why do we have this custom anyway?
Posted By: catz on 2008-12-09
In Reply to: This may seem gross or morbid...sm - curious
I never want to see anyone that way, I want to remember them as they were alive. The last few funerals I've been to they haven't forced you to go look like they used to. when I was younger they made you go row by row and file by the casket. My 6-week-old nephew died of SIDS when I was 14 and that was a horrible experience to see his little body in that tiny little coffin. After that I always sat on the end of the pew and snuck out the back when they tried to make you go look. I think it's kind of morbid to make you go look if you don't want to. It's not like you have to see their empty shell to say goodbye.
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I went with a custom color I made....
If you click on 'customize' it brings up this color wheel sort of thing. I just scrolled around until I found something that was both soothing on the ol' eyeballs and tickled my fancy. I would up going with like a periwinkle blue/gray/violet combination and it so purdy...makes me smile when I type.
I had a great uncle who hated the custom of "viewings"
And you know, so many people will say things like, "He looks good/peaceful/asleep," etc. My uncle always used to say, "Now how can he look good, he's dead!" Well, my dear uncle passed away at the age of 96. He died peacefully in his sleep. He was independent and active all of his life. The day he died, he had been working in his garden, doing house repairs, and cooking dinner for himself and his wife. Business as usual, except he went to bed that evening and quietly passed away. Wouldn't we all like to finish out 96 years like that! There was a closed casket at the viewing, and his wife told us, "Well, you know how Joe felt. He didn't want people filing by saying 'He looks good.' But the thing is, he actually looks great!" My aunt was a little sad that she didn't have an open-casket viewing, but it was Uncle Joe's wish for a closed casket.
I like him! Fun, artistic, not stuffy. Not into the extreme custom, high-end stuff. nm
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