you seem to have a lot of troubles with your
Posted By: () on 2009-06-18
In Reply to: Dating sympathy (from married person) - Pugmom
digestive system.
UTI, gas to fill up up 3 gas tanks, eeeewww! Excuse me but that's no stuff to post on a forum, eeeewwww! No refinement, yuck!
But on the other hand, considering that yoi are a Republican, that's explains it.
Complete Discussion Below:  marks the location of current message within thread
The messages you are viewing
are archived/old.
To view latest messages and participate in discussions, select
the boards given in left menu
Other related messages found in our database
guy troubles
Since you also have your daughter to think about, you should slow down, for crying out loud. Two months is such a short time. Way too early go go away for the weekend together.
Sorry for your troubles--sm
and I really hate to make it any worse, but from what I hear through the grapevine, if they want to act on that arrest warrant and they know you are going to court tomorrow, they could be there and arrest you there. Just warning you. Good luck.
Need opinion on guy troubles
I'm a single mom, 32, dating a guy for 2 months. I sort of know deep down what I need to do but wanted opinions. We have been dating 2 months, things are going great. We went away for weekend, good with my daughter, very generous, nice Christmas presents (no card though) for me and daughter (probably $250), talk every day, seeing each other now on weekends and 1 day during week (and we do live 50 miles away). So yesterday (nice timing on my part), I ask him where are we in the relationship. He goes into how he does not want to rush things, can't commit to being exclusive, we're both important to him, but he just wants to make sure. He also said that he is not seeing anyone else at the moment, but it is not ruled out (not looking, but hasn't not stopped getting matches-yes, we met online).
Anyway, hurt my feelings, and my gut says to say, you know, I really like you, fine to go slow, but I need to make sure for my own sake that you are not seeing anyone else.
My fave line from Jerry MacGuire, real men don't shoplift the pootie from a single mom.
Anyway, please let me know what you think. In my opinion, we are not going slow, and things seemed perfetly fine. And by the way, he came to my daughter's Christmas show this year also, drove 50 miles for that. Very affectionate to me and good with my daughter, although not rushing that relationship.
What troubles me most about your post
is the violence your hubby seems to display. I don't have stepchildren and so will not comment on that aspect. I have, however, been in a relationship with someone who sounds a lot like your hubby. Thankfully, no children were involved, but when he got mad, he broke stuff, expensive stuff. I didn't stay in that relationship but heard later on he was married several times and divorced each with charges of domestic violence against him. I would be most worried about his temper tantrums escalating into something more.
As for the child's behavior, this I will comment on as I have a very difficult 7-year-old. I took him for counseling and learned a lot of insight from the counselor. There were things I was unintentionally doing to incite him without even realizing it. The counselor also pointed out that I had 2 other children who did not act like this, so not to blame my parenting skills. He was just a child who needed to be handled differently. I felt a lot of guilt the last few years, thinking it was something I did to make him this way, but it turns out, that's just the way he was made. I'm thankful that I got up the courage to see a counselor, and while our problems weren't solved, they are better. It's an ongoing process, but he's worth it because I love him so!
I would suggest that you find a private counselor to help you sort this. I would not invite hubby along just yet. I also wouldn't tell him about the first appointment until you talk with the counselor on how to broach the subject with him. I would definitely let him know about the first appointment before the second appointment. It would probably be a good idea to discuss it when his son is not there.
Good luck with your situation. I feel for you. Children can be stressful to any relationship, but the joy they can bring is many times over.
Teen Troubles
Can you say, "Dr. Phil?" If you are that desperate, I would definitely consider it.
Troubles with 17-year-old
I am having some troubles with my 17-year-old daughter. She lives with her dad. She is going to be 18 in December and wants to move out. She wants me to move in with me, but I live with my boyfriend and it would not work out for. She is very spoiled and does not follow rules. She wants me to get an apartment and move in with her. I really do not want to do this as she really knows how to push my buttons and I feel we would be arguing all the time. Also, if I move out of my boyfriends, he would probably lose the house if I were not helping out with bills. Has anyone else been in this situation? Any suggestions would be appreciated.
nor was I offended. Sorry for your troubles in the marriage. sm
Maybe he just needed some "relief" if the two of you are not getting along so well in the bedroom, so to speak, if you catch my drift.
|
