why aren't your kids in school?
Posted By: nm on 2008-04-23
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Sounds like my kids...on a school day "we just got home from school!" on a vacation day....sm
But this is our vacation! My husband takes vacation days and leaves town without us...lol! He would never dream of taking a day off to work around the house!
Make sure whatever you use for skewers aren't considered a weapon by the school. sm
Some schools are absolutely militant about anything that even looks like something that might be used as a weapon, no matter the reason or who has it.
my kids aren't grown yet, but
I definitely would not put up with the 19-yo. He can get out and get a job. As for your daughter, I feel for her b/c she has kids. I'm not sure that I'd let her move in, though. She should look for some place cheaper to live. Offer to keep her kids for a day while she house hunts or apartment hunts. I also understand what she's going through with childcare expense. How old is the child she's asking you to watch this summer? Is he/she old enough to entertain himself -- 10 or 11? -- old enough to fix himself a lunchmeat sandwich and watch TV? If so, then I think if you could, you should consider watching him over the summer. $250 may not seem like much, but if she's able to find somewhere cheaper to live, it could be the difference between living on her own or moving in with you.
Obviously, you are under no obligation to help either of your children, but I suspect this situation bothers you because you care for them greatly. Maybe a compromise could work to benefit both of you. Good luck!
....here. If there is a single egg or nit on the scalp, the kids aren't
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OMG - huge difference! Hope you aren't as naive about your kids....wow! lol
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However, before my kids were in school,
I was a night owl! Worked until like 3 a.m. because didn't have to get up early, but now, they are both in school, so have to get up early and start working before time to get them up and ready and off!
That's what they do at my kids' school sm
Except it's a cheese sandwich & milk, and they are never turned away with no lunch. My daughter is in 5th grade, and her teacher does a collection each year for the pre-K & K students to help out if they don't have money for lunch. This school year they have raised over $400.
My kids - private school sm
I have two teens now, but in their grade school years, they attended private school. It is a financial struggle, but well worth it,in my opinion.
Now, one is a senior and the other a freshman in high school in public school. Both just sail through in all honors and AP courses. This is possible because of the study habits, learning techniques and discipline they received in private school as their foundation.
Not every child will have the same results, but I can't say enough about private schools laying the foundation for success in education.
GOOD LUCK in whatever you decide.
Kids: Do you wake them up or do they get themselves up for school? sm
I've told our 16-year-old now junior in high school that she can set her alarm clock and get herself up in the morning and out the door for school, on time, this year, and if she fails to get up on time and is late for school she will lose privileges with them increasing for each time she is late.
What about your kids? How old are they? Are they responsible for getting themselves up in the morning and if so, at what age did they start doing this?
3 kids, but 2 school aged
1. What ages are your kids? 16yo DS and 18yo DD (and 21yo DS)
2. Do they have their own cell phone? Yes, 16yo has a tracfone and 18 yo DD has a Go phone
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these: No. We have 1 good computer we all 5 used to share, but that is mostly DD's now that DH and I each got lap tops and oldest DS built a desk top for youngest DS for Christmas. Oldest DS also has a lap top that he bought himself. Nobody has a TV in their room, not even the grown ups. No time limits on use at their ages, but they don't spend near as much time on the 'puters as they did when they were younger.
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this? They all have jobs, but the youngest 2 get $5 a week for bringing in wood for the wood stove and burning the trash. Plus youngest DS gets extra here and there for all the help he gives his dad and grandfather on the farms. Their room are their own business at this point. I just put the laundry on the bed and keep the doors closed.
No, in the MW our kids go to school to get an acutal
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Aspergers/school/kids
Our boys sound a lot alike. My son was first diagnosed with ADHD, then nonverbal learning disorder, then Aspergers, although the school does not see the Aspergers being a true diagnosis. He has always been in mainstream classes as he is academically very smart. We started out with a 504, then went to IEP but he is not in any special ed classes. His testing scores are in the high average and superior range and he is reading at an 11th grade level in the 6th grade. I held off on the IEP for about a year because I was so afraid of the stigma associated with it. No matter how common it is these days, once kids learn someone has an IEP, they're thought of as one of "those" kids and I didn't want him to go through that. He has been on medication after medication and nothing seems to work in the long run. We have tried trials of him off the meds but within 2 or 3 days we're getting phone calls from the school asking if he has taken his meds that morning because he is having such a rough time concentrating and focusing. Not only is he very smart, he is also a remarkable athlete in hockey, baseball, golf and basketball and making the all star sport teams. He's a great kid with a big heart, but he just doesn't seem to fit in with anybody. I feel his main problem is with social skills and I have been asking for him to see the guidance counselor at school on a regular basis which has not been happening. We live in a very rural area and there are only 18 students in his 6th grade class. They have all been together for the last 6 years and know one another quite well, and by this time the "class order" so to speak is set. There are two boys who seem to be the tough guys and the leaders that everyone follows. Unfortunately, my son is on the bottom of the order and is singled out constantly because of his quirkiness. They will do everything they can to get a rise out of him and think its funny when he reacts. This has been going on for the last 2 years, this year being the worst.
I realize ADHD is common now. My son's teacher told me that about half of the class is ADHD but we are not allowed to know who those students are, we can only speculate. My point is, my son has now been singled out by his teacher telling his classmates he has ADHD so in my mind she violated his privacy rights and has made him more vulnerable to harrassment by kids who are cruel. Am I right or am I wrong? He is already being bullied and this will only give them more ammunition to target him. Already today someone called my son a "sped", meaning special education, although he isn't in special education so this kid has no clue. Admittedly my son doesn't stand up for himself and he just takes it because he wants to fit in so badly. But he is hurting and will get very emotional when we talk about it at home. My husband and I have had enough and it has got to the breaking point. My husband wants to talk to a lawyer but I'm not sure if that is the way to go. I told the teacher on the phone tonight I would like to come in to confront the class and single out each one of the kids that are the worst, naming them in front of their classmates and cause them humiliation and embarrassment. She said that would probably make things worse, which I agree with. Besides I know I wouldn't be allowed to do that anyway.
middle school kids who need
The library will accept volunteers at age 11. I would go sign up today.
Every other place has insurance restrictions for age.
All the camps around here fill up in February or March, but I would still try to find her something fun to do. Meeting other kids at camp may cost you money, but when she is there she is not thinking about money, just being with the other kids her age.
Can you help with questions for intermediate school kids? sm
I'm going to be giving a little bit of a talk on growing up in an alcoholic family and we are supposed to come up with some questions to put in a hat in case the kids don't ask any or we need more. What do you think intermediate school-age students would be curious about in regards to growing up with alcoholism? Thanks!
Kids and money for school things...sm
Here is it is.... January 30th and since January 1st I've been asked by my 16-year-old for:
$90 for a graphing calculator for the calculus class
$85 for school yearbook (and price goes up 2/1 by $15..she didn't tell me any of this until now)
$30 for hoodie for yearbook club
$15 for drama t-shirt for spring production... which she has exactly 2 lines in and will not be on the stage any other time.
Total: $220.
I bought the calculator as it was necessary and I know she'll use it again in college. I've offered to pay half of the yearbook if she'll raise the other half. For the shirts I've told her to raise the money herself. The drama team is also looking to possibly go to New York for a few days to take in shows in May and gosh only knows what that would cost... if it gets approved.
She doesn't work and says if she gets a part-time job then she can't do the drama production as they practice 3 days a week until 8 p.m. .... well hello she has only 2 lines in it and isn't even in any other scenes.
I told her to get a job or start offering to babysit for money. I'm tired of being nickel-and-dimed to death for fru-fru non-essential expenses.... especially since we just spent $700 on car repairs and $250 for surgery on the dog (abscess on foot - she stepped on something at some point and messed herself up) and medical bills are coming in from my husband's numerous medical tests he had in November. I'm not going to pay for her to go to New York either when that would probably take out entire family vacation money for the summer. Once those numbers come in we'll offer to pay a portion of the cost but that's it.
She also insists she wants to go to college out of state, and her dad and I have also told her she has to figure out how to pay for that because we're not going in debt for that when she can get a free education from the lottery in our state by going to a state school. She doesn't do any volunteer work, play sports or have any special talents that would qualify her for scholarships.
I told her that it's time to grow up and realize there is no money tree in our back yard, and I'm not going to bust my butt working extra jobs to buy these things for her.
our kids have a 2 minute walk from school and
they have already been heckled by meaner kids, they even threw a beer bottle at my 5 year old. I stood behind a fence one day and stepped out in front of him just as he was rounding the corner and told him that if he ever even so much as talked to my kids again I would follow him home and tell his parents exactly what was going on. I told him that I would also talk to the principal, who I know on a first-name basis as i am VP of the PTO. I put the fear of God in that child but I still do not trust him or his little band of siblings he walks with. I almost fear other children more than I do strangers!
My kids dont start school until two days after.. sm
labor day. I usually hit the sales for back to school stuff around this time. Right now I have all our school supplies bought and all our back to school clothes bought. Just need to get shoes, which I dont do until end of August. We usually do a family vacation the end of July first part of August. I also get up extra early every day over the summer so that all my work is done no later than noon. That way I have the rest of the day to play with my kids. My girls are 12, 9, and 6. We put a huge pool in this spring, so we are swimming almost every day. I also try to take them to places like the pottery store where we can sit and paint and just have fun. I try to make all of their days as fun and vacation-like as I can. For the last couple of years we havent really went away for our family vacation. We just find one or two day trips, like the amusement park, zoos, and that sort of thing. So many schools are starting earlier and earlier, but I am thankful that our school system is still on the after labor day schedule.
my kids high school has rats falling from ceiling
For the record, Howard County Maryland was just ranked #1 in per capita income IN THE COUNTRY, yet my kids high school had 6 rats fall through the cafeteria ceiling Wednesday. Last year it was rats and sewage - three separate instances where sewage came up through the emergency shower, dripped from the hall ceilings, and came through the child life development pipes. Oh, sure that was fixed. And how in the world did the health department okay this? I tell ya, we sure do NOT put our money where our mouth is on this education battle. Our team mascot should NOT be Ben the rat!! Just so angry over it all.
Poll for parents with school aged kids at home...sm
1. What ages are your kids?
2. Do they have their own cell phone?
3. Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room? If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these:
4. Do they receive an allowance? If so, are they required to do chores to receive this?
As for our house, here's the answers. Kids are 15 and 8. 15-year-old has a cell phone and pays her bill. 15-year-old has a TV. The kids share 1 PC that is where we can see what they're doing on it, and they're limited to no more than an hour a day on it if it's a school day. We do have parental controls in place. They don't receive an allowance but they are aware of a special chores list that they can choose to do extra things around the house to make money. They are required to keep their rooms and bathrooms cleaned, as well as alternate cleaning up the kitchen after dinner.
Yes, and friends too. But school is where kids learn facts, so whatever their teacher says (sm)
they are going to think it must be right. I think that is unfair leverage to use to support your own point of view as a teacher.
Call the school. I had a threat like this in my high school and they cancelled school that day.
Thankfully, because the person making the threats was found with material for home made pipe bombs and quit a bit of ammunition and a shotgun. He was arrested and charged. Never allowed back in the school.
I think it would be safer to call the school and get classes cancelled for a day to investigate versus make a scene in the parking lot, especially if the student with the knife is inside with the knife.
Good luck. If nothing happens, pull your child out of school for a week. See what happens. I know that sounds horrible, but small towns is where this happens most often.
How is the school's fault if Johnny comes to school armed?
And how is the school's fault if off campus people are getting jumped? Everybody wants to blame the schools, but the reason places have gone "zero tolerance" is because every parent whose kid gets popped for an illegal weapon says, "Oh, my little pookie wouldn't do that." Which is exactly what the parents of every perpetrator of school violence has said. At 15, this girl should have been aware that it was verboten and, if they felt that strongly it was necessary, kept it hidden. If she is not capable of thinking that part through, maybe she shouldn't be trusted with pepper spray anyway.
How is this kid in school with chronic infestation? School nurse
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sorry, should be aren't nm
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It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Hope you aren't someone I know. Why would you even
respond to the poster like this? Post the ways to reach this goal of yours instead of just mouthing off. What are you DOING to help the situation? Or do you just like spouting off your opinions with no substance? Bet you don't even vote let alone do anything constructive or supportive.
I know!! Aren't there any other doctors? - LOL (sm)
It's our little half hour escape to fantasy land!
Are sure sure there aren't other hidden -sm
issues, such as maybe drug or alcohol abuse?
Aren't there any agencies to help you? I cannot believe SM
you are not receiving child support.
I have cousin who did the same thing. Raised her grandchild alone. You must be very strong. Good luck to you.
Why aren't they working?
At least your son should be working. I agree with the other poster, you MUST cut them off. I can imagine how hard it will be, but it must be done. Sad situation, and it's the babies that suffer.
Are you sure you aren't one of my neighbors?
Sure do have the same attitude. Have a good day!
Aren't our babies fun??
 My Simon tries to put two toys in his mouth and throws them at my feet when I'm working - okay, I get the hint!! 80 degrees in Texas Monday - awesome.
Oh aren't they BEAUTIFUL!
Doncha just love flowers?! I was just talking to my husband today about how I just got royally screwed over by an on-line company...
My friend's husband just passed away after a long awful illness. So, I sent her some flowers. When I went to her house to give hugs and support in person, I didn't see them anywhere...no one sent the poor thing flowers . This lady has absolutely nothing, is dead broke, and has no family, and I was very bummed she didn't even get my floral version of a big hug. So I called the on-line floral place and they told me they had no idea and couldn't give me the name of the florist they do business with. Long story short, no flowers for this poor lady.
My husband thought flowers were a stupid way to spend money, but I told him that people LOVE getting flowers. No matter how bad things are, flowers make you temporarily forget. It's why I wanted to be a florist...one of the best jobs in the world is to give someone flowers. Then I learned how nasty some brides-to-be can be and bailed, because I can't take heat like that. Just dang.
You are welcome to e-mail me anytime at kathy@perin.org Like I said before, I only post under "Hayseed" because there were, at the time, lots of Kathy's and KathyP's and KPs posting and I just wanted to be different, otherwise I'd just use my regular old name. I gots nothin' to hide and hopefully no one to hide from, well, except from the Jehovah's Witness' folks. It's always been in my blood to just hide when I see 'em coming, don't know why really...that explanation is for another day I guess....
Oh my, aren't we uppity!
I've seen the Festivus episode. I googled the information people said to Google and did NOT find it. Obviously if someone has never heard of the "other evil board that shall not be named", it's not quite that easy to find it.
So get over yourself already and just post the name.
Well aren't you the lucky one! Most of us don't have
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Do you REALLY think they aren't learning the
SF has one of the best school systems in the country.
As for 'separation of church and state', what makes you think this will be a religious ceremony? It may be nondominational.
I just can't believe the things I'm reading here this morning. It's really sad.
Aren't you guys always saying that
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if you aren't doing it out of love
and because you want to, then don't!! You could allow others the opportunity, go out to eat, volunteer at a public dinner, etc. That's silly to do it all with that attitude. Be true to yourself.
Deeni - Are you sure you aren't ME? LOL
I'm just sorry I went full-in and did not figure it out first like you did.
I hope you are happy now in whatever relationship you are in...
Boy, you are pleasant, aren't you?
I would take a screaming toddler over you ANY day! Even someone's poorly behaved toddler.
You aren't bothering me....sm
The purse is 10-1/2 inches tall without handles and
10-1/2 inches wide. It is
4-1/4 inches deep from the front to back of the purse. With the handles it is 18-1/2 inches tall so the handles themselves are 8 inches.
LOL! Men are a whole different species, aren't they?
I have 'disappeared' a few clothing items too... They usually either don't notice or think they misplaced it somewhere - LOL!
Most of us on here aren't unemployed
But most of us are taxpayers and can see the cost of such a program. I won't even get into the infringements on personal rights. Unemployment is EARNED; the government has no right to try to find loopholes around preventing companies (think the Q here) from paying it out.
See the thread below about businesses that are and aren't
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Mine aren't on the list...
Ours are a lab named Festus, a McNab named Jinx and two cats, Precious and Tiger. I'd just die laughing if Festus hit the top ten, that was my husband's big idea.
Aren't yeast infections
caused by the imbalance caused by all the heavy-duty antibiotics that have to be used nowdays to kill bacteria?
I am starting to see medical reports from journals saying that strong antibiotics seem to be causing the increase in serious allergies and asthma, and it's due to yeast and other fungi. Not all doctors are on board yet, but it took them along time to believe that ulcers were often caused by bacteria, so we shall see.
If your scissors aren't sharp enough, you can end up
literally sawing them off, which DOES hurt. (Trust me.)
I have also tied a thread tightly around the base, which cuts off the blood flow and they will die and fall off in a few days without pain.
these look like sugar ants, but aren't
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Aren't those puppies the cutest!
I have a female Siberian husky who is the absolutely sweetest dog I have ever had. I'm sorry for your loss.
Aren't they sweet all crammed in together like that!
I love to sleep with my critters too. I sleep like a log when they are in bed. Sadly, my poor husband does not. He has to wear a CPAP and has a really bad back, so if the critters hog the bed, he's not a happy camper and I have to give them the boot. Thankfully they've pretty much learned to sleep next to me, or on my head, or smooshed up against me so I can't move at all during the night. Hey...maybe that's why I'm all crippled up come morning!
We actually bought a king size bed becase of the room needed to accompany everyone...how sad is THAT?!
LOL, dads are stubborn, aren't they?
I wish your friend the best of luck. I don't think his desire to want acknowledgment of his name choice is silly, either. Families are sure a trial sometimes.
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