yes and yes! It is the tone in which it is written.
Posted By: () on 2009-06-07
In Reply to: it's the implication - deenibeeni
Condescending, ridiculing, belittling, ironic, sarcastic and implying that a 56-year-old woman (only the woman, not the man !)is 'over the hill' and has to expect to be cheated on with a 22-year-old.
I am not so sure that he is so 'unaware' of the slur. I think this is his general attituce toward women, but he is sugarcoating it to appear oh, so 'cute and likable.' A very biased statement.
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Maybe OP overstating? From tone of post, seems
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those people that set that tone left...
you can find them on the other board if you are bored. They're probably kicking over there.
Wouldn't exercise work just as well? My arms tone up
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Tone of your posts suggests bitter, resentful,
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fast walk/weight lift/exercise machine only way to tone
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Thank you for a well-written response
Of course, there are parts of what you say I agree with and parts I don't. :)
In my case, I had to step in or the state would have taken the child. The dad was a bum...but when I look at how he was raised and the he** he went through, I understand how scared he is of even trying to be a father. I don't excuse it, but I understand it. I understand it all the way to family court where I will be getting a child support order against him next month <G>. Got one on my own daughter, already. My daughter was born with a mental illness and was a teenage mother. It was a time bomb that finally exploded in a world of drug abuse. But to treat the addiction without the mental illness will never result in a productive member of society. So...that being said, holding these 2 parents accountable is futile...other than financially (okay, even I laugh at ever seeing any of that money). They are infrequent visitors in my GC's life. That is simply the way it is.
I look at European countries and see multigenerations living together even still, where the older family members help raise the young children so the parents can support the entire household. That was what I meant about a community raising children. We as Americans don't function in that way overall as a society. We splinter and break apart and when young adults need help, often it means the children go somewhere else (usually aunts, uncles, grands). Sometimes in divorce, one party has more _power/control_ (usually due to finances) and has a greater say in how, who and where the children are raised. I suspect there is some of this dynamic occuring in the OP's life that she felt she couldn't share. (My story is out there...but some are not as open). Some divorced people use children as pawns, and this, too, is as sad as parents who cannot take responsibility for their offspring.
But I do fully support any parent, who for the sake of the children, can try to enrich their young lives and teach them tolerance, patience, forgiveness, acceptance, and learn how to deal appropriately with situations so that they can grow into strong, proud adults. I suppose my point in all this was in my original response. Bad things can be found everywhere...but if we can teach our children how to deal with them in a positive way, we have given them the gift of maturity.
Thank you for your response. I did appreciate reading it and respect what you had to say.
I have already written them a letter that I will
I also suggested they take the "America" off their name as they don't represent America in any form.
you can only have one will, the latest one written...
You can have one will from one departed person per beneficiary...
If Anna had 7 wills for Daniel from herself, they have to go by the latest dated one.........
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You will be blasted probably for what you have written
but I take another stance on this because I have been through similar with elderly people (parent was 90 when they died). After their spouse died, they asked me to come and live with them and I absolutely refused. I told them first of all I have bills they would not pay for (could have but wouldn’t have and not their place anyway) but my life would be hel*. So overbearing and almost impossible to be around to visit, just bit my tongue in order to visit. Mine was not senile at all, just so darn irritating, put me down, watched me like a hawk in their home like I was going to steal their bed or something. Does your mother have anyone there to see about her or provide any outside assistance? I tried getting this for my parent (they were so bull-headed, turned everything down) but with the senility of course you know she needs someone if not already. I just tried to provide any and all assistance available for the elderly - Meals on Wheels and other associations to assist with my parent because I would not be there to do it..... although I was only a phone call away and always could be at their home say in a couple of hours if I were needed for a real emergency like you said. By the way, the dentist office completely out of line calling about an appointment? If another place asked and you did not want to give 1, just play like you are having a senior moment, ok? If you have not done so already, check out senior assistance programs. You probable have thought about this anyway, just what I tried to do. Oh, I had the courts set up to take over my parents daily living, etc. because of a person that was taking them for a lot of money- the court case supposed to be the next week and the parent killed in an accident on a lawnmower that weekend before the hearing.
Tired--I could have written that! (sm)
I used to have to go down for a nap during my lunch break and if I wasn't careful, I'd oversleep by at least a good hour. I even tried working a split shift, which only made my fatigue worse because I'd take the 4-hour break in between just to sleep.
My husband is on the verge of needing insulin shots due to his very poorly controlled diabetes. His latest health report scared him enough to make him a willing participant in a strict diet. I am also on this diet to help make things easier. It totally bites the big one but I'll tell ya, WHAT A DIFFERENCE in my energy level--his too! We figure it just had to be the sugars and carbohydrates that were dragging us down.
No more breads, pastas, rice, or taters....all the things we really loved. We do munch all day though but on teeny portions of good stuff--mostly raw things like fruits, veggies, or bits of egg & lean meats. No more cream or sugar in our coffee, and that's just limited to 1 cup of black a day. No more butter either--my personal favoritest fat.
Been on it almost a month now and I can honestly truly feel a difference. I almost have enough energy to start exercising, which I didn't have before.
I'm 5' 10" and topped off at 230 but am now down to 220 just by this diet alone with no exercise. I'd be happy at 185 but once winter hits...man, I just don't know about that! I haven't been to a doctor in about 2 years either, but I'd recommend you visit one if you can, just to rule out stuff, ya know?
Hope you feel better soon!
I have written 6 screenplays.
I also have many in various stages of completion. I have never even told anyone that I write. My husband doesn't even know. I took a transcription course because he would complain about me being on the computer so much that I thought if I had a good reason to be on the computer, he would leave me alone. I wait until he and the kids go to bed at night and then I type away. He has almost caught me a couple of times by sneaking up on me to see what I am typing. It has caused a few arguments because he thinks I must be chatting with a guy online or something. I would rather have him think that than tell him what I really do. The reason I don't tell him is because I am not ready for him to read my screenplays. I just do it for myself because once I get an idea for a story, I can't think of anything else until I get it written down.
SIS if written in caps
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""Love Must Be Tough" -- written by (sm)
Dr. James Dobson -- excellent for couples with significant marriage problems -- please read.
Sounds like your husband is seriously involved with "someone else." And, if so, you could never be organized enough or tall/thin enough. His insulting remarks are possibly his outlet to relieve himself of "guilt." Don't give up -- be tough!!
Just another opinion!! May God bless you in your decision-making.
If you have stamps with "Forever" written on them
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Men don't keep everything written in their daytimers the way women do
Men don't keep everything written in their daytimers the way women do. Maybe he is planning a surprise for you this evening, however he could have at least said Happy Anniversary and given you a kiss.
No thanks, the Holy Bible is THE written authority to me!
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I could have written your post. I've wondered too.
 
I have read everything Fannie Flagg has written
Alawys funny off-beat characters.
My last fortune cookie was written in English...sm
on one side and Spanish on the other!
Hello..You could have written my post. The jelaousy bug..Gets the good ones all the time!!! nm
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Written by Francis Church in 1897 in response to 8 yo Virginia's question if Santa was real. You
VIRGINIA, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except [what] they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect, as compared with the boundless world about him, as measure by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.
Yes, VIRGINIA, there is a Santa Claus. He exists certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! How dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no VIRGINIAS. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.
Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies! You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas Eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if they did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.
You tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest man that ever lived, could tear apart. Only faith, fancy, poetry, love, romance can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, VIRGINIA, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding. No Santa Claus! Thank GOD! He lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now, nay, ten times ten thousand years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.
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