what about dead hubby's millions, fighting her stepson for
Posted By: that's how she met howard on 2007-04-10
In Reply to: Stern had SOMETHING to do with Daniel and Anna's death. That's what I - Debbie (sm)
she's been fighting to get millions from her dead hubby estate, fighting the son-in-law. Howard is her attorney for that, which has been going on for years. That family has motive.
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um, what about deceased hubby family and $millions she was fighting for?
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He looks like stepson's dog, Bruno.
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Stepson issues
My stepson is 19 years old and has become a major problem for me. Here is some background. I met my husband when his child was 6 years old. The boy’s mother was an absolute nightmare and, long story short, he came to live with us when he was 9. His mother since has had nothing to do with him, except occasionally raising her ugly head to cause trouble for our family, but nothing as far as mothering him in any way, shape or form. A side note is that she has some serious mental and emotional issues. Once he came to live with us, I have mothered him and supported him throughout his years in elementary school, middle school and high school, doing everything for him as far as school and sports were concerned and we were very close up until he was about 15. Things really started to go downhill when he was about 16. He is, academically, very bright and was on the high honor roll every year from the 7th grade to about the 11th grade. That is when his grades and his attitude became horrible. He came very close to not even graduating from high school, but he pulled through and, by the skin of his teeth, managed to graduate. Outside the home, he seemed to be an angel, but at home he was very disrespectful and rude to both his father and myself and his little brother (11 years younger than himself). He became very snide and mean-spirited and if anyone dared to question his actions or attitude, he would throw a fit, start screaming and swearing at the top of his lungs. Some of the things he has said to me in the past were beyond disrespectful and well into hateful. His father never seemed to want to punish him in any way. (I think because he just did not want to deal with his outbursts.) Fast forward, after a miserable summer, he went off to college about 2-1/2 hours away. I was actually relieved and hoped that maybe some time on his own would make him rethink his attitude at home. Another issue is that he absolutely refuses to do anything close to resembling work to get money for himself, which is a big deal for me, because I think having a good work ethic is important. His father said that because his grades were good, he was not going to push the working issue. He came home after his first year with same crap attitude, had a miserable summer with him and he went back to school…. same old, same old. Now Christmas break is here and he is home. The first thing he does is fight with his father about working over break, which we made clear to him that it was an expectation. Suddenly, low and behold, he does not think he is going to be able to get hours life guarding. I started to feel a little better about things when he was able to get a couple shifts and at least he made some sort of effort. Last night, he was going to take his brother to a wrestling match, which I was glad and appreciated. It was my youngest son’s birthday present and he had been looking forward to going with his brother. We gave them 25.00 for parking and snacks and my youngest had 10.00 of his own money that he saved from his birthday to get whatever he wanted, program, etc. The event ended about 10:30 and they were on the road home (about a 15-minute drive). An hour later, I call the cell phone and ask where they are, answer was on the road. I explained to my stepson that his brother had school and I wanted him right home. 15 minutes later I call again and my stepson asks me if I am an F*ing retard and he said he was on the way home. I knew he was lying immediately. I asked to speak to my son, and he said no, so now I’m really mad. They finally get home and I ask my younger son where they went. He tells that they stopped at his grandmother’s to get something to eat because his brother would not let him get anything at wrestling, but please don’t tell his brother he told because he told him not to say anything to me. I asked if he got a souvenir with his money. The answer was no because his brother would not let him get anything. By this point, I am furious, but just get him ready to go to bed and hit the hay myself. Of course, if I said anything to my stepson, there would be screaming and swearing, and I hate when he behaves this way in front of my 8-year-old. This morning, I asked where my change was from the wrestling. Except for parking and 1 soda, there should be about 25.00 left. He tells me that he is keeping that money to put gas in his car and just refused to give it to me. I am so upset about this that my stomach is in knots. I truly dislike him and just wish he would go away. He has been nothing but a problem for the past 4 years and I am worn out and over it. My level of anxiety is through the roof. I feel terrible for feeling this way, but I am resentful of him and misery he causes our family. I just wish he would go back to school and stay there. I know that this is way too long, but I had to let this out.
My stepson is 8 months younger than me (sm)
My ex was my age. He was a flop. Not that that experience kept me from dating men my own age. It didn't, and I wasn't seeking out an older man, either.
I became friends with my current husband at work. We were both side-by-side charge nurses. We had a lot of fun together and the residents loved when we worked together. I had the extreme pleasure of seeing what a caring, considerate, and gentle person he is to people he cared for at his job. He is unbelievable.
He knew I had a daughter from my ex. I knew he had 2 grown sons, one of them a few months younger than me. It was weird at first kissing on a guy with more wrinkles than I was used to. However, the fact that I was a nurse and had a child with an ex already meant to him that I had experienced some life already. I guess that made me fair game. :) The age thing does not affect us at all, especially now. At first it took getting used to, but now it is nothing. The only thing I fear is not having someone to grow old with, but nobody knows what will happen with their life day to day.
We subsequently had 2 more little girls together. We have 3 girls to raise now. I have since become a step-grandma to a wonderful little boy. We just celebrated our 4th wedding anniversary. I couldn't be happier. He never thought he'd have more children, but he thinks it is absolutely incredible to do again. He says he appreciates his kids more now that he's older. Not that he doesn't appreciate his older kids, it's just different.
I went to his 30-year class reunion. He was congratulated because of his young wife. LOL
I wouldn't date anyone much younger than me. I'd really be robbing the cradle. I prefer robbing the grave with the ol' hubby now. ;) Besides, it's a lot easier when they're older and broken in than when they have to be trained to do things.
Our relationship, though, is not like the stuff portrayed on TV shows. Our relationship is normal, happy, and positive. No big deal.
My stepson sells marijuana for a living. SM
Last year, he and his girlfriend spent several hundred dollars on gifts for other members of the family. No, I did not want any gift obtained from illegal gains. I honestly don't know how I feel about it.
Stepdaughter makes $62,000 a year as legal assistant. No, not to SS! LOL! She does not have a dime to her name and asks her father for yearly Christmas cash. It makes him sad, because he would really love to buy her a nice gift.
So if you want to attack me as being "bad stepmom" and believe me, I know what that is like since I had one myself, go ahead.
I will take advice about gift cards. Wise choice.
Here's a question that may help millions! (sm)
I am looking for a new haircut. I have fine, thin hair, brunette, longer than shoulder length and in long layers. I have a semi-round, semi-heart-shaped face. I have had this haircut for 10+ years. I need something new and want any device for all those who know what I'm talkin' about!
No, you are wrong. There are millions
upon millions who are against it, but not afraid of it.
Homophobia is the wrong word.
millions called their cable/tv companies...
Well, the former welfare recipient has her millions now & feels
regardless if it adversely affects children. She knows full well that her books are read by children. Since she has opted to make such a poor decision, I am opting to make a good decision and no longer purchase her books, watch her movies, or buy any products related to her books as she gets a cut on everything. It's one thing to have a personal opinion about homosexuality, but she didn't have to publicly link it to a character in her books.
And yet there are thousands (probably millions) starving to death in America.....nm
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alcohol makes her nuts, along with millions of other people.
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girls fighting
sure did. I can tell you how old they are, old enough to know better, Speaks volumes about the parents is all I can say. They should be tried as adults. All are being held without bond until a hearing sometime today. Hope they get what they deserve and the mother of the girl getting beat up needs to be filing civil suits as well.
He's fighting again today.
This time with his younger brother because he doesn't want to play a video game with him anymore. His younger brother is almost 6 and he gets bored easily with video games. Once again, when he got mad, he resorted to violence by kicking his younger brother in his side. It left a red mark. He's sitting on a chair as we speak. I didn't give him a length of time, but I don't think 8 minutes is long enough for the stuff he's doing. I told him what the consequences were when he did something like this, ie serious injury to his brother, possible juvy hall for him, and how it can lead to worse things as he gets older.
He just doesn't get it. I really wanted to fan his @ss, but what would that teach him? Just that violence begets violence. Why does he have to react so intensely? Why can't he just get mad and get over it without hitting someone?
My other 2 children don't react this way. That's 1 of the points the child psychologist and I discussed specifically. That if I were a bad parent, which I definitely think at times, then all 3 of my children would act out, but they don't. Just him. He's generally well-behaved for other adults. He goes to the youth church camps and has no problems whatsoever. He knows right from wrong, he just doesn't institute it. It's so frustrating.
I think it's time I found another child psychologist to take him to. Maybe family counseling or something. I know there's something wrong, but I can't figure out what it is. I spend a lot of time with my kids. All summer long, I've gotten up early to work so I could spend the days with them, swimming, biking, etc. We do a lot together as a family and the 2 older ones get to go a lot of places with other people. My children are not neglected in any way. My husband spends a lot of time in the evenings with them, especially the 8-year-old. We know that he demands more attention and we try to give that to him, but this is getting exhausting.
I know everyone here has been trying to help and I appreciate that. More than anything, I just need a place to vent. I think it's time, though, to see a counselor again. I'm also going to look into alternative medicine, ie nonaggressive diets. Maybe there is something to that. It seems to be true in animals. Again, thanks for letting me vent and offering up suggestions or insight. I do appreciate it.
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fighting family too
I come from one of those families too...holiday wasn't complete if the police didn't come or EMS...when I met my husband and went to a family function with him I did not know how to act. I kept waiting for something to happen but nothing did, they are close, they love one another and enjoy being together. Needless to say we stopped going to family functions on my side and my own children do not know what its like to have one of those holidays and hopefully never will.
I come from one of those fighting families.
There have been many, but the defining event would have to be at my father's viewing when his own brother started a fight in front of the open casket. If it were a screenplay, it would have to be a comedy, because the reality of it was too painful to endure. Needless to say, I don't deal with my family unless I have to. I've had too many holidays ruined over the years, and when my children were small, I realized that their holidays would be ruined, as well, if I kept returning to these toxic family gatherings. Now we do things on our own, and life is much nicer. We don't have the Norman Rockwell gatherings of 20 or so people, but that's ok. Maybe some day when I'm a grandmother and great-grandmother, our healthy family will have grown to Norman Rockwell size, and then we'll have a family group that wants to spend time with each other. That is so much better than dreading family gatherings!
There is virtually no fighting. (sm)
I don't hate him. But the opposite of love is indifference, and that's his diagnosis of me. I have to agree. He doesn't have a cure for that. He only does couples counseling if solving all the issues would make me satisfied. But if DH changes all the things I list, he'd just be the right husband for somebody else. That's my problem.
But chicking and dog fighting is illegal.....
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Girls in Florida fighting
Did anyone see that sickening video of those teen girls beating up another girl while two boys stood guard outside the house? I think they should be tried as adults including the boys (not sure how old they are anyway). 
girls fighting....and did you see the interview?
the one where Matt Lauer interviews the mother of one of the attackers?? She painted her daughter out to be a saint, how her daughter warned the victim not to go in the house. Matt asked her why her daughter was there for 30 minutes yet didn't call police. She didn't have an answer for that one. And she also said that the victim should get part of the blame because she was trash talking on myspace about the girls.
I say try them as adults too. One of the lookouts was an 18 yo boy.
I worry about my 11 yo son. What kind of world will he be living in??
If you're still fighting then you still care.
That's what I have been told multiple times. We aren't fighting anymore here. DH thought that meant we were happy, but I was feeling depression and apathy.
She's a very spoiled little girl, who is going to inherit millions from the Hilton Hotel fortune
and from her father's real estate fortune. She basically jumped into the limelight when her little personal homemade sex video was leaked out. She is described as a "socialite, actress, and singer." She likes to party hard and doesn't want to pay or take any responsibility for her own irresponsible actions, such as driving with a suspended license, DUI, you get the picture.
Rooster fighting is illegal in CA, yet there is a place (sm)
I can see from the freeway that is acres upon acres of little tent-shaped coops that house chained-up fighting roosters. It's been there for 30 year - and I can't figure out WHY.
Another dead
They just reported on CNN that an 18-year-old girl died from the VT shooting.
Dead Like Me
Showtime didn't give it a chance. At least SCIFI is rerunning it. Oh, also "Firefly." LOVE it!
dead??
didn't Benny Parsons die?? I think he had cancer. . I could be wrong. . I'm not sure if he drove a Dodge or not. . .
dead serious
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So do I. Rather be dead.
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Anna is now dead
I just saw on the Comcast home page Anna is now dead?
If this were dead beat dad instead of dead beat mom, would
adfs
Tim Russert dead at 58. sm
Died of heart attack today - breaking news
hope not cause she's dead!
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You could have been sick or dead
in your room for all they knew. wonder what they would have told investigators? The next time they make plans, don't go, tell em you got a ham operator to send out a morse code message, didn't they get it?
mine is dead too
he died 3 months after our divorce was final - on my birthday.
At least the red bugs are dead..sm
It always freaked me out when they would say 'live cultures' when talking about yogurt. Little tiny alive things in my yogurt....AHHHHH!!!! LOL!! I still eat yogurt - oh well!
Love him. He was also in Dead Like Me. nm
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Fruitcake lLady dead. SM.
The fruitcake lady died this month. Here are some clips, get ready to laugh:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nniN9mxu2Ug&NR
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUNifYxvAes&mode=related&search=
http://www.nbc.com/nbc/The_Tonight_Show_with_Jay_Leno/fruitcake_lady/
I could not put this under comedy, even though it is. There are some 4-letter words in these clips, nothing terrible.
fox news is saying that anna is dead. i think it's very sad too. nm
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CNN says she's dead - died at the hospital....
found unconscious in a hotel room. So sad that she had such a wasted life.
Maybe we should not beat a dead hourse (sm)
Hopefully we can all agree that what works in one marriage may not in another?
Mine actually is dead (at least he's supposed to be).
He remarried several times. The last one was the same age as our son. He stole government checks from his mother's senior building and tried to pin it on my son by using his address (their names are the same). They did confuse my son with him and he almost got arrested. That was after he supposedly died. Funny, nobody in his family gave him a decent burial. Not one of them claimed the body. I know how his Mommy felt about him, so that was really suspicious. My son said he'd seen him getting on the homeless people van right before that. I will always wonder if he's really dead or if he's a murderer besides a lazy thief and wife-beating creep.
Dead skin floating around.
I thought about that last night as I was sitting at a restaurant. The light was shining through the window just right and I could see all sorts of dust particles in the air. To think that is settling on my food. Kinda gross.
Do you suppose the cat is dead and stuffed? nm
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My cousin's dog died because of one. The battery went dead and the dog got hit by a car. Very s
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I am so depressed about them finding James Kim dead. I am having a really sm
hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.
I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.
I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.
This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.
How tragic and sad.
he''s in charge is what it means since Anna is dead.....
WHAT IS A GUARDIAN AD LITEM?
A guardian ad litem is an individual appointed by probate court before or during a proceeding. Responsibilities may include prosecuting an action on behalf of an individual, providing information to a respondent, conducting an investigation, and making a report and recommendation to the court.
http://courts.co.calhoun.mi.us/book042a.htm
If there are then go back to court. This is a dead beat mom,
dfs
Love your answer, dead on the money
All your suggestions good ones. I know from experience, and have posted this before, one day you will look around and wonder where in the world did the years go. You are in your 50s or 60s and you are losing so much. Time is very precious- it cannot be retrieved once gone. We only have this time to make bad or good choices, life just runs by you so fast and then you find yourself a senior citizen.
Marie's dead doll dance . . .
I kept on waiting for her to "start up", you know, come alive and start really dancing. Especially when he wound her up with the key, I thought the routine would really start. It was the oddest thing.
Per Survivorman-bugs, worms, anything dead and
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9 dead, 5 wounded at Omaha shooting.
Gunman is dead also. So so sad, esp at this time of year.
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