well, your advice is...........sm

• Single MTs - every just get sick of dating? sm - Datig MT
  • And now you see why they're single! - the dregs think they're princes
    • Definition of a single man... - CrankyBeach
      • funny and true......nm - ()
      • LOL! - so true!
  • it's overrated - nm
  • Dating's easier said that done - AnnuderMT
  • Have patience. Your time will come to find someone decent. - Backwards typist
    • well, your advice is...........sm - ()
      • I'd say she has a couple of years left. - Another Oldie.
      • That was me, not the OP - AnnuderMT
  • Dating sympathy (from married person) - Pugmom
    • dating, marriage & dogs - dawn
      • Thanks - I love that! nm - Dating MT
    • you seem to have a lot of troubles with your - ()
      • Pugman's postt is downright disgusting, - ()
        • Oh, gimme a break. Her post was FUNNY! - SM
        • Most of them are. Usually when - sm
          • Can't speak for Pugmom - but when I see () or J**B - - I pass on reading those.
            • Taking refuge as grammar- and speling-police - ()
            • You can add "SS" to the list of haters, too. - NM
          • thank you, I still remember her hysterical post - ()
      • Please get off this board. Party affiliation has nothing to do with - the poster's answer. You're a dork
    • The last guy I dated... - CrankyBeach
      • Oh, great balls of fire! sm - Ella (retired)
      • What a jerk, Crankybeach! - Pugmom
        • I know that's right! :) - Ella (retired)
  • I'd never date at my age. - exMQer
    • Can always be a cougar - EZduzit
      • Cougar? Don't think so. - exMQer
      • Nah! sm - Ella (retired)
    • I feel the same, though married now 13 years - sm - XXX
    • I remarried again at age 56 and this is what you do - Age difference?
      • Was just thinking, finding a boy-toy would be the way around it.... - CrankyBeach
        • I just don't think I'd make a good cougar! - AnnuderMT
          • This is creepy. Are you sure this really - ()
            • It's trendy right now - younger men have been told (by each other) (sm) - Downfalls of younger men
              • that's kind of sick. For some men it is - ()
                • no, that's not the reason. - nm
                  • sure, not always, but you would not believe it, - ()
            • motivation: older women have a home, car, $, stability. - nm
              • Is he marrying your assets or is he marrying you? - ()
                • I'm not with one. These are their motivation. - nm
              • I had a home when we married, stability yes and the cars - Age difference
              • Well, I guess I'm 75% of a young man's dream! n/m - AnnuderMT
    • Very good point... - CrankyBeach
    • same as what she said . . . . . - ditto
    • I think I would have to - agree with you..sm
  • Dating? I'd rather have a root canal. -(nm)- - Topaz
    • Without anesthesia, and done by a dentist with severe halitosis. :) - CrankyBeach
      • Also blindfolded while doing the root canal - sm for question - Pugmom
        • It is indeed reptilian... - CrankyBeach
          • My kitty has eyes just like his! :) - -(nm)- Topaz
          • He's adorable! - Pugmom
          • I was always going to ask you - MT4Eight
            • Yes, he IS quite interesting... - CrankyBeach
              • Have been bitten by reptile. - Pugmom
              • Here's another shot that shows his relative size. - CrankyBeach
                • cool pic - I used to have an iguana - MT4Eight
                  • Aww, this one only hurts me when he bites me. - CrankyBeach
  • If they don't have time for you now and have no - respect for you - they never will! Move on - nm
  • Dating? What's that? It's been so long I forgot. - CrankyBeach
    • This sentence in your post is worth to - ()
    • Function of society at large (sm) - Dating MT
  • Bad behavior............. sm - m
    • I heard this a little different, namely - ()
    • Well said. Ditto. - CrankyBeach
  • Or just sick of spelling correctly? Meant "ever" and "dating" nm - Dating MT

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I am a new mom to a beautiful baby girl. I didn't think I would mind going to work part-time. Well, I've been crying my self to sleep every night. I have my B.A. in Business Administration and have been in the banking industry for 6 years. I have been searching all over for a legitimate work at home opportunity. It seems like medical transcription is a great opportunity. I'd like advice from people who do this from home. I'd like to know where you got the training and what your first job was (since that seems to be a big issue). Also, will my B.A. help at all? I know employers like people with MT experience but I accquired other skills such as meticulous attention to detail that I know is needed. Any and all information is greatly appreciated. Thank you.

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I have a kitten who is appx. 7 months old. He refuses to eat any kind of cat food, canned, dry, dry mixed with canned, dry mixed with water, cat treats, etc. I have tried baby food, dog food, etc. He will only eat KMR weaning powder, which I mix with water. Have tried to mix food into it but he will not eat it. He tries to cover everything up like it should be in the cat box! No vet seems to concerned about this...he likes to eat chicken, people food chicken that is, and turkey. I am stumped.

This cat MUST learn to eat before May because I am going on vacation for 3-1/2 weeks...any suggestions for this problem?

Thanks, that was very helpful! I'm sorry about the info overload, I guess I just wasn't sure exactly where to begin asking. I think I'll just get the basic foot pedal, upgraded computer, headphones etc. and get some finanicing for the "extras" that may come up and take the plunge.

I need advice on something.  Does anyone have/had teenage daughters?  I have a niece that is 15.  Won't be 16 until end of December.  I have heard recently through my son and mutual friends of theirs that she has been sexually active for quite some time.  She has also been drinking when she is away for overnighters with friends.  Do I talk to my sister about this in case she isn't aware of it?  My friend tells me I should stay out of it and say nothing.  Part of me does not agree with that.  If I had a teenage daughter I would want to know.  It would be bothersome to me but I'd want to know so I was sure she was being safe and obviously would not get pregnant. I don't condone any of this but they sure are going to do what they want to do and isn't it better to be safe than sorry? 

What would you do in this situation because quite honestly I'm driving myself crazy going back and forth with this issue.  It's a touchy subject with alot of people I have found out.  Some say they would not want to know.  Others say it's an invasion of privacy with my niece and she may be very angry with me afterwards.  Others say my sister could be mad because I came to her in the first place about a matter that may not be any of my business.  I have three boys so this is not my cup of tea.  I love all my nieces and treat them like my own children but this topic has hit me hard.  When I found this out on Sunday...I cried the entire night.  It's how I found out and what is being said about her that really, really bothers me. 

I appreciate any suggestions from anyone.

Thanks.

My 2 cents, all my opinion:

1.  Relax.  Potty training is not a contest and there is no deadline, despite what anyone may tell you.  I remember my MIL having a fit because her grandson was not potty trained on schedule. 

2.  We had to get rid of the BIG KID disposable underwear that our son was wearing, and give him real cloth underwear.  When he was wearing the disposable type, he treated them like they were diapers.

3.  My husband and I decided that our strong-willed son was actually involved in a power struggle with us.  So, in order to create a more objective environment, my husband used a puppet of a favorite character named Elmo.  Our son was 4 at the time, and did not realize that his daddy was the voice behind Elmo.  But, Elmo was able to help avoid the parent-child power struggle and  was able to potty train our son within just a day or two.  Truly, it was just a matter of Elmo being the instructor and the cheerleader, and then we followed it up with more cheers and rewards.  Yes, rewards.

I am so upset right now I can't even think straight, so please forgive me for any mistakes in this post...

I just found out that my 17 YOD is sexually active with her loser boyfriend!!! Just writing this makes me want to throw up.  How do I handle this.  All I want to do is choke both of them.  I can't even look at her...it just turns my stomach.  I have talked openly and honestly with her about sex for as long as I can remember.  I've asked her more than once to please, PLEASE wait until she got married...or at least met the man she wants to marry.  This guy she's with is a straight up loser.  He doesn't work...he's out of school (graduated last year, so he says)...HE SMOKES...I am just sick over the whole situation.  Please, any advice would be so greatly appreciated. 

What's the difference between abscessed and infected?  I can't bite down on it at all and it feels like there is pressure inside it.  It's the same feeling I've had before when I needed a root canal, which I really don't want to go through again.  Would rather just have it extracted and be done with it. 

No, I haven't called. I'll have to give that a try.

I need some advice.  My husband has this very bad habit of getting upset with my girls right as they are getting ready for bed.  He goes on and on and until he realizes they have turned him out.  Then, after they get to sleep he will go wake them up and tell them he's sorry.  I know he is doing this to relieve his guilty conscious, and I have asked him to stop doing this, but unfortunately he continues.  Recently, he got upset with them because they had science projects due.  They kept asking for his help, and he kept putting it off.  Then, he started giving them grief because they waited to the last minute.  When they reminded him of their asking him a few weeks ago to help his response is, "Well, all I've gotta say is I better make a 100 on those projects!"  Any suggestions on how I can get him to stop doing this?

My husband does the whole has to leave thing too.  I don't actually leave the house I just say I'm done talking about this right now.  Try letting your fiance know that the reason you are leaving is so that you can calm down and not say something in anger that you will regret later, which is why my husband leaves during an argument.  We have the same problem regarding my housecleaning abilities.  He's ex-military and I never learned to clean!  What seems small to us though is not small to them and we need to learn to respect that and make an effort.  Ask him to show you how he thinks things should be cleaned (in a nonsarcastic manner of course!)

As far as the house building, check out ubuildit.com.  We are considering building our own house in a few years when I finish grad school.  For a small fee, they help you with permits, plans, finding good licensed contractors.  Basically they help you be your own general contractor.  My brother-in-law just build a house and did a lot himself like you guys are planning and I think the whole mortgage including land was 145K in Alabama?  Land was 33K I think.  That was 1350 sq. ft. so that should give you some idea of the total cost you guys are looking at in case you didn't know.  Good luck!

My dad is elderly and has rheumatoid arthritis, heart problems, and recently found out that he has macular degeneration.  He has been getting  Avastin injections for his eye, which were doing good at first, but then all of a sudden he started having bleeding again in his eye and now can only see a speck of light w/ no hope of getting much eyesight back in that eye.  My mom passed away about 2-1/2 years ago, and my dad insists on living by himself because when it's his time to die he wants to die in his own bed, which I understand completely.  The thing is my sister has told him he has some decisions to make; he can live w/ her, me, or go to a nursing home and that she didn't have time or money for gas to come bring him food and take care of his errands.  She also told him that he needed to get Meals on Wheels.  Nothing against Meals on Wheels, but as long as I am able to cook for my dad I will gladly cook and take it to him.  I really want to lay into her and tell her to get out of her self-centered circle she's living in and get with it.  She has made the comment she is tired of using her PTO to take everybody to the doctor and not using it for herself, leading me to believe that she thinks my dad is a burden.  What I want to know is what you all think is the best way to handle this situation.  I would never, ever say such things to my dad as she has and would never tell him I don't have time or money for gas to come help him out.  The funny thing is she don't have money to take care of his errands, etc., but yet she stays in the road all the time running out and back to Wal-Mart and to the mall.

Again, my dad is elderly and I don't want to cause any kind of strife in my family, but I also think my sister needs to be knocked off her high horse.  Any advice anyone could share would be greatly appreciated.

First of all, congrats on almost paying off that mortgage!  I would love to have a $350/month mortgage payment.  I watch a lot of financial shows on TV, so I hope some of the stuff I learned can help you.

1.  Pay yourself first.  I know this sounds hard to do, but if you put a little back each paycheck to a savings account, you can avoid getting caught in the credit card circle again.  It doesn't have to be much.  We do $40 a paycheck into 2 "club" accounts, $20 into a Christmas Club and $20 into a vacation club.  This really helps out when those times of year come around.

2.  Pay your highest interest rate credit cards first and/or lowest balance first.  You say you have a credit card in the 20% range for interest with a balance of $200.  Try to pay that one off ASAP, while still maintaining minimum payments on the others.  Once that one is paid down, I would start on the next lowest balance (since 3 of your credit card interest rates are in the similar 20% range).  You should put the money you were paying on the $200 card (after it's paid off) on the next card. 

3.  Try to make your payments as soon as you get your bill for that statement; don't wait until the due date.  Interest is figured on a daily basis, so the sooner you pay it for that month, the less interest you'll end up paying.

4.  The $5000 that you are planning on getting would probably be best used by paying off the credit cards for 2 reasons:  1) The interest on your house is probably a lot better rate than those on the credit cards.  2) The interest you are paying on your house can be tax deductible. 

If I were in your situation, I would start out with the first 3 suggestions.  After you get the $5000, I would follow through with number 4.  Finally, any remaining balances left, I would try to obtain a home equity loan.  Home equity loans are not second mortgages.  The closing costs are much less, usually not more than $100, if any.  The interest on a home equity loan would be better than any of your credit card interest rates, and again, the interest paid on a home equity loan can be tax deductible.  When shopping for a home equity loan, try to find one with a fixed interest rate rather than adjustable (the market's just too volatile and rates aren't that bad right now).  You should be able to find one with a rate somewhere around 7%.

Good luck to you!

Okay, what would you do?  I have a wife who is on disability and will not be going back to work.  At the time she was seriously injured I had a very good job and we were "living the good life".  At the same time she got hurt, I lost my very good job and ended up taking a huge paycut when I finally found a job.  I am now back at a decent salary but of course, she is not. 

Anyway, fast forward to the now - we filed bankruptcy, sold our home and bought a smaller house so that we could have a manageable debt load, start saving money for our future , and still enjoy life in the here and now.  However, none of that has happened.  If we have $10 left after paying the bills, then that $10 is going to be spent.  No savings yet, nothing paid off in advance because we (meaning she) are still "blowing the money" on unnecessary items. 

So here is my dilemma - we have the opportunity to take our smaller home and trade it in on a bigger home (along with the bigger mortgage, higher taxes, higher insurance premiums, etc.) and I cannot decide what to do.  I really do not want to face that large house payment once again, but at the same time, I figure since we are not saving it anyway, it might as well go into something that might benefit us some day instead of all the unnecessary stuff we are spending it on now.

Can I get some advice (and not get rid of her, that is not an option!)?

My mother is eldery and I know she does not have much time.  She has chronic renal failure and much more.  She hangs on, but is constantly losing weight, and now not eating much of anything for the past weeks.  She drinks Ensure twice a day and has juice for breakfast, and tries very hard to eat some dinner in the evening.

I am not handling things and have been severely depressed and have gained 25 pounds and simply don't care anymore.  I want to seek some type of help or counseling for myself to pull out of this and to be able to handle what is coming. With job problems, my own health issues and my mother's situation it is just too much.  Can someone recommend a good place to start?  A friend suggesed contacting Hospice to help me deal with this.  Any help you can give will be very appreciated.  I have tried every antidepressant available and I cannot tolerate any of them.  Thanks.