with that attitude you won't have it sm
Posted By: long time MTr on 2009-04-16
In Reply to: Oh, you are wrong again - Me
handed to you for too long! You will get older and he will get tired or your self-serving, you owe it to me attitude.
If your neighbors are like you then you really must live in one miserable neighborhood..........at least miserable for normal people!
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I guess I am getting hormonal but sometimes my beloved family gets to me. I have a cousin that had a baby about a year ago and she doesn’t want her child around my children because they “go to daycare and she does not want them getting her child sick.” Okay, if that is the way she wants it then that is the way she can have it so I don’t go to her house. Well, she calls and says she has something for my child who is a 3 months older than her child asked if I could drop by and pick it up. I said I could but I had my 5 yo with me, my little one was with her granny. She said that’s okay just come get it so I go over there and we visit for a while. My 5 yo child was interested in looking at her baby cousin says “don’t touch her, don’t go around her because you go to daycare.” I told her well, she has had a bath. (This was when her baby was about 4 months old.) She said I don’t want your kids getting mine sick. Well her child is now 1 year old and it has had ear infections, stomach bug, just about everything that goes around and she was telling me about it, I told her well my little one was sick last week but she got over it already. She says “well your kids are going to get sick, they go to daycare. I have to protect my child." She says my 5 yo is too rough with my 16 mo. She does get rough but if you call her down she stops and she has mellowed since dd was first born. She says my 5 yo was too wild. Actually she is not. I have had her in daycare and I this year she started pre-K and I have yet to have anyone say that she was a discipline problem. I asked the daycare provider even and she said she doesn’t have any problems with her, just the typical 5 yo stuff.
Another thing, as worried as she is about her baby getting sick….the other day I go over to her house because she said she had sold my piano (with permission, her mother was buying her a dining table and she needed more room) and the buyers had left the check with her. She had clothes stacked up on all her furniture, dried food on the baby’s highchair, papers scattered everywhere, diapers falling out of the trash can, dried food on the baby’s walker and bouncy seat.
I think those daycare comments bit her in the butt though. One day, after I dropped my little one off, the director of the daycare asked me if I had seen cousin’s baby lately. I told her no that I don’t go around her because she said my kids are germy and go to daycare. The director stepped back and said “oh bull” I swear did not know that later that day my cousin was going to apply for a job there so her kid could stay for free but the daycare director turned her down. My cousin told that she went over there to look for a job. I did not tell her about the conversation I had with the director earlier that day.
I usually like my cousin but it just seems that since she had this baby she seems to think her stuff doesn’t stink.
What a sad attitude!
I'm sure your attitude was formed by your life experiences, and I'm sorry that the men in your life have not treated you better. My life has always been full of the most wonderful men, and I can tell you that there are lots and lots of good ones out there! I am the youngest of 7 and the only girl. My neighborhood growing up was just full of boys, but only two girls lived on our street. I'm married to a fine man, have three nearly grown sons who are also fine men, and have more male friends than female friends. I'm also an assistant scoutmaster with a boy scout troop where our goal is to help boys travel a path into an honorable manhood.
I'm also a firm believer that a wonderful relationship between a father and daughter sets her up for good relationships with men all of her life. I was lucky to have an amazing father who made sure I knew how valuable I was to the world.
I also think it's true that when we have self-respect, we attract respectful people. I know that not all men (or women) are good people. When the bad ones come along, they can steal away our confidence and self-respect. It's a hard fight to build ourselves back up after bad relationships, but it's not impossible! And believe me, there are just as many good men lamenting about not being able to find a good woman!
What attitude? I just did not understand
when you said we, I knew only females got pregnant or thought they did anyway and I had no idea you were meaning your husband was pregnant also or whatever role he was playing. Does this also include the physician in the we being pregnant? Please enlighten me because when I was having children it was me that was pregnant but like I said maybe things have changed..I thought by saying we you were including females - had no idea you were talking a male.
btw, with your attitude, if you have daughters
I'd be willing to bet they would have an abortion behind your back rather than suffer your judgment by having a baby at a young age or out of wedlock. Would that feel good on your conscience? You could be missing out on the joy of grandbabies!
You have the right attitude, everybody should live like that...nm
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Nice attitude, there. Can we apply that to MTs, too?!
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Exactly, he will find a way, and don't be surprised at how his attitude changes.
When I ran out of money and into debt over him, he was becoming friendlier and friendlier with other women. He also would "pout" and get so depressed when he didn't have money. Well, he knew how to work that because there I was, the caretaker wanting to make him so happy so he would love me so I'd borrow money to give to him. It makes me want to throw up now and I'm sick just thinking how dumb I was. Please smarten now. Real men don't borrow money from a women. Bottom line. Your not married.. move on. JMO
Amy, I hope your better than everyone else attitude gets an adjustment soon!
Big deal, so you could do it. Kids need more than beans and potatos on the plate! Calm down sweetie, that's what assistance is for; don't begrudge others who have had to resort to it. It takes a lot more courage to ask for help than to try to scrape by on your own.
your Trailer Park attitude is probably not helping
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attitude: going to the Christmas program with hate in your heart. More important you watch that,sm
than your kids still believe in a mythical fat man who brings presents.
Wow!! What a great attitude! I love that - great perspective!
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