you are NOT a failure
Posted By: now lauren on 2009-01-26
In Reply to: does every woman experience being hit by her spouse at some point? sm - anonmt
The marriage may be, but not you. It broke my heart to see that. Your life will get better. Getting hit is something no one should accept and it sounds like you are suffering in so many other ways. Move on.
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My experience with kidney failure
Several years ago we lost a white shepherd to kidney failure. She was only 4. She spent about a week on IV fluids and seemed to come around some but was still weak when we brought her home. As soon as she starting eating again, even the special Eukanuba kidney diet, she went into failure again. We had to take her back in 2 days to have her put down. I was an absolutely hearbreaking experience to see her suffer. I feel for all of the owners dealing with it now.
The cause of her kidney failure was never really determined. The first question the vet asked me though was what kind of food I used. I had 2 other dogs at the time and they were fine, so probably wasn't the food. He did come to the conclusion that it was a "high tech rat poison" because they had another German Shepherd with the same problem. It was a police dog and had been intentionally poisoned. That dog made it through though.
My thoughts are with you and your kitty.
I swear I am going to have heart failure sm
if one more person walks into my office and scares the bejesus out of me. I'm so intent on concentrating on this doc and they walk in and say "hey mom" and I just totally jump out of my chair. They they say, "Sorry, didn't mean to scare you." My hubby has a bad habit of doing that when I am reading, too. I read every night for about an hour at bedtime with the nightstand light on. I'm totally involved in the book and I can't see him when he comes through the door because of the light and all of a sudden, he just appears like a ghost and I nearly fall out of bed because of fright. Of course he says, "Sorry, didn't mean to scare you." GRRR. 
liver, kidney and heart failure...
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003104.htm
ANY relationship based on lies is doomed to failure
Can't have wait time if you have a child in shunt failure
My daughter has shunted hydrocephalus. She's gone from a normal-acting child with no symptoms whatsoever, to having seizures, lethargy, and respirations of 9 with no warning whatsoever. She needed a medflight (because we were out of town on the way to the zoo), immediate CT scan and immediate surgery. I am terrified of universal healthcare and the wait times it would bring.
Oh God no, you are not being a baby or a failure, and no woman should forget about being assaulted..
by her own spouse. Remember the marriage vows, to love and to cherish? You cannot fully love someone if you do not respect them as a person, and you cannot respect someone you strike and assault, no woman should tolerate violence of any kind, even once. You yourself say that there were many other issues, and I truly feel that a new life with a new start is a wonderful and necessary thing for you. I have been married almost 29 years, I cannot even tolerate verbal abuse and my husband knows it, mutual respect has to come first in any relationship. God bless you, keep praying for wisdom and strength, and see this as a learning and strengthening experience.
A time of 5 years should not have caused kidney failure.
This is too short a time.
Did she have heart problems also?
I know people who drag along for 30 years until they finally succumb to organ failure.
Hydrationis what is needed here. Kidney failure is being prevented.
Cost is high but well worth it. One can also get IV drip with lactated ringers and do it yourself. Fluid is seeped into area between shoulder blades to be absorbed by puppy's body. One of mine needed a blood transfusion, both needed IV antibiotics. Five days in house is typical.
I lost a male cat to renal failure that started out -(sm)-
as a blocked urinary tract. First his behavior changed, but it was just slight, so I barely noticed. He also began drinking more water, and going to his litter box frequently, but just peeing a little at a time. Then I had to leave town and my petsitter called the next day and said he was sleeping in his litter box. I was too dumb to know what that meant, and told her it was probably the heat spell we were having at the time, and to leave a fan on for him. Next morning she called from the emergeny vet's office. She had come and found him collapsed unconscious (probably from unimaginable pain) on the floor. They got him in the nick of time. He was completely blocked and would have died within the hour. As it was, although he seemed fine for the next month, the toxins from the backed-up urinary tract destroyed his kidneys, and he had to be put down at only age 4.
Male cats are more prone to urninary crystals and blockage than females, and Persians are especially prone to this, because they have teeny tiny little ureters. If your cat is long-haired, could he have Persian in him?
Regardless, I feel responsible for losing my cat because I didn't know about the symptoms. It sounds like he's trying to tell you something, so a vet checkup and maybe some blood or urine tests. Better safe than sorry. Oh, and one more thing: DON'T ever let a vet prescribe the pain killer/anti-inflammatory drug, Metacam (meloxicam) for a cat. (Especially the off-label use of the liquid version, which is for dogs only.) It can cause renal failure in cats. My current cat was given just one 0.5 mL oral dose of Metacam in the vet's office, and became violently ill for 2 days. Thank goodness I didn't give her what she was sent home on! THEN I looked it up online and OMG -- there are hundreds of people out there who have lost cats to Metacam.
Friend in kidney failure, on dialysis now, said she could not understand "them" (ESLs)
I got a call last night from a friend who goes back over 40 years. She was in the hospital in kidney failure on dialysis. I was shocked. I knew she had diabetes and high blood pressure but had spoken with her the other day and she mentioned no problems then. I asked her had she been taken her medications like she should have and she said well, maybe not really like I should have and then she told me she really could not understand her physicians, they were foreign and she did not know maybe just how bad off she really was. I am furious. I wish I had known the whole story. I asked "why did you not change doctors?" and her reply was, oh, I just didn’t. She is calm, submissive and I am the opposite, in your face and give me some answers. I have smoke blowing from my ears! This is an older woman in her 60s who now waits for a kidney who is not on the top of the list because of her other ailments. She does not know the process of getting a kidney but I know what the outlook is for her. How many more people do you think are out there who might not get the kind of medical help they need because of them not being able to understand these foreign doctors? Furious for me is an understatement.
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