what I did growing up really is none of my kids' business.
Posted By: sm on 2008-01-28
In Reply to: How much do you tell your kids about your youth? - trose
Here and there I've volunteered information and shared stories that actually do lend validity to my opinions and the rules I have set for my kids. But I have to tell you that I was really a pretty good kid. I have maybe only one or two regrets, but I haven't shared those with my kids. And if they asked me about them, I'd lie and say nope, never did that.
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when I was growing up
our Monsingor of our church would yell at the parents during the middle of mass because babies were crying in church told them to leave! Guess he could not tolerate much.
Growing up, did you get along better with your mom or dad?
I got along waaaay better with my dad. My mom was a control freak.
But once I moved out on my own, I got along fine with both of them. 
I don't do well with controlling people. 
About the 50s, I was growing up then
and most of the women in my home were a) widowed, b) divorced or married and working, in fact all the women worked whether divorced, widowed or married. You were watching a TV show. The women in my life had power and responsibility and I never thought of them as being coddled, kept or irresponsible. I remember as a child when I would say my mother was divorced it was odd for other children (most mothers married then and most stay at home mothers). Kids would want to talk about how I felt as a child of divorce and I always said 1 less parent to say no to me. I have never nor has my husband called me stupid. Name calling is just not done here. My love is the most important thing in my life to me here on earth.
Me neither as my child growing up
things can really change in life.
reminds me of my dog when growing up
my dad did not like him being on the couch and he would jump off when he heard him walking towards the room. Another favorite was as my dad was coming down the stairs my dad could see him on the couch before entering the room as we had a mirror hanging on the wall...maybe our dog could see him too!
We always had dachshunds growing up...
and I have always felt that they are honorary big dogs!
I can remember growing up that my
sister went through a spell where she would only want to eat one thing. My mom called and talked to the pediatrician, and he told her not to worry about it. When she got hungry enough she would eat whatever was fixed.
When my daughter starts into her stubbon streak (which she inherited from both me and the ex) I just send her to her room and let her wait it out. Back in the day, our parents would probably swat us on our you-know-what and say get over it, but you know today that is abuse.
When I was growing up we had 3 channels but guess what?
I find it tremendously funny when yu0o say a trial shoved down your throat. I have cable and have, oh, over 100 channels. No show is ever shoved down my throats, we just, duh, change the channel or just DON’T watch!!!
I was so glad when mine growing up that
I always had much praise for others they visited/stayed with, in fact I had a problem between my mother and father (them being divorced) because they would be trying to keep a child longer than the other thought they should. I had phone calls saying - he has already had- she has kept him now and so on. Friends told me my kids when visiting sooo good- wondered how I did- the kids now are being brought up so much more different and this is what people can expect. I also know about the saying sparing the rod- right?
All of this makes me think how lucky I was growing up.
My father was a wonderful man. He loved women. And by that I mean that he had the greatest respect for women. I was his only daughter, and I can't count how many times he told me that women were generally smarter, more capable and able to handle more than men. He was full of admiration for the women in his life. Long before Tom Cruise and "Jerry Maguire", my father used to say, "Men and women complete each other."
Because of my father's attitude, I grew up believing that I was special, and I'm sure it saved me from a lot of heartbreak and helped me to form health relationships with the men in my life.
The women in these polygamist situations are raised up to be this way. They just don't know any better. I believe they are brainwashed by these sick, despicable, poor excuses for men. I hope that they can get themselves and their children out of this situation. Unfortunately, it looks like many of them want to hold onto the only thing that they know.
She won't grow to fit her tank, she will just keep growing....
But eventually she has to stop growing some time. I really think she has probably grown as much as she is going to. If she has to go to a bigger tank yet, we may have to see if our local zoo will take her. The tanks are the biggest outlay. I get all her rocks free from our local monument maker and a quarry. I buy a bottle of the stuff to kill the chlorine and use our city water.
Cleaning her tank is not too bad as we have a gravel vacuum. We don't fill the tank all the way up, only about 2/3 full. They need at least the width of their shell for the depth of the water in case they flip over on their back. Otherwise they can't flip themselves over. We do a partial tank change. Just enough to suck up the "poop" and food scraps. Then we replace it.
Other than her lights burning out once in a while, she is pretty low mainatenance. And fun to watch. Especially when she chases the goldfish. LOL
There is a growing body of evidence
that circumcision is simply not worth the risks. Among clinical investigators, not just "kidhealth dot com."
If the risks of bleeding or infection are higher with circumcision as an adult, then for heaven's sake, don't do it then, either! Unless, obviously, there is a surgical indication for it.
I repeat: Having a foreskin is not a surgical indication.
We were told a lot of things growing up
such as wearing gloves to church but do you think people do that now? Did we show up in church years ago in pants (say the 60s, 70s), most did not but probably common now. Having said that I do not think by any means cursing only means you have a limited use of the English language. If anything I throw out words loads of time my husband asks me to "break it down for him" or "use English" and I am not talking cursing. If anything, another term for MTers are language specialists which I think applies to most who do this job. Next assumption.
I was bullied in school growing up
My mom contacted the bully's mom and the mom asked her daughter if he had been doing what I said. Her daughter said no and she said to my mom I believe my child.
I yelled at daughter when she was growing up. I'm not
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What do you think of that lash growing medication?
I've seen the commercial but cannot remember the name of the med, but it's for growing lashes. It may cause (possibly) reversible eyelid darkening and permanent discoloration of the iris. Would people really want those potential risks and/or side effects? I mean, you're messing with your sight here. I've always had long lashes and find them a pain at times - they curl the wrong way and poke your eye and you have to pluck them (ouch), they catch on your glasses, etc. I can't help but feel that we'll find out 10 years down the road that med cause some kind of cancer.
Not unusual at all - my DH had one growing up and still talks about how smart it was! (nm)
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My husband growing up lived on a farm where
his father raised black angus cattle. You cannot get a better cut of meat than that except for the extra expensive Koba (spelling?) maybe. He and his siblings told me,they got so tired of having steaks, etc. all the time and welcomed bologna instead. Now way past childhood, my husband loves a good bologna sandwich because years ago it was like a treat for the kids to get instead of the steaks all the time.
This reminds me of a lady I knew growing up...
She would eat almost the entire plate of food, and then find "something" in it and say she's not paying for it... the "something" happened to always be in the last bite...
It's called cheapskate not quirky... 
As far as putting breadsticks in my purse, I'd imagine the butter would go everywhere. Why not ask for a take out package instead?
Sugar packets - that's going a bit far......
I also knew of a man who would break off celery in the grocery store, throw it in the bottom of the cart, and then leave the store - he didn't want to pay for the entire thing and only needed one stalk or so... again, cheapskate.... the bad part about that is he handled it, put it back on the shelf, and someone is getting ripped off who buys that stalk...
Which reminds me, always pick from the back and bottom; that's the freshest produce!
There are times I would love to stop the growing process
but I look at that as denying my children the incredible happiesses I have experienced, such as college, marriage, children, etc. and that makes it a bit easier.
Any avid gardners with advice on growing great cantaloupes? sm
I seem to be able to grow everything but these. It seems something always gets them about 2 weeks before they are ready to harvest. I live in mid AL. What can I do to successfully grow one of these wonderful, yummy things? 
This is SO not your business. sm
It you grandchild has cavities, then it is up to the parents to provide dental care. Why you would want to deprive a young child of that age an Easter basket, I have no idea. You seem to have issues with the exhusband, but at least he provided the magic of the season.
You are not raising this child, or are you? In any case, thank God the father and stepmother came up to bat for the holiday.
Have your daughter take that kid to a dentist, and stash all the cavity-causing evil Easter stuff.
That is SO none of your business.
Kids can resent their parents for a multitude of reasons. Let their parents choose when to let them know.
Is it your business?
Why is it your concern that she sits in her room every night? If she pays her rent on time and doesn't break any laws or rules what is your problem? Did you want a roommate or did you want someone to control?
Obviously, you don't approve of her choices, but that does not make her weird. She isn't shooting up drugs, having a different sex partner in every night.
How much is too much alcohol? If she isn't passing out and she is going to work every day, it isn't too much. Some people think one drink is too much.
If you don't like her, just tell her that it isn't working for you and you need to find someone who fits your lifestyle. With the next roommate, be up front about your expectations - look for a Mormon who goes to the gym every day.
Frankly, you sound like a piece of work.
Oh well is right. None of your business. sm
Please don't start. Your posts sound like you're just chomping at the bit, and it would be a shame if this thread got ugly.
It probably really isn't their business...but,
I told. I think my kids appreciated that their anal mother was human too. As they got older, I told more and we all got a good laugh out of it...
It isn't my business what they do...sm
But I personally don't agree with it. I think it is just disgusting but that is my opinion.
how are they still in business?
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It's their business, no one else's. At 28, she
I think people need to get out of other people's business when it comes to stuff like this. What does it matter to anyone what age difference? Both are well into adulthood. It is their choice.
I think she should mind her own business - NM
NM
Exactly. The racehorse business
is just that - a business. They don't breed and run these horses out of the kindness of their hearts just for the fun of it. There is a huge amount of money involved. The money that passes through the betting windows on a daily basis is unbelievable. It is the same with greyhounds. I don't care how pampered they are or how much they are loved, they are bred to earn money and that is exploitation.
Travel business
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It's the Entertainment business . . .
it's always been that way. It's called American Idol, not Best Singer - you kind of need the whole package. The Idols that have won and didn't have the look have not amounted to much.
Nope. It is not your business to tell them.
Yep. Risky Business was fun but
I never found him attractive as a man, just "pretty." And I don't like pretty boys unless they have some character to back it up. And I don't mean "crazy character" like jumping on Oprah's couch! LOL
Definitely go to where someone will be happy to have your business! nm
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re: housekeeping business
I think it is a very lucrative field and if you do it right you could make quite a chunk of money! However I think you need to be bonded if you're going to have alot of houses/clients to work for. Not sure how to do that. Also doing cleaning for realtors as they sell houses is good too! Used to do that and then the houses were empty, just cleaned bathrooms, carpets, walls etc....
It was a good job.
The down side is that you may end up running yourself ragged!
Let us know what you decide!
uncalled for AND NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS
   
Mind my business?
You rude ( I cant say on here what I would like so I will leave it to your imagination). If I was minding her business don't you think I would be calling her or going over there. No I am not. I AM minding my own business. I am well aware that a person can do what they like with a gift or card they get. But what a rude person to just put a card in a drawer that someone went to the trouble of sending. It doesn't change the fact it is rude. Don't tell me to mind my own business. You are probably one of those people who has no friends so of course you wouldn't have in insightful info on any experiences with friends. Therefore don't answer my posts. Concern for a friend does not make me clingy. Yes we talked all the time on the phone and emailed a lot. Why wouldn't I be concerned when that stopped? I have a life. I have a job, a husband, a son, and many pets. I have plenty to occupy my time. But I am not the type of person to not show concern.
If its a business letter,
I wouldn't use Thanks. It's too informal for me. I use the old standby Sincerely most often.
stores that are going out of business
I got my teenage son all new bedding. Down comforter, designer sheets, etc. There are some good sales at these stores shutting down.
And yes, he wanted an Ipod, but he sleeps all the time anyway, so have a nice bed I think!
Honestly -- it's none of your business!
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And how is it your business what I put in to my body, if I sm
do not drive, use in the privacy of my own home? You are a self-righteous prig. MYOB. Live your life.
Alcohol and cigs should be illegal?? Wow, what a repressive person. Just b/c you don't like something doesn't give you the right to take it away from everyone else.
business vs. family
If you haven't given notice already (reading between the lines, it looks like you have), my recommendation would be to NOT give notice until you have received your last check. Find some reason to call-off during the time period between last day worked and last paycheck.
With family, you would still have the same legal options if she is a regular employer, it's just you would flame the fire by using them.
Those options include reporting to the labor board in your state, filing a claim in small claims court, etc. You would need to get specific advice from an attorney based on your state's laws.
If she has been paying you under the table, it could be more complicated than that.
Aside from all that, though... Try to mend the fences NOW - figure out why she's so angry with you, and if there is anything you can do to make amends, do it! Life is too short to carry grudges against family.
Best wishes!
I had a similar business
no one really appreciates homemade stuff. They would rather buy something at Wal-Mart. I spent all kinds of money on packaging that looked storebought and labels, to sew inside, etc, and I still ended up giving them all away for free.
It is none of his business or anyone elses for that matter. sm
I love Halloween. I love Christmas. Well, I don't really care what anyone else thinks. I decorate more for Christmas than I do for Halloween. There are people now that don't celebrate Christmas too. You know what I think.. to heck with them and ALL of THEIR beliefs. I am going to continue to do what makes me happy and what has been celebrated in my family for way more years than I want to admit. The world is changing. Whether we decide to go with it is OUR choice. If you have fun doing it, then don't worry about what anyone else thinks. It really is none of their business. For the first year in probably 18 years, I am dressing up with my children and I look forward to it (They asked me too). And even tho it is early, Happy Halloween!!
once you are of celebrity status, your business....
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I'm well aware of such business ventures.
It is one thing to have legal international business ventures and quite another for our financial institutions to be actively pursuing illegal aliens in this country and offering them financial sanctuary.
Go douse yourself with some of that flea repellent, lol.
Not arguing about the right for a business owner--sm
to refuse service to anyone, but, according to the article I read, OJ and his group came into the restaurant, sat in the back and were not causing a problem. The owner had the problem, as one of the waitresses was *giddy* that OJ was there. He specifically stated he asked OJ to leave because he did not like what OJ had done (in the past). To me, that is discrimination. He was not causing a problem. It was the owner of the restaurant who had a problem. But that is just my opinion.
I just do not think it is right that a place that is *open to the public* can ask someone to leave just because they do not like that person. If OJ had been causing a problem, that would have been different, but he was not. It was all the owners feelings about the man. that's all.
However, this thread is taking an ugly turn and since I have said all I have wanted to say on the subject, I am backing out now. Have a good day.
business. Get lost because I'm not ready! nm
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Has any of you turned your hobby into a business?
What is it, how did you go about it and how well do you do? I'm SOOO tired of doing MT work at night and would like to start doing something I love as a way of making money.
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