear
You all are really lacking a lot to have this man rule your lives. If you were a man I would tell you to man up but both of you lack a backbone.
I finished Harry Potter! Never fear - no spoiler.
Wow - what a great book & series. Brilliant! As Ron would say.
I would rather have my door open on a nice day, then live in fear...
That is not a way to live your life...and that is not living in la-la land...
spanking builds fear that you mistake as respect
A child who has been abandoned by both parents has no trust in anyone. Why do you think spanking is the right way to build trust? We just need to agree to disagree on this issue. I trust the counselor's recommendations more than yours as hers have proven to work. Spanking does not _make_ ALL kids do good. Sigh.
Life is too short to live it in fear. I'd rather sleep in my car -sm
than with someone who mistreated me either physically, OR 'just' psychologically. And even if the kids don't actually see anything happening, you better believe they're still picking up on the bad vibes.
The fact that he mentions killing HIMSELF, in addition to you, is a major red flag. If a person reaches a point where they actually talk about doing something, they're alot closer to doing it than when they were just thinking it to themselves.
Guns in the house. (Guns, pleural!) Not good. I'd have insisted those be gone before the wedding day, myself. (Haha - it'd be in the prenuptial agreement that I'd never get married without!)
Anyway, living in fear for the sake of the greater financial 'security' of having 2 incomes is no security at all, in my book. It's a huge sacrifice of your freedom, peace of mind, & safety. The greatest security you can give yourself or the kids is finding a way to provide for yourselves WITHOUT the 'help' of an abuser.
I agree with Kendra, if you fear he would be physicall abusive - (sm)
then you need to be away from him. He is just your boyfriend, right? Not even your husband. I left a marriage recently from an abusive husband. He "only" beat me physically once, but he was controlling and emotionally abusive at other times AND he looked at young lesbian porn online. If I ever start dating someone and I get even a hint that they could ever become physically abusive to me I will run from that relationship so fast your head would spin. Please get away from him!! Dont even deal with it another day.
Yeah that's my fear. Trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but (sm)
I don't want to be a dummy either
Hold off on 911...
Nah, not elderly...yet. Just raised with good morals and my priorities are where they should be. I don't expect people to give me anything.
Doesn't matter if you spend $20 or $20,000. Again, you spend what you can afford. If 10,000 was under budget, great. You suggested everyone should give a minimum of $25 then your 60 guests x 25 = $1,500. You made a profit.
If the "bride and groom incurred a very big expense", that's their problem. Take a nice honeymoon? I wonder how many don't even HAVE a honeymoon. Why do you think you are entitled to a nice honeymoon?
You are missing the point. A gift is a GIFT. Whether it's money or an object, it is GIVEN to the bride and groom from their guests out of the goodness of their hearts.
People like myself do understand that the bride and groom or someone dished out some heavy duty dough for a wedding, and we sit there at the table and say "Can you imagine what they paid for this?" Then we laugh.
Guess I'm being too practical, but I'd rather take the money it cost for the traditional wedding and put it towards a house.
How's this for a new theory: you save until you have enough for the wedding AND honeymoon of your dreams. THEN you get married.
By the way, I do give money at a wedding, but I give what I can afford.
NOW you can call 911.
hold off if possible!
Had I known about flushes prior to my surgery in 2001, I would have done everything in my power to have avoided it. My digestive system is so out of whack since I don't have a gallbladder, it's terrible. I have done 5 flushes since this past May and have seen all kinds of stuff come out. I really believe they could have saved me. I just didn't know about them and of course the Dr.'s aren't going to tell you. All they say is that you don't really need it. Visit www.curezone.com and checkout the liver flush forum. That's where I learned about it. Good luck!
Hold out until you get a new job.
Sounds like a few companies..
I am when I can get a hold of her...sm
I have been trying to call and can't get an answer.
trying to hold on, but I also am
starting a "sock account"!
He did say he wanted to hold off since my dog sm
is young, only 1-1/2 years old. I'm a wreck from trying to keep on eye on him as much as possible. Then, when I get comfortable after he hasn't had one for awhile, another one occurs. Just 3 weeks ago we had 15 inches of snowfall and I let him and our other dog out to potty. Well, I called them in and found the little guy in a snowbank and the ned of our lot shivering with the endings of a seizure. I ran outside in my barefeet and got him out of the snowbank and carried him in. It just tears me up to watch it. LOL--it probably IS worse on us than the poor poochies.
SHUT UP AND HOLD ON!
;8)
...hold off on surgery. nm
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hold on tight - sm
You need not to panic. The stock market is going to have highs and lows of varying degrees. If you bail out now you will have lost money, plus all the taxes you will pay. Hang on!! 
Hold the pickles.....have had it that way...yuck!
x
Hold on, can you or can you not kill a spider?
I just killed 1 the other night and I do not know if I was supposed to do something else to go along with that or do I have a jinx from now on?
Also did you know if you hold in your stomach muscles
and breathe slowly in and out through your nose it works the stomach muscles? This is based on Pilates and also Greer Childers breathing techniques for losing weight. I do this while watching TV, working, driving and standing when I think about it and not sure if that is why but I have very little belly fat.
Can't Hold Us Down by Li'l Kim & Christina Aguilera. nm
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It's a buyers market. Just hold on to that job.
aq
Hold on, now - not all old folks have that smell
I have an aunt who is 89 and she always smells so good, likes her really nice perfume and never a stinky. She is in 80 group. I am quickly getting to that ole folks age but I also love smelling nice although I don’t do the perfume as I love those nice shower gels.
Are you going to hold his hand on the subway, too?nm
m
Mine's 43...don't hold your breath ;-) nm
x
Well, dont hold your breath.
x
Victor can hold a grudge but...
he loves Niki. It will be rough for a while but I think all in all this will bring them closer together since it involves both of them so directly and of course the kids.
I think a lot is about to happen with Adam pretty soon too. He thinks the Newman's are a broken family but he doesn't understand the half of it. He didn't really grow up in a traditional family and I don't think realizes there are bumps in the road but they are still family and will always be close - the last few months is typical of the Newman's but will come back together as a tight knit group.
Do you ever watch on holidays? They usually do re-runs of old episodes.
Let me know if you have any questions about the past. I have been watching for about 20 years. I started as a kid because my entire family has watched it routinely since it started and I was sucked in with the rest. My husband now watches it (but of course denies lol). A lot is based on history of the characters.
i hate it when i hold the door for someone and they
snotty, like i owed them that courtesy. i've even said "you're welcome" to people. once, a woman said, "I didn't ask you to hold the door for me, fat ass." nice.
Unfortunately, children do hold grudges...
YOU call him. He hasn't had enough life experiences to know any better. Show him how things are done. I would just say I am sorry if I have wronged you. It wasn't my intention. Maybe I could have done things differently. I love you. Come over for Christmas.
Even though children hold grudges, they never stop loving their parents. It is the people you love who can bring about the most upset and emotion.
Thanks to all, but with the loss of bone to hold the
teeth in, it seems I don't have many options. I just met this dentist, who is just wonderful, on Wednesday through a friend. I am going back in 2 weeks to have an old filling replaced that has cracked. I will talk in more detail with him about options when I begin losing my teeth. I was told I had about a 40% bone loss on the bottom especially in the front. Thanks again.
I only have 1 question - if you hold these degrees
what are you doing on this forum? Why are you not putting your masterful degrees to a better position that would be more than the lowly MT
Hold it, are you saying zinc helped your
insomnia? I have gone through some natural items my husband had and still waking usually every 2 hours during the night, drives me crazy and needless to say the next day feeling like a zombie. I also take biotin and have the longest eyelashes now, not so much help for the hair but my dermatologist told me to take that the rest of my life due to the severe hair loss. Talk about avoiding the scales, only my scales and I know the truth there, do not even weigh in the doctor's offices, just tell them take a guess.
Please read "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin DeBecker. It can save your life. NM
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Anna Nicole's burial on hold maybe
Anna Nicole's mother is trying to stop her daughter from being buried right now. Also the father of Daniel is trying to have his son's body exhumed. This is really sickening. Let her REST IN PEACE already.
I'd hold off on the foot pedal, Scott, sm
as you may hook up with a company that will provide you one that is specially programmed. I bought a wav pedal a few years ago and never used it.
Catalog with a possible web site out there called Hold Everything might
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Anyone try a GB flush to hold of surgery? Successful
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