when it is a family, the family tends to think
Posted By: they are preggers since an addition is...s/m on 2007-03-06
In Reply to: Oh, my, did not know you included a male as being a pregnant - Jessie
since an addition is being made to a family during pregnancy, a lot of families see themselves as pregnant - as one - as a whole unit...nothing wrong with it - actually makes the entire family participate in it, which is a GREAT thing............not like the men of the 1950s who went to work and the moms did absolutely everything else....I like men/families who WANT to take part and be involved.
Old fashioned or not - I prefer the way the men participate today in all of it..........makes for better communication and all know what's going on in the family....
FYI to all, keep your old fashioned minds open because a closed mind will make you old WAY before your time.
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I have family down there
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My heart goes out to you, as I too understand that kind of pain from family. Just know that it is not you that is causing this rift. It is your brother, not his wife even though it is obvious that she is doing the manipulating. Your brother should not be able to be manipulated so easily by his wife's insecurities and jealousy of your relationship. Unfortunately in life, and in families perceptions get screwed up with time, and distance, and if one does not hold true to their fondness of one another, or respect or what I call the family gene that holds a family together through thick or thin, then there is nothing you can do about this situation. He obviously cannot hold true to his feelings for you because of his wife's insecurities. Just let things be and don't become bitter or begin to cut yourself off. Sometimes things change down the road for the better.
re: family
Yes it is sad that the family unit is being seen less and less. Yes self control is a responsibility....but that comes from the Lord...that is a fruit of the Spirit...so what I'm saying is it is our sin nature to stray and we will be held accountable for that sin...the only way to be forgiven for it is to ask Jesus for forgiveness and accept Him as our Saviour...don't know if I'm wording this correctly....
I pray that you get what I'm trying to say that we all need Jesus...I pray that I worded correctly...
Yes, my family sm
DH and my mom didn't get along well (although she was quite controlling and wanting to run our lives after we got married, and I do understand where he was coming from). Eleven years ago we moved 300 miles away. Now I see my mom and other relatives only very occasionally. Luckily she can come see us once in a while. I have to beg DH to go there, and my vision is so bad I can't drive it myself.
I haven't been "home" in 2-1/2 years this time. And yeah, I regret it.
I miss my mom, my family and my friends. But DH is never gonna change, and I have 3 kids, and I'm stuck. :(
My family went to while once and after just
10 seconds inside my DD backed out. My DH valiantly stayed with her while I went through with DS. I asked before hand to make sure they could not touch me...that is my biggest fear also. They told me there was defintely a "No Touch Rule". My DH and DD told the guy at the front my name so I heard all through house my name being repeated in a very spooky voice. One "monster" did come right up to me and I just kept saying "no touch rule, no touch rule, no touch rule". He stuck to the rules and I did feel better after that. Needless to say DS loved every minute of it.
To you and your family
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I have family there and know quite a bit about it. sm
Anything specific, such as area? Jobs?
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Hey, Hayseed - You can adopt our family. We have enough of this kind of stuff going on, we can keep you feeling "loved" for the rest of your life! Seriously, have great nieces and nephew who desparately need to be loved. Your're welcome any time.
Here's what we do in our family....
I work 2 jobs, my husband and son scrap for extra money. They go out the night before garbage day, or the morning of. We have a flat trailer that has different buckets on it and they sort everything they find. They have break down the big stuff into its components and smaller pieces. You would be amazed at what the scrap yards will take and how much they pay.
For my family
It has had an effect on some with job loss and problems finding a new job. Luckily for me and my hubs we have been able to hold ours. Gas prices are outrageous as well as groceries, I have noticed the same as you. We live in an area where you have to drive quite a distance for any work - hence my decision to work at home in transcription and take a paycut. Had I known nearly 10 years ago that it would cost so much in gas we wouldn't be living where we do...but that's hindsight and nothing I can do about that now. We have talked about selling our house and moving but that seems like a lost cause. Working at home has definitely payed
off as every time gas prices go up, in a roundabout way I feel like I have gotten a raise.
I am buying generic more often and we have cut back on junk food. No chips, ice cream, soda, anything. We just can't afford it. If I'm going to spend the money I want to spend it knowing we are getting nutrition packed in.
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Very much like my family - 2 each + 1 together sm
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gotta admit my family is weird to say the least! lol
I'm so sorry for you and your family
Losing a pet is always so hard. Sending your whole family love and hugs.
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I find it interesting that when a young woman posted that her mother and grandmother were abusing her, no one felt sorry for her. Everyone one told her to forgive and forget. I also find it interesting how judgemental everyone was about who was the victim. That the grandmother and the mother were the victim and not the daughter. It seems ironic given the long, long, long, posts on domestic violence this morning.
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We lost this dog's Aunt 2 years ago. She had many more health problems but was still perky and able to get around well. She died while we were at work and the vet said it was most likely heart failure. She never suffered though.
I feel for your loss. It is never something easy and will be with you forever. But I think it is important to remember the good times and the positive impact that the pet had in your life. It's too bad there is not more options for comfort care for our pets like there is for humans. Our family would have been so empty without any of these pets. My pets are truely my babies.
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Wanted to let you know you are not alone. I went through a similar situation myself. I married this wonderful man, and while I knew he had really down moments, I did not realize they were to that extent. After moving 10 hours away from my parents and support system of friends I found out some very shocking news. He had bipolar manic depressive disorder. I loved this man, I even allowed him to adopt my son. Then the worst thing happened, I came home to find him sitting on the floor with a knife. I was scared so of course I called his father and mother. We checked him into a facility and while doing the interview/intake my MIL relates to the nurse that he had previously attempted to take his life. He had done this several times. I sat there in shock I knew nothing of this. I can clearly remember the look in my FIL eyes when he seen that I was not privy to this information. I was hurt and angry and still am to an extent. I still love this man to this day but had to let him go as that is what he wanted. My inlaws and I had several long talks one resulting in me becoming so angry I told my mother in law that she was allowing this behavior and I thought she was to blame for all of his problems. If she had been a better mother this would not be happening. I hurt her that night and I regret it now. When I did make amends she told me she knew I was just hurt scared and needed to vent. I think you will find that is what you have done. There will come a time for you to make your amends, when you are ready. I do not feel that you were being out of line when you said these things. That is how you feel. We have to own our feelings because running from them will never help. You are hurting right now. My guess is you are frustrated as well. Help was all you asked for and none was provided. You have a right to those feelings. I would just drop this idea of another email. Why do you have to be sorry? You have children and a husband who is ill concentrate on them. They need you. Best of luck to you and your family.
family first
How about everyone promise to not get divorced, put their families first, and do everything possible to provide stability for their children?
I have to see if anyone in my family - sm
is even on Facebook. I do have a page there, but make sure I don't post anything I that would be "harmful" to me. The worst thing I have on there is a picture a friend posted of me standing on the beach in a one piece bathing suit, well covered, plus I am flat as a board it it at 16...still am, and don't post anything bad, naughty or stupid. I will check out the prepaid options though, especially once I know what our monthly usage is from verizon, so have a month to check around I guess and make sure I don't get sucked into anything more than I pay now.
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I always let the kids have parties with their friends instead. We don't include family. They would take it as milking them for gifts, so we invite them over when they are not required to bring anything. My family does not send my kids gifts for their birthdays.
If she has family, let them know that is going on
My mom used to do that. UPS was always stopping at her place delivering something from QVC or HSN EVERY DAY! I soon found out that she had maxed out all her credit cards. She was going into early dementia stages and really didn't remember ordering all that stuff, and all she really had was $500 a month SS, yet her CC payments were close to that a month because of it. That's when I stopped watching, too.
If this woman has family, I'd let them know about it, so they could try to stop it before it gets out of hand.
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I need some advice. I married my husband almost 3 yrs. ago. I have an adopted son from a previous marriage. My husband's family is very close, sisters all live within walking distance of each other. They have never experienced life without the other. I did not have family very close like that while growing up so it took some getting used to. Which I thought I had. Until this. Little over a year and a half ago my husband's grandmother died. My father in law put together a memorial CD to be played at the service, afterwards we all recieved a copy. Which was very nice. I still have it.
Since my husband and I both work and we have a son who at this point in time cannot stay by himself, and because my husbands mother loves him he goes there until one of us get done with work. Yes I make sure she is paid. My son came home last week and asked me if he would be sad like everyone at grandmas house when I died. I was taken aback. Mainly because I haven't really thought about dying and I was confused about the question. When I asked him to explain to me what he was talking about this is what I got.
Well every morning at grandmas she makes us watch the great grandma video her and the other aunts all cry and carry on. It is to the point that the youngest in the family who was only 3 weeks old when grandma died comes over as well and cries. Grandma died in January of 07.
I approached my husband with this and he sees no problem with it. That is just how it is. Ever since I brought up my concerns he has shut me out. I am not invited to family things. If I make an effort to try they shut me down. I can't go to my husband because he is the same way. I guess I am not sure what or how to handle this. My husband and his family are great people. I am just getting tired of being called a liar and trouble maker.
I told my son it is not healthy for this to happen he is 12. I told him when something does happen to me, I know he will be sad for awhile but I would not want him to carry on like what is happening right now. We all have a season to love, live, give, and make the world we know a little better just by being here. I know grandma would be sick if she saw this. I am concerned this will break apart our marriage as the family bond is VERY THICK. Please let me know what the appropriate thing to do would be in this case.
Thanks
Family
Perhaps if families like yours wouldn't take stuff they really don't need, restaurants wouldn't have to charge $13 for a plate of spaghetti...they could keep their costs down and not have to pass it on to the consumer if they didn't have to supply people with packets of sweetner and breadsticks that they don't need!
Hugs to you and your family....
This saying is on the grave of one of Mark Twain's daughters, written by Robert Richardson.
Warm summer sun
shine kindly here,
Warm southern wind
blow softly here,
Green sod above Lie light, Lie light,
Good night, Dear heart,
Good night, Good night.
I would never sue my family. We are out the $$ and out my sister.
Maybe I could've forgiven her for putting her hands on me, but now she is 100% lying and saying that didn't happen. This I don't think I can forgive.
I'm done with this and am going to move on. Unfortunately, my family dimensions are different now and that is sad.
Family is very rewarding..
You made my day!! Faith and love is still alive in this world of ours. Thanks for sharing.
That's so awesome - wish I had family like that! nm
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We don't "adopt" a family to buy for, but
we donate to Toys for Tots and through the school, etc.
Just think if everyone donated at least a few toys, how many more kids could have a better x-mas. :)
I think what you do is great. :)
We're a Gap family here
As far as my children go anyway... The clothes I have bought for my children have held up so well and have even been passed down to other kids who have worn them and passed them again. Don't even get me started on their clearance rack! Have purchased items off that for $5 on several occasions and was in a great mood for weeks. lol.
I'm also a Levi kinda gal. Have passed that down to my children as well. Can't go wrong with a good fittin' pair of Levi's.
Until they become family they are a guest...
and should sleep in the guest room like anyone else! Totally agree :)
Any gout in your family? - sm
My dad has gout and it affects his feet. I had my first gout attack a couple years ago (none since luckily) to my knees (I had taken a short walk that day through a hilly neighborhood, walked about 1.5 miles maybe). The attack happened about 6 or so hours later, knees got red and swollen, felt hot, and hurt a lot. Took Tylenol PM and was able to get to sleep. I was not all better in the morning but improved, and it has not happened since and that was almost 3 years ago. I did not go to a doctor but am pretty darn sure that is what it was. I have been checked for RA and lupus in the past and had a false-positive, then on recheck definitely negative. So that is always a possibility as well. But since you have had 3 attacks/episodes I would go to your PCP and get it checked out. Can't hurt.
tell him he needs to do it for his family - end of story
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Don't know the facts about this family but....
Common sense dictates that foods with added hormones and antibiotics CANNOT be good for human consumption. It is completely unncessary. I only buy eggs without hormones and additives to the chickens, free range, and the same with the milk. If a human mother were taking in hormones and antibiotics, wouldn't there be a warning to her if she were breastfeeding not to nurse her child, that this could potentially be dangerous.
a family member will help us....
for the initial part and maybe refinance the house in a year or two and transfer it to our name.
In my husband's family...
everyone has the first initial J, parents and kids. I always thought it was kind of cute.
The family of the deceased...
I have a strange question. To be quite honest, I have experienced very little death throughout my life. I know as I get older that will change, but I have been to 2 funerals. We recently had a very close friend die in a traumatic accident. He was 45 and left behind 5 children. The obituary states that "contributions can be made to the church." Where do these contributions go? Do they go to the family? toward funeral expenses?
Also, does anyone have any tips of what I can do for the family? I know sending cards is a good thing. Should I send one to each of the children as well as the wife? what about his siblings and parents? I live fairly far away from this family now and will not be able to make it back "home" for the funeral and I feel that I must do something! I would appreciate any suggestions.
Thanks in advance.
not just in family matters - s/m
In life matters, most times the only one a person can count on is themself.......
Not just in family matters......
Family Problems
I have not been through this myself, but I have seen many families go through the same thing you are going through. Unfortunately, when you have boys and they get married, you don't really get to see them or your grandchildren as much (some exceptions to be sure). One thing I would tell you to do, is at least write all of your feelings down in a journal, being as positive as you can, about the love for your granddaughter. But stating the facts as they were. It won't help anything now, but at least all will be clear for her to read when she is grown and can have a better understanding of things. As for the present, maybe someone else can give you some advice to help out.
I just told my family sm
that when I take some days off in October I will go away myself if I need to, just to get away. I was wondering exactly the same thing about being very lonely, etc. I have never done that before, but I need a change of scenery so badly I am willing to take the gamble. Hope you make the decision that is right for you, too! 
Wish we had family to do that with. Have kids, but DH and I
xx
What an amazing family.
I cannot even begin to imagine what they are going through. Now one of his siblings is also showing signs of NEMO as well?! Oh how awful. At the end of yesterday's blog input there was this little note:
"P.S. If anyone in Cincinnati knows where you can buy Watermelon or Raspberry Peach Snapple, Conner will be your friend for life!"
Man.
Family Feud!!
addictive!
I hope your family is okay with it, LOL
You know how some people are very attached to traditions, at least on hubby's side of the family. They want everything THE SAME.
It runs in my family- sm
I have adult ADD. I suspected it for a long time, especially after our son was dxd in 7th grade. We're both on Strattera. I really don't know how much it helps my ADD, but I do know it helps my restless legs a lot. What I've been able to help most is the memory problem - like walking around the house with a wind-up kitchen timer if I leave the kitchen while I'm cooking - can't tell you how many meals I've burned.
The concentration thing is an ongoing problem. Right now I should be working, but I have to check the board before work, AND my email, AND the TV listings, etc, etc - Then once I get working I remember I forgot to hang up that towel, or forgot to get a cup of coffee, etc, etc, etc. It makes for a very long work day sometimes.
Whether or not you are dxd with ADD, you can use the same strategies to help, but, if my experience is common, there's no one thing that will help - Just keep trying out things and find out what works for you.
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