what about the mom that smokes weed with her 2 year old left on the counter
Posted By: please on 2009-03-02
In Reply to: PLEASE - Just b/c something is illegal does not make it sm - CDW
that could fall off, grab a knife, who KNOWS. just so she could "FEEL GOOD".
this is a ridiculous argument. should it be illegal? who knows who cares, i look at it like anything else that alters your mentation, including alcohol.
both can turn out to be bad BAD decisions
do i personally care if you smoke pot once in awhile, no i dont but that's like assuming EVERYONE is doing it responsibly.
that's a joke
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I need advice. I think my16y son is smoking weed...
He downloaded some pictures on MY computer for his MySpace page. Anyway, there is a picture of a bag of weed (I was young once, I know what it looks like so he cant try to convince me it was oregano) and a picture of his friend holding the bag of weed. By the way, the bag was on my table so he can't try to convince me that it was from a magazine either.
I really don't know what to do. A long time ago I found a pipe in his room. I honestly thought it was over with after that. (guess I can be niave). Between his dad, my husband and I we dealt with it in a mature and appropriate way. But I always stayed cautious after that so I was always "watching." I hadn't seen bloodshot eyes, excessive munchies, extra tired or sleeping more than usual, etc. Haven't seen any of the tell tale signs nor found anything in his room or pants pockets.
Anyways, my problem is what to do now. I really do not want to tell his dad because he will be soooo angry. See, dad was really p**sed the first time and told my son that if he ever finds out he's done it again he will kick him out of the house (we share the kids) and he will not be allowed back. I know that sounds harsh, but I know his dad, he will kick him out but only for a little while just to make him think. Tough Love, he calls it. I think he may have even threatened him with a beatin'. (That is just a scare tactic. He's a big guy with a big mouth but he would never lay a hand on him). I thought that by me telling his dad the first time he'd know that I was serious and that he wouldn't be able to get away with it with me.
See, my problem is that my son idolizes his dad. He's second to God. and it would kill him to hear his dad say get out and don't come back. I can almost feel his pain already. I feel like he'd become depressed. I'm the extreme passive parent. He knows it too. I hate it and I've tried and tried to change. I know some of you are thinking well he should've thought of that beforehand. But remember when we were 16. We didn't think about consequences a whole lot until after the fact. That's the age when a lot of us started drinking, sex, sneaking out, etc. So I have understanding, I just can't let that interfere with tolerance.
So what do I do? I haven't confronted him yet. I know one thing I have to do is forbid him from hanging out with this friend anymore. Which is another issue....Do I tell this boy's parents?? A part of me wants doesn't want to bother with it. He's not my kid. It's already too much for me as it is but the bigger part of me wants to protect this boy's future also and as a parent, I'd want another parent to do the same for me.
Oh, and I haven't told my husband yet either. He'll literally ground him for life and take away every gadget, electronic, magazines, anything my son likes. He wouldn't step foot out of his bedroom for a really long time. He tends to overdo the punishments. Then there's the issue of rebelion. What if he sneaks out? What if he tries to be....what's the word???...um, like just rebel and walk out anyway or worse, what if he runs away?
I know what a lot of you are probably thinking right now. I KNOW I'm too soft. I KNOW I'm a pushover, a doormat, etc. I'm over protective. I hate it. I've tried to change. I really cannot help it. However, this is a very serious issue to me and I want to find the right thing to do. I don't want to go overboard, I was 16 once too, and I wasn't exactly an angel either (but he doesn't know that) Yet I don't want to let him off too easily either. He has to learn. This is not acceptable. Not even to me. If I let it go who knows what the future will hold for him.
So any reasonable suggestions out there that a doormat like myself can put to use? I really appreciate any help. I'm so stressed out my stomach hurts.
OMG - HE SMOKES?????
I'm sorry to sound so sarcastic, but you cannot choose your daughter's life partners. She may be one that does not choose to get married. She needs to be her own person and make her own mistakes. I would focus more on safe sex as opposed to no sex at this point as you do not want to alienate yourself from her life. She will rebel. You sound very controlling. I would loosen your hold on her or you could lose her forever.
Big deal he smokes. I would rather have my daughter sm
date a smoker than a loser! Pestering won't help. Just buy her condoms and get her on the pill. Her getting pregnant would be much easier than her getting HIV. Good luck. Trust that you have raised her to be logical in her thinking. She will come around and dump the loser.
Holy smokes Cat! That is just terrifying!
I have had nightmares about tornadoes since I was a kid but never ever saw one except on TV or in movies. They just scare the fecal matter right out of me! They are the main reason I won't ever leave New England. How you folks do it without going nutty is beyond me. Please be safe out there!
All I can pinpoint is that my son smokes and maybe a vet/tech smoked??? nm
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Holy smokes!!!! Have you seen the new and improved Susan Boyle????
I almost fell off my chair in the difference.
http://tv.msn.com/susan-boyle-makeover/?GT1=28103
Holy smokes, I have thick, long brown hair
$50.00 for cut and color and my hairdresser does a wonderful job.
The counter...
 You know the one, the countdown until Christmas on the main board. It is stressing me out!! It reminds me how far behind I am on my shopping.... I do not like to shop, but I hate having to be reminded that I am late.....
counter
I would counter for 140,000 and see what they say.
counter pup
The dog I mentioned above (Clara) is a counter pro. I hear ya!! I knew she could do the counter thing, so I put 5 wine glasses around a just-delivered pizza which I went outside for a second. When I came back in, not one glass was moved, but 3 pieces were gone... she was the only **one** in the house!! LOL
Clara is an average sized dog with great jumping ability. I'm amazed that a beagle can achieve that feat!! You must have one amazing doggie :-) I know, I should scold, but I have a soft spot... or 3...
You might feed the cat up on the counter.
That's what my sister does. Otherwise you could use a baby gate. I used to lean a baby gate in a doorway. The angle left an opening for the cat, but the dogs were afraid of tipping the baby gate.
You are buying great food though.
Counter Surfing
Our beagle gets up on the kitchen counter and eats anything he can get his grubby little paws on. We came home one night and he had eaten an entire bag of peppered beef jerky, including the little packet that keeps it fresh and is labeled "Do Not Eat." Another time, he took a package of chocolate candy off the counter and ate it along with the foil wrapping. He is also able to open the kitchen cupboards and has eaten pure cane sugar straight from the bag. Obviously, we cannot keep anything edible on the kitchen counter or in any of the cupboards within his reach.
To avoid this, I take an over-the-counter
supplement:
Fishoil + vit D + vit A,
all in one capsule.
The reson that your husband is deficient in vit D, although he gets a lot of sunshine mightt be that he is deficient in calcium.
The body needs to get enough calcium to be able to absorb vit D, and vice versa.
can you treat a UTI over the counter?
I am one of those lucky MTs that dont have health insurance and that makes it pretty annoying when I have probelms. Like right now I am sure that I have a UTI, but dont want to go to the ER and get that $600 bill. I bought some AZO and cranberry vitamin. I figure I will drinks lots of water and see what happens... any suggestions? Thanks a lot!
Yikes!! Yes, Abreva's over the counter.
I think it's around 18 for one of those little tiny tubes. Well worth it though.
Keeping kitties off the counter...
I have always had good luck with this. Cover your counters entirely with aluminum foil. Tape it down. Leave it a day or two. The kitties absolutely hate the feeling of the foil under their paws and won't go back. I have even used this on the back of a sofa and it worked there too. The picture of you sitting there by the tree, in wait with the squirt gun is priceless. All this kitty talk, I'm getting ready to go to the shelter and get me another little furball of love. Wise
Anyone on here with interstitial cystitis that has found anything over-the-counter that has
helped this problem.
Give a sniff at the perfume counter! :) Laura Ashley's #1 is nice. nm
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Is that over the counter. I checked on Zovirax ointment and it costs $180 for a teeny tube. That
is crazy and the insurance wont pay a penny.
Bigger issue - a 16 year old living withi a 29 year old and liability
Are you still not responsible for him until he is 18, how can he tell you where he will live? Unless he emancipates himself and he does something wrong, can they go against you since you are his mother and legally responsible for him? I worry more about him living with a 29 year old sister rather than returning a house key to me that is a bigger issue.
My 14-year-old is going to be a mother-in-law (so funny) if you google it and 11-year-old daughter
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Won $2,000 on slot machine on New Year's Eve. What a way to start the year. nm
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Set my budget a year in advance, save all year and
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Not left to me, just trying to add some help (sm)
He does got to an ESL program regularly at school, but his teacher (and I agree) feels he needs more help. She is questioning whether there may be a learning disability instead of just a language barrier and I am starting to wonder the same thing. I am not in charge of his learning in any way, but I really would love to help him if I can.
What a difference a year makes! Last year, sm
we had the same problem. Fines everywhere for watering.
Paid $60,000 on principal last year and this year
planning on another $30,000 after my taxes paid for the year. We are getting our house paid down very quickly.
55-year old woman has birthday sex with 12-year old
DAYTON - Gloria Murphy gave children celebrating her 55th birthday alcohol and then had sex with a 12-year-old boy at the party on Thursday, Jan. 29, according to police.
The boy got into Murphy’s bed at 5440 Rawlings Drive, where the married woman had sex with her adolescent neighbor, according to police and Montgomery County prosecutors.
Two of the children at the party ran home at about 6 a.m. Jan. 30 and told a parent they saw the boy and woman having sex, according to 911 audio.
The parent then called police at about 6:15 a.m., according to a police report and 911 audio.
Murphy did not force the boy to have sex, but since he is younger than 13, it is considered rape, Lt. Patrick Welsh said. No other children were involved in the sexual encounter, but some other children at the party consumed alcohol, according to police.
My left toolbar only
has "top" "home" and "contact" I will contact the moderator. Thanks for your help!
A decision on this would not be left
up to me at all. This is not something I put my 2 cents in about. Their parents would be the ones to do this, that is unless the daughter/granddaughter is of age where she makes her own decisions. I have both but someone elses decisions, not mine.
no she's not further left than Rosie....
like most of the world.........*lol*
You left one out ----- NO tree.
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Sounds like somebody was PO'd to be left - sm
at home. If we leave them inside we gate the dogs into our dining room and utility room (the 2 rooms are connected) so they have 2 rooms to hang in and nothing of any consequence if they decide to chew. Luckily they don't chew on furniture but will rip up what is handy within their reach sometimes. Leave lots of dog toys and give them some rawhides and a pig ear. We had a chewer in the past, she ate a couch (down to the frame).....ended up penning her in the bathroom during the day, hated to do it but it was the only way for her not the chew up the entire house, other than that she was a great dog.
I had a dog once that hated when I left and would eat anything he could get...sm
We put him in an old fashioned wire dog cage and he bent the door down on it and then ate through the wall and then on to my moms sofa, pillows, and rugs. Needless to say mom was not happy with me or Rambo! He was just a stray that got so attached to me he would get angry when I left him. Ended up taking him everywhere I could!!
So you all have left your husband over sm
the same situation? I just need to validate that it's okay for me to feel this way. This has come to a point where it is just ridciulous and he makes me feel like I am wrong for feeling this way or even telling him I can no longer live like this.
I have 3, one on my left biceps, one on
upper chest. I got them all when I was young.
NO! I left mine at
the bridal shop until the day before the wedding even.
I'm so fired up left off, "I don't THINK its right! nm
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Well he finally left....sm
He asked when my husband would be home and I said tonight and he left. He is staying somewhere else. He is getting an apartment next week 30 miles away from here he said so I am glad. I hate to say it but I am tired of babysitting. I got to where when he comes and won't leave I just stay in my office.
Left untreated
If nothing else, you would need to see your doctor to get a note for your employer. You would have to stay out of work for at least, the very least, a full week and it should be more. With mono, plenty of rest and staying away from other people is essential.
Left untreated??
It's a virus so there really is no treatment other than supportive, symptomatic care. It's not extremely contagious, as it's spread through saliva and mucus. A doctor or clinic can diagnose it with a Monospot test, and it should run its course in about 4 weeks.
Got any left?? YUMMMM
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My younger left at almost 30 and
I hope they do fine and can maintain their own lives outside of mine. I love my own life, I travel quite a bit, do the things I want and to me the child rearing years not half as satisfying as my life is now.
Are you saying you left the dog or dogs
alone at a home, giving them food and water until their parents get back?
sounds as if ( ) DH/SO left her
for a much younger, prettier, 22-year-old. The joke reminds me of one of my favorite Country songs by Billy Ray Cyrus..."Where Am I Gonna Live?"
Where am I gonna live when I get home?
My old lady's thrown out everything I own.
She meant what she said
when she wished I was dead
So, where am I gonna live when I get home?
I knew our road was gettin kinda rocky
She said I was gettin way too cocky
She waited till I was gone
She packed from dusk till dawn
So where am I gonna live when I get home?
She decided she would keep my cat
My transportation, I wouldn't be needing that
She kept my TV
The bills, she gave to me
So, where am I gonna live when I get home?
What money left over?
The man died from what I am hearing insolvent (is that the correct spelling),anyway over $400 million in debt. Not good. They said probably would be worth more dead now than alive. The only reason supposedly he was trying a comeback was that he needed the money. He had, from what I heard, half of the Beatle's porfolio he had not sold and some other rights. By the time his estate pays off what he owes, might be the only thing left for the children would be the album, record sales and a setup like Elvis had. He had sold his Neverland home to pay off debts. The man was broke.
Is he single?? LOL - not many good ones left. nm
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Left you a long answer before your
post got moved to this board - I guess posts to your post got deleted. Anyway - get help for him!! Good luck!
I can bet those parents that left their children with the
Catholic priests over there felt the same way. I am not trying to flame you, but I do get a little unnerved when people use the word "Christian" in a description of another. Yes, personal experience has taught me that if someone uses the word to describe themselves they usually have to say it because their actions don't show it.
I do understand your comfort zone and the fact that you have known this person for a long time, but I do want you to be aware thaat sometimes the grass is not quite as green and lush behind closed doors and what he tells you for the eason of the divorce is HIS perception of it. Theer are always 3 stories; His, hers, and the truth.
Last, I want to just stress to go into it without expectations. I began to date a Deacon from the church that was highly regarded and someone I had known for years. Fairly early on he began to show sigsn of control, which I shoudl have heeded, but then he wanted a lot more than I coudl give emotionally yet and actually went to my 9-year-old son and told him that he really did not think he would be able to continue his friendship with him because "Mommy just won't give me what I need emotionally and sexually." Yes, this really did happen and I found out about when my son was in tears and mad at me for it all. No, this does not normally happen and I hope it never does to anyone, but what I am trying to convey is that you need to be cautious and concerned with anyone in your life. Just don;t get too fixated by the "christian" label.
I wish nothing but happiness and love for you in the future!!
So sad she has left a small baby as well. nm
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I wish you would have left the initial responses on it :(
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